Current Events > No excuse for anyone to not have an SO.

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Go out there and approach all.
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Dude must be hung like a bear.
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Approaching ain't the problem, bud
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I dont like commitment and responsibilities
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Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

I don't know you but I'm gonna say that is untrue.
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Mareen posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

I don't know you but I'm gonna say that is untrue.

Yeah this
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Dark_SilverX posted...

Mareen posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

I don't know you but I'm gonna say that is untrue.

Yeah this

Sorry, but you guys are very wrong.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

You seriously need to take more risks. What do you even have to lose at this point? Think about it.

Also it doesn't make sense to think so far ahead (ruining someone's life just for dating you) when you haven't even gotten to the first kiss yet. Most romances will fail and that's ok. Sometimes you just have to steal a moment or two of happiness from life even if you know it's not gonna last. Think short term. Can you meet up with a girl and get a little bit of attention for a day? Don't think twice, just do it.
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Mareen posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

I don't know you but I'm gonna say that is untrue.

Well I do know him, and you are right. It's totally untrue. He's great. And also hot as fuck.
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SpiralDrift posted...

Can you meet up with a girl and get a little bit of attention for a day?

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You must have mistaken for anyone else.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Can you meet up with a girl and get a little bit of attention for a day?

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You must have mistaken for anyone else.

There are probably even some CEgals who would meet up with you if you were willing.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Can you meet up with a girl and get a little bit of attention for a day?

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You must have mistaken for anyone else.

Girl in Opening video bathes dude and also eats his booty like groceries. You're good dawg.
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Think about it, man. Think about it. You could be sitting across from an honest to God female and have her full attention fixed on you. Pheromones, hair, the whole deal. Don't you want that, if even for just one day?
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SpiralDrift posted...

Think about it, man. Think about it. You could be sitting across from an honest to God female and have her full attention fixed on you. Pheromones, hair, the whole deal. Don't you want that, if even for just one day?

This. He can do it, he's just lazy.
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I'm ugly
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Dark_SilverX posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Think about it, man. Think about it. You could be sitting across from an honest to God female and have her full attention fixed on you. Pheromones, hair, the whole deal. Don't you want that, if even for just one day?

This. He can do it, he's just lazy.

Of course I do. But I have 35 years of proof saying it's not going to happen.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Dark_SilverX posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Think about it, man. Think about it. You could be sitting across from an honest to God female and have her full attention fixed on you. Pheromones, hair, the whole deal. Don't you want that, if even for just one day?

This. He can do it, he's just lazy.

Of course I do. But I have 35 years of proof saying it's not going to happen.

I was a late bloomer too but eventually realized what I'm telling you now. Once the pain of loneliness outgrows the fear of failure maybe you'll understand.

But basically it's like failing a mission in GTA and then running amok because you've already failed anyway. There are no additional consequences once you've failed. That's it, man. The worst scenario is already there. It makes no sense to keep playing it safe.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

So improve yourself then.
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SpiralDrift posted...

I was a late bloomer too but eventually realized what I'm telling you now. Once the pain of loneliness outgrows the fear of failure maybe you'll understand.

But basically it's like failing a mission in GTA and then running amok because you've already failed anyway. There are no additional consequences once you've failed. That's it, man. The worst scenario is already there. It makes no sense to keep playing it safe.

You say that like I haven't tried and been rejected. I've tried online dating, I've tried getting close to people irl, I've even tried tinder. Nothing works. If it wasn't against the tos, there'd be 2 dozen people in here agreeing that I'm just a piece of shit. Most of which were the only friends I've ever had.
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I'll tell you one thing that is actually good, or at least not bad, about yourself, something even you can't deny: You don't seem to be an incel. You're not blaming other people for your problems. Even if it's in an unhealthy way, you're at least owning up to your own issues.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

I was a late bloomer too but eventually realized what I'm telling you now. Once the pain of loneliness outgrows the fear of failure maybe you'll understand.

But basically it's like failing a mission in GTA and then running amok because you've already failed anyway. There are no additional consequences once you've failed. That's it, man. The worst scenario is already there. It makes no sense to keep playing it safe.

You say that like I haven't tried and been rejected. I've tried online dating, I've tried getting close to people irl, I've even tried tinder. Nothing works. If it wasn't against the tos, there'd be 2 dozen people in here agreeing that I'm just a piece of shit. Most of which were the only friends I've ever had.

How many different people have you been rejected by IRL?
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I dont want one
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Guide posted...

I'll tell you one thing that is actually good, or at least not bad, about yourself, something even you can't deny: You don't seem to be an incel. You're not blaming other people for your problems. Even if it's in an unhealthy way, you're at least owning up to your own issues.

Well, it's undeniably me that's the problem. I don't understand how people can blame everyone else for stuff like this.

Crayon_Lover posted..

How many different people have you been rejected by IRL?

