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No, I think you are a joke account

You mean like if you're attracted to them? You can think someone is attractive but still be friends. You guys might be fuckin though

If theyre attractive then I typically want to either fuck them as the goal or my eventual goal is to fuck them when the chance arises. Theres no real long term friendship there. Its just not possible for me.

Absolutely. There are a few women that I'm good friends with.

Yes.

And I wouldn't be worried about them catching feelings because that would be a first for me really.

Yeah

--Zero- posted...

If theyre attractive then I typically want to either fuck them as the goal or my eventual goal is to fuck them when the chance arises. Theres no real long term friendship there. Its just not possible for me.

Posts like this read like they're written by a person that's never fucked anyone

Hm... hard to say really. I haven't really had many friends in my life, man or woman.

I've had plenty of coworkers that were women that I got along with. The thing is, most of the ones I liked I did end up developing crushes on. There were only a few I liked where that didn't occur.

The crushes tend to pass quickly though. Then everything is fine afterwards. I'm pretty sure I'm just emotionally starved/damaged, so when a friendly person is nice to me I want to spend more time with them. Then that just naturally progressed into an attraction, but then it dies off not long after when I realize there's nothing actually there but then being polite.

I can- sometimes (but not always) there can be feelings/interest there initially but as I continue to talk and hang out with them as friends they solidify as a friend in my mind and those type of feelings fade and tend not to ever resurface.

Yes, I have a few women friends. My one friend I've known since high school married my best friend. Everyone thought we were brother and sister cause we were both pale freckled Irish kids.

codey posted...

Posts like this read like they're written by a person that's never fucked anyone

Or ever had a real friend

I don't have any friends that are women.

codey posted...

Posts like this read like they're written by a person that's never fucked anyone

How do you get that feeling? Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough thus no friendships with attractive women will ever work lol. Do you like sex or are you just mad Id probably try to bang all your hot girlfriends?

codey posted...

Posts like this read like they're written by a person that's never fucked anyone

This isn't exactly true, since plenty of people have one night standards

IfGodCouldDie posted...

Or ever had a real friend

I'd argue that real friends are very hard to come by. Even people who are friendly or "friends" at some point in your life can eventually move on, or ghost.

--Zero- posted...

How do you get that feeling? Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough thus no friendships with attractive women will ever work lol. Do you like sex or are you just mad Id probably try to bang all your hot girlfriends?

LMAO you're really doing your best to prove his point.

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Yeah, but judging from your post it looks like it's not uncommon for people to try to make your husband look bad. Which isn't uncommon in society I think if Person A finds person B attractive and person A has no relationship or is in a situation where they are looking for potential love, Then Person A might get too dependent on Person B and eventually fall for them

Murphiroth posted...

LMAO you're really doing your best to prove his point.

Not really? You could probably argue he's a playa and that he doesn't really value friendships but it's not uncommon for some1 to act interested in a persons life all to get laid.

Murphiroth posted...

LMAO you're really doing your best to prove his point.

That I like sex? Yeah totally proving it right lol.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Not really? You could probably argue he's a playa and that he doesn't really value friendships but it's not uncommon for some1 to act interested in a persons life all to get laid.

This. Idk why those two are so bitter. I dont value friendships that much. My goals when single are to get laid, work, and video game.

--Zero- posted...

How do you get that feeling? Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough thus no friendships with attractive women will ever work lol. Do you like sex or are you just mad Id probably try to bang all your hot girlfriends?

How did this exchange go from bad to worse jfc

"Bitter"

Nah I just think a grown ass human saying "Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough" is fuckin' hilarious and probably indicates a need for therapy cause that sounds like an addiction. Doubly hilarious that he edited his post to talk about how he'd try to bang people's girlfriends.

Strong "we got a badass over here" energy.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

I'd argue that real friends are very hard to come by. Even people who are friendly or "friends" at some point in your life can eventually move on, or ghost.

If that's been your experience then that's shitty.

Murphiroth posted...

LMAO you're really doing your best to prove his point.

If the guy had any reading comprehension he'd realize that is the exact opposite of what the guy was getting at lol

Murphiroth posted...

"Bitter"

Nah I just think a grown ass human saying "Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough" is fuckin' hilarious and probably indicates a need for therapy cause that sounds like an addiction. Doubly hilarious that he edited his post to talk about how he'd try to bang people's girlfriends.

Strong "we got a badass over here" energy.

Sorry I intimidated you? Ill leave the topic since my big dick energy is offending you.

i dont see why not. *shrugs*

Damn he's getting even sadder lmao

I don't get "the feels" for anyone period, so this question baffles me

Like...is it normal to not simply be content to hang out with people who you like to be around? Does it always devolve into some weird physical intimacy thing for normal folks?

Most of my girl friends are physically hot af, but not what I'd date in regards to them as people. If I think about a romantic relationship with them, I'm just not interested. Like if your dream is to have 5 kids and be a stay at home mom, you have sunk any mental boner I had for you into the ground. Just not my thing.

