I beg your indulgence here. I'm way too old to be having these questions, but seeing as I haven't had a date in my entire adult life (for various reasons not worth mentioning), I actually do need the help of people much younger than I am.
The other night (1 am or thereabouts), I was at Walmart and the lady cashier really caught my attention. There are three reasons I couldn't say anything: 1, the customer ahead of me was a problem, 2, the supervisor took over for that customer (and handled my transaction, too), and 3, there was a line behind me.
I know nothing about this woman. Her name didn't even appear on the receipt. Still, I'd like to say something and see if anything could happen with her. To that end, I want to do this in the least creepy, let's-not-pee-in-her-butt sort of way.
Is there a non-creepy way to find this woman again? And if so, is there a non-creepy way to approach a cashier? I'm not into cornering her and forcing her to talk to me if she doesn't want to, but I'd like to do what I can to get a name and maybe a date.
You ever get the feeling you're not going to get any help on this? Facebook friends weren't very helpful, so I thought I'd try anonymous Internet strangers. Guess that wasn't any help, either.
Return to Wal-Mart at 1am or thereabouts. Try to see if she's there. Wait until there's not a line. Buy magnum condoms so she thinks you have a massive dong.
Its only creepy if youre being obvious about it. If you come in and notice a line, shop for awhile. If there are no lines when you show up hurry up and buy the condoms.
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Go to Walmart at 1 am again (she probably works overnights, you will never see her otherwise). On your way in, glance at the registers, don't make a big fuss about it, just see if she's there. Grab a few things and go to her register. If there's a lot of people around, pretend look at something that's within viewing distance of the register, then after the lines die down wait a few mins and go buy your crap then talk to her.
For what it's worth, I can probably do something about buying something every night. I tend to buy my lunch for the next day at work after work, but I can probably just go home, take a nap, and then go to Walmart late night to get my stuff.
As someone who has worked at walmart and had pretty much every single female cashier complain to me several times about customers that would hit on them, I'm not convinced that there is any good way of going about this.
I would suggest getting a job at the walmart and getting to know her that way. That method has worked for me.
From: ShadowHalo17 | #014 As someone who has worked at walmart and had pretty much every single female cashier complain to me several times about customers that would hit on them, I'm not convinced that there is any good way of going about this.
I would suggest getting a job at the walmart and getting to know her that way. That method has worked for me.
Also did she not have a name tag on?
Yeah my coworkers told me that a lot, unless you're really good at it I'd say don't bother.
You miss 100% of the shots you dont take- wayne Gretzky.
We've all been there. Trust me. You wanna say something but you find 100 reasons not to and then the time has passed and you regret it. If you take anything from me it's this:
How you feel right now is worse than being rejected.
Who cares if people were waiting? Your chance at happiness is worth more than their express lane chicken strips. Not only that but your cavalier, nonchalant attitude will let her know you mean business.
Go back there, same time, tell her you think she looks interesting and would like to take her out for drinks. Don't laugh. Don't fidget. Don't smile. Look her dead in the eyes. If she says no move on like a man and hold your head high because you've done something most men never will.
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From: TheConductorSix | #017 Go back there, same time, tell her you think she looks interesting and would like to take her out for drinks. Don't laugh. Don't fidget. Don't smile. Look her dead in the eyes. If she says no move on like a man and hold your head high because you've done something most men never will.
Also don't listen to Halo because he's listening to what women say without remembering that women lie. All the time.
Women never hate being hit on, even if it's bad or corny or insincere. No women hates flattery and being made to feel prettier than they are. Their indignation is simply a social convention.
If I were you I'd let her know about your previous encounter. It serves the purpos of showing vulnerability while also showing you're confident enough to come back because she's worth it.
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I think you should try and wait till her line dies down, buy something and just start talking but make sure you're looking her in the eyes when you talk. Fearless eye contact is attractive for both men and women.
Tell her something like "I don't do this a lot but I saw you the other night and i think you're incredibly attractive and wanted to ask If you'd like to get breakfast or dinner sometime"
The worst that can happen is she says no. And life goes on. And that's not being creepy in the least bit.
The above post is how to hit on girls in a way that makes them tell their Friend Zoned Guy Friends that they dint like getting hit on.
Never say "I dont hit on girls all the time". You want girls to think you hit on girls ALL the time. When you look her in the eye you're saying "I do this all the time. I'm not scared of this."
Again, how you feel right now is worse than being rejected.
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All this, and apparently she's married or something. She's got a ring on her left hand, which tells me she's either married, engaged, or unwilling to deal with potential suitors at this job. There weren't any visible rocks on the band, but it was a nice enough ring where I wasn't about to ask questions.
I call entrapment on this, though. She most emphatically was NOT wearing a ring when I first saw her. Coincidence? I'll buy that, but only because I can't come up with any other good explanation.