Current Events > Anyone else just kinda "quit" with regards to dating? But not bitter?

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Not like MGTOW with all the bitterness and contempt for "the game" or whatever, but just kinda no longer caring about dating/sex and focusing elsewhere.

I don't have any resentment for how it's all set up. The double standards are there for a reason and they all make sense. It's a complicated balance that doesn't have to be "fair" in every aspect. I don't fundamentally measure up to what most women want and that's not "unfair". It just is what it is. Guys talk about "crazy" girls in the dating scene...well, I figure I'm the male equivalent of that: the shy guy who lacks the confidence and social skills to make anything happen. Putting it this way gives me the clarity to see where I rank in their eyes.


After a certain point I just came to the conclusion that it isn't important to me, and that I will be so much happier living life another way than forcing myself into a mold that doesn't really fit. It's too much work to change.

My advice to anyone feeling dissonance over the lack of a love life is that there is more than one way to live happy. Almost every aspect is subject to change, even the ones you thought were essential.
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No. Anyone who says yes is bitter
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StarsOfCCTV posted...

No. Anyone who says yes is bitter

I don't think so. I do believe there are non bitter people out there who simply aren't that interested in dating others and are focused on other things in their life.
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I'm just not actively searching for anyone at the moment. I had a fuck buddy a few months back that wanted to be more but I backed out of it.
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there are women who give up on dating too
they just continue with life with the possibility of meeting someone on their back burner
they don't bother with shit like Tinder anymore

it would be sexist and hypocritical to shame men for doing the same
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I'm just not in a place in my life right now where I can afford to go out dating. It costs money to treat women, and that's money I don't have or am willing to spend.

The fact that people here think you can't avoid dating without being bitter says more about them than you.
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Jokeaccountinc posted...

Unless you're asexual, you're either bitter or just gave up.

Thank you Captain Obvious. That was the very first sentence of the topic title.
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Yes. I don't ask girls out or try to date because I don't care and I'm really lazy. As it is I'm barely struggling with school so I'm not even motivated to date girls at all.

Well I hate myself and will always hate myself so I never approached or even thought of being in a relationship or having any romantic feelings towards anyone. Is that giving up or being bitter?
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I haven't dated in 4 years. If anything is gonna happen it'll be because the girl makes the first move. Dating is a lot of work and a gamble and I'd rather focus on other things
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I gave up I'm satisfied with dakimakura
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Props to TC for not being bitter. Still a sad post to read though. :/
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Yeah :/

I've had 4 boyfriends, all of which ended because they wanted sex when I didn't. A fifth guy that seemed really good for me and we were flirting and stuff asked me out and I told him and he basically said no and it's been a day and he's flirting with another girl in my class (we have a class together)
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"Quit dating" is just dumb. You need to "quit forcing". Go on dates and make friends. Have fun. Stop expecting every date to end in a potential long term relationship. If the sparks are there it'll happen. Not every date has to be a potential girlfriend/boyfriend.

Hmm. Sorta, but not really. I gave up on worrying about dating too much because I'm not interested in every last little slag that I see, but I never gave up.

Hell, luckily for me, I managed to get 2 numbers this weekend that have turned into 2 dates. I'm going out with the second one tonight, but I'm very sold on the first one and she seems like she digs me too. And she's also a dominatrix with switch tendencies so I'm gonna be learning some new shit about myself here in the coming (giggity) months.

Also what @TheVipaGTS. Sometimes, it's just about getting a bite to eat and spending time with a new person without any expectations.
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I had quit for almost a year until I met my current girlfriend who I live with and have been dating for over a year. It was super random. I knew her sisters and she worked with my mom, but I guess that's how things go sometimes.
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I pretty much quit dating but I've never been good with relationships and I still meet girls and hang out for a while. Tourist girls are best girls.
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CanuckCowboy posted...

I pretty much quit dating but I've never been good with relationships and I still meet girls and hang out for a while. Tourist girls are best girls.

lol, yeah, but that's because there's no expectations. But yes, the ones that are out of their element and looking for a good time are a treat.
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I've stopped really looking for relationships but still do a good amount of dating. Dates are fun for me, relationships suck. Though not fundamentally opposed to getting into another one just not the real goal of dating for me anymore.
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I'm more focusing on trying to better myself. I don't think I'm emotionally stable enough to maintain a relationship, so I don't really go out of my way to date. Maybe in a year when I'm in a better spot, but right now it's not worth it. I mean if there's an opportunity I'll go for it, but won't expect much.
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I've only been on like two dates, but I kinda gave up trying. I'm too boring and I don't have anything going for me. If I ever do anything useful with my life I may make some more sorry attempts, but I'm happy being alone.
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Kineth posted...

CanuckCowboy posted...

I pretty much quit dating but I've never been good with relationships and I still meet girls and hang out for a while. Tourist girls are best girls.

lol, yeah, but that's because there's no expectations. But yes, the ones that are out of their element and looking for a good time are a treat.

Exactly. Emphatically exactly.

At the beginning of this summer I randomly met some canoe girls following a series of unfortunate (ish) events and it was fucking grand. Also I found a fan that day and thought some jackass went out of his way to pack a fan 3k onto a trail before throwing it away. Which pissed me off so I picked it up to throw it out when I got home. And it turned out it was a super awesome working fan!

There's a whole giant tl;Dr story to that day.

She was only around 2 more days though. If you stumble into one early who's around a week or two that's the best.
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