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PleaseClap 12/29/19 12:16:52 PM #52: |
Flockaveli posted...
You don't, you tell them that it's their problem and if she wants to not be ugly then you can help because that's something you know how to do. There's really only so much I can do with regards to that. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LordMarshal 12/29/19 12:21:06 PM #53: |
This is interesting cause what are you suppose to do when no one wants to fuck you?
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Blackstar110 12/29/19 12:31:30 PM #54: |
PleaseClap posted...
I told her that maybe she should get a cat or something for companionship. She got all pissy about that for some reasonOkay this is a troll topic we can move on had us going for a full page, not bad --- -Shred ... Copied to Clipboard!
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emblem boy 12/29/19 12:33:45 PM #55: |
Blackstar110 posted...
PleaseClap posted...I told her that maybe she should get a cat or something for companionship. She got all pissy about that for some reasonOkay this is a troll topic we can move on --- Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 12:36:34 PM #56: |
LordMarshal posted...
This is interesting cause what are you suppose to do when no one wants to fuck you? Hopefully realize that there's more to life than dating and sex and that you have to be able to live for yourself. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 2:23:35 PM #57: |
Bump, still looking for some useful advice on how to best deal with this
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Vyrulisse 12/29/19 2:30:02 PM #58: |
You should be nice to her and try to boost her confidence. Does she play games? Tell her she's really good at them and cool.
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LordMarshal 12/29/19 2:33:25 PM #59: |
PleaseClap posted...
Hopefully realize that there's more to life than dating and sex and that you have to be able to live for yourself. Im not hot by any means but theres still average looking girls thatll fuck me. I cant imagine being flat out ugly and no one wants to ever fuck me. --- There can be only one. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 2:37:37 PM #60: |
Vyrulisse posted...
You should be nice to her and try to boost her confidence. Does she play games? Tell her she's really good at them and cool. I am nice to her, you should see what everyone else says about her when shes not around. I think shes only a casual gamer at best. Yknow, a healer main in every game. That kind of player. LordMarshal posted...
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BlkPopeIseem 12/29/19 2:38:18 PM #61: |
Explain to her what she's feeling is how a typical man feels everyday and that she's comparing herself to people living in the clouds. There's nothing more attractive than a down-to-earth person
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Vyrulisse 12/29/19 2:40:32 PM #62: |
Healing mains are stressful jobs and carry a lot of responsibility, that isn't exactly a casual role I imagine...
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 2:40:45 PM #63: |
Self esteem is something you raise overtime in small doses. There's an art to it that I doubt you're capable of pulling off. It has to be genuine and this topic makes me think you want to speedrun her self esteem and don't have the patience.
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Infost 12/29/19 2:40:56 PM #64: |
Ugly people are treated worse than attractive people. It's simply the truth.
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Infost 12/29/19 2:43:20 PM #65: |
PleaseClap posted...
Those are claims you're making as someone who dates and has sex. It doesn't work. Don't try to be Dr. Phil. --- Filler sig. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 2:44:18 PM #66: |
Vyrulisse posted...
Healing mains are stressful jobs and carry a lot of responsibility, that isn't exactly a casual role I imagine...healers are important, but they're generally low effort. Healing is a role best described as: "stand out of the way and run around while healing the people who make the strategic moves." By no means is healing a bad thing, but it's generally the role played by the least skilled member of the group. --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Vyrulisse 12/29/19 2:45:22 PM #67: |
Gobstoppers12 posted...
healers are important, but they're generally low effort. Healing is a role best described as: "stand out of the way and run around while healing the people who make the strategic moves."That would be DPS in my view. They have no responsibility and only exist not to stand in the red. It also depends on the game I imagine. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 2:47:23 PM #68: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
Self esteem is something you raise overtime in small doses. There's an art to it that I doubt you're capable of pulling off. It has to be genuine and this topic makes me think you want to speedrun her self esteem and don't have the patience. What makes you say that? Im genuinely asking what I can do to help out someone whos less fortunate than me. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Beveren_Rabbit 12/29/19 2:47:52 PM #69: |
a lot of this is an excuse to shame the mentally ill.
<p style="background-color: transparent;">"IT IS YOUR FAULT THAT YOU ARE DEPRESSED! If you don't want to be happy, then fine! Go ahead and be alone and miserable! I worked hard for my happiness! You're just being lazy and want to be treated special! You're not shy or depressed, just a narcissistic vain introvert!" --- *flops* ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 2:48:12 PM #70: |
Vyrulisse posted...
