Current Events > Someone takes 11 days to respond to your text.

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NoxObscuras posted...

I hate to admit it, but yeah. Besides my parents, if someone calls me, I'll decline the call and then text them to see what they wanted lol

Exactly, or I assume it is an actual emergency. And I am even over 40.

TheGoldenEel posted...

11 days isnt a theyre still waiting on responding

its a they read your text when they werent available to respond, and then forgot

I wouldnt be too upset about it tbh. If it was something you needed to get an answer on you shouldve followed up a day or two later

Or they've set their text app to not display notifications. So the only time they see any text at all is when they voluntarily open the app.

I had to do that for 2 years, because once my mother discovered texting, she'd text all the time. But she'd only text one word per text. So I'd end up with thousands of texts from her in just one day.

And while you can block a number, you can't (in good conscience), block your own mother's number.

It took her 2 years to learn the ins and outs of texting.

If I don't get a response in 2 minutes, I'm done with them

KainWind posted...

Sometimes people are in the shower or slow typers

If they can't answer the phone, they won't. Which means you know that they can't respond at the moment. Whereas a text is like an email, the person may or may not see it... and you'll never know.

This is some psychopath behavior

Is it? Why do you think so?

bsp77 posted...

Most people under 40 hate phone calls

And, by this thread, they also seem to hate texts, too. So pick your poison.

Tom_Joad posted...

And, by this thread, they also seem to hate texts, too. So pick your poison.

Gamefaqs is a poor proxy for society. I have tons of friends, co-workers and family. All know how to text properly and respond within less than a day. Most within a couple hours.

Gamefaqs is filled with people who have social issues.

rexcrk posted...

Sh-shes probably just busy. Yeah! W-when shes free shell r-remember

-me

I really gotta stop getting my heart set on these girls who literally couldnt give less of a shit about me LMAO

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Tom_Joad posted...

Or they've set their text app to not display notifications. So the only time they see any text at all is when they voluntarily open the app.

I had to do that for 2 years, because once my mother discovered texting, she'd text all the time. But she'd only text one word per text. So I'd end up with thousands of texts from her in just one day.

And while you can block a number, you can't (in good conscience), block your own mother's number.

It took her 2 years to learn the ins and outs of texting.

Thats cool. But dont respond with Damn, I was busy! when you finally do.

Tom_Joad posted...

I had to do that for 2 years, because once my mother discovered texting, she'd text all the time. But she'd only text one word per text. So I'd end up with thousands of texts from her in just one day.

Oh my God that sounds extremely annoying. I thought it was bad when my ex used to treat texts like an instant messenger. But at least with her, she was sending a few words per message. How did you keep your sanity getting 1 word messages for 2 years?

bsp77 posted...

Gamefaqs is a poor proxy for society. I have tons of friends, co-workers and family. All know how to text properly and respond within less than a day. Most within a couple hours.

Gamefaqs is filled with people who have social issues.

This lol. Not a single one of my friends, family, or coworkers take more than a day to respond. Also, I HATE phone calls. >_> I've definitely ignored a friend's call before and then text to ask what he wanted lol. Usually I'd say I was busy doing something but he knows I just hate it lol. I don't do it every time though and haven't done it lately.

Frienda typically respond immediately or within and hour unless they got something going on.

11 days = not your friend don't care about you

I think I don't respond to my dumb ol sister within the hour. Though she picks the most bizarre time to text, and I just happen to not have my phone on me. She blocked me on fb ages ago cuz we had a fight, and she forgot about it, so yeah we only text, but I don't use text in general. I don't think she minds though. We mellowed out ages ago

Meanwhile any other person? I try to respond as soon as I see it. Like how fucking long does it take to give a response, like 3-5 seconds? I don't understand how somebody is ever too busy for something that takes seconds

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Like, you were busy for 264 hours?

Yes.

bsp77 posted...

.as you post on Gamefaqs

Posting in a general 'open forum' of sorts is so far removed from texting or DMing.

It doesn't share the same mental space at all. It's not taxing for me in the same way.

Can kind of use it as a distraction, but the moment I go to reply to a DM or text my brain just starts to recoil from the very thought of doing that.

Im a little annoyed but Im also 100% guilty of straight up typing a reply to someone and then forgetting to hit send and then realizing it two days later and being like well its too late to reply now! and then that snowballs until its been like two weeks and I finally hit them with the ayyyy sorry Im so bad at responding lol even though Ive looked at their text every day, even had things that I NEEDED to text them about, but felt too awkward to reply after so long

MrToothHasYou posted...

Im a little annoyed but Im also 100% guilty of straight up typing a reply to someone and then forgetting to hit send and then realizing it two days later and being like well its too late to reply now! and then that snowballs until its been like two weeks and I finally hit them with the ayyyy sorry Im so bad at responding lol even though Ive looked at their text every day, even had things that I NEEDED to text them about, but felt too awkward to reply after so long

Need to get over that. You take long to reply you not friends.

FaultyCircuitry posted...

Posting in a general 'open forum' of sorts is so far removed from texting or DMing.

It doesn't share the same mental space at all. It's not taxing for me in the same way.

Can kind of use it as a distraction, but the moment I go to reply to a DM or text my brain just starts to recoil from the very thought of doing that.

Well, how do you work through that? Because that sounds crippling.

WingsOfGood posted...

Need to get over that. You take long to reply you not friends.

Tbh, this.

I have began questioning friendships before because people couldnt be assed to respond to text messages within a week.

