Poll of the Day > is it weird to want your boyfriends sister to be your surrogates?

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> im gay
> in a relationship
> told fiancé if we ever had kids id want his sis to be our surrogate
> he says "gross no way ill never change my mibd"
> i get triggered because its the closest we'll ever get to ever having a kid with both our genetic makeup
> he doesnt want the kid to have a dad uncle lol

Pics of sister

He should have suggested your mom to put it into perspective.
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Nah. I recently found out my dad was a donor for my mom's sister in law. Her husband, my moms blood brother, was unable to produce good sperm so my dad did. I don't think it's weird.

IAmNowGone posted...

> im gay

Oh, that arguably makes it less creepy because then his genes wouldn't be in her.

IAmNowGone posted...

> i get triggered because its the closest we'll ever get to ever having a kid with both our genetic makeup

It is surprisingly practical.

IAmNowGone posted...

> he doesnt want the kid to have a dad uncle lol

I can see that fucking a kid up.
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If a woman doesn't carry another man's baby when she already has a fiance, there's nothing you can do about it.
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WhatPoll posted...

Pics of sister

No Veedrock- posted...

He should have suggested your mom to put it into perspective.

Explain.

Dakooder posted...

Nah. I recently found out my dad was a donor for my mom's sister in law. Her husband, my moms blood brother, was unable to produce good sperm so my dad did. I don't think it's weird.

Thank u


Zeus posted...

IAmNowGone posted...

> im gay

Oh, that arguably makes it less creepy because then his genes wouldn't be in her.

IAmNowGone posted...

> i get triggered because its the closest we'll ever get to ever having a kid with both our genetic makeup

It is surprisingly practical.

IAmNowGone posted...

> he doesnt want the kid to have a dad uncle lol

I can see that fucking a kid up.

You ran through my thought process but I honestly don't think it'll really fuck up a kid if he/she isnt an idiot lol. I'd raise my kid smart.

wwinterj25 posted...

The kid would also look nothing like you.

TC would be using his sperm. That's the entire point of using TC's genetic makeup and the closest genetic makeup of his partner: the partner's sister.
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wwinterj25 posted...

IAmNowGone posted...

is it weird to want your boyfriends sister to be your surrogates?

Yes, yes it is. Not only will he be a Dad and Uncle to the kid but he would be asking his own sister to give up her baby for him for cash. That could cause a lot of strain between their relationship. Whatever way you look at it though you'll never be the Dad to the kid so what's the point in involving his family members in the situation. The kid would also look nothing like you.

What. No, she'd take my sperm. The kid would be mine regardless. We're both men so we can't have a kid with our genetic makeup naturally. The only thing you got right here was the dad/uncle thing.

IAmNowGone posted...

is it weird to want your boyfriends sister to be your surrogates?

Yes, yes it is. Not only will he be a Uncle to the kid but he would be asking his own sister to give up her baby for him for cash. That could cause a lot of strain between their relationship.

RCtheWSBC posted...

TC would be using his sperm.

Yeah I just got that lol.
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wwinter is a virgin so he has problems keeping up with how this all works
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

If a woman doesn't carry another man's baby when she already has a fiance, there's nothing you can do about it.

Are you even trying anymore?

RCtheWSBC posted...

wwinter is a virgin so he has problems keeping up with how this all works

It's becoming glaringly obvious lol

wwinterj25 posted...

IAmNowGone posted...

is it weird to want your boyfriends sister to be your surrogates?

Yes, yes it is. Not only will he be a Uncle to the kid but he would be asking his own sister to give up her baby for him for cash. That could cause a lot of strain between their relationship.

RCtheWSBC posted...

TC would be using his sperm.

Yeah I just got that lol.

Ok what again. If she decided to be a surrogate, she'd know the baby would be ours and she'd be able to visit etc. She'd also be compensated and present throughout the childs life should she choose.

RCtheWSBC posted...

wwinter is a virgin so he has problems keeping up with how this all works

I'm still not sure what goes where!
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No kwimkwam you'd obviously knock her up without her knowing it and she wouldn't know for 9 months that she's growing an embryo and fetus and then you'd sneak that infant right out of there.
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It's really not weird at all. Plenty of women who are unable to conceive have had their sister be their surrogate. It seems like a fantastic idea to me. Maybe he's just not very close to his sister. That's really the only reason I could think of that he'd be weirded out about it.
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Must be tough not being able to have a biological child with the person you love. Damn nature.
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IAmNowGone posted...

Ok what again. If she decided to be a surrogate, she'd know the baby would be ours and she'd be able to visit etc.

The baby would be yours and his sisters yes. Visiting her child could cause a lot of emotions for her and be even harder for her as she gave up her baby. Not sure what you're not understanding here.

IAmNowGone posted...

She'd also be compensated and present throughout the childs life should she choose.

