Current Events > I cringe every time I see someone in their 20s who's married

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Wait until you're at least 30, fools

That's not for you to decide for them
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Eh, I married in my late twenties.

Well, some random guy on a message board sure convinced me. Brb, getting a divorce.
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LastTomorrow posted...

That's not for you to decide for them

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shit id better call off my wedding
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low intensity trolling
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Sorry you can't convince anyone to marry you.
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But they're in love.
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JSancton posted...

Sorry you can't convince anyone to marry you.

Shit posters always jump to this type of remark. I was 32 before I decided to settle down.

I got married a few months ago and am 27.

I couldn't imagine getting married right out of college or high school like some do though even if you think you found the one.
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I don't know about the whole 20's.
I see kids in college with rings on and think "why?"
Mid to late 20's seems pretty standard to marry.
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Magneton posted...

JSancton posted...

Sorry you can't convince anyone to marry you.

Shit posters always jump to this type of remark. I was 32 before I decided to settle down.

so you have zero experience with being married in your 20s
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One of my coworkers is married and she is only 18 or 19.
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What if they're 29?
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TC getting some hate but I have to agree.

Hell I don't even really "believe" in marriage at all.
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Stalolin posted...

TC getting some hate but I have to agree.

Hell I don't even really "believe" in marriage at all.

Me neither, especially without a prenup

I'm in the military

I agree with tc lol
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I married at 20 years old. I'm 21 now
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/me rolls eyes
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Every time I see this topic I imagine the TC is just afraid that his video game time will be shortened
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Stalolin posted...

TC getting some hate but I have to agree.

Hell I don't even really "believe" in marriage at all.

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Pretty much everyone I graduated with had become baby cannons by the time they were 23
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Why do people always assume that if you are against marriage, it means you can get anyone to marry you?
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I don't want my kids calling me grandpa when they're 18 when I'm 48 assuming I had them at the age of 30
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DyingPancake posted...

Every time I see this topic I imagine the TC is just afraid that his video game time will be shortened

real talk

adulthood cuts in to ALL of your free time
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How anyone could live in such a black and white world is beyond me.
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Darkman124 posted...

DyingPancake posted...

Every time I see this topic I imagine the TC is just afraid that his video game time will be shortened

real talk

adulthood cuts in to ALL of your free time

No it doesn't
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DyingPancake posted...

Darkman124 posted...

DyingPancake posted...

Every time I see this topic I imagine the TC is just afraid that his video game time will be shortened

real talk

adulthood cuts in to ALL of your free time

No it doesn't

it does.

it makes you prioritize the stuff you actually care about, though, so you waste less time with stupid shit.

i only post on gamefaqs from work.
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Why do millennials get so upset by people who choose to get married or have kids?

Are you upset they'll raise another you?
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I don't see a problem with it, per say. I just know, based off personal experience, that I would not have been ready for marriage in my 20's. He'll, i'm 32 now and engaged and am still unsure if I'm ready.
The only true way to find out is to do it.
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Stalolin posted...

TC getting some hate but I have to agree.

Hell I don't even really "believe" in marriage at all.

Me neither. With the way that some chicks are operating nowadays, no way am I getting married without a prenup. When it comes to divorce, the legal system is definitely against the male and it's so fucked up. So the women can lock you down with marriage and kids and then get fat and not give it up and then you're either forced to put up with it or pay the 50% upgrade fee.
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Romulox28 posted...

shit id better call off my wedding

don't worry I will cause a ruckus when they ask if there are any objections

@Romulox28
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Darkman124 posted...

DyingPancake posted...

Darkman124 posted...

DyingPancake posted...

Every time I see this topic I imagine the TC is just afraid that his video game time will be shortened

real talk

adulthood cuts in to ALL of your free time

No it doesn't

it does.

it makes you prioritize the stuff you actually care about, though, so you waste less time with stupid shit.

i only post on gamefaqs from work.

Well yea, but that's not taking your free time if you're prioritizing what you enjoy

Unless you're saying you fill up your free time doing stuff you enjoy so you end up never having "free time" then yea I agree with that. I don't think I've been bored once since I graduated college because I always have stuff to do
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DyingPancake posted...

Well yea, but that's not taking your free time if you're prioritizing what you enjoy

Unless you're saying you fill up your free time doing stuff you enjoy so you end up never having "free time" then yea I agree with that. I don't think I've been bored once since I graduated college because I always have stuff to do

i'm saying there are way more 'obligation times' and you're doing chores a fair bit esp once you own a house.

ofc, i feel that nearly 100% of family time that isnt with my wife or dogs is 'obligation time'
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Everyone's different. I got married at 23 and it works for me. Might not work for you at this age.
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I always think I'm on the bitter and cynical side but then I see people like TC and I feel a whole lot better.
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Met my wife at 24.

Married at 30.
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I got married when I was 27, we are still happily married and I'm 38 now so whatever.
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Why wait? What's so bad about it? If you've been together for a few years, have lived together for a while, always been serious about it, have futures fully planned out involving one another, why not do it? The only difference between your relationship without marraige, and with marriage at that point is legal documentation. At least that way you get tax benefits, and maybe even some other perks too depending on your job.

My parents got married at 19, and they got divorced at 45 because of infidelity. If it weren't for that, they'd still be together. All of my aunts and uncles got married in their early 20s and are still married now close to their 50s.

The only issue with getting married young is getting married without thinking about things like finances, how you want to raise a family, kids/no kids, work, living and etc.

Seeing a professional to help you have those conversations, build an understanding, planning a future, and getting to know your SO in a different light work wonders for your relationship, and it's something that young adults never think about.

Unless you're someone who's never had a healthy relationship, afraid of commitment, or never been laid in his life, there's no reason to be like "herp derp you ain't 30 don't do it"
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The person I am now is completely different from the person I was in my early 20s. I could not fathom getting married with so much growing still to do in my life.
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Asherlee10 posted...

I kind of get where TC is coming from, trolling or not. Many people do not truly know themselves until around late 20s/early 30s. It is probably wise to get varied life experience (date different people, live in different places, etc.) during your early to mid 20s and then settle down.

Sure, that's an optimal path and isn't always viable. This is like saying a sandwich is the best food in the world, but all you've had are sandwiches.

IMO, the more important thing to do is not rush into commitment with someone you meet when you're young--not be unwilling to consider it due to arbitrary age limits

my wife and i are def not the same people we were when we met. she was 19. but we dated for several years before getting engaged, and i saw the direction she was growing in. i have grown with her, and while we have some significant differences now that we didn't then, we are still very complementary to one another.

by the time she was 23 i knew roughly what to expect from the next decade and how to ensure my own development remained in sync with hers. i am constantly reviewing and adjusting things that i think are likely obstacles to our long term.

i will say that one thing i think is always going to be a challenge is she's only ever been with me.
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Early marriage works for some. I mean my parents got married after knowing each other for 6 months when pops was 21 and mom was 20, and they had their 41st anniversary last year.
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I also interact and treat women completely different now than I did when I was in my early 20s as well. I look back and shudder at how pathetic I was.
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A woman's baby making potential goes out the door after 30. Best get married and pump out kids young.
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Wow im on the same boat as you, im 28 and half and back during my 21-22's i thought 30 would have been a good age to marry (based on my expectations-lifestyle) but now that im close to 30, i decided to delay it 2 years (32)
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