Healing mains are stressful jobs and carry a lot of responsibility, that isn't exactly a casual role I imagine... They really only exist to make it so that the skilled gamers (who do all of the work) can play with their friends --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 2:48:14 PM #71: |
Vyrulisse posted...
That would be DPS in my view. They have no responsibilitydepends on the game. In overwatch, dps players actually have to kill other players. In an mmo pve situation, dps players need to do things like interrupt boss abilities, target swap, manage aggro, etc. Healers basically have the same exact job in every situation: make bars go up --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Beveren_Rabbit 12/29/19 2:50:33 PM #72: |
Why are people so quick to "tough love" tactics when it comes to helping people with self-image issues?
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Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 2:51:39 PM #73: |
Beveren_Rabbit posted...
Why are people so quick to "tough love" tactics when it comes to helping people with self-image issues?Lack of empathy, mostly. --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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chairforceone 12/29/19 2:54:23 PM #74: |
Get her a cat or something
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Zodd3224 12/29/19 3:43:00 PM #75: |
She's only a casual gamer and you consider her a friend lmao
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 4:07:24 PM #76: |
Zodd3224 posted...
She's only a casual gamer and you consider her a friend lmao If she didn't have me, she wouldn't have anybody Beveren_Rabbit posted... Why are people so quick to "tough love" tactics when it comes to helping people with self-image issues? I can't coddle her. chairforceone posted... Get her a cat or something She didn't like that suggestion very much --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Duncanwii 12/29/19 4:12:56 PM #77: |
I'm sorry but you dont seem like a very nice person. Stop treating your friend like shit and maybe she'll stop dumping on you.
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lolife67 12/29/19 4:16:55 PM #78: |
I'm surprised so many people responded to this topic seriously.
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Zodd3224 12/29/19 4:17:34 PM #79: |
Duncanwii posted...
I'm sorry but you dont seem like a very nice person. Stop treating your friend like shit and maybe she'll stop dumping on you. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 4:19:31 PM #80: |
PleaseClap posted...
What makes you say that? Im genuinely asking what I can do to help out someone whos less fortunate than me. I dunno. Im a dick. It's just stuff like noticing and complimenting/giving props when they accomplish something or if you have the confidence and can take the blow yourself, I constantly bring up how people can dominate in areas I struggle with. Cause not only are you complimenting them, but you're showcasing that it's not something everyone is good at. Just make sure your compliments aren't forced and disingenuous. Cause self aware people can instantly tell and when they realize you're just bigging them up cause you pity them, it has the opposite affect that you wanted. That's why the comparison helps too, cause when I point out the flaw in myself they can always reference it later on in their head and be like "damn, I really don't struggle with that like he does". I dunno if most this advice works for others because Im just stating techniques that I grew into and are huge parts of my natural personality. Digging into myself for the benefit of others without it affecting my own self esteem is one my only redeeming qualities >_>. --- Name checks out "Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 4:27:24 PM #82: |
HellRatUFO posted...
What is her body like? How is her physique? If her problems feeling ugly are relating to these things, she sounds like the type of person that wants to relish in a problem she could fix instead of working on herself. Take care of your body and the admiration and validation you seek from the opposite sex will come naturally. Her problem isn't that she feels ugly --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 4:32:00 PM #83: |
HellRatUFO posted...
What is her body like? How is her physique? If her problems feeling ugly are relating to these things, she sounds like the type of person that wants to relish in a problem she could fix instead of working on herself. Take care of your body and the admiration and validation you seek from the opposite sex will come naturally. Im a big believer in if you have a problem that you're not actively working towards fixing, just shut the fuck up about it. However, I realized it's instinct by people to not do that, so I just decided to become tolerant to it irl. Im not even saying don't bring it up, Im just saying don't bitch about the results and go into detail about what you miss out on because you choose not to put in the work for it. I don't work out, so I don't deserve the tight body (not just the tightness from being underweight) and the heightened attention that would come with it. Im not gonna complain I don't get that attention. I'll just make jokes about how bigger women can kick my ass. Which makes people laugh instead of feel down. --- Name checks out "Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Infost 12/29/19 5:01:20 PM #84: |
There are aspects of ugly that can't be fixed lol.
