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clearaflagrantj 04/07/17 1:27:37 PM #1: |
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Two months ago my friend wanted to go out to a birthday dinner at an expensive place, about $50 a head. Four of us went, Friend A (his birthday), Friend B, Me, and my girlfriend. The total for the four of us was something like $200- $220, Friend B was in a shitty mood since he illegally parked and had to pay a tow truck driver $50 to stop him, so I offered to pay for everything except his meal. A week ago, the same four of us went to dinner for my birthday. We had beers at a local brewery ($4 each, I had one), then to a restaurant where our shared bill was $65 (I didn't want to go anywhere fancy, just wanted to hang out). Friend B, the guy that almost had his car towed, never offered to pay anything. Friend A offered to pay a share but my girlfriend turned him down, so friends A and B paid for only their own meals, and my girlfriend covered the rest. My girlfriend wanted to take us out again, just us two (we thought A and B would help chip in, then we'd have our own dinner she would treat me to) but I told her we shouldn't since she paid for everything for me, so we cooked a meal ourselves. Are my friends cheap assholes? Like I'm frugal but I'm never cheap when it comes to giving money to others. Or maybe I'm just overreacting. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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organicbamf 04/07/17 1:29:48 PM #2: |
idk, i'm too autistic for these types of scenarios
everyone should just pay for themselves all the time --- get ready for a backside attack ;) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DevsBro 04/07/17 1:31:19 PM #3: |
Are you mad that they didn't offer to pay for your food?
I don't think your friends are the assholes here. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Giant_Aspirin 04/07/17 1:33:01 PM #4: |
i think for the second outing, they should have offered to chip in, yeah. i also believe that
organicbamf posted... everyone should just pay for themselves all the time --- Now Playing: Nioh (PS4), Titanfall 2 (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CroDalmatinac 04/07/17 1:33:19 PM #5: |
Your "friends" aren't the problem here.
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Twin3Turbo 04/07/17 1:37:35 PM #6: |
Giant_Aspirin posted...
everyone should just pay for themselves all the time My experience is that people REALLY have a difficult time with this concept. As if giving the waiter two cards complicates the scenario or something. That being said I do think it's kinda BS that they didn't offer to pay anything despite you paying on their birthday. That's why I always only ever split the bill evenly with whomever I'm with or pay for my meal. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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emblem boy 04/07/17 1:40:09 PM #7: |
No, I don't think so.
I actually prefer everyone to just pay their own bills. Having someone pay for me makes me feel weird and as if I then owe them something the next time. --- Posted with GameRaven 3.2 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TheGoldenEel 04/07/17 1:40:23 PM #8: |
Twin3Turbo posted...
Giant_Aspirin posted...everyone should just pay for themselves all the time Unless you're at some dive the server will almost always split the checks for you --- The words of The Golden Eel have been revealed... Games: http://backloggery.com/wrldindstries302 \\ Music: http://www.last.fm/user/DrMorberg/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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organicbamf 04/07/17 1:42:04 PM #9: |
Twin3Turbo posted...
they didn't offer to pay anything despite you paying on their birthday yeh this is the only time i would think "hey pay for their shit, they paid for yours" like last saturday i went on a road trip with another couple and the guy paid for my gas, so i bought him some strudel to take home afterward to sort of even that out but according to my gf, keeping a balance in your head of who you owe and who owes you what is bad so *shrug* i would just rather everyone pay for their own shit after they knowingly get involved with whatever endeavor --- get ready for a backside attack ;) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Giant_Aspirin 04/07/17 1:43:25 PM #10: |
Twin3Turbo posted...
As if giving the waiter two cards complicates the scenario or something. i just ask for separate checks --- Now Playing: Nioh (PS4), Titanfall 2 (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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krazychao5 04/07/17 1:46:32 PM #11: |
Eh, I don't think this is something you should keep in your head because it will be in your subconscious and will make you bitter at your friends. Just drop it; best for everyone.
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AsucaHayashi 04/07/17 1:46:44 PM #12: |
don't pay for anything when you expect something in return.
that's called "lending money" without the actual words spoken. --- Not being able to land shoryuken consistently on one method of input as opposed to another is a matter of preference - zedzilla http://i.imgur.com/9Yv0R2Z.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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thanosibe 04/07/17 1:47:05 PM #13: |
organicbamf posted...
Twin3Turbo posted...This. If I don't want to or can't spend money on something then I do not go. My boss eats out like everyday, and a lot of times I don't go with him when he asks, simply because I don't want to spend my money eating out. But on the times I do go, I always expect and try to pay for my food. But many times he does himself. But since he's sending the bill to corporate as a expense that he's going to get reimbursed for, it doesn't bother me when that happens.they didn't offer to pay anything despite you paying on their birthday --- I think I need a drink. Almost everybody does only they don't know it. -- Charles Bukowski ... Copied to Clipboard!
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organicbamf 04/07/17 1:47:07 PM #14: |
AsucaHayashi posted...
don't pay for anything when you expect something in return. yep --- get ready for a backside attack ;) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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krazychao5 04/07/17 1:48:57 PM #15: |
And why you pay for your friend cause he made a mistake and parked like a jackass?
Don't reward bad behaviors, lol --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DevsBro 04/07/17 1:50:43 PM #16: |
Also what is "everything but his meal" at a restaurant? Like, a beer I guess?
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organicbamf 04/07/17 1:52:09 PM #17: |
DevsBro posted...
Also what is "everything but his meal" at a restaurant? Like, a beer I guess? i assume the ticket/fine he incurred when parking like a moron --- get ready for a backside attack ;) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Twin3Turbo 04/07/17 2:01:35 PM #18: |
TheGoldenEel posted...
Unless you're at some dive the server will almost always split the checks for you Right, thats what i'm saying Giant_Aspirin posted... i just ask for separate checks Same here, or just split it evenly among whomever I'm out with. Yeah that means that someone end's up paying more than they should have and someone else ends up paying less than they should have, but usually the difference is very minor so I don't really care. I say this as the person that usually is the one paying more than they should. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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clearaflagrantj 04/07/17 2:06:29 PM #19: |
Guys I do separate checks literally every time, this topic is specifically about treating friends to birthday dinners.
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organicbamf 04/07/17 2:07:46 PM #20: |
clearaflagrantj posted...
Guys I do separate checks literally every time, this topic is specifically about treating friends to birthday dinners. which i would still say everyone should just pay for themselves seriously, why shuffle around some in-group debt when you can just pay for what you want and enjoy the company rather than some superficial outing? --- get ready for a backside attack ;) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Old NoiseTank 04/07/17 2:12:24 PM #21: |
Venmo bro.
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