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YoungMan
09/10/21 9:56:32 PM
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https://www.al.com/life/2021/09/dear-abby-dad-embarrasses-teen-daughter-with-advice-on-how-to-get-a-good-nights-sleep.html

DEAR ABBY: My 16-year-old daughter, Lily, came home from her fathers very upset. She has trouble sleeping, and I have been taking her to the doctor for tests. Her father told her not to tell anyone, handed her a vibrator and told her that an orgasm will help her sleep. Lily was shocked and embarrassed that he would suggest such a thing and asked me if she could throw it away.
She no longer wants to go to his house but wants me to be the one to tell him. Im furious that he would use such poor judgment with his 16-year-old daughter. He feels he has an open relationship with her and that I am a prude. I feel what he did was extremely inappropriate, but Im not sure how to handle it. -- OVERSTEPPED BOUNDARIES

DEAR OVERSTEPPED BOUNDARIES: Speak up! I agree that what Lilys father did was inappropriate. Further, he embarrassed his daughter, and he owes her an apology. At 16, if she no longer wants to go to his home, she should not be forced to. The attorney who handled your divorce can make that clear to him.

P.S. If Lily wants to throw her fathers gift away, reassure her that its her privilege.

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tremain07
09/10/21 9:57:36 PM
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YoungMan posted...
Her father told her not to tell anyone, handed her a vibrator and told her that an orgasm will help her sleep. Lily was shocked and embarrassed that he would suggest such a thing and asked me if she could throw it away.


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Ratchetrockon
09/10/21 9:58:44 PM
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Wtf

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Dark_SilverX
09/10/21 9:59:17 PM
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xD

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nfearurspecimn
09/10/21 10:00:48 PM
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why did he just randomly have a vibrator around?

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LordMarshal
09/10/21 10:01:03 PM
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Cause this is a normal response.......

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dj1200
09/10/21 10:01:43 PM
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XFD

things not to do, ch 1.

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I4NRulez
09/10/21 10:02:26 PM
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That's real weird. If i had kids i'd want them to be able to talk to me about that stuff too but its still extremely private thing.

He could have talked to her first or talked to the mom. Dont just give her a sex toy and tell her not to tell anyone.

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__aCEr__
09/10/21 10:09:20 PM
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Real shocked the guy is divorced.

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Naysaspace
09/10/21 10:10:50 PM
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so which one of you is lilys dad

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Axiom
09/10/21 10:11:01 PM
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So uh either he bought this specifically to give to her at some point or he used it on himself or others. Either way it's fucking gross
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coolcono
09/10/21 10:11:02 PM
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I was reading that one today as well.

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Zikten
09/10/21 10:11:49 PM
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Weird. I bet the dad is autistic
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Jabodie
09/10/21 10:12:37 PM
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The more I think about this the worse it gets

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Tyranthraxus
09/10/21 10:15:15 PM
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The father is right tho. It will help with sleep.

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SuperShake666
09/10/21 10:15:57 PM
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That sounds like the plot of an episode of SVU.

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yutterh
09/10/21 10:16:12 PM
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I was gonna say "what he told her to masturbate or something?" Lmao is as right but he went the extra mile and gave her a vibrator lmao he gave her good advice but he went creeper on her with the vibrator and don't tell anyone lol

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yusiko
09/10/21 10:16:16 PM
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and his advice wasnt even good
orgasms make men feel sleepy
orgasms make women feel more awake and alert

im not sure why that is

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toadfan64
09/10/21 10:18:31 PM
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The fathers technically right, and there's nothing wrong with discussing this with your kids, but the glaring wtf thing is that he had a vibrator on hand, that's... weird.
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Tyranthraxus
09/10/21 10:19:41 PM
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toadfan64 posted...
The fathers technically right, and there's nothing wrong with discussing this with your kids, but the glaring wtf thing is that he had a vibrator on hand, that's... weird.

I never got the implication that he just had one on hand. He probably bought one just to give. Giving a used vibrator as a gift is super fucking gross.

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09/10/21 10:21:18 PM
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BLAKUboy
09/10/21 10:23:31 PM
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toadfan64 posted...
The fathers technically right, and there's nothing wrong with discussing this with your kids, but the glaring wtf thing is that he had a vibrator on hand, that's... weird.
I mean it's possible she was complaining about not being able to sleep, and so he went out to buy her a vibrator. But I'm not sure if that's better.

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cjsdowg
09/10/21 10:24:04 PM
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Like if he had an open relationship and said doing that can people to sleep. I would find that creepy as hell, but just creepy.

Giving her the tool, seems like she might be in danger if she goes back over there.

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toadfan64
09/10/21 10:26:42 PM
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BLAKUboy posted...

I mean it's possible she was complaining about not being able to sleep, and so he went out to buy her a vibrator. But I'm not sure if that's better.

