Current Events > Yeah I think I'm officially done with her.

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gamepimp12 posted...

nobody even said that though. Which is why this is weird.

She's been saying that. Don't you remember her meltdown when you talked about other girls? That's proof.

She has a man she posts her dates with.....and you're here doing this.

She's 25 not 15. She's not into you

Lol, i bet none of this shit is real

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Master_Kazuya posted...

She's been saying that. Don't you remember her meltdown when you talked about other girls? That's proof.

? okay youre just trolling at this point.

projectpat72988 posted...

She has a man she posts her dates with.....and you're here doing this.

She's 25 not 15. She's not into you

she doesnt actually post that theyre dates, I just know theyre dates it literally be her outfit or her drink or the atmosphere or food.

and Yeap, Im very of aware about that, she very clearly likes him more, shes acting a lot like how shes would when we first started dating.

Its why she lied about everything, and was suggesting we try again in 6 months to a year instead of right now.

I dont follow any of this petty stuff, but Im confused how tc acts while at the same time hours ago creating another topic about dating a different girl

dhampire1 posted...

I dont follow any of this petty stuff, but Im confused how tc acts while at the same time hours ago creating another topic about dating a different girl

basically my ex lied about dating someone else.

and while Im a little jealous its like 80/20 split being mad she lied/me being jealous.

I on the other hand never lied about dating other people, Ive been very vague about it, but Ive never lied about it.

Arent you the guy that is always mean to her?

Why are you stalking her on social media

gamepimp12 posted...

? okay youre just trolling at this point.

Huh? No I'm not. The fact that she never posts that they are dates means she secretly is telling you that you still have a shot. She's the one, I just know she'll realize it some day

gamepimp12 posted...

basically my ex lied about dating someone else.

and while Im a little jealous its like 80/20 split being mad she lied/me being jealous.

I on the other hand never lied about dating other people, Ive been very vague about it, but Ive never lied about it.

So why are you allowed to date others and not her?
also would she be your ex if you werent official?
you arent married, or serious, so what gives you the right to know everything she does and whom she can and cant see?

gamepimp12 posted...

? okay youre just trolling at this point.

she doesnt actually post that theyre dates, I just know theyre dates it literally be her outfit or her drink or the atmosphere or food.

and Yeap, Im very of aware about that, she very clearly likes him more, shes acting a lot like how shes would when we first started dating.

Its why she lied about everything, and was suggesting we try again in 6 months to a year instead of right now.

Dude.

That doesn't sound creepy to you??

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I know like how clear does it gotta be someone is playing you....

I'd hope this is a troll thing tbh. Honestly I don't get that though.

I'd thought of posting about stuff on here about relationships but it loses appeal since apparently making up random bs is a thing? The hell is to gain from that?

Not sure how much it matters that you want us to know you are thinking about being done with her, when she is quite obviously done with you and has a boyfriend for awhile now (when you were never her boyfriend or in a relationship with her.)

Stop stalking her social media, stop treating this situation like she is your ex-fiance or soulmate, and stop stalking her on social media

She is not in love with you, what you had was never true love or anything like that. You were never in a relationship with this woman. This is not what love looks like dude. Its creepy.

CSCA33 posted...

Why are you stalking her on social media

not stalking when we follow each other and she post it all
I pay a lot of attention, but Ive always paid attention to her, I know what her apartment looks like as Ive been to it.

I also admittedly did research once it started to look like she lied to me.

dhampire1 posted...

So why are you allowed to date others and not her?
also would she be your ex if you werent official?
you arent married, or serious, so what gives you the right to know everything she does and whom she can and cant see?

I call her my ex to simplify things shes not actually my ex, even though weve talked multiple times about dating kids and marriage. Weve never officially been a couple.

Shes definitely allowed to date, my issue was she lied about it, before we started going back out I asked her was she dating anyone seriously and she said no.

projectpat72988 posted...

Dude.

