Current Events > How are you normally supposed to react to a SO cheating on you?

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You cheat on them back

Break up and lick your wounds, with the comfort of good friends and family around you.

I'm sorry this happened.

breakup with them

Imagine being that immature to react negatively over something like this. Why shouldn't they sleep with other people if they wanted to? And the same applies to you, why should you stop yourself from having a good time just because you're in a relationship?

This is why the concept of relationships is so bizarre to me, why would you ever limit your options to appease someone's feelings that isn't your very own? Fucking nonsense

Fuck their high school bully.

I've never had an SO but I imagine it would be me finding out and saying "Yeah, we're done" and that's it.

cardoor123 posted...

Imagine being that immature to react negatively over something like this. Why shouldn't they sleep with other people if they wanted to? And the same applies to you, why should you stop yourself from having a good time just because you're in a relationship?

This is why the concept of relationships is so bizarre to me, why would you ever limit your options to appease someone's feelings that isn't your very own? Fucking nonsense

This guy gets LAID.

cardoor123 posted...

Imagine being that immature to react negatively over something like this. Why shouldn't they sleep with other people if they wanted to? And the same applies to you, why should you stop yourself from having a good time just because you're in a relationship?

This is why the concept of relationships is so bizarre to me, why would you ever limit your options to appease someone's feelings that isn't your very own? Fucking nonsense

You summarized your own post lol

Ghost them.

Realize sex with you wasn't good enough for them and move on.

have sex with the guy

Fake your own death and move to a new country.

Take in all the nuances that built up over time and understand why it happened. Then either leave or stay based on how much the person willchange the things that led them up to cheating. Like, if you drink and you cheated. The first thing to show you were really regretful would be to stop drinking. If you're willing to make a dramatic life change to make sure you're not in that vulnerable position again, I might be able to work with the person to get past it.

Never trust them again, break up and cut your losses.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Take in all the nuances that built up over time and understand why it happened. Then either leave or stay based on how much the person willchange the things that led them up to cheating. Like, if you drink and you cheated. The first thing to show you were really regretful would be to stop drinking. If you're willing to make a dramatic life change to make sure you're not in that vulnerable position again, I might be able to work with the person to get past it.

Nah man. The only answer is to leave them. The whole entire 'contract' of being monogamous is that you're committing to fuck that person exclusively because you believe all of your deepest emotions, including sexuality, belong to each other. Otherwise you'd be polyamarous, friends, or fuck buddies. I'm sure forgiving cheating works in some relationships, but those definitely feel like the very minor exceptions, and you're better off introspecting on if this is that 5% chance or if you're just desperate and not confident in yourself.

cardoor123 posted...

Imagine being that immature to react negatively over something like this. Why shouldn't they sleep with other people if they wanted to? And the same applies to you, why should you stop yourself from having a good time just because you're in a relationship?

This is why the concept of relationships is so bizarre to me, why would you ever limit your options to appease someone's feelings that isn't your very own? Fucking nonsense

Imagine thinking it's immature to react poorly to a betrayal by someone who is supposed to be better than your best friend.

Good luck not dying alone.

The hell is an SO?

alt4445 posted...

Nah man. The only answer is to leave them. The whole entire 'contract' of being monogamous is that you're committing to fuck that person exclusively because you believe all of your deepest emotions, including sexuality, belong to each other. Otherwise you'd be polyamarous, friends, or fuck buddies. I'm sure forgiving cheating works in some relationships, but those definitely feel like the very minor exceptions, and you're better off introspecting on if this is that 5% chance or if you're just desperate and not confident in yourself.

I mean, the whole "understanding" part of my post was figuring out if it was the "5%" chance it was something you can work past. I think the problem with these topics is no one actually applies the part where you're suppose to be already emotionally connected to this person in this scenario. Of course when the only thing you know about the woman and apply to her is "she cheated on you" you're gonna be able to throw her away like an old dishrag.

I like to put myself into the scenario where I'm as connected to the person as I am my real family. And if that's the case, I would try to understand everything about the situation and go from there. People love redemption stories until they're one of the victims of the person trying to redeem themselves. I mean, there's a large chance it doesn't work out. But Im just giving the alternative perspective with optimism for people's ability to better themselves

Dump them.

You're supposed to crank it right?

cardoor123 posted...

Imagine being that immature to react negatively over something like this. Why shouldn't they sleep with other people if they wanted to? And the same applies to you, why should you stop yourself from having a good time just because you're in a relationship?

