Current Events > Father arrested after confronting kid in classroom for bullying his daughter

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"He's between a rock and a hard place," said Ed Rosas from Mantua Township. "As a father, I can understand exactly what he's saying, what he's doing. But also, as a father of a child that's in the schools, to have a stranger come in to do what he did is also wrong."

I know that parents shouldn't do this but considering how poorly schools handle bullies I can't say I blame him.

terrorist threats?

Hitting the kids was a mistake. Parents like that can yell but most adults know if you threaten someone you do it quietly and with kindness.

So parents arent allowed to confront a bully to protect their kid or teach a lesson to a drink stealing bully by giving their kid a gross drink, which means direct and indirect resolution are off the table. Obviously these things were tried AFTER complaining to the school who did jack shit. So what the fuck are they supposed to do?

Bullies are classic narcissists. The moment you fight back, they claim they were the victim the whole time and its you who is more than likely getting in trouble.

terrorist threats?

Hitting the kids was a mistake. Parents like that can yell but most adults know if you threaten someone you do it quietly and with kindness.

So parents arent allowed to confront a bully to protect their kid or teach a lesson to a drink stealing bully by giving their kid a gross drink, which means direct and indirect resolution are off the table. Obviously these things were tried AFTER complaining to the school who did jack shit. So what the fuck are they supposed to do?

Spot on. I get the frustration, but that's the wrong way to go about it. Especially since he got physical with another student who tried to de-escalate.

Anyone else worried how easily he got into the classroom? Its been a while, but back when I was in highschool or lower, my parents had to wait at the entrance or in a waiting area for me to go see them. Well unless it was an event or something where parents were supposed to come in.

I mean, they were supposed to, but I'm guessing this guy didn't report to the front office to ask permission to harass a student. You can just go in one of the side doors and do whatever you want.

Yeah, you can't have people walking into the school threatening kids with violence.

The charges do seem excessive though. Should've just been escorted off the premises.

Trouble is that people like this father see themselves as some kind of action hero. All he has to do is threaten and (apparently) get physical with some kids, and his child will never be bullied again, thanks to his intimidating heroics and awesome tough guy parenting.

Reality is that the kids think he's an overbearing douchebag who likes to throw his weight around with minors. The school considers him a threat. The police arrest him as a criminal. The bully's father would probably like to have a word with him. And most unfortunate of all, he's probably made things worse for his daughter, who is now the child of that psycho dad who like to act tough and bully schoolkids.

Bullies are classic narcissists. The moment you fight back, they claim they were the victim the whole time and its you who is more than likely getting in trouble.

Or maybe, dad is fed up with the school's unwillingness to do anything. Maybe dad has brought up the issue before and nothing was done, as is always the case. If a teacher won't do anything about kids beating up other kids, and remember not everyone is capable of self defense, then other measures will hafta be taken. But you can't or won't put yourself in others shoes. We have imagination and empathy for a reason.

I'm talking about the results of his actions. Which don't help anyone. I can understand why someone would do that, but empathy does not require me to think his actions were anything other than badly judged.

Do you think the kids in the classroom who saw him threaten and get physical with minors are going to think 'well, that's understandable, he probably hasn't had a response from official channels', or 'why is this fucking psycho attacking schoolkids?'

Who gives a fuck? Someone needs to do something about those rotten children torturing their own.

The victims aren't even allowed to beat up their tormentors without getting in trouble.

I guess kids are supposed to handle their own problems.

The staff even told me once that if it kept happening, they were gonna have no choice but to suspend my son for a few days...

Kids also lie and exaggerate, and many parents think their little darling is perfect and infallible. You cannot condone parents "taking matters into their own hands." There are a lot of psycho parents out there.

So parents arent allowed to confront a bully to protect their kid or teach a lesson to a drink stealing bully by giving their kid a gross drink, which means direct and indirect resolution are off the table. Obviously these things were tried AFTER complaining to the school who did jack shit. So what the fuck are they supposed to do?

So parents arent allowed to confront a bully to protect their kid or teach a lesson to a drink stealing bully by giving their kid a gross drink, which means direct and indirect resolution are off the table. Obviously these things were tried AFTER complaining to the school who did jack shit. So what the fuck are they supposed to do?

Right. Let's allow the parents of bullied kids into school to assault minors.

Then maybe let their parents in to beat up the adult who assaulted their kids.

The kids are sure to learn a valuable lesson about treating people with kindness and respect, and not using violence to resolve differences.

Hey, that kid started it. I was just beating up my bully.

Maybe schools can use their goddamn brains and handle things on a case-by-case basis instead of their zero tolerance bullshit. Maybe they can severely punish bullying so it doesn't get to that point.

And people have a goddamn right to self-defense from bullies. If people don't give you kindness and respect, then you don't give them kindness and respect. The victims have zero responsibility to be the bigger person. Maybe don't treat a defenseless child like a worthless piece of shit if you want to avoid potential consequences of your actions.