That just makes my point even more valid. Clearly she could choose to not keep in contact with the kid she gave up but that would be at the risk of also not keeping in contact with her brother. If she decided to keep in contact then refer to the above. It's not a good idea at all.

RCtheWSBC posted...

No kwimkwam you'd obviously knock her up without her knowing it and she wouldn't know for 9 months that she's growing an embryo and fetus and then you'd sneak that infant right out of there.

... because surrogates don't change their mind right?
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wwinterj25 posted...

That just makes my point even more valid. Clearly she could choose to not keep in contact with the kid she gave up but that would be at the risk of also not keeping in contact with her brother. If she decided to keep in contact then refer to the above. It's not a good idea at all.

She would literally act as the child's aunt and would be there throughout its life. You're inferring potential emotions of how a surrogate could react as if that is how she would react. This isn't a new situation in the broad scheme of things.
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wwinterj25 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

wwinter is a virgin so he has problems keeping up with how this all works

I'm still not sure what goes where!

I give up on you.

RCtheWSBC posted...

No kwimkwam you'd obviously knock her up without her knowing it and she wouldn't know for 9 months that she's growing an embryo and fetus and then you'd sneak that infant right out of there.

Yes, quite.

Bugmeat posted...

It's really not weird at all. Plenty of women who are unable to conceive have had their sister be their surrogate. It seems like a fantastic idea to me. Maybe he's just not very close to his sister. That's really the only reason I could think of that he'd be weirded out about it.

They're close. He's too fixated on the dad/uncle thing. He thinks it'll mess up the kid. He thinks having two dads is enough but id say a kid with a random woman we dont care about would mess the kid up even more. Tis a shame.

FellWolf posted...

Must be tough not being able to have a biological child with the person you love. Damn nature.

Its ok. There are ways around it. Practical ways. Science is making its way around tho apparently.

RCtheWSBC posted...

She would literally act as the child's aunt and would be there throughout its life. You're inferring potential emotions of how a surrogate could react as if that is how she would react. This isn't a new situation in the broad scheme of things.

Certainly. It's a hypothetical situation within a hypothetical situation but it's still a possibility if you went down that road. Of course she could be ok with it all and everything could go smoothly but from my dad gfs experience of trying to have kids things don't always work out as planned. She asked her sister who refused and she ended up adopting in the end. Sure that's not everyone's stories but when you can't have kids naturally their isn't a easy road to go down.

IAmNowGone posted...

I give up on you.

Yeah. Sarcasm is great.
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Forgive my ignorance, but would it not be easier to do something like in-vitro fertilization?
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EclairReturns posted...

Forgive my ignorance, but would it not be easier to do something like in-vitro fertilization?

Good point.
What about if she gave you an egg?
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I guess that would comprise part of my lunch when I fry it. :P
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Never mind; I realized that you'd need one of the partners to be female for it to work. Otherwise, you'd have a kid with a mom with whom you have no relation.
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good grief does everyone here need an anatomy lesson
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EclairReturns posted...

Never mind; I realized that you'd need one of the partners to be female for it to work. Otherwise, you'd have a kid with a mom with whom you have no relation.

Can put the egg in my butt and birth her as a male

RCtheWSBC posted...

good grief does everyone here need an anatomy lesson

Yes. We will sit down and take notes. You can teach us being as you're such a expert.
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IAmNowGone posted...

You ran through my thought process but I honestly don't think it'll really fuck up a kid if he/she isnt an idiot lol. I'd raise my kid smart.

I'm not sure you should gamble on it not affecting the kid, especially because he will catch hell from his peers for it and, to be brutally honest, he'll likely have adjustment issues from just having two fathers because our society is still getting used to that paradigm (by which I mean it's very likely he'll experience greater-than-average bullying). More importantly, unless you really care about your genes, it would make sense to just adopt since there tens of thousands of kids who need good homes. This way you can avoid potentially awkward family dinners.

That said, have you broached the idea with the sister yet? If the boyfriend says no but she's okay with it, maybe you can both win him over. If both of them are saying no, you really shouldn't push it. (Also you call him a boyfriend in the title and a fiance in the post. Any reason? )
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This makes me think of an episode of Friends
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Ogurisama posted...

This makes me think of an episode of Friends

Yeah I got that too. With Phoebe and her Brother. Good episode.
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Zeus posted...

IAmNowGone posted...

You ran through my thought process but I honestly don't think it'll really fuck up a kid if he/she isnt an idiot lol. I'd raise my kid smart.

I'm not sure you should gamble on it not affecting the kid, especially because he will catch hell from his peers for it and, to be brutally honest, he'll likely have adjustment issues from just having two fathers because our society is still getting used to that paradigm (by which I mean it's very likely he'll experience greater-than-average bullying). More importantly, unless you really care about your genes, it would make sense to just adopt since there tens of thousands of kids who need good homes. This way you can avoid potentially awkward family dinners.

