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is this the same dude who wanted all his gifts he gave her back?

Moeperry posted...

is this the same dude who wanted all his gifts he gave her back?

Not all the gifts.

It was two specific gifts I gave her that I wouldnt of given her if she was honest about the situation.

and was the person who offered to give it back originally but she changed her mind once I said I actually would like it back.

projectpat72988 posted...

Have some self respect and cut off all ties.

One thing I'll never be doing is making topics about a woman who is fucking other guys.

So I actually dont care about her fucking other guys because Im sleeping with other women, just women that dont actually matter and nothing I would consider serious.

Master_Kazuya posted...

Dude wtf? I asked for a pic too, why does he get it and not me also?

Also is your name Justin

he gets a picture because I actually trust him and no its not.

Revelation34 posted...

That sounds like a personal problem to me.

Let's be real here. Nobody here understands it either.

it is, inhindsight I definitely misjudged how mature she was that and/or shes recently been going through stuff that has made her reevaluate and regress so to speak.

I loved her, but because of the time she was in her life I didnt want to influence the decisions she made so I took a step back in that regard, to let her figure that out alone.

But because I told her that I loved her I ended up influencing her decision anyway and here we are now.

in hindsight I shouldnt of told her that I loved her.

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I dont get why youd think that honestly.

gamepimp12 posted...

Im sleeping with other women, just women that dont actually matter

daaaaaaym

I should be having some popcorn right now. I guess my leftover Pad Thai will have to do. Made it myself:

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/9770c186.jpg

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like Im not being funny or obvious. I genuinely dont get it maybe its cause Im more aware of her problems.

Like Im aware my issue is I tend to be very reactionary and it causes me to jump to conclusions and swing harshly back and fourth one way to the other. Especially here where Im typically giving my first thoughts, and not sitting on things like I do before I actually talk to her about them.

but thats not an issue inregards to dating specifically and Im generally aware of it when speaking to her.

but I dont think you can call her the more mature person in the situation when shes the one whos been lying unnecessarily.

Ive dated other women over the course of me and her relationship and I always managed it well enough that I never had to lie to her about it, and it never became a situation where I pit them against each other.

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okay were not having a serious convo.

got it

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you're not saying anything ?

Wait is this the same guy that thinks he was dating this girl but they never actually were together? And hes still posting about her?

BearlyWilling posted...

Wait is this the same guy that thinks he was dating this girl but they never actually were together? And hes still posting about her?

yessir

BearlyWilling posted...

Wait is this the same guy that thinks he was dating this girl but they never actually were together? And hes still posting about her?

I never said I thought we where together ?

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got it.

gamepimp12 posted...

I never said I thought we where together ?

Did you sleep together? Im talking about sex.

What kind of gift was it? Like a diamond engagement ring without a proposal attached?

CSCA33 posted...

Did you sleep together? Im talking about sex.

What kind of gift was it? Like a diamond engagement ring without a proposal attached?

Not recently but we have in the past.

but it was something she always wanted that cost about 1300.

Oof, thats a real chunk o money.

CSCA33 posted...

Oof, thats a real chunk o money.

which is why I wanted it back after she offered to give it back, and why I treated to sue her when she decided to change her mind after agreeing.

I have no problem spending that money on her, but when she lied about the situation and that lie influenced my decision about spending it on her yeah Im pissed off.

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Same. I wasn't even gonna respond to this topic at all, but I keep seeing it pop back up on the front page

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I honestly shouldnt have bought it in the first place, but I trusted her, among other things. She was immature, but she had always been a woman of fairly high character, so I didnt think it would be a situation of her lying about everything. based on convos we had her friends kinda convinced her otherwise.

I wasnt mad she wanted to keep the gifts, Im mad she decided to keep the gifts after she offered, cause for me it went hand in hand with her intentions to lie to me, did she lie to get the gift, or did she lie because she felt like it was the best way to manage everything she had going on.

NoxObscuras posted...

Same. I wasn't even gonna respond to this topic at all, but I keep seeing it pop back up on the front page

i actually took a lot of you guys advice about the relationship on generally, again these topics actually reflect my in the moments thoughts on the situation and not necessarily my resolved feelings or what actually ended up happening.

BSP harped on my about how Im making excuses to not want to be in a relationship, and I really took that to heart. I dont want a commitment because Im scared im missing out on something but I want a wife in the same sense. Which is something Im working on.

and a lot of people harped on me for how unnecessary confusing I made our relationships the first few time around, which I also took to heart being a lot more transparent about how Im feeling and my expectations about us. Which I have been with her.