This is why the concept of relationships is so bizarre to me, why would you ever limit your options to appease someone's feelings that isn't your very own? Fucking nonsense

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I mean, the whole "understanding" part of my post was figuring out if it was the "5%" chance it was something you can work past. I think the problem with these topics is no one actually applies the part where you're suppose to be already emotionally connected to this person in this scenario. Of course when the only thing you know about the woman and apply to her is "she cheated on you" you're gonna be able to throw her away like an old dishrag.

I like to put myself into the scenario where I'm as connected to the person as I am my real family. And if that's the case, I would try to understand everything about the situation and go from there. People love redemption stories until they're one of the victims of the person trying to redeem themselves. I mean, there's a large chance it doesn't work out. But Im just giving the alternative perspective with optimism for people's ability to better themselves

No. There are some things you actually shouldn't forgive people for. I wouldn't forgive any of my friends for, for example, stealing me of a lot of money. If the friendship is strong enough, I may still be acquaintances or semi-friendly or something, but I could never actually trust them again, and trust is something I need in a friendship. If I were to steal from a friend, the fact that I'd even do that means internally they're not even a friend to me anymore since it no longer fits the definition. If it helps, think of it this way, some actions are unforgivable even if the person themselves are. I've broken ties with people and this is just how it is. My gut no longer wants them in my life.

have a cigarette, dump them, and meet with your best friends at the pub - in that order, on the same day

Dump and shame them to their friends, family and co workers.

alt4445 posted...

No. There are some things you actually shouldn't forgive people for. I wouldn't forgive any of my friends for, for example, stealing me of a lot of money. If the friendship is strong enough, I may still be acquaintances or semi-friendly or something, but I could never actually trust them again, and trust is something I need in a friendship. If I were to steal from a friend, the fact that I'd even do that means internally they're not even a friend to me anymore since it no longer fits the definition. If it helps, think of it this way, some actions are unforgivable even if the person themselves are. I've broken ties with people and this is just how it is. My gut no longer wants them in my life.

It's wild you think you should dictate what others forgive or not >_>. I have no problem with you being less forgiving and wouldn't judge you for it. I just believe in personal growth and I believe I have a keen eye I can trust on who's faking it or not. I'm doing alright. I do keep people at a distance that show they're not as respectful, but I also give them room to earn back good graces. I'm not gonna capture them at their worst and try to trap them in that persona. We all learn to act different as we age. Some learn on a positive curve. Im not gonna punish them for something they did if they've showed humility, regret and forward progress. You do you tho

Cocytus posted...

The hell is an SO?

I was wondering the same thing, then it dawned on me.

"Significant other".

Break up. Minimal talking to resolve any logistical issues (like moving out or returning stuff). The block their number and never ever see or talk to them again.

They don't get a chance to tell their side of the story, rationalize, or even apologize to me. They never see me again.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

It's wild you think you should dictate what others forgive or not >_>. I have no problem with you being less forgiving and wouldn't judge you for it. I just believe in personal growth and I believe I have a keen eye I can trust on who's faking it or not. I'm doing alright. I do keep people at a distance that show they're not as respectful, but I also give them room to earn back good graces. I'm not gonna capture them at their worst and try to trap them in that persona. We all learn to act different as we age. Some learn on a positive curve. Im not gonna punish them for something they did if they've showed humility, regret and forward progress. You do you tho

What am I even reading here?

MutantJohn posted...

What am I even reading here?

What are you even adding here?

My friend angry-fucked his ex after she cheated on him and then he finished in her hair that he had just paid like $200 for her to get done

idk if Id suggest doing the same, was a bit extreme imo

Be a man. Apologise to your queen for whatever you did or failed to do that forced her to cheat.

Just break up and try to move on with your life as best you can. Sometimes thats easier said than done but its the really the only thing that helps.

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Which is my most potent argument here. Why care if I go about it with a more embracing attitude trying to dive into the nuances? Dude comes with "What you should do", which is what caught me sideways. This isn't a "should" conversation. If someone comes to me saying their gf cheated on them, Imnot gonna try to convince them to reconsider leaving them. Everyone got their own things they want to handle in their way. There's no correct way. Especially to a hypothetical that has no context. We're all adding our own context in our heads

Murderous rampage time

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Fair. I also don't want it to come across that that's the only reason I think people are less forgiving in this scenario.