Current Events > Man shames woman on first date after she sent his car plate number to a friend

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Leanaunfurled posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

How much of a white knight do you have to think the guy did anything wrong here? There's nothing wrong with the girl taking precautions, but do it discreetly. It's idiotic to think you can basically tell someone to their face that you think they might rape or murder you and not expect them to react negatively to it.

Also that article is the most biased trash I've read all week

Literally sitting here advocating it's okay to leave a girl stranded on her own because she was letting a friend know how to find her, just in case.

Fuck all of you people.

Being a girl doesn't mean you get to be insulting to people you barely know and still expect a ride home. Sorry. This guys still basically a stranger and doesn't owe you anything.
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I4NRulez posted...

If you're using Tinder and you get offended that a girl is taking precautions about meeting a guy she doesn't know then you shouldn't be on Tinder.

Who said they met on Tinder?
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AlephZero posted...

"don't mind me just taking a picture of your car in case you're a rapist"

way to set the tone for the date

lol.
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YourDrunkFather posted...

That would have been a smarter way to go about it ya. Or just check the dudes social media like everyone else does.

Maybe she tried to and he confronted her.

People can fake their name on a social media account I suppose but either way she's letting a friend know who she's with in case anything happens.
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I see nothing wrong with taking precautions. It's a dangerous world out there and even psychopaths can be seen as normal people. With that said, making it blatant like that was probably a mistake, doing it secretly would probably be her best decision.
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Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

That would have been a smarter way to go about it ya. Or just check the dudes social media like everyone else does.

Maybe she tried to and he confronted her.

People can fake their name on a social media account I suppose but either way she's letting a friend know who she's with in case anything happens.

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.
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YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?
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Bit sexist to assume the only dangerous people are men and women an sexually assault guys.

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?

Ya, hey. Maybe the dude should have asked for a copy of a recent STD test to make sure he doesn't catch something if they have sex. It's just taking a precaution right?
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Ryangrad posted...

I4NRulez posted...

If you're using Tinder and you get offended that a girl is taking precautions about meeting a guy she doesn't know then you shouldn't be on Tinder.

Who said they met on Tinder?

Regardless of how they met she obviously didnt know him.
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YourDrunkFather posted...

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?

Ya, hey. Maybe the dude should have asked for a copy of a recent STD test to make sure he doesn't catch something if they have sex. It's just taking a precaution right?

Everyone should use condoms on a first date.
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Darmik posted...

Kajagogo posted...

Yea, I would have left her as well. That's a big red flag. You don't have any idea what kind of information she could be looking for. Time for that guy to change his plates.

What can you get with a plate number?

Get the make, colour of the vehicle, rough composition of the driver, and the license plate, and you can create a bunch of havoc with the police department. I don't fault the guy for leaving though, because I don't want some strange ass taking photos of my license plate.
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Wtf who does that??

I4NRulez posted...

If you're using Tinder and you get offended that a girl is taking precautions about meeting a guy she doesn't know then you shouldn't be on Tinder.

Where did I say I'd be offended by someone taking precautions about meeting a person they do not know?

YourDrunkFather posted...

She offended the dude.

Where are people getting this from?

Both parties are stupid as hell.
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Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?

Ya, hey. Maybe the dude should have asked for a copy of a recent STD test to make sure he doesn't catch something if they have sex. It's just taking a precaution right?

Everyone should use condoms on a first date.

Too bad they don't and it doesn't really matter because you know that wasn't my point. You're trying to side step the actual point because you know a girl would be offended if you asked. As she should be. Just like a guy might be offended if you imply you think he might be a rapist. Now it's 3:30 in the morning here and I'm done trying to explain common sense to you. Clearly anything other than "The woman is always right!" doesn't register to you. So I'm done
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YourDrunkFather posted...

Too bad they don't and it doesn't really matter because you know that wasn't my point. You're trying to side step the actual point because you know a girl would be offended if you asked. As she should be. Just like a guy might be offended if you imply you think he might be a rapist. Now it's 3:30 in the morning here and I'm done trying to explain common sense to you. Clearly anything other than "The woman is always right!" doesn't register to you. So I'm done

It's unreasonable to expect people to carry STD tests with them to a date. Doesn't matter if it's a guy or girl. But you can use condoms as a precaution. If a girl is offended I wanted to use a condom she can go fuck herself instead. I don't care if she takes it as a personal offense.

