Current Events > Got ghosted by a girl because I told her Ive never had sex or a girlfriend.

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She asked about, I didn't bring it up.

Do girls think there is something wrong with people in their 30s who've never had sex?

I mean yeah probably
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Cotton_Eye_Joe posted...

Do girls think there is something wrong with people in their 30s who've never had sex?

Yes.

Because there is.
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shallow girls will yes
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Yes, they do. If you get asked this in the future, lie. Or it will happen again.

If you're uncomfortable lying, then get over the discomfort or prepare to have this happen many more times
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just lie
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I don't see why they would care but yeah, lie dude.
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If i found out a girl was 30+ and a virgin with no boyfriends id do the same. She was probably going to murder me anyways...
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Why haven't you had sex before?
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RetsuZaiZen posted...

I don't see why they would care but yeah, lie dude.

Because if somebody is a virgin in their 30s it generally means something is very wrong with them or they're asexual.
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Mr_Karate_II posted...

Why haven't you had sex before?

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Picture of junk will cure
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CommonJoe posted...

Mr_Karate_II posted...

Why haven't you had sex before?

Well, he said he's never had a girlfriend, so I imagine that has something to do with it.
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Kineth posted...

CommonJoe posted...

Mr_Karate_II posted...

Why haven't you had sex before?

Well, he said he's never had a girlfriend, so I imagine that has something to do with it.

Prostitutes

Next time just lie and say it's been a long time.
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Girls don't like it if you've never had sex and also don't like it if you're having sex with other girls. You just can't win.

Kineth posted...

CommonJoe posted...

Mr_Karate_II posted...

Why haven't you had sex before?

Well, he said he's never had a girlfriend, so I imagine that has something to do with it.

Well, thanks to Tinder, the overwhelming majority of girls I've fucked I was never in a relationship with
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Kineth posted...

CommonJoe posted...

Mr_Karate_II posted...

Why haven't you had sex before?

Well, he said he's never had a girlfriend, so I imagine that has something to do with it.

You don't have to have a girlfriend to have sex. Escorts are a thing.
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Makeveli_lives posted...

Prostitutes

gross
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NOM posted...

Cotton_Eye_Joe posted...

Do girls think there is something wrong with people in their 30s who've never had sex?

Yes.

Because there is.

No.

There isn't.
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catboy0_0 posted...

Makeveli_lives posted...

Prostitutes

gross

In this day and age with online dating apps prostitutes are a massive waste of money unless you're hideous
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

Why are people advocating lying to a girl

Relationships should not be built on lies, assuming that's what TC wants.

Also TC looks like bearded Mink.

Well then I guess he'll have to make peace with dying alone.
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Complete_Idi0t posted...

Girls don't like it if you've never had sex and also don't like it if you're having sex with other girls. You just can't win.

haha this is true
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ShotOJameson posted...

Complete_Idi0t posted...

Girls don't like it if you've never had sex and also don't like it if you're having sex with other girls. You just can't win.

haha this is true

It's not. Most girls just recognize that if a guy is over 30 and has never been in a relationship they have good reason to believe there's a reason for this and something is seriously wrong with him
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There's actually some girls that think it's hot to take a man's virginity. In college I used it as a line in bars. Then they'd take me home and take my "virginity" and we would never speak again. I had like 20 first times.
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Genocet_10-325 posted...

ShotOJameson posted...

Complete_Idi0t posted...

Girls don't like it if you've never had sex and also don't like it if you're having sex with other girls. You just can't win.

haha this is true

It's not. Most girls just recognize that if a guy is over 30 and has never been in a relationship they have good reason to believe there's a reason for this and something is seriously wrong with him

wrong
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Jiek_Fafn posted...

There's actually some girls that think it's hot to take a man's virginity. In college I used it as a line in bars. Then they'd take me home and take my "virginity" and we would never speak again. I had like 20 first times.

Yeah I have no idea what girls are like where you live but in my experience once you graduate high school most girls prefer guys to be experienced enough to know what they're doing
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ShotOJameson posted...

Genocet_10-325 posted...

ShotOJameson posted...

Complete_Idi0t posted...

Girls don't like it if you've never had sex and also don't like it if you're having sex with other girls. You just can't win.

haha this is true

It's not. Most girls just recognize that if a guy is over 30 and has never been in a relationship they have good reason to believe there's a reason for this and something is seriously wrong with him

wrong

Well, either there's something seriously wrong with him, or he's asexual
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I had sex for the first time when I was 27 with a pretty experienced girl and she said I was the best sex she ever had. i wanted to wait though, part of me liked the 'challenge' part of it all. Sex was kinda disappointing for me though because I held it on such a high pedestal. I liked to use it for motivation a lot but once I did it I was like well that was awesome but I expected something life changing that never actually happened. its not as great as every one makes it out to be honestly. There's more important things.
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

Why are people advocating lying to a girl

Relationships should not be built on lies, assuming that's what TC wants.

