Board 8 > So uh found out what happened (relationship thing)

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BetrayedTangy 11/20/19 4:38:26 PM #1:	For those that remember about a week or two ago. I posted here asking about some advice, concerning my ex not coming home or talking to me about anything. Well now all has been revealed to me and well you guys were partially right. She wasn't cheating, but she had found another person to confide in. So instead of talking to me about our issues back in August, she just kept talking to him instead, leading to our break up in October. That said, her reasons for doing it are technically sound, not justified but I get where she's coming from. We talked it out and we're going to work on it, but she needs some space first because of how toxic things got. So things are rough, but I did really want to clarify what happened for ya'll since you guys helped me so much --- My Quest to beat the Final Fantasies: I II IV V VI VII VIII IX X XII XIII XIV XV <cite>BetrayedTangy posted [p:930436773] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>For those that remember about a week or two ago. I posted here asking about some advice, concerning my ex not coming home or talking to me about anything. Well now all has been revealed to me and well you guys were partially right. She wasn't cheating, but she had found another person to confide in. So instead of talking to me about our issues back in August, she just kept talking to him instead, leading to our break up in October. That said, her reasons for doing it are technically sound, not justified but I get where she's coming from. We talked it out and we're going to work on it, but she needs some space first because of how toxic things got. So things are rough, but I did really want to clarify what happened for ya'll since you guys helped me so much </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MysticBrohan 11/20/19 5:36:22 PM #2:	emotional cheating is still cheating actually it's worse --- Esto es el fin, Grande Padre <cite>MysticBrohan posted [p:930439572] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>emotional cheating is still cheating actually it's worse</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BetrayedTangy 11/20/19 5:43:11 PM #3:	I agree, but I know that wasn't her intention at all. When it happened some shit was going down with all of her support systems and he was there when no one else was. Like if you're actively dating/sleeping with someone then you know you're cheating, but if they're helping you in a bad time, you're just get support. That said it doesn't even come close to justifying it. Especially considering how I found out, but I can see how she made that mistake --- My Quest to beat the Final Fantasies: I II IV V VI VII VIII IX X XII XIII XIV XV <cite>BetrayedTangy posted [p:930439888] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>I agree, but I know that wasn't her intention at all. When it happened some shit was going down with all of her support systems and he was there when no one else was. Like if you're actively dating/sleeping with someone then you know you're cheating, but if they're helping you in a bad time, you're just get support. That said it doesn't even come close to justifying it. Especially considering how I found out, but I can see how she made that mistake </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Heroic Bigpun 11/20/19 7:26:21 PM #4:	That is the worst, because the person they confide in might have an ulterior motive or a strong opinion about one person or the other and they can steer them to feel a certain way --- pUnny at his phone. Expect tYpos <cite>Heroic Bigpun posted [p:930444925] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>That is the worst, because the person they confide in might have an ulterior motive or a strong opinion about one person or the other and they can steer them to feel a certain way</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lucavi000 11/20/19 7:39:19 PM #5:	Heroic Bigpun posted... That is the worst, because the person they confide in might have an ulterior motive or a strong opinion about one person or the other and they can steer them to feel a certain way Yep, how much did said confidant say or what did they do to further the break up? That will always be a lingering question. --- "Doesn't matter, still obtainable. You were wrong, simply admit it and apologize for your ignorance and s*** attitude." - Firemage7777 to SuperZay <cite>Lucavi000 posted [p:930445542] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Heroic Bigpun posted... </cite> <quote>That is the worst, because the person they confide in might have an ulterior motive or a strong opinion about one person or the other and they can steer them to feel a certain way</quote> Yep, how much did said confidant say or what did they do to further the break up? That will always be a lingering question. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GranzonEx 11/20/19 7:39:53 PM #6:	for her it wasn't cheating, yet the other guy was definitely banking on the long con --- 2 line break(s), 160 characters allowed <cite>GranzonEx posted [p:930445569] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>for her it wasn't cheating, yet the other guy was definitely banking on the long con</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BetrayedTangy 11/20/19 7:41:35 PM #7:	Oh I know they have an ulterior motive. They were acquaintances in College and he just texted her "Hey" and it lead to this. When I found out about it, I messaged him warning him that she was dating me when they started talking and after I found out the details I messaged him apologizing, stating how I really care about her and got worked up. No reply either time, so definitely nefarious. Once we start working on things again as long as she stops talking to him about our stuff and talks about