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minervo posted...

Rida_Go_To_Bed posted...

Your friend seems like he needs some help. You could be the first line of help that he needs to set him down a good path. Go out with him and keep an eye on his mannerisms. If he's seeking you out, he is doing it for one of two reasons: he thinks that you can help him, or he thinks that he can get things from you. That sounds scary, but keep that in mind when you take him out. I've been in situations like this where I've done strange things to friends as kind of a "hey man, I need you, but I'm way too embarrassed to talk about my life right now" because I was afraid of being judged by the people who care about me. IDK, I could be wrong, but that is just my opinion on the topic.

I have had a lot of past issues with drugs, so if you suspect anything if you were to hang out with him, feel free to PM me and I can give my honest opinion on it, and how I think you should approach it.

Thanks. Yeah, shame is a terrible thing. I think that by having a friendship like this I can learn how to handle a situation like this. Most people he doesn't open up to because he's an extremely tough person and always had a rough lifestyle. He doesn't respect authority or overly-educated types, but he does like to talk about spirituality.

There are many situations that I can hypothesize that could have happened to him to make him that way. I'm not a psychologist though. I wish you luck with helping your friend, and again, if you suspect drugs, feel free to PM me. Things to keep out for: check his pupils (very large or pinpointed?), check his perspiration (sweating a lot in a cold environment?), are his hands shaky, does he seem restless, is he talking very fast, is he avoiding eye contact, is his speech slurred, has he had rapid weight loss (or gain), has he been isolating himself, are just some things to look out for. A lot of these can be applied to a large amount of other non-drug related issues, but are my go to's for getting a hunch if someone is on something.
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Rida_Go_To_Bed posted...

minervo posted...

Rida_Go_To_Bed posted...

Your friend seems like he needs some help. You could be the first line of help that he needs to set him down a good path. Go out with him and keep an eye on his mannerisms. If he's seeking you out, he is doing it for one of two reasons: he thinks that you can help him, or he thinks that he can get things from you. That sounds scary, but keep that in mind when you take him out. I've been in situations like this where I've done strange things to friends as kind of a "hey man, I need you, but I'm way too embarrassed to talk about my life right now" because I was afraid of being judged by the people who care about me. IDK, I could be wrong, but that is just my opinion on the topic.

I have had a lot of past issues with drugs, so if you suspect anything if you were to hang out with him, feel free to PM me and I can give my honest opinion on it, and how I think you should approach it.

Thanks. Yeah, shame is a terrible thing. I think that by having a friendship like this I can learn how to handle a situation like this. Most people he doesn't open up to because he's an extremely tough person and always had a rough lifestyle. He doesn't respect authority or overly-educated types, but he does like to talk about spirituality.

There are many situations that I can hypothesize that could have happened to him to make him that way. I'm not a psychologist though. I wish you luck with helping your friend, and again, if you suspect drugs, feel free to PM me. Things to keep out for: check his pupils (very large or pinpointed?), check his perspiration (sweating a lot in a cold environment?), are his hands shaky, does he seem restless, is he talking very fast, is he avoiding eye contact, is his speech slurred, has he had rapid weight loss (or gain), has he been isolating himself, are just some things to look out for. A lot of these can be applied to a large amount of other non-drug related issues, but are my go to's for getting a hunch if someone is on something.

It's not his drug usage that worries me tbh. It's his lack of support. He's seen so much, and I've lived with him before so I understand where he comes from and what he's been through. I somewhat know his family and he's been part of my inner circle so I'm not gonna behave like a stranger who either slams the door on him or a professional doctor who does the exact opposite. I told his sister who was driving the car that he needs to relax. The whole family seemed extremely stressed, but I think they do love him.
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