Current Events > I rarely have opinions about people's relationships but this one make me wonder.

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It's a celebrity relationship (pop star and media owner) and they have been together for two years. He was 18 and she 46 when they started dating. Having an age difference is one thing but she could be his mother with a wide margin. I can't help but feel she is a cradle robber and I would object if I had a kid who started dating someone that much older <_<

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Most people have trouble understanding inter-generational relationships. As for someone who likes to date men that could be my dad I can understand it.

Sometimes people click better and are on the same wavelength over generations.
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is this supposed to be a parody of another topic?
because what you're saying adds up to a slippery slope

age gap couples like a significantly older man dating a young woman barely 18 is more common
for every case of a much older woman with a younger man there's like a dozen of the opposite

and aren't there like a bunch of guys who try to date older men with over a decade of age difference? should those be regarded as objectionable too?
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NonDairyMiltank posted...

is this supposed to be a parody of another topic?
because what you're saying adds up to a slippery slope

age gap couples like a significantly older man dating a young woman barely 18 is more common
for every case of a much older woman with a younger man there's like a dozen of the opposite

and aren't there like a bunch of guys who try to date older men with over a decade of age difference? should those be regarded as objectionable too?

I personally find it objectionable when anyone who is closer to 50 or older date someone who is 18. Is that what you wanted to hear?
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Even I have questioned myself and it took so long for me to accept it. And I don't fit in any of the preconceptions people have for them either.
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I don't care as long as it's legal and they're both happy.

American society, for example, picked the age of 18 as a marker for legal adulthood for a few reasons.
Some of them are:
- despite stereotypes, many 18 year olds actually do know wtf they're doing or at least understand most consequences
- 21 as a suggestive alternative is and has been determined as laughably excessive by both the courts and society
-18 was old enough to get sent to war; so restricting a young adult's sexual rights by a higher age would be hard to justify


When recognizing a young adult's rights to be sexually active, it's important to realize that options could include partners who are much older (as they have sexual rights to date anyone legal too). And as I dated my fair share of sugar daddies in my teens, I would be a hypocrite if I told other young people to never consider it rofl.
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BalanceLost posted...

I would object if I had a kid who started dating someone that much older <_<

You wouldn't have any say though, they're an adult.
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A lot of relationships with giant age gaps do not survive anyway. I would just let them have their fun while it lasts. The experience can give quite a bit of insight to both of them.
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itachi15243 posted...

BalanceLost posted...

I would object if I had a kid who started dating someone that much older <_<

You wouldn't have any say though, they're an adult.

You graduate from Grade 12 the year you turn 19 here so if my child is going to refer to adulthood and maturity when he/she should at least be able to hear my concerns. He/she can then do whatever but I would voice what I fear could happen which is the duty of a parent in my opinion. You should offer advice at least while your child is still living with you.
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OpenlyGator posted...

A lot of relationships with giant age gaps do not survive anyway. I would just let them have their fun while it lasts. The experience can give quite a bit of insight to both of them.

I think that's usually because unless there's money involved, that hot 40 year old milf just isn't as appealing in 5-10 years or so.

Also probably awkward when their 14 year old daughter is now hotter, younger, closer to your age, and legal.
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You're just jelly because you want to date him
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BalanceLost posted...

itachi15243 posted...

BalanceLost posted...

I would object if I had a kid who started dating someone that much older <_<

You wouldn't have any say though, they're an adult.

You graduate from Grade 12 the year you turn 19 here so if my child is going to refer to adulthood and maturity when he/she should at least be able to hear my concerns. He/she can then do whatever but I would voice what I fear could happen which is the duty of a parent in my opinion. You should offer advice at least while your child is still living with you.

Oh, I didn't know that was how it worked in Sweden. Fair enough then.

Also, I definitely don't blame you considering relationships&#8203; like that can often be predatory, and take advantage or control of the younger one through various means.

Too be honest I'm not really a fan of relationships&#8203; like that either, and would probably do the same as you if it were my kid.
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