That doesn't sound creepy to you??

I can see why it would look that way, its not some crazy scheme to find out. I just know how she post on social media, and shell be in our home town instead of where she stays now.

projectpat72988 posted...

I know like how clear does it gotta be someone is playing you....

I'd hope this is a troll thing tbh. Honestly I don't get that though.

I'd thought of posting about stuff on here about relationships but it loses appeal since apparently making up random bs is a thing? The hell is to gain from that?

So we got into BECAUSE of the thousands of dollars of gifts, I bought it because I missed her birthday, it was Valentines Day coming up, and I had asked her prior was she dating anyone seriously, and it was either a difference in opinion to what qualifies a serious or she flat out lied. And either way she lied in follow up questions that came in the following weeks.

CSCA33 posted...

Not sure how much it matters that you want us to know you are thinking about being done with her, when she is quite obviously done with you and has a boyfriend for awhile now (when you were never her boyfriend or in a relationship with her.)

Stop stalking her social media, stop treating this situation like she is your ex-fiance or soulmate, and stop stalking her on social media

She is not in love with you, what you had was never true love or anything like that. You were never in a relationship with this woman. This is not what love looks like dude. Its creepy.

just to clarify somethings.

This situation is less than a month old. (From resolution date)
Dudes not actually her boyfriend, least not yet.
We still follow each other on social media.
She was the last person to bring up a relationship between us

Ill be honest, you 100% come across as a controlling, manipulative stalker in every way.
You do something nice for her then act like she owes you when she owes you nothing.
You get super angry and mad when she does the exact same thing you do.
You act like you own her, when you dont.
in your head you justify these controlling/stalker/manipulative behaviors which is scary and make yourself out as the victim.

I'm not sure if youre a troll or not, but for her sake I hope you are.

Tc, you and your gf (let's be real, she's your on and off gf and not an ex) should go to couples counseling. I think it'll really iron things out so that your marriage is smooth.

dhampire1 posted...

Ill be honest, you 100% come across as a controlling, manipulative stalker in every way.
You do something nice for her then act like she owes you when she owes you nothing.
You get super angry and mad when she does the exact same thing you do.
You act like you own her, when you dont.
in your head you justify these controlling/stalker/manipulative behaviors which is scary and make yourself out as the victim.

I'm not sure if youre a troll or not, but for her sake I hope you are.

?!?!

I literally just said I was mad she lied to me about the situation, and not what she was doing

its a lot to hold me accountable for, I was definitely petty, held grudges and over complicated somethings that should of been simple, among other things.

its just weird to ask me a question I answer the question and say I was doing the exact opposite.

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Ive literally just been replying to post for the last 3 days. Its nothing new to say about the situation.

dhampire1 posted...

you 100% come across as a controlling, manipulative stalker in every way

No way. Just because TC gets jealous at her looking for love with other men, follows her posts to make sure if they're official yet or how her relationships are progressing, bumps his own topic, argues that their love is strong enough for marriage and kids with people online, and thinks she has to tell him the truth about her own dating life does not make him insecure, abusive, manipulative, entitled, obsessive, or controlling. Not at all.

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I hope you post about me in every topic you see me. I'll be hoping you do

I was supposed to block him I think I just ignored him. Let me fix that.

Also why do people think I was wrong to ask about her dating life, or be upset when it came out that she lied to me. when I asked because we where planning a date at the time ?

Also I never said I thought our love was strong enough for marriage and kids, Ive said weve talked about it. The only thing Im confident about when it comes to Nicole is our chemistry when were in the same room.

yall keep doing this thing where like I say one thing, and yall add an extra detail that I didnt necessarily say.

like if I said I had an apple someone in here would say why are you eatting an apple pie.

gamepimp12 posted...

was supposed to block him I think I just ignored him. Let me fix that.

So are you officially done with me, or "officially done with me"? I shouldn't even be able to see this topic if you were done, but you don't have the ability to move on, just like with Little Nicky.

gamepimp12 posted...

