Current Events > Apparently a 3 years old gay relationship is 30 years in straight years.

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Someone just told me that on grindr
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what the fuck
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why are gay people stereotypically promiscuous?
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So they even age like dogs.
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I managed to talk about video games to someone on grindr(something that never happened before). I still have 80% dick picks or messages like "sex now!" or "are you top or bottom"? why do straight people tell me they would enjoy to have women like that?
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E32005 posted...

why are gay people stereotypically promiscuous?

Probably because it's a smaller market, if you will, and the dating options are limited. So less choosy people?

That could be totally wrong and I'm just blowing hot air.

epik_fail1 posted...

why do straight people tell me they would enjoy to have women like that?

Why do straight people wish women were more straightforward about sex on an app for sex? Gee I wonder.
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E32005 posted...

why are gay people stereotypically promiscuous?

Everytime I find a guy cute, he acts like a slut. I don't want a model, but I'd like to find a guy who respect himself.
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epik_fail1 posted...

Everytime I find a guy cute, he acts like a slut. I don't want a model, but I'd like to find a guy who respect himself.

It's an app for sex with strangers.
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ASithLord7 posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

Everytime I find a guy cute, he acts like a slut. I don't want a model, but I'd like to find a guy who respect himself.

It's an app for sex with strangers.

Where do I meet gay guys otherwise? It's not as easy as it was in high school to meet new people?
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ASithLord7 posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

Everytime I find a guy cute, he acts like a slut. I don't want a model, but I'd like to find a guy who respect himself.

It's an app for sex with strangers.

This. Don't go to the meat market if you don't want people to offer you sausage.
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I know, right? I'm always averse to show any interest in guys who make themselves look or sound stereotypically gay (pierced ear, etc.) because I associate that with a lack of desire for something meaningful.

Thankfully, when you actually meet gay guys by talking to them instead of looking on hookup sites or clubs or by their appearance, most do want something loving and with hopes of it lasting. There is generally a lot more openness towards inviting others into the circle for fun and some other unusual relationship conventions for guys, but nothing like, "I just want to fuck, and then maybe I'll stick around if it's good."

epik_fail1 posted...

Where do I meet gay guys otherwise? It's not as easy as it was in high school to meet new people?

I wish I knew a way other than friends of friends and locations where your chance of meeting people who just want to fuck are increased. You could try a real dating site instead of a hookup app, but I have no experience with those. I will provide the amusing anecdote that if you ever want to go hang out with a bunch of furries, you can be assured that like 90% of them will be bi.
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Try a regular dating website? Set settings to looking for boyfriend?
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the_rowan posted...

I know, right? I'm always averse to show any interest in guys who make themselves look or sound stereotypically gay (pierced ear, etc.) because I associate that with a lack of desire for something meaningful.

Thankfully, when you actually meet gay guys by talking to them instead of looking on hookup sites or clubs or by their appearance, most do want something loving and with hopes of it lasting. There is generally a lot more openness towards inviting others into the circle for fun and some other unusual relationship conventions for guys, but nothing like, "I just want to fuck, and then maybe I'll stick around if it's good."

People always tell me I look straight and my ears are pierced...Beside I know tons of straight guy with pierced ears.
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E32005 posted...

why are gay people stereotypically promiscuous?

2 guys, what did you expect

also pent up sexual frustration from hiding it for years
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E32005 posted...

why are gay people stereotypically promiscuous?

Man, horny.

Other man, horny.

sex
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epik_fail1 posted...

the_rowan posted...

I know, right? I'm always averse to show any interest in guys who make themselves look or sound stereotypically gay (pierced ear, etc.) because I associate that with a lack of desire for something meaningful.

Thankfully, when you actually meet gay guys by talking to them instead of looking on hookup sites or clubs or by their appearance, most do want something loving and with hopes of it lasting. There is generally a lot more openness towards inviting others into the circle for fun and some other unusual relationship conventions for guys, but nothing like, "I just want to fuck, and then maybe I'll stick around if it's good."

People always tell me I look straight and my ears are pierced...Beside I know tons of straight guy with pierced ears.

He used the singular form of the word ear.
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epik_fail1 posted...

People always tell me I look straight and my ears are pierced...Beside I know tons of straight guy with pierced ears

Pierced single ear (an old convention, not really relevant on its own any more) in conjunction with other things, really.
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Flintlock_Staff posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

the_rowan posted...

I know, right? I'm always averse to show any interest in guys who make themselves look or sound stereotypically gay (pierced ear, etc.) because I associate that with a lack of desire for something meaningful.

Thankfully, when you actually meet gay guys by talking to them instead of looking on hookup sites or clubs or by their appearance, most do want something loving and with hopes of it lasting. There is generally a lot more openness towards inviting others into the circle for fun and some other unusual relationship conventions for guys, but nothing like, "I just want to fuck, and then maybe I'll stick around if it's good."

People always tell me I look straight and my ears are pierced...Beside I know tons of straight guy with pierced ears.

He used the singular form of the word ear.

Oh, I kinda missed it for some reasons.
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MorbidFaithless posted...

Try a regular dating website? Set settings to looking for boyfriend?

It doesn't change anything.
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If you can't do the grinding don't do the finding.

Thugstar posted...

If you can't do the grinding don't do the finding.

That....that quote....!
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I know a gay couple that has been married at least 8 years, yet it already feels like 80 years ago. Damn, I'm getting old.
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DoctorPiranha3 posted...

E32005 posted...

why are gay people stereotypically promiscuous?

Probably because it's a smaller market, if you will, and the dating options are limited. So less choosy people?

That could be totally wrong and I'm just blowing hot air.

Nah, you just forgot the part about the majority of dating men being more ambitious towards casual sex (compared to the majority of women) because of biology (guys tend to have a higher sex drive, they don't get pregnant, etc).

You can see some clear cut trends when comparing the lesbian communities to gay male communities. The lesbians have a higher frequency of committed relationships and parenthood. The gay males have a much higher frequency of casual sex and open relationships. People of either demographic can demonstrate the prominent qualities of the other, but they're less common.

Committed monogamous gay male couples like seen on TV are actually very uncommon below ages 40.

I would not take any of that as a cue to not bother looking for an exclusive partner as a gay man. There's still a substantial amount of gay men who are only interested in long term monogamy, partially because they get fed up with the drawbacks of hook-up culture. Just don't expect guys who look like calendar centerfolds then. The hotter a gay guy is, the less incentive he has to settle down, the more often other gay men will proposition him for sex discouraging him from remaining exclusive.

It's why so many long term gay male couples look, well...very plain.
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this is pretty accurate

me and my bf have been together for a bit over 3 years and we say the same thing
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