Common sense should be that precautions made during a first date aren't personal. Not "OMG she thinks I'm a rapist!"
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Leanaunfurled posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

How much of a white knight do you have to think the guy did anything wrong here? There's nothing wrong with the girl taking precautions, but do it discreetly. It's idiotic to think you can basically tell someone to their face that you think they might rape or murder you and not expect them to react negatively to it.

Also that article is the most biased trash I've read all week

Literally sitting here advocating it's okay to leave a girl stranded on her own because she was letting a friend know how to find her, just in case.

Fuck all of you people.

So first she was a capable and intelligent woman for taking that pic and as soon as she's dumped, she's a frightened little girl? Make up your mind, women! One second we're potential rapists and the next we're douchebags for not protecting you.
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YourDrunkFather posted...

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?

Ya, hey. Maybe the dude should have asked for a copy of a recent STD test to make sure he doesn't catch something if they have sex. It's just taking a precaution right?

Not getting fucking raped or murdered is not the same as not getting a fucking STD!!! Especially when you can just use a fucking condom to protect yourself from getting like 95% of them. People can't exactly protect themselves from being raped or murdered by applying a thin layer of latex around themselves!
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alexander37 posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?

Ya, hey. Maybe the dude should have asked for a copy of a recent STD test to make sure he doesn't catch something if they have sex. It's just taking a precaution right?

Not getting fucking raped or murdered is not the same as not getting a fucking STD!!! Especially when you can just use a fucking condom to protect yourself from getting like 95% of them. People can't exactly protect themselves from being raped or murdered by applying a thin layer of latex around themselves!

And how is that picture protection from murder or rape? It's great in case it happens, but your ass still got raped or murdered though. Not to mention that a slightly savy murderer would take that phone and text "Guy was a dick, taking the bus home" or something.
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Oh that poor woman. Treating her date like a potential felon and got left behind as a result. Truly this is rape culture in action! To anyone defending this girl, next time you're on a date, do what this chick did and take a photo of their tag. Report back here with their reaction.
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Amusingly, I bet if you swapped the genders in the story, some of the same people defending the woman and bashing the man would ...still be defending the woman and bashing the man even though having a penis does not make someone instantly invulnerable to assault/robbery/death. Now if the folks supporting her precautions are just peachy-keen on guys doing it too, alright then, props for consistency at least.

Personally I think it would be a bit *too* paranoid and end up ruining the tone of the date if the first thing one party assumes of the other is "yep, they're totally going to ravage my hole/pole, steal my organs, and take my wallet/purse". Like, at that point it would just be quicker and less expensive for both people to cancel the whole outing if trust and safety levels are already in the gutter.
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Darmik posted...

Kajagogo posted...

Yea, I would have left her as well. That's a big red flag. You don't have any idea what kind of information she could be looking for. Time for that guy to change his plates.

What can you get with a plate number?

Not a thing without access to a few specific databases.

MakoReizei posted...

she sounds like a loony. He was right to shame her.

Does this count as doxxing?

Itoldyaso posted...

Does this count as doxxing?

No, he never identifies her.

iPhone_7 posted...

They both took precautions.

She made sure somebody would know the license plate in case something happened to her.

He made sure not to get with someone who's paranoid.

We've all learned something here today.

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fusespliff posted...

alexander37 posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

See, you're making every excuse you can to excuse her being offensive and make the dude the bad guy. She offended the dude. How she feels is not all that matters.

And why is your date taking precautions offensive?

Ya, hey. Maybe the dude should have asked for a copy of a recent STD test to make sure he doesn't catch something if they have sex. It's just taking a precaution right?

Not getting fucking raped or murdered is not the same as not getting a fucking STD!!! Especially when you can just use a fucking condom to protect yourself from getting like 95% of them. People can't exactly protect themselves from being raped or murdered by applying a thin layer of latex around themselves!

And how is that picture protection from murder or rape? It's great in case it happens, but your ass still got raped or murdered though. Not to mention that a slightly savy murderer would take that phone and text "Guy was a dick, taking the bus home" or something.

You can't possibly think that would work.
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I'll be honest, if a girl did that to me, I'd feel a bit offended and the date would be a complete wash. I mean I get why she'd do it, but I'd go into the date thinking she's leery of me and become incredibly self conscious. That's why I think it'd be better to simply meet up in a public space for a first date and rely on your own transportation.
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She was within her rights to do what she did, of course. So was he.

I see no issue.
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SK8T3R215 posted...