The only thing Im confident about when it comes to Nicole is our chemistry when were in the same room.

And it's controlling your life lol

Why would you spend thousands on a girl you're not in a relationship with? I mean damn. I've bought some lil shit off a wishlist for fun but....a few grand? Nah

How did she bring up a relationship with you last?? Because none of this really makes sense. Seems the only thing she's done for you is leave the door open to buy more shit.

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Are you two a tag team? It seems very clear they're being sarcastic.

https://youtu.be/qsPc4qEZBa8?si=hDttQdRQBjtGrI_X

projectpat72988 posted...

Why would you spend thousands on a girl you're not in a relationship with? I mean damn. I've bought some lil shit off a wishlist for fun but....a few grand? Nah

How did she bring up a relationship with you last?? Because none of this really makes sense. Seems the only thing she's done for you is leave the door open to buy more shit.

So, like right around the time we started to transition from friends to romantic, I got a promotion and started seeing the most money Ive ever seen in my life, and since then Ive doubled that amount.

I make almost enough to completely support a family of 4 on my pay check alone (which is what I considering basic financial success)

because of that I didnt mind spending money on her, she worked really hard and was always the extremely responsible type, and I wanted her to have the nice things she wanted.

I was willing to spend that money on her because she hardly ever asked for anything,I could afford too, and I trusted her because she was every honest and upfront about everything (she still is for the most part, she a terrible liar which is why I noticed immediately). She also was doing the heavy lifting in our relationship originally, driving the 2 hours to see me pretty frequently.

When we went on that most recent date,(after not speaking for almost a year) that she drove two hours to. I apologized for the mixed messages I had been giving her in the past and how I wasnt clear with the fact that I loved her but wanted her to get her life in order first, and how it caused a lot of confusion. And she apologized becausecas things where perceived to be getting more serious, she got scared and she got more distant, which I feel like was a result of me, not being clear in the first place.

after we clear the air about that we talked about her finally moving home and what that would look like and she brought up a conversation about us being willing to try again in more favorable conditions.

the situation doesnt make sense to most of yall cause yall are looking at it as she either likes me or she doesnt.

when her feelings for me have changed pretty frequently and her actions have as a result.

Shes always liked me to some degree, (sometimes a lot sometimes not so much) things originally where moving too fast for her and now its a lot of baggage.

So....You had the girl you want to marry approaching you and driving 2 hours to meet you. Wanting some form of a relationship. You came up with some weird reason not to be together and her needing to "get her life in order" even though you have enough money for her and apparently admired her character traits and could've provided some stability for her

But you didn't want that and now she proceeds to leave you behind and smash other dudes while you buy her expensive gifts? Only to then study her social media to tell if shes "dating". Dude, wtf. If you EVER had a chance it was right there and you decided to pass it up and talk about it here?

and when you said she hardly asked for anything. She shouldn't have ever asked you for anything if you were friends.

This isn't good.

projectpat72988 posted...

So....You had the girl you want to marry approaching you and driving 2 hours to meet you. Wanting some form of a relationship. You came up with some weird reason not to be together and her needing to "get her life in order" even though you have enough money for her and apparently admired her character traits and could've provided some stability for her

But you didn't want that and now she proceeds to leave you behind and smash other dudes while you buy her expensive gifts? Only to then study her social media to tell if shes "dating". Dude, wtf. If you EVER had a chance it was right there and you decided to pass it up and talk about it here?

and when you said she hardly asked for anything. She shouldn't have ever asked you for anything if you were friends.

This isn't good.

I feel like you completely missed that as she thought things where getting more serious she got more distant (they werent actually getting more serious, we were just having more long term relationship conversations like kids and marriages etc etc (that she typically started) but I wasnt pushing towards anything)

and when I said she hardly asked for anything I meant when we originally started going on dates, I made sure her gas tank was filled and her nails where done and that she always has flowers etc etc etc.

i agree that was when she liked me the most, and Ive never quite gotten back to that with her for an extended amount of time.

i didnt want to date her at the time, because she had just came out of a relationship, she was graduating college and had looming questions about med school and having to go to school out of state for it.

