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Just curious where CE stands.

At my age, I likely won't have a choice unless I date someone significantly younger than me (and even that's not a guarantee that they won't have kids).

Solar_Crimson posted...

At my age, I likely won't have a choice unless I date someone significantly younger than me (and even that's not a guarantee that they won't have kids).

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

yea, probably.

if it's not a serious relationship, I'll likely not interact with them much, if at all, but if it does get serious, as long as they're not assholes, it would be nice having more friends/family (depending on how they see me).

why is she with them?

Nope. Not fucking with baby mama drama.

Yes. Im 33. It would depend on the situation with the dad though. Im not getting in-between something messy. Ideal would be the dad being in the kids life while being respectful of his baby mommas life decisions. I can't do the whole "I still spend time with my baby's dad but we're just friends" thing either. That's just flirting with creating a moment where you relight a spark. I think it's disrespectful to your new partner to keep close connections with exes. Call it what you will, I just don't wanna do the whole will she won't she go back thing.

Im hanging out with a 7 year old atm. So, it's nothing new. But if they're a huge asshole, that might push me away too

I have a kid, so maybe.

t5yvxc posted...

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

34, will be 35 in May.

depends on the kids

some are fine and some are assholes

I'm already married to a woman with kids. She says they are mine, but I don't ever remember giving birth.

IfGodCouldDie posted...

I'm already married to a woman with kids. She says they are mine, but I don't ever remember giving birth.

Maybe your butthole is just really loose.

Shakira has kids

Solar_Crimson posted...

34, will be 35 in May.

Only 35? Cheer up, you can definitely find a single and childless woman unless you're in a small town or something.

Men and woman nowadays have been waiting to have kids.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Maybe your butthole is just really loose.

They really do know how to be turds sometimes.

Have, would, will probably again

My luck, I'd end up with a woman like this:
https://youtu.be/yXAPJHu6ie4
Or
https://youtu.be/ebYYvJ4HwOk

I vote maybe only because I'm not a fan of binary choices.....but I lean hard on no thank you.

Sounds too stressful tbh.

Forgot I didn't post my position, a hard maybe.

Kids that are not your own complicate things. So it'd depend on the woman and the kids. It would also depend on her expectations of me with those kids that aren't mine.

She needs a real man and those kids need a father so yea

VampireCoyote posted...

depends on the kids

some are fine and some are assholes

This is exactly it. It's not an instant turn off, but if they are demons no thank you.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend it unless you're also already a parent

if there was a woman who wanted to date me i would date her

Already seen how this goes

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/264562-playstation-5/80384734

t5yvxc posted...

Forgot I didn't post my position, a hard maybe.

Kids that are not your own complicate things. So it'd depend on the woman and the kids. It would also depend on her expectations of me with those kids that aren't mine.

I feel like it's a paranoid man thing that makes guys think most women are gonna immediately try to push all the responsibilities of their child on you. A lit of women probably wouldn't even feel comfortable with you being alone with their child for the first few months. My sister doesn't even want new men to meet her kids until she knows it's serious. Because it's bad for the children to introduce them to people who might immediately leave anyway

Lost_All_Senses posted...

I feel like it's a paranoid man thing that makes guys think most women are gonna immediately try to push all the responsibilities of their child on you. A lit of women probably wouldn't even feel comfortable with you being alone with their child for the first few months. My sister doesn't even want new men to meet her kids until she knows it's serious. Because it's bad for the children to introduce them to people who might immediately leave anyway

It's more than just that really.

If I just met you, or we are just dating, don't ask me to be responsible for providing for your children. You can take your time to introduce me, but when you decide it doesn't all of a sudden mean I'm their daddy who should be providing.

Now if we get serious like marriage, then OK, maybe.

Then there's the issue of actually dealing with the children themselves. If the child acts up, can I send them to their rooms, can I take their toy away? Like what's my role in this scenario if we get serious? Am I expected to provide like a father, but cant parent like one? Because each person is VERY different on the expectations, and you shouldn't assume those expectations are reasonable.

There's so many variables really that it's not a one size fits all. But to speak to my stance, I just wouldn't want to deal with the potential drama between her and what she expects with her children, her baby daddy drama, and finances surrounding all 3.

It would really take some hard convincing for me to look past all that potential headache and stress I don't feel like getting into.

NatsuSama posted...

It's more than just that really.

If I just met you, or we are just dating, don't ask me to be responsible for providing for your children. You can take your time to introduce me, but when you decide it doesn't all of a sudden mean I'm their daddy who should be providing.

Now if we get serious like marriage, then OK, maybe.

Then there's the issue of actually dealing with the children themselves. If the child acts up, can I send them to their rooms, can I take their toy away? Like what's my role in this scenario if we get serious? Am I expected to provide like a father, but cant parent like one? Because each person is VERY different on the expectations, and you shouldn't assume those expectations are reasonable.

There's so many variables really that it's not a one size fits all. But to speak to my stance, I just wouldn't want to deal with the potential drama between her and what she expects with her children, her baby daddy drama, and finances surrounding all 3.