Like 5 I think. I know it's not a lot, but it's enough.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

I was a late bloomer too but eventually realized what I'm telling you now. Once the pain of loneliness outgrows the fear of failure maybe you'll understand.

But basically it's like failing a mission in GTA and then running amok because you've already failed anyway. There are no additional consequences once you've failed. That's it, man. The worst scenario is already there. It makes no sense to keep playing it safe.

You say that like I haven't tried and been rejected. I've tried online dating, I've tried getting close to people irl, I've even tried tinder. Nothing works. If it wasn't against the tos, there'd be 2 dozen people in here agreeing that I'm just a piece of shit. Most of which were the only friends I've ever had.

I don't doubt that you've tried but failure is to be expected. Fail and fail again but keep trying.

I would recommend staying off of Tinder. It's just going to make you feel worse. If I were you I would just focus on talking to lots of girls online without putting any expectations on it. It can still be a huge confidence booster just to be able to keep a girl's attention for a while. It may be 1 in 20 that go past the initial greeting but it's a numbers game really. Small steps can lead to big things.
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SpiralDrift posted...

I don't doubt that you've tried but failure is to be expected. Fail and fail again but keep trying.

I would recommend staying off of Tinder. It's just going to make you feel worse. If I were you I would just focus on talking to lots of girls online without putting any expectations on it. It can still be a huge confidence booster just to be able to keep a girl's attention for a while. It may be 1 in 20 that go past the initial greeting but it's a numbers game really. Small steps can lead to big things.

Tinder is the one thing that made me feel like I had hope. I actually got plenty of matches, just none led anywhere. But it at least made it seem like some women would be willing to give me a chance.

No ones interested in me, they never have been. One girl from okcupid straight up told me she would never be with someone like me, after correctly guessing I was a virgin. This woman wasn't exactly what you'd call attractive either. Been shut down by others on there too. And others irl as soon as they thought I might like them. I always thought if I could just manage to attract and get a girlfriend just once, it'd prove its not impossible and would boost my confidence and self esteem. But no, it is actually impossible.
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What are the odds Shane has a rich family, and Hannah just so happens to have a lot of guy friends?
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KogaSteelfang posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

I don't doubt that you've tried but failure is to be expected. Fail and fail again but keep trying.

I would recommend staying off of Tinder. It's just going to make you feel worse. If I were you I would just focus on talking to lots of girls online without putting any expectations on it. It can still be a huge confidence booster just to be able to keep a girl's attention for a while. It may be 1 in 20 that go past the initial greeting but it's a numbers game really. Small steps can lead to big things.

Tinder is the one thing that made me feel like I had hope. I actually got plenty of matches, just none led anywhere. But it at least made it seem like some women would be willing to give me a chance.

No ones interested in me, they never have been. One girl from okcupid straight up told me she would never be with someone like me, after correctly guessing I was a virgin. This woman wasn't exactly what you'd call attractive either. Been shut down by others on there too. And others irl as soon as they thought I might like them. I always thought if I could just manage to attract and get a girlfriend just once, it'd prove its not impossible and would boost my confidence and self esteem. But no, it is actually impossible.

I do know how you feel. I went through all of that when I was younger. I also had people telling me that I was attractive enough and they couldn't understand why I hadn't been with anyone yet. You hear those things but it doesn't mesh with how you feel so it's hard to accept. And even if you can accept it it's like it still doesn't matter.

I remember being really embarrassed about being a virgin, but at a certain point I just stopped trying to sugar coat it since it didn't seem to help anyway, but to my surprise that somehow made a difference. I stopped showing any sign of shame. This is how I am, take it or leave it. Ultimately what I found was that if a girl is attracted to you it won't make any difference unless it makes a difference to you. If you're not a virgin, she'll envision you as a stud. If you are, she'll just weave some other fantasy around you with her as the star. It can even be a good thing to some.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

well tbh... if this is where your mind is, then yeah youre correct. self fulfilling prophecy and all that. gotta love yourself and just be you before you have a chance at attracting and keeping a SO
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SpiralDrift posted...

I do know how you feel. I went through all of that when I was younger. I also had people telling me that I was attractive enough and they couldn't understand why I hadn't been with anyone yet. You hear those things but it doesn't mesh with how you feel so it's hard to accept. And even if you can accept it it's like it still doesn't matter.

I remember being really embarrassed about being a virgin, but at a certain point I just stopped trying to sugar coat it since it didn't seem to help anyway, but to my surprise that somehow made a difference. I stopped showing any sign of shame. This is how I am, take it or leave it. Ultimately what I found was that if a girl is attracted to you it won't make any difference unless it makes a difference to you. If you're not a virgin, she'll envision you as a stud. If you are, she'll just weave some other fantasy around you with her as the star. It can even be a good thing to some.

That all hinges on actually attracting someone. I wish I could attract someone, but I can't.