She had a lot of big decisions to make and I didnt want to influence them, I was extremely cautious of our age gap and the financial differences we had at the time..

i was basically stuck between a rock and a hard place

and again I only studied her social media after she lied to me (the lie was extremely bad, and she didnt really make it sound believable at all)

I hate having to block people in these topics because it looks like Im ducking accountability.

But I cant have people making up things in a situation its already a lot to harp on me for.

gamepimp12 posted...

i was basically stuck between a rock and a hard place

No, you weren't. If you are interested, you date. That's it. You don't talk about why you can't date currently while simultaneously talking about long term plans, marriage and kids. You weren't making her happy in the moment while also scaring her off.

You made something relatively simple (dating) into something overly complicated.

bsp77 posted...

No, you weren't. If you are interested, you date. That's it. You don't talk about why you can't date currently while simultaneously talking about long term plans, marriage and kids. You weren't making her happy in the moment while also scaring her off.

You made something relatively simple (dating) into something overly complicated.

Dude, imagine her driving two hours to be told, I want to keep my options open

she probably felt like she was being treated like a pump dumpster

two hours is a long drive to think about that

bsp77 posted...

No, you weren't. If you are interested, you date. That's it. You don't talk about why you can't date currently while simultaneously talking about long term plans, marriage and kids. You weren't making her happy in the moment while also scaring her off.

You made something relatively simple (dating) into something overly complicated.

CSCA33 posted...

Dude, imagine her driving two hours to be told, I want to keep my options open

she probably felt like she was being treated like a pump dumpster

two hours is a long drive to think about that

She didnt want a relationship and she was the one starting the relationship talk long term talk.

My only thing was I wasnt going to date nicole if she went to a out of state med school.

I think yall are looking at this as if I was leading the relationship and I drove us off a cliff and now Im crying about it.

A lot of the back fourth you guys are attaching just to me was stuff she did or things she dictated.

And this isnt to say shes at fault. I definitely needed to be more direct in the situation, and there where times I should of either ended this or pushed for something more and I didnt.

but the situation wasnt me telling her how our relationships was gonna go and she went with it left when shes got unhappy and now Im upset.

gamepimp12 posted...

She didnt want a relationship and she was the one starting the relationship talk long term talk.

My only thing was I wasnt going to date nicole if she went to a out of state med school.

I think yall are looking at this as if I was leading the relationship and I drove us off a cliff and now Im crying about it.

A lot of the back fourth you guys are attaching just to me was stuff she did or things she dictated.

In the past you made it seem as if you weren't committing to her because you weren't stable enough financially. Was that not truth? Were you just saying that to save face?

bsp77 posted...

In the past you made it seem as if you weren't committing to her because you weren't stable enough financially. Was that not truth? Were you just saying that to save face?

no it was the truth.

it was very relevant for me as to why I didnt want a relationships.

but it was secondary to her needing to figuring out the next steps in her life.

ideally the goal was for her to figure that out me get my money together and we go from there.

but neither of that happened the way we thought it was.

she got figuratively punched in the mouth her last year of school, and it really changed her trajectory. And I didnt progress that year the way I wanted to

why is this topic still going

if youre done with her stop posting about her for hundreds of posts

ssb_yunglink2 posted...

why is this topic still going

if youre done with her stop posting about her for hundreds of posts

We still have a lot of years ahead to discuss this

CSCA33 posted...

We still have a lot of years ahead to discuss this

honestly probably wont be another topic for awhile after this, probably at the worst/best in like 4 months when she moves.

but nothing matters until I can forgive her, if I can.

Right now Im just processing Every thing

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Lol