Current Events > Why do people cheat? Why not end it?

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End the relationship
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Cuz blablabla
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"I want my cake and eat it too"
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known2FAIL posted...

"I want my cake and eat it too"

Some people just don't see anything wrong with cheating or don't care.

I have a friend who was legitimately surprised and confused as to why I would be monogamous to my gf and not cheat. He just doesn't see it as being wrong. At least not for a gf. Maybe for a wife
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The s/o might still be providing benefits that you selfishly don't want to give up, even if you're more attracted to someone else. Like maybe the relationship is good and they take care of you, but the sex isn't that great anymore or whatever.

People don't want to be single either, so a lot will "test drive" a new person and see if it's a good fit first before they take the plunge.
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You marry a woman cause she'd be a good wife, take care of your kids, help you through the hard times.

But sometimes you just want a girl to fuck without having to deal with their shit.

Ultima Dragon posted...

The s/o might still be providing benefits that you selfishly don't want to give up, even if you're more attracted to someone else. Like maybe the relationship is good and they take care of you, but the sex isn't that great anymore or whatever.

p much this^

maybe the relationship is convenient but the other person wants to sleep around
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Cheats can be an interesting way to get extra hours out of a game you have already beaten.
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It's the rush. You have a house but want to stay at the hotel for a couple days.
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Parappa09 posted...

Ultima Dragon posted...

The s/o might still be providing benefits that you selfishly don't want to give up, even if you're more attracted to someone else. Like maybe the relationship is good and they take care of you, but the sex isn't that great anymore or whatever.

p much this^

maybe the relationship is convenient but the other person wants to sleep around

I mean, the sex can be amazing and people will still cheat without anything being wrong in the relationship at all
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I've done that myself tbh.

There was just an opportunity and I took it because I was selfish and horny... Idk, it seems kind of straight forward to me.

Not saying its good or anything though of course
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Who the hell is going to just give up in the finals?
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Because you care enough about the person youre with to not want to hurt them by leaving them but you also want to get some strange
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Money from one person

Fun and excitement and sex from another

Basically, people are selfish.
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some people like that feeling of doing something bad and not getting caught, a little evil deed that turns them on.
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Because i dont want to marry your mom.
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cause i just wanted the milk i aint gonna switch cows
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I've never cheated. But I did notice that when I was in a relationship that other girls started flirting with me more than when I was single, even had one texting me asking to come over one day when her roommates were gone. From my anecdotal evidence you just seem to have more opportunities and if you're not used to women initiating hard like that if you were always the one putting in the work and being shut down, it can be a hard temptation to turn down, especially if you and your SO get in a fight when the other girl comes calling and essentially throws herself at you.

That said, I do agree. If you are exclusive with the other, then you should abide by it. And if you cant, then end it.
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people cheat on each other cause the benefits outweigh the risks. as previously stated, people cheat because theyre selfish AF. the worst that can happen is the others find out about each other and its back to starting the process all over again.

they find someone who trust and give then give but all cheaters do is take take take. 1 person aint enough for this person. so they divide themselves to share whatever the cheater gets from the others. its the impulsive then later, compulsive response to fill the emptiness they have inside themselves.

why not end something your SO doesnt know? i believe its the guilty pleasure of juggling multiple people. you gotta be on your top game and best form nearly all the time to sustain this cheating lifestyle. its a game of manipulation and using people. in all fairness, the cheater has the advantage and benefits from the multiple relationships the cheater keeps. it does take its toll on all involved. the SO and other always want more time with the cheater. the temptation to keep suffering from the lies and shame is pretty tough to walk away from. i believe its self destructive. hiding intimacy like that is the worst you can do to someone who truly loves you. thats why the betrayal leaves sometime deep emotional scars. our heart tells us something is not right yet most of us look the other way until definite proof presents itself in the relationship. have you met someone who was cheated on? how fair was it that the person used the past experiences into your relationship with this person. false accusations can lead to ruined relationships and what said cannot be undone. the SO will not risk to jeopardize the relationship.

you dont know what you had until its gone. quite frankly, the trust lost is even more difficult to earn back. however, cheaters cant help themselves to keeping what benefits their lifestyle and will say anything + appeal to emotional anchors of the relationship. admiration afterall, is the farthest truth from reason. strong emotions can forgive and forget. strong emotions from the SO can even allow and accept the cheating behavior. so cheaters get their way a few times and maybe keep one of the two others. these cheaters move on and find another person to use. once a cheater, always a cheater.
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Its because they lack the integrity to leave.

Because puritan society values monogamy too much to realize that maybe polyamory would be a much better choice. Things in relationships burn out, like sex life, but you can still love and care for them. Bring someone else in to fill in what you're missing, and they can as well. Or share someone who can provide that missing piece to both.

Why the fuck can we only love one person?
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VandorLee posted...

Because i dont want to marry your mom.

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people are fucking fucked