The disconnect this time is centered around her lying about her boyfriend.

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oh if youre talking about that, I wouldnt considering that immature. It was definitely selfish and I wanted to have my cake and eat it too.

Especially in our conversation leading up to and after the fight I was extremely transparent to her about why I did that and what I wanted out of us.

gamepimp12 posted...

BSP harped on my about how Im making excuses to not want to be in a relationship, and I really took that to heart. I dont want a commitment because Im scared im missing out on something but I want a wife in the same sense. Which is something Im working on.

I didn't realize. Good to know.

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I wouldnt call it acceptable or appropriate behavior. Its real points to be made about me being selfish and controlling.

I wanted her to date around, but I didnt want her to fall in love with anyone else because then I risk losing her forever.

I just wouldnt call it immature, because I had been pretty honest about everything.

bsp77 posted...

I didn't realize. Good to know.

Yeah I can admit now I want a wife but I dont want a girlfriend and its extremely hard, but not impossible to get one without the other.

Im not financially as blessed as I want it be for a wife, and I dont want to give up my freedom and my inappropriate relationships with other women just for a girlfriend.

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maybe we have different opinions on immaturity.

because acknowledging those feelings where wrong/unfair and not acting on them is a sign of maturity. At least to me.

gamepimp12 posted...

Yeah I can admit now I want a wife but I dont want a girlfriend and its extremely hard, but not impossible to get one without the other.

Im not financially as blessed as I want it be for a wife, and I dont want to give up my freedom and my inappropriate relationships with other women just for a girlfriend.

A serious girlfriend is just a pre-marriage trial (assuming one wants to get married), so I am not sure why you are making a distinction. You make too many rules, which is severely impacting your life.

How are you going to handle marriage if you cant even maintain a relationship with a woman as a girlfriend? Honest question.

gamepimp12 posted...

Yeah I can admit now I want a wife but I dont want a girlfriend and its extremely hard, but not impossible to get one without the other.

Im not financially as blessed as I want it be for a wife, and I dont want to give up my freedom and my inappropriate relationships with other women just for a girlfriend.

So you want an arranged marriage then? That's the only way you'd be able to get married without her being your girlfriend first

bsp77 posted...

A serious girlfriend is just a pre-marriage trial (assuming one wants to get married), so I am not sure why you are making a distinction. You make too many rules, which is severely impacting your life.

maybe cause the build up to serious girlfriend is that she has to be just your girlfriend at some point and that the part Im struggling with.

CSCA33 posted...

How are you going to handle marriage if you cant even maintain a relationship with a woman as a girlfriend? Honest question.

maintaining a relationship isnt the hard part for me its being willing to make the sacrifices it would require to get into the relationship in the first place.

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I wouldnt say that, Ive definitely been immature before, especially me threatening to sue her.

I just think youre wrong for saying Im immature for thoughts Ive had that Ive acknowledged as wrong and didnt act on.

gamepimp12 posted...

maybe cause the build up to serious girlfriend is that she has to be just your girlfriend at some point and that the part Im struggling with.

Grow up and learn how relationships actually work

maintaining a relationship isnt the hard part for me its being willing to make the sacrifices it would require to get into the relationship in the first place.

What sacrifices? Just not screwing other people? That's easy

You could screw other people if in a poly relationship, but I don't think you want that for the eventual marriage.

You can't have it both ways. Once again, grow up.

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KanWan posted...

He wants to break up his relationship so he can marry her, whats so confusing about that?

CSCA33 posted...

How are you going to handle marriage if you cant even maintain a relationship with a woman as a girlfriend? Honest question.

I guess the distinction is I dont want to be in a committed relationship with someone I dont want to marry.

So Ideally who ever Im with Ive known for awhile, both as a friend and casual dating before we jump into a relationship.

which is what me and Nicole (code name) where originally.

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You are completely avoiding the question and missing the point.

And you have a clear aversion to commitment that needs to be addressed if you ever want to seriously get married.

Are you just not going to live together until marriage? These are recipes for disaster

You have to take that dive into a relationship to learn if you want to be married or not

gamepimp12 posted...

I guess the distinction is I dont want to be in a committed relationship with someone I dont want to marry.

So Ideally who ever Im with Ive known for awhile, both as a friend and casual dating before we jump into a relationship.

which is what me and Nicole (code name) where originally.

But as has already been said, being in a serious relationship is how you find out if they're someone you want to marry. There's a lot that you won't learn about that person until you get more serious. Trying to avoid that commitment is a recipe for disaster.

And it honestly sounds like you're afraid to commit, out of fear that someone else out there might make a better wife.