Current Events > okcupid/Tinder/online dating /regular dating general topic VIII

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been seeing my gf for just about 6 months now. I'm in love and life is good.
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VIII

Mods purged it quick because half the 400 post topic was one guy crying about Halloween girl

Went on a date yesterday. She was my age (26) but she looked like she could be 36, still cute. She's been texting me though. I felt we had nothing in common but hey she's cute so why not

Halloween girl where are you
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Coolppl Owns posted...

Halloween girl where are you

trick or treating another man's....

I live in Japan and it is so weird here on okcupid.

So many chinese and Filipina women and it seems they all want green cards.

The few actual Japanese or American women seem dishonest or like we have nothing in common.

I do find occasional good matches though.
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Officially did it


Talked to her about how I felt and I told her we probably can't be friends because of it.

She told me it's frustrating we can't be friends but she understands, and that what I wanted was bad timing for her because she's not ready for anything serious with anyone


But we had closure, and I blocked her on everything


So that's that.

I feel relieved and regret at the same time. Like I wanted her to stop me and tell me she's willing to give us a shot. But I'm just happy I won't be seeing her on anything or talking to her anymore
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gna647 posted...

Officially did it


Talked to her about how I felt and I told her we probably can't be friends because of it.

She told me it's frustrating we can't be friends but she understands, and that what I wanted was bad timing for her because she's not ready for anything serious with anyone


But we had closure, and I blocked her on everything


So that's that.

I feel relieved and regret at the same time. Like I wanted her to stop me and tell me she's willing to give us a shot. But I'm just happy I won't be seeing her on anything or talking to her anymore

finally
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gna647 posted...

Officially did it


Talked to her about how I felt and I told her we probably can't be friends because of it.

She told me it's frustrating we can't be friends but she understands, and that what I wanted was bad timing for her because she's not ready for anything serious with anyone


But we had closure, and I blocked her on everything


So that's that.

I feel relieved and regret at the same time. Like I wanted her to stop me and tell me she's willing to give us a shot. But I'm just happy I won't be seeing her on anything or talking to her anymore

I'd buy you a drink if I could.
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Are gay dating experiences allowed here?
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Maeiv posted...

Are gay dating experiences allowed here?

My question too. I'm in a 10 month gay relationship.
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I don't see why not, one guy talked about the same girl for 8+ months, you guys should have better stories than that

The girl I met on the weekend is already asking me out. She was a little dry but cute enough, I'm cool with this. Only had things go to shit with the woman of my dreams on July 1st.

Also I have dates set up for thursday, sunday and monday

*gay warning ahead*

I met a guy on Jack'd last Saturday. He came over to my place after a concert and stayed the night. I discovered we had a lot in common, from games, music, movies, shows and the like. We eventually slept together.

He left Sunday morning. I felt...strange after he left, a heavy weight or what felt like a knot in my stomach. I went back to sleep after he left to try and reset my mind, then it occurred to me.

I developed a crush. My first crush in over 4 years.

I asked to hang out with him a few days later. It went...okay. Lot of small talk and afterwards I asked if he wanted to come back to my place. He agreed and we messed around for a little bit and left. He didn't stay the night.

Looking back on that night, the chemistry felt off. It was as if there was a distance, a gap between us and the conversation was not clicking as it had on the previous occasion.

The next day I message him to see how he is doing, and no response. It has now been 3 days since a response and every hour has been pure agony.

It is very apparent that we did not see eye to eye for whatever reason. I thought we hit it off well.

It's perfectly fine if he doesn't like me, but what is really bothering is that there is no closure. I need a definitive answer to make this weight go off my shoulders and move on with my life but because I cannot find out, it has slowly been eating me away.

I find myself drowning in my own mind, agonizing at every moment. My own personal hell.

I just need an ending to set myself free.

Anyway, so that's my own personal story.
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Maeiv posted...

*gay warning ahead*

I met a guy on Jack'd last Saturday. He came over to my place after a concert and stayed the night. I discovered we had a lot in common, from games, music, movies, shows and the like. We eventually slept together.

He left Sunday morning. I felt...strange after he left, a heavy weight or what felt like a knot in my stomach. I went back to sleep after he left to try and reset my mind, then it occurred to me.

I developed a crush. My first crush in over 4 years.

I asked to hang out with him a few days later. It went...okay. Lot of small talk and afterwards I asked if he wanted to come back to my place. He agreed and we messed around for a little bit and left. He didn't stay the night.

Looking back on that night, the chemistry felt off. It was as if there was a distance, a gap between us and the conversation was not clicking as it had on the previous occasion.

The next day I message him to see how he is doing, and no response. It has now been 3 days since a response and every hour has been pure agony.