Also TC looks like bearded Mink.

Dating is basically an audition. Of course you're going to embellish and make yourself look better than you really are.
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ShotOJameson posted...

I had sex for the first time when I was 27 with a pretty experienced girl and she said I was the best sex she ever had. i wanted to wait though, part of me liked the 'challenge' part of it all. Sex was kinda disappointing for me though because I held it on such a high pedestal. I liked to use it for motivation a lot but once I did it I was like well that was awesome but I expected something life changing that never actually happened. its not as great as every one makes it out to be honestly. There's more important things.

Well that's a problem. Putting it on a pedestal and taking it too seriously isn't good. I think of it as a fun thing to do that feels good.
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You should definitely keep that information withheld
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KlRBEH posted...

You should definitely keep that information withheld

Exactly. If you're so uncomfortable with any kind of lying that you can't do it then you will never, ever have a successful relationship. Ever.
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Genocet_10-325 posted...

Jiek_Fafn posted...

There's actually some girls that think it's hot to take a man's virginity. In college I used it as a line in bars. Then they'd take me home and take my "virginity" and we would never speak again. I had like 20 first times.

Yeah I have no idea what girls are like where you live but in my experience once you graduate high school most girls prefer guys to be experienced enough to know what they're doing

I think I had already charmed them and it was an excuse to bang me, never talk to me and feel good about themselves for doing so. These weren't the classiest women around so using their vaginas for a selfless act was most likely a novel experience for them as well.
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Jiek_Fafn posted...

Genocet_10-325 posted...

Jiek_Fafn posted...

There's actually some girls that think it's hot to take a man's virginity. In college I used it as a line in bars. Then they'd take me home and take my "virginity" and we would never speak again. I had like 20 first times.

Yeah I have no idea what girls are like where you live but in my experience once you graduate high school most girls prefer guys to be experienced enough to know what they're doing

I think I had already charmed them and it was an excuse to bang me, never talk to me and feel good about themselves for doing so. These weren't the classiest women around so using their vaginas for a selfless act was most likely a novel experience for them as well.

I mean hey, if that strategy got you laid then great, if it works it works
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Jiek_Fafn posted...

In college I used it as a line in bars.

I'm not college age anymore. I'm 30+
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catboy0_0 posted...

Jiek_Fafn posted...

In college I used it as a line in bars.

I'm not college age anymore. I'm 30+

Tinder exists
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Genocet_10-325 posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

Jiek_Fafn posted...

In college I used it as a line in bars.

I'm not college age anymore. I'm 30+

Tinder exists

I tried it once. Didn't get any likes except one and she ghosted me.
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catboy0_0 posted...

Genocet_10-325 posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

Jiek_Fafn posted...

In college I used it as a line in bars.

I'm not college age anymore. I'm 30+

Tinder exists

I tried it once. Didn't get any likes except one and she ghosted me.

One tip to make the number of likes go up exponentially is post more pictures. If you have only one or two you'll get next to no likes. 5+ and it makes a massive difference
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Crazy what time we live in. Men who actually want women to have had experience before and vice versa? How is that an indicator that something is wrong with them?

What if they just had opportunities but never took them because they wanted to wait? Or because they just didn't feel ready? I think some of you guys are just paranoid that being their first won't work out well.
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RonWeassly posted...

Crazy what time we live in. Men who actually want women to have had experience before and vice versa? How is that an indicator that something is wrong with them?

What if they just had opportunities but never took them because they wanted to wait? Or because they just didn't feel ready? I think some of you guys are just paranoid that being their first won't work out well.

Because the vast majority of 30+ virgins aren't saving themselves for religious reasons, this isn't 1800. Most 30+ virgins are the way they are because they're unable to find someone to have sex with, or they're the type that's so self pitying and self hating they won't even bother to try because they think they'll fail
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Genocet_10-325 posted...

RonWeassly posted...

Crazy what time we live in. Men who actually want women to have had experience before and vice versa? How is that an indicator that something is wrong with them?

What if they just had opportunities but never took them because they wanted to wait? Or because they just didn't feel ready? I think some of you guys are just paranoid that being their first won't work out well.

Because the vast majority of 30+ virgins aren't saving themselves for religious reasons, this isn't 1800. Most 30+ virgins are the way they are because they're unable to find someone to have sex with, or they're the type that's so self pitying and self hating they won't even bother to try because they think they'll fail

How would you even know that's the majority? Seems like a vocal minority at best to me.
What if they aren't really waiting? What if they do desire it sometimes, but it's just not the main priority in their life?
That doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. Doesn't mean they're self pitying and hating. That's no reason to give up on what could be a good person.