Lost_All_Senses posted... I don't work out, so I don't deserve the tight body (not just the tightness from being underweight) and the heightened attention that would come with it. Im not gonna complain I don't get that attention. Plenty of people get attention without working out tho. While plenty of people work out and don't get positive attention (the manlet meme actually started to make fun of short guys who overcompensate by bulking up huge, for example). At some point you can trace the issue back to innate features we have no control over. --- Filler sig. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 5:06:08 PM #85: |
Infost posted...
Plenty of people get attention without working out tho. While plenty of people work out and don't get positive attention (the manlet meme actually started to make fun of short guys who overcompensate by bulking up huge, for example). At some point you can trace the issue back to innate features we have no control over. Nope. You're just more attracted to the hateful attention people get. It's obvious anything on the internet comes with those comments. The ones that actually matter will let you know when you're bettering yourself. And I never implied working out was literally the only way to get attention. No idea why you would read what I posted and take it that way. It was just an example and you decided to focus on it fir whatever reason. This topic wasn't even about working out, which should make it even more clear that it was an example. --- Name checks out "Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 5:34:46 PM #86: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
I'm honestly struggling to think of any areas I struggle with that she succeeds in. It's very hard to compliment her. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Infost 12/29/19 6:03:41 PM #87: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
It was just an example. PleaseClap posted... I'm honestly struggling to think of any areas I struggle with that she succeeds in. It's very hard to compliment her. Well at least she doesn't post on GFAQs. Realistically tho it's hard to see how someone is friends with someone who they can't compliment on anything. Hopefully it's not a pity scenario. --- Filler sig. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 6:17:06 PM #88: |
PleaseClap posted...
I'm honestly struggling to think of any areas I struggle with that she succeeds in. It's very hard to compliment her. I don't think anyone is hard to compliment if you hang out with them enough. If it was that hard to find a good quality in them, why would someone even hang out with them that much anyway >_>. She has to have some reasons that make you even care in the 1st place --- Name checks out "Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 6:28:49 PM #89: |
I think we're witnessing one of two things.
A masterful troll topic, or a genuinely bad friend. Either way, it's interesting like a train wreck. --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Wewillrocku 12/29/19 6:29:54 PM #90: |
PleaseClap posted...
Lately, she's been getting jealous of the attention that I've been receiving from people.oh, i see. why don't you console her? --- The american prison system is a sorry mess but giving them game consoles isn't going to solve anything. Zurriah ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 6:55:00 PM #91: |
Infost posted...
At least theres that. It honestly feels like a pity thing at times, but she has no where else to go. Wewillrocku posted...
Thats why I made this topic. Im getting kinda tired of being called a bad friend when Ive show time and time again that I have her best interests at heart and am looking out for her, despite her shortcomings. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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yunalenne10 12/29/19 7:02:17 PM #92: |
Is she willing to change herself?
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 7:12:22 PM #93: |
yunalenne10 posted...
Is she willing to change herself? I think that she really wants to be more like me. I also think that thats an unrealistic goal for her, and Im having trouble letting her down gently there --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 7:16:29 PM #94: |
PleaseClap posted...
I think that she really wants to be more like me. I also think that thats an unrealistic goal for her, and Im having trouble letting her down gently there Play her this https://youtu.be/AgIi5jZUrV4 --- Name checks out "Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone ... Copied to Clipboard!
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spanky1 12/29/19 7:23:24 PM #95: |
I wonder how the responses in this topic would have gone if the sexes were male in OP. >_>
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 7:34:08 PM #96: |
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NotYou 12/29/19 8:01:48 PM #97: |
I want to be friends with your friend. Pls introduce me.
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 8:05:07 PM #98: |
spanky1 posted...
I wonder how the responses in this topic would have gone if the sexes were male in OP. >_> You should learn to pay attention to the actual topic at hand. You'll learn more about society when you're not doing hypotheticals in your head that are projections of your already established theories/beliefs. --- Name checks out "Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NotYou 12/29/19 8:08:26 PM #99: |
^Is a goddamn expert on society
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Lost_All_Senses 12/29/19 8:13:07 PM #100: |
I don't like to brag. But I've pretty much been in a society since I was born.
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PleaseClap 12/29/19 10:14:33 PM #101: |
I'm honestly almost dreading talking to her tonight and trying to sift through her issues.
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