That's probably more likely, and yeah. That's less weird, but still kinda odd. The moms still overreacting, imo.
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St0rmFury
09/10/21 10:28:20 PM
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As to why he has a vibrator, maybe he had neck pain.>_>
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Flauros
09/10/21 10:30:43 PM
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David1988
09/10/21 10:46:09 PM
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If my dad had given me a fleshlight when I was that age that woulda been pretty cool tbh

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02fran
09/11/21 12:05:52 PM
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I'm pretty sure I read a webcomic like this and the dad turned out to be a woman the whole time having used magic to make a male disguise.
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Tyranthraxus
09/11/21 12:30:36 PM
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02fran posted...
I'm pretty sure I read a webcomic like this and the dad turned out to be a woman the whole time having used magic to make a male disguise.
You sure you're not just thinking about south park lmao

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Derwood
09/11/21 12:33:46 PM
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I'm pretty sure that "Dear Abby" has never published a real letter in its existence
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sabrestorm
09/11/21 12:35:44 PM
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Maybe he shouldnt have said it to his daughter but he is right it will help a person sleep

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Grischnak
09/11/21 12:38:15 PM
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Story sounds fake. Though it's Alabama so who knows...
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Just_a_loser
09/11/21 12:41:20 PM
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yusiko posted...
and his advice wasnt even good
orgasms make men feel sleepy
orgasms make women feel more awake and alert

im not sure why that is
Opposite in my case. My girl gets sleepy and wants to pass out after, so she likes to before bed. For me though, not really, unless I work extra hard.

So likely depends on the person.

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Gamerguymass
09/11/21 12:42:29 PM
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Isn't giving your teenage daughter a vibrator a thing now though? I swear someone posted a link here a while ago to one of those daytime talk shows about how that was the new trend. Basically so she stays at home and uses that instead of going out and having sex and risking pregnancy/stds/etc.

He is right though, an orgasm is medically proven to help you sleep. Especially if you are anxious or more high strung. I doubt this is even real though. I mean they allegedly have an open relationship where they can talk about anything but this one event that happened in private embarrassed her so much that she never wants to see her dad again?

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Lokison
09/11/21 12:45:39 PM
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I feel like the appropriate way to handle this would have been giving the tool to her mother and explaining it to her. Let her mother handle the weirdness.

I get why he did it, he was straight forward about it and had his heart in the right place; he just handled it poorly.

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Tyranthraxus
09/11/21 12:46:40 PM
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Gamerguymass posted...
Isn't giving your teenage daughter a vibrator a thing now though? I swear someone posted a link here a while ago to one of those daytime talk shows about how that was the new trend. Basically so she stays at home and uses that instead of going out and having sex and risking pregnancy/stds/etc.

He is right though, an orgasm is medically proven to help you sleep. Especially if you are anxious or more high strung. I doubt this is even real though. I mean they allegedly have an open relationship where they can talk about anything but this one event that happened in private embarrassed her so much that she never wants to see her dad again?

The letter says the daughter is especially prudish. I don't see anything wrong with the concept of giving a vibrator to your 16 year old kid in privacy as long as you're not doing other creepy shit. Parents buy their kids condoms all the time. This isn't fundamentally different but the father should have known this would offend her.

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Kitt
09/11/21 12:47:48 PM
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What's the father's Reddit account name?

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Gamerguymass
09/11/21 1:01:59 PM
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Tyranthraxus posted...
The letter says the daughter is especially prudish. I don't see anything wrong with the concept of giving a vibrator to your 16 year old kid in privacy as long as you're not doing other creepy shit. Parents buy their kids condoms all the time. This isn't fundamentally different but the father should have known this would offend her.

The "letter" says the father thinks the mother is a prude, not that the daughter is a prude.

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brotrrwinner
09/11/21 1:04:54 PM
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nope

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sabrestorm
09/11/21 2:46:10 PM
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Lokison posted...
I feel like the appropriate way to handle this would have been giving the tool to her mother and explaining it to her. Let her mother handle the weirdness.

I get why he did it, he was straight forward about it and had his heart in the right place; he just handled it poorly.

yep

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cjsdowg
09/11/21 5:53:18 PM
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Tyranthraxus posted...


The letter says the daughter is especially prudish. I don't see anything wrong with the concept of giving a vibrator to your 16 year old kid in privacy as long as you're not doing other creepy shit. Parents buy their kids condoms all the time. This isn't fundamentally different but the father should have known this would offend her.

This is so different. You give a kid a condom and that is saying if you do something be protected . What he did is say..make your self happy in the room down the hall from me. That is how different those two actions are.

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UnfairRepresent
09/11/21 5:56:13 PM
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I feel bad because the dad is clearly trying to help but YIKES, buying your kids sex toys is fucked yo.

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09/11/21 6:00:27 PM
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cjsdowg posted...
This is so different. You give a kid a condom and that is saying if you do something be protected . What he did is say..make your self happy in the room down the hall from me. That is how different those two actions are.
This. Its a gigantic ****ing difference

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02fran
09/13/21 2:57:58 AM
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Tyranthraxus posted...
You sure you're not just thinking about south park lmao

No, it was a webcomic, it was something like Magic chicks or something. But that does sound like something from South Park too lol
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HairyQueen
09/13/21 3:00:21 AM
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This is literally what groomers do

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008Zulu
09/13/21 3:07:29 AM
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nfearurspecimn posted...
why did he just randomly have a vibrator around?
Dad goes in to a sex store
Dad: Good morning! I need a vibrator suitable for a 16 year old girl!

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RiKuToTheMiGhtY
09/14/21 8:06:49 PM
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Its no wonder the mother divorced this idiot.

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Darmik
09/14/21 8:12:18 PM
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I dunno I think other suggestions like cutting out screen time right before bed should probably be tried first before pulling out a vibrator.

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