It is very apparent that we did not see eye to eye for whatever reason. I thought we hit it off well.

It's perfectly fine if he doesn't like me, but what is really bothering is that there is no closure. I need a definitive answer to make this weight go off my shoulders and move on with my life but because I cannot find out, it has slowly been eating me away.

I find myself drowning in my own mind, agonizing at every moment. My own personal hell.

I just need an ending to set myself free.

Anyway, so that's my own personal story.

How old are you? This actually sounds super similar to an experience I had a few years ago. Had an amazing date with someone and it felt magical. I developed a huge crush on the person and the next time we met, we fooled around and then things felt very off like the chemistry wasn't there anymore. But I was having a weird day anyways. The only difference is that he told me he lost interest in me, so I had closure. It still hurt a lot, but time and meeting other people worked to hear that pain.
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Tag
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Talking to this girl for a a few days.

Today she says she thinks I am sexy and would like to meet up.
Then after talking about when we could meet up she says she's been very horny lately and would "like to give casual sex a try."

We're gonna hang out Sunday.
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vbty3 posted...

Maeiv posted...

*gay warning ahead*

I met a guy on Jack'd last Saturday. He came over to my place after a concert and stayed the night. I discovered we had a lot in common, from games, music, movies, shows and the like. We eventually slept together.

He left Sunday morning. I felt...strange after he left, a heavy weight or what felt like a knot in my stomach. I went back to sleep after he left to try and reset my mind, then it occurred to me.

I developed a crush. My first crush in over 4 years.

I asked to hang out with him a few days later. It went...okay. Lot of small talk and afterwards I asked if he wanted to come back to my place. He agreed and we messed around for a little bit and left. He didn't stay the night.

Looking back on that night, the chemistry felt off. It was as if there was a distance, a gap between us and the conversation was not clicking as it had on the previous occasion.

The next day I message him to see how he is doing, and no response. It has now been 3 days since a response and every hour has been pure agony.

It is very apparent that we did not see eye to eye for whatever reason. I thought we hit it off well.

It's perfectly fine if he doesn't like me, but what is really bothering is that there is no closure. I need a definitive answer to make this weight go off my shoulders and move on with my life but because I cannot find out, it has slowly been eating me away.

I find myself drowning in my own mind, agonizing at every moment. My own personal hell.

I just need an ending to set myself free.

Anyway, so that's my own personal story.

How old are you? This actually sounds super similar to an experience I had a few years ago. Had an amazing date with someone and it felt magical. I developed a huge crush on the person and the next time we met, we fooled around and then things felt very off like the chemistry wasn't there anymore. But I was having a weird day anyways. The only difference is that he told me he lost interest in me, so I had closure. It still hurt a lot, but time and meeting other people worked to hear that pain.

I'm 28, the guy I'm crushing on is 22.

Going to try to get some closure this week
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Maeiv posted...

I'm 28, the guy I'm crushing on is 22.

Going to try to get some closure this week

In my experience, gay guys aged 18-24 often aren't good with communicating, or aren't that interested in finding something serious. I'm only 21, but I have a 33 year old friend who has said the same about my age range. Good luck. I hope it's just a misunderstanding.
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my gf's dog is becoming a therapy dog so i'm going with them to the doggy classes

should be fun
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Currently talking to a bunch of guys on OKC. Going well so far. Will try to set up a date when he comes back from his trip. The other guys live in Jersey and that is too much of a commute for me.
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Blue_Popo posted...

I don't see why not, one guy talked about the same girl for 8+ months, you guys should have better stories than that

The girl I met on the weekend is already asking me out. She was a little dry but cute enough, I'm cool with this. Only had things go to shit with the woman of my dreams on July 1st.

Also I have dates set up for thursday, sunday and monday

Jesus, how attractive are you?

Latina I slept with is liking my pics again

after going quiet for a month. I think she's looking for round 2 which I would be up for since she was the best sex.


But she's kinda getting fat now >___>
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Boo_Guy posted...

Blue_Popo posted...

I don't see why not, one guy talked about the same girl for 8+ months, you guys should have better stories than that

The girl I met on the weekend is already asking me out. She was a little dry but cute enough, I'm cool with this. Only had things go to shit with the woman of my dreams on July 1st.

Also I have dates set up for thursday, sunday and monday

Jesus, how attractive are you?

These are the pictures I have. Don't know if they show up or you have to click. Have a date for Friday as well now aha. Have a free-er week might as well hit them up

http://imgur.com/a/JJFwx

http://imgur.com/a/ZzWXF

http://imgur.com/a/unocT

http://imgur.com/a/frYIu

gna647 posted...

