Current Events > An ex girlfriend reached out today, i decided to respond for whatever reason.

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Can probably talk your way into a lay

Her rotation of guys got back to you on the clock.

Not giving advice without knowing what she said

If she didnt think you were good enough before, what changed now?

Time? How long, years? Desperation in effect?

She hasn't said anything outside asking why I surprised she reached out

How did she reach out though? Did she just say "hi" or was there something else?

I have reached out to exes before just see how they were doing, with no intentions whatsoever.

She first sent a friend request on Facebook then sent me a message.

She said hi, I said I was surprised she reached out and was surprised she messaged me.

Then she asked why I was surprised she reached out.

Okay, fair enough

I don't know, I would respond and engage in conversation, unless the breakup left you devastated. But I will chat with anyone, so maybe I am weird.

stop thinking about what she wants

what do you want?

if you want to be left alone just block her

This literally crossed my mind, not gonna lie

I ignored my ex when she kept trying to add me on Facebook.

She dumped me then a few weeks later she gets with an old mate, they have a kid together then the kid died, she moved onto another guy.

Then I found she moved back down to England.

I suspected after she dumped me it was because she'd secretly been with the other guy behind my back.

probably just misses you and wants to try being friends. Ive managed to remain friendly with some of my exes. It's nice...sometimes...

Even talking about her is a waste of time. Forget it.

I personally can't be friends with an ex especially if I've still got feelings for them.

Tried it once before and it just hurt more.

Shes just split up with someone and is messaging you because the idea of having someone she call fall back on is comforting to her even if she will never follow through with it.

This

See, I don't get this animosity toward exes

I personally can't be friends with an ex especially if I've still got feelings for them.

Tried it once before and it just hurt more.

Shes just split up with someone and is messaging you because the idea of having someone she call fall back on is comforting to her even if she will never follow through with it.

It's not even animosity, it's logic. It's too avoid future pain and suffering. Situations like this mostly end bad, especially seeing how TC still has some sort of intense feelings. While this girl who hit him up says she wants to talk to him but still doesn't have feelings for him

Basically she's telling him "can you be in my friendzone while I recover from this bad relationship I just got out because you're such a nice guy and I realize that now. I still don't have feelings for you though lol"

It's really insensitive on her part to think she can just pop up like that just because whatever relationship she was in broke bad, and she's not even offering anything emotionally or tangibly just wants to use him as emotional support

stop replying, just drop it.
that said, if i was in your situation with my ex gf, i'd keep replying and try giving it another chance, even tho it would be dumb.
so yeah, don't, just stop. but if you do keep talking to her, i get it. but still don't.

Don't reply about something you can't possibly know. It is possible, but you don't know that. (Certainly a strong possibility)

I just don't hold onto feelings that much. I have some "what could have been" thoughts, but that's it. Maybe I have a problem? I don't know