I could understand if women are wary of being with a virgin male. They've been brainwashed by the media and stereotypes. So of course they'll be hesitant, but how could a man rule out the idea of having children with a virgin woman? You should want to be the first and only guy. The first and only person to build a life with her.

You don't need to find a virgin woman, but if you do, why throw that away? What if she promises to be loyal, caring and to take care of your kids? What if she genuinely likes you? That's great.
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RonWeassly posted...

Genocet_10-325 posted...

RonWeassly posted...

Crazy what time we live in. Men who actually want women to have had experience before and vice versa? How is that an indicator that something is wrong with them?

What if they just had opportunities but never took them because they wanted to wait? Or because they just didn't feel ready? I think some of you guys are just paranoid that being their first won't work out well.

Because the vast majority of 30+ virgins aren't saving themselves for religious reasons, this isn't 1800. Most 30+ virgins are the way they are because they're unable to find someone to have sex with, or they're the type that's so self pitying and self hating they won't even bother to try because they think they'll fail

How would you even know that's the majority? Seems like a vocal minority at best to me.
What if they aren't really waiting? What if they do desire it sometimes, but it's just not the main priority in their life?
That doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. Doesn't mean they're self pitying and hating. That's no reason to give up on what could be a good person.

I could understand if women are wary of being with a virgin male. They've been brainwashed by the media and stereotypes. So of course they'll be hesitant, but how could a man rule out the idea of having children with a virgin woman? You should want to be the first and only guy. The first and only person to build a life with her.

You don't need to find a virgin woman, but if you do, why throw that away? What if she promises to be loyal, caring and to take care of your kids? What if she genuinely likes you? That's great.

How many adults do you know in this day and age who are voluntarily saving themselves for marriage? I'm going to guess the answer is "not many", assuming you live in a first world country
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I like how a bunch of mouthbreathers thought that responding to my post with "hurrr durrr prostitutes" was a good answer. No fucking shit that's an option, but if they guy can't even court a girl in the first place, why would he be comfortable with a prostitute?
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Kineth posted...

I like how a bunch of mouthbreathers thought that responding to my post with "hurrr durrr prostitutes" was a good answer. No fucking shit that's an option, but if they guy can't even court a girl in the first place, why would he be comfortable with a prostitute?

Never had to use a prostitute, but I imagine it's different because there's no pressure to make the prostitute enjoy herself because she is being paid for her time.
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Kineth posted...

I like how a bunch of mouthbreathers thought that responding to my post with "hurrr durrr prostitutes" was a good answer. No fucking shit that's an option, but if they guy can't even court a girl in the first place, why would he be comfortable with a prostitute?

its just a simpler interaction- like sex vending machines.

Complete_Idi0t posted...

Kineth posted...

I like how a bunch of mouthbreathers thought that responding to my post with "hurrr durrr prostitutes" was a good answer. No fucking shit that's an option, but if they guy can't even court a girl in the first place, why would he be comfortable with a prostitute?

its just a simpler interaction- like sex vending machines.

Be careful, vending machines kill dozens of people every year! Make sure you use protection.
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Would you consider yourself an awkward guy? If that's the case find an awkward girl who has similar experience to you and see if it works out.

In regards to that other girl she could have at least given you a reason. I have been ghosted before but that chick had issues.

Which makes me wonder how you know what ghosted means if you've no experience lol.
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Genocet_10-325 posted...

Kineth posted...

I like how a bunch of mouthbreathers thought that responding to my post with "hurrr durrr prostitutes" was a good answer. No fucking shit that's an option, but if they guy can't even court a girl in the first place, why would he be comfortable with a prostitute?

Never had to use a prostitute, but I imagine it's different because there's no pressure to make the prostitute enjoy herself because she is being paid for her time.

As someone who can't court girls, no that would not be easier at all. The idea sounds completely terrifying, and I couldn't so it if someone offered to pay them for me, and brought them to my room, and gave them an std test.
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SauI_Goodman posted...

Would you consider yourself an awkward guy? If that's the case find an awkward girl who has similar experience to you and see if it works out.

In regards to that other girl she could have at least given you a reason. I have been ghosted before but that chick had issues.

Which makes me wonder how you know what ghosted means if you've no experience lol.

"See if it works out." That literally feels impossible to me. Anytime I'm around almost anyone, especially a girl around my age I like whatsoever, i just feel completely frozen and can barely move, let alone talk to them.
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