me in a positive light I'm sure he'll fade away on his own --- My Quest to beat the Final Fantasies: I II IV V VI VII VIII IX X XII XIII XIV XV <cite>BetrayedTangy posted [p:930445651] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Oh I know they have an ulterior motive. They were acquaintances in College and he just texted her "Hey" and it lead to this. When I found out about it, I messaged him warning him that she was dating me when they started talking and after I found out the details I messaged him apologizing, stating how I really care about her and got worked up. No reply either time, so definitely nefarious. Once we start working on things again as long as she stops talking to him about our stuff and talks about me in a positive light I'm sure he'll fade away on his own </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BetrayedTangy 11/20/19 7:45:54 PM #8:	If I've learned anything from his strategy (yes I've admittedly done it before) the girl almost always stays dedicated to her dude, even if he is a really awful piece of shit. Honestly the fact that they didn't start dating immediately after we broke up shows that she still cares about me and probably wants to fix things. I think she's just still upset about our toxicity exchange since the breakup. --- My Quest to beat the Final Fantasies: I II IV V VI VII VIII IX X XII XIII XIV XV <cite>BetrayedTangy posted [p:930445876] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>If I've learned anything from his strategy (yes I've admittedly done it before) the girl almost always stays dedicated to her dude, even if he is a really awful piece of shit. Honestly the fact that they didn't start dating immediately after we broke up shows that she still cares about me and probably wants to fix things. I think she's just still upset about our toxicity exchange since the breakup. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Peace___Frog 11/20/19 7:48:38 PM #9:	What is there to work on? Let it go. She's been less than truthful for months. Get her out of the house, move on. --- ~Peaf~ <cite>Peace___Frog posted [p:930446022] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>What is there to work on? Let it go. She's been less than truthful for months. Get her out of the house, move on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BetrayedTangy 11/20/19 8:58:05 PM #10:	There really is a lot for us to work on. Prior to this shit it's been a wonderful relationship for the both of us I want to work on it and I really think she does too. Otherwise she would've just made it official with him already --- My Quest to beat the Final Fantasies: I II IV V VI VII VIII IX X XII XIII XIV XV <cite>BetrayedTangy posted [p:930449604] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>There really is a lot for us to work on. Prior to this shit it's been a wonderful relationship for the both of us I want to work on it and I really think she does too. Otherwise she would've just made it official with him already </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lopen 11/20/19 9:06:14 PM #11:	BetrayedTangy posted... Otherwise she would've just made it official with him already I wouldn't assume that. --- No problem! This is a cute and pop genocide of love! <cite>Lopen posted [p:930449975] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>BetrayedTangy posted...</cite> <quote>Otherwise she would've just made it official with him already</quote> I wouldn't assume that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
red13n 11/20/19 9:09:01 PM #12:	wasnt this the one where her money from 2 full time jobs was vanishing? --- "First thing that crosses my mind: I didn't get any GameFAQs Karma yesterday." Math Murderer after getting his appendix removed. <cite>red13n posted [p:930450109] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>wasnt this the one where her money from 2 full time jobs was vanishing?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
paperwarior 11/20/19 9:18:15 PM #13:	MysticBrohan posted... emotional cheating is still cheating actually it's worse Is that right? I confide in people other than my BF. If I had relationship troubles I might talk about those too, if they got bad enough. But cutting off communication with TC is itself a problem. Is it better if there's no chance that the one confided in is interested in taking over? --- "God Hand is the ultimate expression of the joy of humanity, specifically the punching part of the joy of humanity."-Shigeru Miyamoto <cite>paperwarior posted [p:930450569] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>MysticBrohan posted...</cite> <quote>emotional cheating is still cheating actually it's worse</quote> Is that right? I confide in people other than my BF. If I had relationship troubles I might talk about those too, if they got bad enough. But cutting off communication with TC is itself a problem. Is it better if there's no chance that the one confided in is interested in taking over?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