That said, have you broached the idea with the sister yet? If the boyfriend says no but she's okay with it, maybe you can both win him over. If both of them are saying no, you really shouldn't push it. (Also you call him a boyfriend in the title and a fiance in the post. Any reason? )

I want my bloodline to continue because i am a psychopath. And i havent but children arent on the map til im 30 anyhow. Im hoping maybe he'll change his mind by then. Hes my fiancé i made an accident lol

Oh shit, when did he propose? Weren't you against marriage?
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wwinterj25 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

good grief does everyone here need an anatomy lesson

Yes. We will sit down and take notes. You can teach us being as you're such a expert.

If you take the sister's egg and tc's sperm you would be able to implant both into any surrogate and create a baby.
It might take several tries.
This would create a baby with both of their genetic make-up.
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

If you take the sister's egg and tc's sperm you would be able to implant both into any surrogate and create a baby.
It might take several tries.
This would create a baby with both of their genetic make-up.

*makes notes*
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IAmNowGone posted...

I want my bloodline to continue because i am a psychopath.

Not faulting you for that. It's natural to want your kid to have your genes, it's pretty much hard-wired into our DNA.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

wwinterj25 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

good grief does everyone here need an anatomy lesson

Yes. We will sit down and take notes. You can teach us being as you're such a expert.

If you take the sister's egg and tc's sperm you would be able to implant both into any surrogate and create a baby.
It might take several tries.
This would create a baby with both of their genetic make-up.

From the phrasing, it sounded like he wanted her to do more than provide the egg. Usually when I hear a woman referred to as a surrogate, it means she's the one actually carrying the child.
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Zeus posted...

IAmNowGone posted...

I want my bloodline to continue because i am a psychopath.

Not faulting you for that. It's natural to want your kid to have your genes, it's pretty much hard-wired into our DNA.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

wwinterj25 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

good grief does everyone here need an anatomy lesson

Yes. We will sit down and take notes. You can teach us being as you're such a expert.

If you take the sister's egg and tc's sperm you would be able to implant both into any surrogate and create a baby.
It might take several tries.
This would create a baby with both of their genetic make-up.

From the phrasing, it sounded like he wanted her to do more than provide the egg. Usually when I hear a woman referred to as a surrogate, it means she's the one actually carrying the child.

True, but maybe she might be more willing to provide an egg as opposed to being pregnant for 9 months.
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He'd have an aunt mom. Baller!
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SunWuKung420 posted...

He'd have an aunt mom. Baller!

Aunt-Man?!
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wwinterj25 posted...

Ogurisama posted...

This makes me think of an episode of Friends

Yeah I got that too. With Phoebe and her Brother. Good episode.

Yeah, thats the one.
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IAmNowGone posted...

he doesnt want the kid to have a dad uncle lol

How can you possible marry someone that doesn't think having a kid call him "Uncle Dad" isn't the best thing ever?
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You should at least try and put a baby in her the natural way.
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Kungfu Kenobi posted...

IAmNowGone posted...

he doesnt want the kid to have a dad uncle lol

How can you possible marry someone that doesn't think having a kid call him "Uncle Dad" isn't the best thing ever?

Ikr. I should bring home a picture of an ultrasound that has, instead of a baby, the words "im leaving u".

Smarkil posted...

You should at least try and put a baby in her the natural way.

I've thought about this more than I care to admit.

It would literally be the only way for your baby to have both of your genes. It is not weird as long as everyone is comfortable with it. I am sure you can find these stories on the internet, it is not that uncommon of a thing to do. Having a relative be the surrogate that it.
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you could try finding some facehuggers and get pregnant that way


IAmNowGone posted...

EclairReturns posted...

Never mind; I realized that you'd need one of the partners to be female for it to work. Otherwise, you'd have a kid with a mom with whom you have no relation.

Can put the egg in my butt and birth her as a male

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tolaeoK7kv4
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yutterh posted...

It would literally be the only way for your baby to have both of your genes. It is not weird as long as everyone is comfortable with it. I am sure you can find these stories on the internet, it is not that uncommon of a thing to do. Having a relative be the surrogate that it.

Thank u

BlazeAndBlade posted...

you could try finding some facehuggers and get pregnant that way


IAmNowGone posted...

EclairReturns posted...

Never mind; I realized that you'd need one of the partners to be female for it to work. Otherwise, you'd have a kid with a mom with whom you have no relation.

Can put the egg in my butt and birth her as a male

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tolaeoK7kv4

Ok will do

Look, I think the problem is that you need two kids and each needs to have a different father. You knock up his sister and in return he knocks up your mom.

well this topic wasn't half as weird as I expected it to be. I don't really see an issue here, but if your partner is against it, tough break I guess
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And what about the sister?
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