GasMonkey posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me? I am 100% completely undeserving of any form of love. I'm nothing but a piece of shit, not even worth acknowledging. Loads of people agree too, so why even bother? I'd just ruin their life too if someone somehow managed to like me.

well tbh... if this is where your mind is, then yeah youre correct. self fulfilling prophecy and all that. gotta love yourself and just be you before you have a chance at attracting and keeping a SO

It was fulfilled before I started thinking that way.
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lonelinessshamers get out
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Like 5 I think. I know it's not a lot, but it's enough.

So about once every seven years. Or three years if you first asked someone out when you were 20. Doesn't sound like a whole lot of effort
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Crayon_Lover posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Like 5 I think. I know it's not a lot, but it's enough.

So about once every seven years. Or three years if you first asked someone out when you were 20. Doesn't sound like a whole lot of effort

my mental illness prevents me from asking people out

nice ableism
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What if you don't fucking want one?

Is that an "excuse" too, TC?
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Crayon_Lover posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Like 5 I think. I know it's not a lot, but it's enough.

So about once every seven years. Or three years if you first asked someone out when you were 20. Doesn't sound like a whole lot of effort

Those are just the irl ones, which are by far the least I've tried. Can probably add another hundred or two if counting online, and assuming matching with someone and never responding to a message or sending a message counts.

Coupled with my family, classmates, so called "friends", everyone I've ever been interested in, and loads of people on this site all agreeing that I'm worthless. Yeah, I don't see much point in hoping things will change.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Yeah, I don't see much point in hoping things will change.

KogaSteelfang posted...

Work in progress, please be patient.

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Don't want one
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me?

If you don't advertise/sell yourself, you'll never know because you won't give anyone the opportunity to give you an answer.

My SO and I have known each other for 22 years. She apparently had been in love with me since year 2 (8th grade), because of something I did on the end of the year field trip. Sometime in the last 2-3 years, her and I actually talked about that day and reminisced about it. I knew she had had a crush on me for awhile at this point, but I didn't understand why. That was the night we genuinely exchanged ILUs.

That's an answer to the question you posed that I wouldn't have fucking expected. That said, it's hard to find someone with a pure, loving devoted heart so don't think you've failed just because some people are actual saints.
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Kineth posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me?

If you don't advertise/sell yourself, you'll never know because you won't give anyone the opportunity to give you an answer.

My SO and I have known each other for 22 years. She apparently had been in love with me since year 2 (8th grade), because of something I did on the end of the year field trip. Sometime in the last 2-3 years, her and I actually talked about that day and reminisced about it. I knew she had had a crush on me for awhile at this point, but I didn't understand why. That was the night we genuinely exchanged ILUs.

That's an answer to the question you posed that I wouldn't have fucking expected. That said, it's hard to find someone with a pure, loving devoted heart so don't think you've failed just because some people are actual saints.

What was it you did that so charmed her?

Kineth posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

Why would someone choose to burden themselves with a person like me?

If you don't advertise/sell yourself, you'll never know because you won't give anyone the opportunity to give you an answer.

My SO and I have known each other for 22 years. She apparently had been in love with me since year 2 (8th grade), because of something I did on the end of the year field trip. Sometime in the last 2-3 years, her and I actually talked about that day and reminisced about it. I knew she had had a crush on me for awhile at this point, but I didn't understand why. That was the night we genuinely exchanged ILUs.

That's an answer to the question you posed that I wouldn't have fucking expected. That said, it's hard to find someone with a pure, loving devoted heart so don't think you've failed just because some people are actual saints.

Were you "selling yourself" on that field trip? She fell in love with you because she saw something she liked in you. There's nothing like that in me.
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Koga i can't remember faces well but i remember you were hot
If it helps i know several hotties who are also single, including women
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Do fuck buddies count?
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M_Live posted...

Is it the angle of the video, some sort of filter or photo editing, or is that guy's head just enormous?

That's what I was wondering.

Also, you guys wasted this topic by making it a Koga pity party. Dude puts zero effort into changing anything. I don't hate the dude but he sucks life out the room and people got their own problems. He doesn't give a shit that his attitude can bring others down. He's proven that attention is more important to him than actually making effort to change. Maybe when he stops feeding off attention he'll actually try.
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Fine, I won't post any more.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Fine, I won't post any more.

thank u, next
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Fine, I won't post any more.

Not what I was getting at. I just see you go in circles and you gotta realize the way you approach life isn't doing you no favors at this point. Sometimes you gotta fake it until you make it bro. Try to pretend you feel a lil better than you actually do. See how others respond to that. You might like it. I wish you the best but giving into your depression filled attitude isn't something Im about. Most of us deal with depression. A lot of the time the difference in attitude is more so who's working on it and who's giving into it. Im sorry for everything you go through but we all go through shit man.
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Don't want one.
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All guys ever talk about is how irritating their gf is. They aren't selling the whole concept well TBH

No excuse for making dumb topics like this.
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