Poll of the Day > Life at 28 is not what I thought it'd be.

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I always pictured myself married, with a kid and house. Here I am, still in the dating world, going to school and living with roommates. On the positive side, I still look like I'm barely 21. Plus, I like to think that my life will be like one of my favorite sitcoms How I Met Your Mother and the characters in that show were in their 30's and looked to be having a great time! :D

28 was the first year I felt like a proper adult, honestly. Not because of major life changes, I just became more mature. It sucked. I've lived with the same chick since I was 21 (I'm 32 now).

I hear you though. I'm not where I thought I'd be either. I don't need a job, but I kind of want one that I can be passionate about. I've tried lots of stuff, but haven't found what I'm looking for yet.
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I think that was one of the hardest parts about transitioning into the adult life. Finding a career or settling on a path I want to go on. When you start making those kind of decisions, you realize how finite your time really is. There are so many things I want to do or try but to choose one will take up years of my life. I finally had to make a decision or risk wasting more years of my life on indecision. What is it you enjoy doing?

28 seems pretty young to be married tbh

You still have time tc!
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Yeah I'm 29 and still have no idea wtf I'm doing. I just recently got "promoted" at my job, but now I like it even less.
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Im 31 i have a house and a cat, im married havrme a career and im more miserable than ever.

ASlaveObeys posted...

Im 31 i have a house and a cat, im married havrme a career and im more miserable than ever.

Omg this
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ASlaveObeys posted...

Im 31 i have a house and a cat, im married havrme a career and im more miserable than ever.

Hi Jack. Long time no see. I don't think necessarily having a career and the things I mentioned in the post will make me happy. It's just more-so the fact that I remember younger me thinking what life would be like at my current age. Now I'm just like "ha okay, no where near what I thought."

I didn't think what my life would be like when I hit 30 and it's basically the same as when I hit 20. I've had the same desires all through those years though with none of them actually becoming a reality. However I do find myself wondering what it will be like if I hit 40. Probably the same as it's always been save for being even more jaded and bitter I'd imagine.
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You can't just wish and hope for those things. Get your shit together and make them happen.
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I'm not wishing for anything. I'm doing everything I need to be doing. :]

SmokeMassTree posted...

You can't just wish and hope for those things. Get your shit together and make them happen.

That's the only option I really have or die trying. Probably more so the later.
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I'm twenty-eight years old, I work five days a week and I'm married with a second child on the way.. Shoot for short of content lol, so anything extra is a bonus.
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28 is the new 18. You are doing fine.
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I always imagined I'd be married with kids by now. That's pretty much all I've ever wanted from life. I turn 34 next week, and it feels more impossible each day. I'm going to die a virgin, probably sooner than later.

Melon_Master posted...

I'm twenty-eight years old, I work five days a week and I'm married with a second child on the way.. Shoot for short of content lol, so anything extra is a bonus.

Congrats!
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I still look like i'm 19
because I smoked tobbacco products when i was 19
*facedesk*
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Congrats

Thanks! We're hoping our second child will be much calmer lol.
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Maybe it was just me, but I kinda figured that there would be some gate that you passed through where it's just like "congrats, you're an adult now!", but nothing like that really happens - everything is gradual. I don't know at what point I became an adult, but I own a house and a business and have a good-paying job, so I guess it happened at some point in the last decade or so.
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

28 was the first year I felt like a proper adult, honestly.

darkknight109 posted...

Maybe it was just me, but I kinda figured that there would be some gate that you passed through where it's just like "congrats, you're an adult now!", but nothing like that really happens - everything is gradual.

I'm 40 and I still don't feel like a proper adult.

Because honestly, while I've got most of the usual adult responsibilities, and do mostly adult things, and - apart from not being married or having kids - check off most of the "adult" boxes, on some level I'm still the same person who enjoyed video games, comic books, and all sorts of other "childish" things as a kid. I've become an adult, but culture has shifted enough that an "adult" now doesn't really fit the mold of what an "adult" was when I was growing up, which is what shaped my perception of adulthood.

So I sort of have this weird self-image in my head. Which isn't helped by the times when I'm interacting with older family members (who I'm convinced all still see me as an eternal 5-year old), or the older family members of some of my friends, or often just elderly people in general. On some level a lot of the little kid deference and sense of submission comes into play in ways it doesn't if I'm meeting someone my age or relating to my friends who all mostly sort of fall into the same boat I do.

It also isn't helped by the fact that pop culture as a whole has a sort of "infantilized" feel to it, where a lot of the things I considered "kid's stuff" as a kid are just being accepted as completely normal (ie, the slow inexorable creep of "geek culture"). Comic book movies and shows, constant video game content, the average age of gamers creeping up into the 30s at this point, etc - this is not the adulthood I expected when I was 12.

I assume that, even if I live to be 80, I'll probably never feel like a "real" adult. On some level it just feels more like I'm a kid in an adult body doing adult things and being responsible and getting aches and pains and becoming a crotchety old curmudgeon but still never really crossing some qualitative line where I transform into a full adult.


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