Current Events > how do you deal with passive aggressive people in your work place? any stories?

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i've only encountered this a handful of times, but it's hard to believe someone can be a full grown adult that somehow have made it into a position requiring any sort of real responsibility and yet still be a passive aggressive juvenile. having very little filter or patience knowing i'd have to deal with it daily my reaction in those few instances was to call it out immediately even at risk of my own detriment. luckily it's not backfired on me yet, but i could see it backfiring in the future.
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I just one up them on passive aggression
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I deal with it and just do the job that I was asked to do. I work to make money so I can live a safe, comfortable life. I don't go to work to make friends or have fun.
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honestly you just have to learn how to not take it personally and just let it roll off you, some people are just like this and you have to learn to make peace
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I exercise my power as an HR manager and nitpick every fucking thing they do that even just slightly violates company policy or labor law compliance.
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SquantoZ posted...

I exercise my power as an HR manager and nitpick every fucking thing they do that even just slightly violates company policy or labor law compliance.

truly doing gods work.

Romulox28 posted...

honestly you just have to learn how to not take it personally and just let it roll off you, some people are just like this and you have to learn to make peace

i don't agree with this, people should be called out if they're actively attempting to ruin the atmosphere at work and drag people down. bouncing around it just allows the behavior to continue and makes the workplace more miserable for everyone. it's important to not take it personally sure, i don't think the act of being passive aggressive is so much a personal affront to me more so than it is a toxic behavior, bringing it into a professional setting is a mistake.
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This topic proves you're not exactly a saint yourself TC, stop preaching about "toxic behaviour" when you exhibit it yourself.
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Idk, I think most of the time there are just some people that are more abrasive than others and people can't handle that. "Calling people out" at work because you didn't like the way a coworker said something is pretty unprofessional and can create a lot more of a hostile work environment than the off hand comment itself.

If it's really that bad though, just go through the proper channels.
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If you confront them politely but aggressively, they'll probably go on stress leave because you've asserted that you're the alpha.

That's how it went with someone I know and her dumbass coworker.
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The-19th-Sparta posted...

This topic proves you're not exactly a saint yourself TC, stop preaching about "toxic behaviour" when you exhibit it yourself.

i'm hardly preaching, if you bothered to read my op i said my behavior could probably backfire in the wrong setting so i am definitely not giving this as advice. i'm just saying that personally, if you expect me to roll over to appease a mental juvenile that actively tries to drag everyone down with no more seniority than me you probably aren't worth my time or skill set. i was just lucky enough to have a supervisor that understood this and apparently shared the same disdain for these types.

Proclose posted...

If it's really that bad though, just go through the proper channels.

this is a great strategy when hr functions properly. unfortunately in a lot of companies this isn't the case.
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I confront them directly but calmly the moment it happens. Passive aggressive people always back down, otherwise they wouldn't be passive aggressive little bitches.
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kill them with kindness.
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I openly call them out in email. Any passive aggressive email towards me at work always gets called out because they're usually wrong.
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be passive aggressive back
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Used to work on a farm with a passive aggressive boss. He never held me accountable for anything I did wrong, but his tone of voice would gradually get nastier and nastier as time went on. With other employees, he reached a boiling point and lose his temper. Didn't want that to happen with me, so I quit.
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Kombucha posted...

Romulox28 posted...

honestly you just have to learn how to not take it personally and just let it roll off you, some people are just like this and you have to learn to make peace

i don't agree with this, people should be called out if they're actively attempting to ruin the atmosphere at work and drag people down. bouncing around it just allows the behavior to continue and makes the workplace more miserable for everyone. it's important to not take it personally sure, i don't think the act of being passive aggressive is so much a personal affront to me more so than it is a toxic behavior, bringing it into a professional setting is a mistake.

True but it's not your place to call them out. Their boss should handle it. If they don't then that's on them sadly. If the employee is that openly passive aggressive then everyone in the office already knows how they are. More often than not, you telling them they are being an asshole when they already know they are being one will only look bad on you.
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