When I mention that how long they take bothers me, people often time act like Im being entitled or that they were too depressed.

The same folk that would type up novels for a boy/girl they like. Its just weird too me. Personally.

Ive never been a just be you advocate. Sometimes you should change your worries or quirks for the sake of others.

bsp77 posted...

Well, how do you work through that? Because that sounds crippling.

Most of the time I sit on it and just feel guilty about it. Occasionally I feel bad enough about it to just do it.

Sometimes I just have to rip the band-aid off. Don't give myself time to dwell on it. Usually this will be while I'm already active doing things since my body is already in go mode.

FaultyCircuitry posted...

Most of the time I sit on it and just feel guilty about it. Occasionally I feel bad enough about it to just do it.

Sometimes I just have to rip the band-aid off. Don't give myself time to dwell on it. Usually this will be while I'm already active doing things since my body is already in go mode.

This probably doesn't help, but just keep in mind that they want to hear from you

Responding to a text is trouble, it just leads to more texting

Can be very hard to break the cycle

cuttin_in_farm posted...

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Pretty much lmao. Its so bad.

But at least Im not completely self-unaware

Id just reevaluate their usefulness lol. Just not go to them for anything important and only hit them up for hobby stuff that I don't mind falling through

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Often times if I dont want an actual conversation, I just text a question for an update.

And honestly, it wouldnt bother me much if folks didnt address the lack of responding with My bad! I was busy!.

Like, you were busy for 264 hours?

They were probably busy when they received your text, saw it, couldn't reply, then forgot about it. It happens, homie.

Never happenstance me they respond in a day or two or don't till I message them again.

Me though I'll got 5 or 6 days sometimes not responding. It's mostly I'm not in the mood to talk then eventually forgetting

The saddest part is one counting the days. Block em, and move on. There are billions of other people in the world to make friends with. Or get a Tamagotchi.

DUKLegend posted...

They were probably busy when they received your text, saw it, couldn't reply, then forgot about it. It happens, homie.

Happens to everyone occasionally. It is when it is a persistent thing that I have an issue

Id be confused why they even would bother to text back almost two weeks later

It takes me ages to reply sometimes (days or even weeks) because I'm insanely introverted, somewhat reclusive and i usually really just don't have that much to say.

Ser_Jaker posted...

It takes me ages to reply sometimes (days or even weeks) because I'm insanely introverted, somewhat reclusive and i usually really just don't have that much to say.

Yeah not knowing what to say is a big one for me too

I pretty much cuss out people and block them if they take more than a day to text back. The one thing that annoys me the most is people whose phone etiquette is shit.

If I'm trying to make plans with you and you don't respond for multiple days, I'm going to be annoyed. I can understand if you're busy, but at least respond within the next day or so.

kage_53 posted...

I pretty much cuss out people and block them if they take more than a day to text back. The one thing that annoys me the most is people whose phone etiquette is shit.

That's being a dick. Sometimes I'm so caught up with my work sleep schedule I don't even check my phone.

You are allowed to be needy and want a text back asap, but some of you are very entitled.

Sufferedphoneix posted...

Yeah not knowing what to say is a big one for me too

Honestly, sometimes a single lol suffices imo. Sometimes they're just waiting for a reaction, not something to say

Text them back inn11 days

legendarylemur posted...

Honestly, sometimes a single lol suffices imo. Sometimes they're just waiting for a reaction, not something to say

I can do that. Not all messages that will suffice for.

Mostly though it's just I really don't wanna talk at that moment and anyone that knows me knows I can't text at work so saying I'm busy at home means I could still respond my responses will just be delayed.

This topic reminded me to text my friend reaching out to me for the first time in years. I said "sorry for the late response" is that so hard? It had been a week lmao.

frozenstar posted...

This topic reminded me to text my friend reaching out to me for the first time in years. I said "sorry for the late response" is that so hard? It had been a week lmao.

Good job! (Not sarcasm or condescension)

frozenstar posted...

This topic reminded me to text my friend reaching out to me for the first time in years. I said "sorry for the late response" is that so hard? It had been a week lmao.

Tbh, this is a great way to come back.

Like, I think the excuse of I was busy is what really bothers me. Just apologize for the delayed response, and leave it at that. I think Id be okay with that.

There are some explanations outside laziness.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/7/5/7/AABUaRAAEEMd.jpg
Executive Dysfunction appears in ADHD and over neurodivergent individuals where you'll be aware of the thing you need to do and just shut down on doing it.

It's not unusual for people to experience it with social engagements as well, and they tend to view it as laziness in themselves.

Not necessarily saying that's what happened here, just showing that it isn't always "fuck this person."

DrizztLink posted...

Executive Dysfunction appears in ADHD and over neurodivergent individuals where you'll be aware of the thing you need to do and just shut down on doing it.

oh shit that happens to me sometimes

kage_53 posted...

I pretty much cuss out people and block them if they take more than a day to text back. The one thing that annoys me the most is people whose phone etiquette is shit.

if it's important, give them a phone call

At this specific point in my life I actually prefer having phone calls instead of text. I can say a lot in a much shorter span of time. I work two jobs right now and usually I'm tired enough I don't feel like talking to anyone at all, but when I do feel like talking I'd rather get it all out at once. I'm sure once I'm back to one job i can handle text better but I'm liable to not reply to something simply because I don't feel like it which is selfish both ways on my end but whatever.

I put no value on texts, if it's something I need addressed quickly I call. So.. Doesn't bother me honestly. Texting is a terribly inefficient way of communication all things considered.