Being a woman is the hardest job in the world.

Don't you know how oppressed women are?

Thank you for giving me my new sig on my main account
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this is ridiculous.

I can see why someone might be offended. However, in this world we live in, we blame women when they get assaulted if they don't do every possible thing to keep themselves safe. Then, in a case like this, a woman does what she can to help ensure her safety, and its offensive.

If something happened, there would be people who would say "Well, what do you expect when you meet men that you don't know." And others who would say "Serves her right for meeting up with men she doesn't know on the internet". And people would be (rightfully) offended at that, and call it victim blaming, and the people who said those things would day "It's not victim blaming, its taking personal responsibility".

So, if you want people to do things to ensure their own safety, don't get mad when they do it. It's one guy's hurt feelings (which don't need to be, because it's not personal), versus someone's peace of mind that they did everything they can do to make sure they aren't hurt or sexually assaulted by someone they don't know well. It's not a big deal, and in fact a reaction to what culture told her is her responsibility, which is keeping herself safe.

That dumbass could have gotten laid if only he hadn't freaked out over something trivial. Like since when were car registration plates private? lol
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Also I hope you eggheads realise that women always do things like this. If they're going out a date with someone they met online, they're texting their friends the address, your profile, during the date while you're in the toilet. Every woman is doing this.
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The Admiral posted...

I don't blame her for checking out the guy, since I do that with chicks before we go out also. I'll always find their Facebook page and then do a Google search to make sure they aren't criminals or lying about something they told me.

With that said, I never tell the girls about this, and that's the issue here. This girl was way too blatant about it. Doing something like that in a person's face is insulting, and it just shows horrendous social skills on a date.

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The #NotAllMen is strong in this topic.
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You have to be a special kind of stupid to not understand why the implication of being considered a potential threat would sour a date for someone, regardless of whether it was meant to be personal or not.

Men aren't brick walls.
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What is super funny about this is, how people feel that man is obligated to still go with someone who thinks he is would be rapist. And he didn't shame her , he didn't tell people her name or anything about her. He just said he ended the date when his friend asked. So how is that shaming her ?
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NihilistTurian posted...

You have to be a special kind of stupid to not understand why the implication of being considered a potential threat would sour a date for someone, regardless of whether it was meant to be personal or not.

Men aren't brick walls.

Nah I get it, but I also completely get why women do it, and have heard enough stories that turn my stomach over to not get bent out of shape over something like it.

I do think it was perhaps a little rude, though.
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This has happened to me....multiple times when meeting a woman on a first date.

I don't get upset about it. I certainly feel they are overly paranoid but I get it, they don't know me and this is a crazy world we live in.

I just continue on and let them take their precautions, and usually end up banging anyway.
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iosifsvoboda posted...

If you aren't going to throw her body into a swamp why would you be mad about this

Yeah, this. And I'd be ok if a guy did the same thing. The world is a crazy place, you gotta take precautions.
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Am I the only one who had no idea girls did this? Plus, if he wants to slut-shame her, that's up to him. It's a free country (as evidenced by what she did).
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cjsdowg posted...

What is super funny about this is, how people feel that man is obligated to still go with someone who thinks he is would be rapist. And he didn't shame her , he didn't tell people her name or anything about her. He just said he ended the date when his friend asked. So how is that shaming her ?

Because you didn't bend to her will like society dictates
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Sunhawk posted...

Am I the only one who had no idea girls did this? Plus, if he wants to slut-shame her, that's up to him. It's a free country (as evidenced by what she did).

It's only a free country for women
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TimmyTurner1716 posted...

Sunhawk posted...

Am I the only one who had no idea girls did this? Plus, if he wants to slut-shame her, that's up to him. It's a free country (as evidenced by what she did).

It's only a free country for women

What an idiotic statement
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Ayy she be a crazy bitch good on him to get out now.
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Coolppl Owns posted...

TimmyTurner1716 posted...

Sunhawk posted...

Am I the only one who had no idea girls did this? Plus, if he wants to slut-shame her, that's up to him. It's a free country (as evidenced by what she did).

It's only a free country for women

What an factual statement

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I understand if she asked permission but I would to be insulted too if she just took a picture and sent it out to her friend. But I understand she wants to feel safe before going on a date.
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I wouldn't leave her there, but I'd let her know that the date was over at that point. If she wanted me to take her home I would, but someone that acts like that is just too paranoid and crazy to have any type of meaningful relationship with.
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