foolm0r0n 11/20/19 9:26:22 PM #14:	Yeah if you're digging into stuff already, find out where the money went, that's the curious part. Also how is that not cheating? It's the entire part of cheating except the penis in vagina part. Breaking up was the only option then and it def still is now. Heroic Bigpun posted... That is the worst, because the person they confide in might have an ulterior motive or a strong opinion about one person or the other and they can steer them to feel a certain way She's hearing what she wants to hear, that's the attraction. --- _foolmo_ 2 + 2 = 4 <cite>foolm0r0n posted [p:930450994] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Yeah if you're digging into stuff already, find out where the money went, that's the curious part. Also how is that not cheating? It's the entire part of cheating except the penis in vagina part. Breaking up was the only option then and it def still is now. Heroic Bigpun posted...</cite> <quote>That is the worst, because the person they confide in might have an ulterior motive or a strong opinion about one person or the other and they can steer them to feel a certain way</quote> She's hearing what she wants to hear, that's the attraction.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BetrayedTangy 11/20/19 9:29:12 PM #15:	Yes, she revealed more about the money thing, it's pretty personal, but that's the last thing I'm worried about. I really don't think she's a bad person, I think the emotional stress got the best of both of us. --- My Quest to beat the Final Fantasies: I II IV V VI VII VIII IX X XII XIII XIV XV <cite>BetrayedTangy posted [p:930451139] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Yes, she revealed more about the money thing, it's pretty personal, but that's the last thing I'm worried about. I really don't think she's a bad person, I think the emotional stress got the best of both of us. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ChaosTonyV4 11/20/19 9:35:40 PM #16:	Hmm --- Phantom Dust. "I'll just wait for time to prove me right again." - Vlado <cite>ChaosTonyV4 posted [p:930451480] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Hmm </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Peace___Frog 11/20/19 10:05:55 PM #17:	Making things official isn't needed. She used you, leveraged this other dude's existence (who obviously has no respect for you, and she knows has no respect for you but continued to spend time with him). She betrayed your trust in a number of key ways and didn't come clean about it for a very extended period of time. No matter what you rebuild, that stain will be there. The emotional stress got the best of you? That's bullshit. It's great that you're trying tho take some responsibility for what you see as your actions, but here's the rub. One person doesn't "make" another person do something. You can understand motives, but don't fucking blame yourself for actions she took that really hurt you. Be selfish about things for a moment. --- ~Peaf~ <cite>Peace___Frog posted [p:930452829] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Making things official isn't needed. She used you, leveraged this other dude's existence (who obviously has no respect for you, and she knows has no respect for you but continued to spend time with him). She betrayed your trust in a number of key ways and didn't come clean about it for a very extended period of time. No matter what you rebuild, that stain will be there. The emotional stress got the best of you? That's bullshit. It's great that you're trying tho take some responsibility for what you see as your actions, but here's the rub. One person doesn't "make" another person do something. You can understand motives, but don't fucking blame yourself for actions she took that really hurt you. Be selfish about things for a moment.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pjbasis 11/20/19 10:53:51 PM #18:	I don't know man. It sounds like she knows what to say to you. --- http://i498.photobucket.com/albums/rr345/Rakaputra/B8%20Girls%202012/pjbas.png <cite>pjbasis posted [p:930454970] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>I don't know man. It sounds like she knows what to say to you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Corrik7 11/20/19 11:10:24 PM #19:	This relationship is over just fyi --- Xbox Live User Name - Corrik Currently playing: Division 2 <cite>Corrik7 posted [p:930455656] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>This relationship is over just fyi </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nrrr 11/20/19 11:12:34 PM #20:	i think you should not be getting any relationship advice from board 8 <cite>Nrrr posted [p:930455737] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>i think you should not be getting any relationship advice from board 8 </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Aecioo 11/20/19 11:55:31 PM #21:	Corrik7 posted... This relationship is over just fyi --- http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lcb35gGx0t1qailr4o1_500.gif http://www.megavideo.com/?v=57N0YAEJ <cite>Aecioo posted [p:930457348] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>Corrik7 posted... </cite> <quote>This relationship is over just fyi</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MZero11 11/21/19 1:27:57 AM #22:	I'm curious how you can say with confidence that she wasn't cheating. Regardless, she betrayed your trust and lied to you for an extended period of time. It's time to move on man BetrayedTangy posted... There really is a lot for us to work on. Prior to this shit it's been a wonderful relationship for the both of us I want to work on it and I really think she does too. Otherwise she would've just made it official with him already It will never go back to how it was before. You're holding onto this idealized view of the relationship that you will never reach again. Let it go --- MZero, to the extreme Listen to Advokaiser's bracket, this may be our last chance <cite>MZero11 posted [p:930460491] in So uh foun... [t:78180937]...</cite> <quote>I'm curious how you can say with confidence that she wasn't cheating. Regardless, she betrayed your trust and lied to you for an extended period of time. It's time to move on man BetrayedTangy posted... </cite> <quote>There really is a lot for us to work on. Prior to this shit it's been a wonderful relationship for the both of us I want to work on it and I really think she does too. Otherwise she would've just made it official with him already</quote> It will never go back to how it was before. You're holding onto this idealized view of the relationship that you will never reach again. Let it go </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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