Murphiroth posted...

"Bitter"

Nah I just think a grown ass human saying "Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough" is fuckin' hilarious and probably indicates a need for therapy cause that sounds like an addiction. Doubly hilarious that he edited his post to talk about how he'd try to bang people's girlfriends.

Strong "we got a badass over here" energy.

But many people enjoy sex. And some aren't ready to commit. Why is it okay to shame preferences?

IfGodCouldDie posted...

If that's been your experience then that's shitty.

Thats just the way of the world. Some people you meet at certain points and things are great. But then some people may value other friendships and stop talking to you. Or might see you as someone not as important.

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How do you get that feeling? Ive fucked plenty and itll never be enough thus no friendships with attractive women will ever work lol. Do you like sex or are you just mad Id probably try to bang all your hot girlfriends?

Dude, this isn't a good look and you can't respond to me that way. Yes, I like sex and yes I have fucked plenty of women and plenty of times. And no, you have no chance at my fiance. None of this changes the fact that I still value women as human beings first and foremost.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

But many people enjoy sex. And some aren't ready to commit. Why is it okay to shame preferences?

Whose alt?

Sure. Have several of them. A few transitioned from relationships.

It's pretty simple, I like people we date, I'm up front with not wanting kids, after a year or so the dead end relationship hits a wall, we remain friends and talk about what we had in common.

bsp77 posted...

Dude, this isn't a good look and you can't respond to me that way. Yes, I like sex and yes I have fucked plenty of women and plenty of times. And no, you have no chance at my fiance. None of this changes the fact that I still value women as human beings first and foremost.

When did we have a previous conversation? Your fianc isnt your friend and Im not going to try and fuck someones girl lol. You can still value women and try to fuck them if you find them attractive. Its okay to do that. Respect womens bodys. Pretty simple to understand. No reason to feel personally offended because you can have hot girlfriends and I cant without waiting for my chance to bang.

Pretty sure I'm doing that right now.

It's fine if you're just looking to have fun and aren't interested in friends, but bragging about having so much sex and making jokes about fucking a stranger's girlfriend gives off high school boy energy.

Average age on this site is probably mid 30s.

--Zero- posted...

When did we have a previous conversation? Your fianc isnt your friend and Im not going to try and fuck someones girl lol. You can still value women and try to fuck them if you find them attractive. Its okay to do that. Respect womens bodys. Pretty simple to understand. No reason to feel personally offended because you can have hot girlfriends and I cant without waiting for my chance to bang.

I am not personally offended. And we didn't have a previous conversation; I was only saying that the way you responded to the other guy would not work with me. It seemed like you were just lashing out at him but you aren't doing yourself any favors. My only goal was to point out how you sound and that you should think about it.

It's silly to expect guys with little romantic experience/options to do so tbh.

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Yeah I can see his logic, but idk where he got that logic from since I never implied Im out to fuck women that are taken. Thats looking at the topic and adding more to it. Im mainly talking about having close relationships with the attractive ones. Im not going to bang someones girl nor am I going to be friends with them because theyre taken. Its not worth it to me.

Umbreon posted...

Anyone who thinks you can't is essentially saying...

That bisexual people can't have friends.

That attractive people can't have friends.

You can try to paint it in whatever coat of paint you want, it just doesn't make sense.

It's silly archaic nonsense that people try to pass as a rule.

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Yeah I can see his logic, but idk where he got that logic from since I never implied Im out to fuck women that are taken. Thats looking at the topic and adding more to it. Im mainly talking about having close relationships with the attractive ones. Im not going to bang someones girl nor am I going to be friends with them because theyre taken. Its not worth it to me.

Be careful with saying "girlfriend" then. That means something.

bsp77 posted...

I am not personally offended. And we didn't have a previous conversation; I was only saying that the way you responded to the other guy would not work with me. It seemed like you were just lashing out at him but you aren't doing yourself any favors. My only goal was to point out how you sound and that you should think about it.

The way I responded to the other guy was needed since he was trying to insult me for my preferences. Im not trying to look good here at all. I started off responding to the topic in question from the first post then in turn responded to the people being personally offended.

Inohira posted...

It's silly to expect guys with little romantic experience/options to do so tbh.

If you don't have the emotional maturity to be friends with the opposite sex, it's going to be even more difficult to enter a romantic relationship.

One night stands? Sure, you mostly just need to be attractive for that.

bsp77 posted...

Be careful with saying "girlfriend" then. That means something.

It means girls that are your friends. That was the context there lol. Its why I said girlfriends not girlfriend.

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Ive got a handful of guy friends and yeah I tend to treat them differently than woman since less emotions are involved in my friend circles and age group.

Rereading Zero's post, it's fine since he's talking about himself only. If he suggested that "Men can't be friends with attractive women" then yeah, that's a comment going in on.

But someone's personal goals in life are their own.