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do you resent your parents for it?

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No. My parents worked their ass off for us to become middle class. If they were lazy and didn't try that's a different story and they spent money wisely while saving up like crazy.

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Fuck no, they hated each other but knew how to provide and raise us despite growing up in one of the worst citys in america. All my siblings graduated hs, stayed out of trouble with the law and are above where we started. Something I didnt realize was so rare in my neighborhood until much later. Especially my dad still being around under the same roof.


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My parents did not spoil me and yet they did not teach me how cruel the world can be in terms of social equality or how hard it would be being a full time adult. All they really told me was go to school, get a good job, make lots of money so you won't be poor LMAO.

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We were rich in spirit. I love my parents

how can you resent someone for doing their best in a system designed to put the majority of people down?

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Yes, they made stupid decisions, were warned of the consequences numerous times, and still followed through, then wondered why they were constantly having bad things happen to them. They destroyed their careers, their health, and their finances with poor judgement and easily avoidable mistakes. Now they live in a run down house with my sister who's 27 and has learned well from their example by doing absolutely nothing with her life.

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i do resent them for it, because we weren't poor, but they grew up poor and wanted me to experience the same...this included making me wear 2nd hand girl clothes, refusing to buy me winter jackets so i was constantly sick and forcing me to overeat

it fucked me up for life but i'm over it now tho
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Nope. Life is hard...maybe for a little bit in my teens totally get it now. Was never a moment where they put themselves over me or my sister.

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cavalierking posted...

do you resent your parents for it?

Actually, yes.

My mom had MS so she couldn't work. My dad decided to use that as an excuse to "take care" of her. Which translated him to sitting on his ass all day collecting social security on my mom's behalf.

He quit his job to do that.

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No. They did their best. My resentment lies within myself. They were right, I was spoiled.

No, they're addicts. They did the best they could

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I'm glad mine didn't spoil me. I very rarely got games and toys were usually from the dollar store and didn't have much. Pretty much a laundry basket worth between my sister and I. Teenage years we had money to spend but that was done wisely. It was nice when we finally got a home instead of renting. I think my dad was in his 40s when we finally got a decent average house.

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No, I resent my parents for who they are, not their financial situation.

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Fuck No. My parents left pretty good jobs and they had to start all over after we moved out of the city and they worked their asses off to get us right.

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No

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Not nearly so much as for how poorly they raised me.

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Not really, they did what they could without knowing how to do anything. There are other things I have a harder time forgiving them for.

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My parents worked pretty hard to go from poor to lower middle class. My dad had a lot of issues throughout his life and I guess I resent him for that, I also resent my mom for constantly babying me. Also they probably should have got divorced a lot sooner than they did because every day was pretty much non stop shouting. I also resent my dad for moving back to his home country after the divorce. I guess at the end of the day they did their best though, can't complain really since they are both still in my life.

Edit: also just to clarify he dis stick around for a few years after they got divorced, he moved away like 3 years after but idk it still makes me kind of upset for some reason

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we don't resent. could still have nice things while still being poor at the same time.
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KILBOTz posted...

No, I resent my parents for who they are, not their financial situation.

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No, my grandparents basically had nothing. Worked so hard just to own a home for their kids. My parents were a bit better off, but they still struggled. I'm currently in the same situation they've been in their whole lives, saving up to try and get by. It's none of their fault, I see how difficult it is to save money when living paycheck to paycheck.

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Absolutely not. It makes me respect my parents even more and makes me realize I couldn't pay them back even if I tried and made me think of how I need to act if I ever have children.

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Yes, they were handed money, inheritance, pissed it away, became alcoholicscs, divorced, bad boy friends etc....

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Although poorer than the average American, I based my wealth judgement on the wealth of my parents before me, and so I never viewed myself as poor despite growing up in a ghetto. I felt privileged, actually, even though statistically I was not privileged. I think it's the feeling that counts. I don't hold it against them.
My dad grew up eating nothing but sometimes ketchup sandwiches.
I grew up with a full stomach. I have no right to complain.

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Not their fault they were refugees

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I grew up with a single mother who had multiple sclerosis. I didn't resent her. I resented my abusive alcoholic dad who we ran away from and who subsequently provided no support.

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Not at all. They both worked their asses off, worked their way to upper middle-class, and put my brother and me through college without us borrowing a cent. I have nothing but respect and admiration for both of them.

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I didn't resent my mom for us being poor. She grew up far poorer than my siblings and I did and managed to give us a far better life than she had, despite it still being crappy and full of hardship. I did resent her for all the boneheaded shit she did that made being poor worse, like dating drunks and feeding us crappy food.

I've learned to let go of all of my old resentments though, so I don't care about any of that anymore. I had to clear all that out because she still gives me plenty of new reasons to absolutely despise her these days.

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