Latina I slept with is liking my pics again

after going quiet for a month. I think she's looking for round 2 which I would be up for since she was the best sex.


But she's kinda getting fat now >___>

Aha I had a similar experience with a latina, amazing sex but also got fat. Still for me the difference between regular sex and amazing sex isn't so big that it makes up for her crappy personality qualities

Damn, no wonder. You could be a model.

Lie, lie, and lie some more.

Boo_Guy posted...

Damn, no wonder. You could be a model.

aha, tried modelling, hated it. Don't have those kind of looks anyways. Every one I worked with was scrawny

You could get any girl you wanted.
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Yeah he has that tall and older look


I'm considered cute but I look really young so I don't get every girl, usually the girls with a boy band fetish
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I wish I could get any girl I wanted. Usually I lose every girl I wanted lol

Just curious. What usually goes wrong? You seem like a chill dude.

billcom6 posted...

Talking to this girl for a a few days.

Today she says she thinks I am sexy and would like to meet up.
Then after talking about when we could meet up she says she's been very horny lately and would "like to give casual sex a try."

We're gonna hang out Sunday.

Update:

After saying we would hang out Sunday we exchanged numbers and texted most of the night.

Today I see she unmatched me on tinder and has so far ignored my most recent text.

I mean maybe she will text back later but for no I will assume she has blocked my number at this point as well.

This is like the 4th time in a row I have made plans with a girl only to have her ghost and or just unmatch or ignore me before we actually met.

I'm fucking done. With tinder. With bumble. With trying.
Fuck this it's not worth my time anymore.
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I was talking to a girl and almost had a date but then she stopped responding even though she seemed into it

Welp
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billcom6 posted...

billcom6 posted...

Talking to this girl for a a few days.

Today she says she thinks I am sexy and would like to meet up.
Then after talking about when we could meet up she says she's been very horny lately and would "like to give casual sex a try."

We're gonna hang out Sunday.

Update:

After saying we would hang out Sunday we exchanged numbers and texted most of the night.

Today I see she unmatched me on tinder and has so far ignored my most recent text.

I mean maybe she will text back later but for no I will assume she has blocked my number at this point as well.

This is like the 4th time in a row I have made plans with a girl only to have her ghost and or just unmatch or ignore me before we actually met.

I'm fucking done. With tinder. With bumble. With trying.
Fuck this it's not worth my time anymore.

That sucks man.

Honestly, when I saw your first post I wanted to post that Sunday is too far away and it will only increase​ the chance of a ghost
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Sunday was just the first day we both were free.

Oh well.
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That's women in general with online dating, bro. Don't take it personal. When you finally do get a bite, most of them are either going to ghost or "reschedule".

Most women need to feel completely safe and comfortable, it's just harder to get any type of committed dates unless you've already physically met her.

talking to chicks irl is waaaay easier than online
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Stallion_Prime posted...

talking to chicks irl is waaaay easier than online

And women IRL don't have 9 million dudes shoving their cock in their faces like online, so it's a much more even playing field.

After having an extremely awkward sexual encounter, I learned that I enjoy foreplay and cuddling way more than sex.

I don't know how people can just dive into it.
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Before I delete my profile I am about to go through all my old matches and just message them random shit for the lolz.
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I stopped seeing the latest girl. She was a little too into me and I'm a little too not over my ex.
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What's up with people matching, setting up dates, then unmatching? That's such a rude way to feed their egos. Stay strong, friends.
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Matched with this archaeologist on bumble

Pretty cute
Star Wars fan, short hair though. But she has a cute faxe
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vbty3 posted...

What's up with people matching, setting up dates, then unmatching? That's such a rude way to feed their egos. Stay strong, friends.

Far too many adults are incapable of actually communicating like adults. It is very annoying.
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Blue_Popo posted...

Boo_Guy posted...

Damn, no wonder. You could be a model.

aha, tried modelling, hated it. Don't have those kind of looks anyways. Every one I worked with was scrawny

Say whatever you want, but I'm tagging you as Adonis
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EnragedSlith posted...

Blue_Popo posted...

Boo_Guy posted...

Damn, no wonder. You could be a model.

aha, tried modelling, hated it. Don't have those kind of looks anyways. Every one I worked with was scrawny

Say whatever you want, but I'm tagging you as Adonis

LOL

To the guy who got ghosted, try to plan a date for 3 or so days from the current date. Long planned dates have a lower chance of panning out. This girl on tinder is down to meet not this friday but next, I said sure but I doubt it'll happen

I think it's weird after you block her off everything it's almost like she doesn't exist



:(


I still have urges to search her up
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gna647 posted...

I think it's weird after you block her off everything it's almost like she doesn't exist



:(


I still have urges to search her up

backsliding is bad
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