It would really take some hard convincing for me to look past all that potential headache and stress I don't feel like getting into.

Those women really sound like theyre missing out

MICHALECOLE posted...

Those women really sound like theyre missing out

Do you think the woman were in the right in the videos I posted?

asdf8562 posted...

Do you think the woman were in the right in the videos I posted?

No, but you can post trash of any kind of person, thats not how most people are

I'd date a hot girl who had a kid, especially if she was in her 20s. I wouldn't date an overweight single mother in her 30s.

MICHALECOLE posted...

No, but you can post trash of any kind of person, thats not how most people are

We are going to have to agree to disagree there. I think it's about 50/50 on that.

It's not about just posting trash as there's a lot of people stuck in their old ways that just aren't posted at all. Fuck, we still have people who push "gender roles" that a lot of people don't think is trash behavior. Just the discussion itself is controversial.

Sorry, we are going to have to agree to disagree.

asdf8562 posted...

Do you think the woman were in the right in the videos I posted?

This topic isn't about your video where you purposely cherry picked the worst example of a woman with kids. Let's cherry pick single men and look at them all as bronies who never leave their house and want a mom as a mate more than a gf. Just so the playing field is level

Only in the specific situation where I wouldn't have to share responsibility for them.

I have kids of my own so it's likely that I'll end up dating women who have them as well.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

This topic isn't about your video where you purposely cherry picked the worst example of a woman with kids. Let's cherry pick single men and look at them all as bronies who never leave their house and want a mom as a mate more than a gf. Just so the playing field is level

Mmmmm, actually the topic is about that cherry woman, along with the woman not like that cherry picked woman. Not saying all woman are like that, but there's definitely more like that than you might realize to varying degrees. Woman that think men should adhere to a traditional role of taking care of her (and by default her children). Now again please take note this post isnt saying all single mothers are like this, just saying we shouldn't act like those scenarios are as rare as some make it out to be.

Anyway I made the topic to poll who would be interested to date a woman with kids which can come in a variety of types of single mothers. Some good, some bad, whatever your reasons, I'm curious where CE stands.

t5yvxc posted...

Mmmmm, actually the topic is about that cherry woman, along with the woman not like that cherry picked woman. Not saying all woman are like that, but there's definitely more like that than you might realize to varying degrees. Woman that think men should adhere to a traditional role of taking care of her (and by default her children). Now again please take note this post isnt saying all single mothers are like this, just saying we shouldn't act like those scenarios are as rare as some make it out to be.

Anyway I made the topic to poll who would be interested to date a woman with kids which can come in a variety of types of single mothers. Some good, some bad, whatever your reasons, I'm curious where CE stands.

You sound well adjusted

MICHALECOLE posted...

You sound well adjusted

So do you?

95% chance 'no,' but it does depend on circumstances and context, etc. I don't want kids, definitely not somebody else's kids, but if it's someone I happened to really know and/or have cared about for a long time, maybe it's on the table.

Strictly hypothetical, though, cause my gf doesn't want kids and neither do I.

Hell no. I had a strict no baby momma rule when I was single. Their priorities are way different than mine, planning things is a pain, and you have to deal with the thought that you could be this kids dad one day or temporarily leading to mental duress I dont want to be apart of. I got lucky at 28 I was able to meet my now wife at 27 who doesnt even want kids.

Gobstoppers12 posted...

95% chance 'no,' but it does depend on circumstances and context, etc. I don't want kids, definitely not somebody else's kids

This.

I recently actually tried to date a woman who has 3 kids, but it's impossible to plan a date with her and the ex is still overbearing and crazy. Hell to the naw, there's lots of single women out there with no kids.

id rather date a woman with kids than tattoos. With kids you can just tell them to go to their room while mommy and daddy have some alone time. With tattoos that is forever.

Probably all I could date at this point... My dating pool is already a puddle thats constantly shrinking...

I dont want to raise small children. Someone my age could potentially have late teen/early twenties kids which isn't really a problem though. They're essentially like a roommate at that point.

In general, sure. If she understands and respects healthy boundaries... and knows that I'm not trying to be a placeholder until the father of her child "acts right."

t5yvxc posted...

Just curious where CE stands.

I am currently dating two women with older kids, so. Yes. I havent met either kid and probably wont anytime soon. I have another fwb situation who has a kid and Ive been around that kid plenty, but theyre like 1.

If you're over 30 and single, you better get used to the idea because the amount of childless women jumps dramatically at that age. Since most of CE is over 30, anyone saying no is severly limiting themselves tbh. Unless you only date 20 year olds. Which is weird.

Only if her kids were already adults

So my answer is hypocritically that I would not. I know I have kids myself and I have dated women with kids, but it became a major problem. The biggest issue is that I have 4, so trying to plan a schedule where we both have our set of kids at the same time is a nightmare, otherwise one or the other of us is always having kids and no alone time. I won't do it again.

I also don't get why people say it's impossible to find women who do not have kids after a certain age. That is simply not true. I know so many women who have no kids and no interest in ever having kids, including my fiance.