Current Events > Got ghosted by a girl because I told her Ive never had sex or a girlfriend.

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According to the people in this topic, since I'm in my 30s and a virgin I should give up and accept a life of being constantly mocked for the rest of my days. Well, until I eventually snap and either end up in jail and kill myself or just eventually kill myself.
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The gist I'm getting is more like 'lie about it when you get in the situation'

I understand it's never going to be a turn on for a girl and will probably halt any sexual tension dead in the water when mentioned, even if they are outwardly accepting of it itl still probably be awkward for them

Just sucks to come to terms with this as not only do I dislike lying, I kinda suck at it. Will try my best though lol
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How does not approaching girls mean something's severely wrong with you?

Plenty of women never approach and nobody accuses them of mental illness.
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haloiscoolisbak posted...

The gist I'm getting is more like 'lie about it when you get in the situation'

yeah, I'm definitely gonna not mention it, but if asked, I'll say I got some action from a chick I got "some action" from but not actual coitus and just not mention we never fucked.
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Also, not everyone is cool with taking advantage of women and sleeping with them based on lies. If you have to do that to get laid, it kinda proves that jerks have an easier time.

RchHomieQuanChi posted...

Well, sex isn't that hard to get.

If you have a passive temperament it's pretty difficult as a guy.
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Aloner posted...

Also, not everyone is cool with taking advantage of women and sleeping with them based on lies. If you have to do that to get laid, it kinda proves that jerks have an easier time.

you are going to get out of that mindset. most people that meet for the first time stretch the truth and don't bear all to relative strangers. you don't need someone's validation for everything about you when you first meet. I'm not saying you have to lie, just embellish the positives and don't talk to much about all your negatives. think of it as a job interview. you can always change over the course of a relationship anyway
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The reason I'm not taking my own advice is a combination of laziness and needing to work on myself first before I take that step. I need to build myself up a bit, really
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Taking advantage of people based on lies =/= telling them every single gory detail about your life and sex life (or lack thereof) upon first meeting them.

You people complain about others putting sex on a pedestal and looking down on virgins but then further propagate such a view with your own actions.
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I don't think people need to be judging others because they never had sex.

This is just stupid American Culture that should have never existed, and whoever has been giving bad advice to Women in this day and age are probably full of themselves and creating more harm than good.
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NinjaBreakfast posted...

Taking advantage of people based on lies =/= telling them every single gory detail about your life and sex life (or lack thereof) upon first meeting them.

You people complain about others putting sex on a pedestal and looking down on virgin but then further propagate such a view with your own actions.

Ive had girls ask me when the last time I had sex was. It can come up naturally in conversation..
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Why lie though? It would suck if a girl did that. For the TC, just move on to the next girl.
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shokan_warrior posted...

superman 2000 posted...

NOM posted...

Cotton_Eye_Joe posted...

Do girls think there is something wrong with people in their 30s who've never had sex?

Yes.

Because there is.

Genocet_10-325 posted...

Yes, they do. If you get asked this in the future, lie. Or it will happen again.

If you're uncomfortable lying, then get over the discomfort or prepare to have this happen many more times

Jeez, you guys are harsh.

But to be fair, it is rather anomalous for a 30+ person to have never had sex. Have you had any sexual activity at all, like a blow or handjob? And whats the reason for your continued virginity?

how do some guys get a bj or hj and NOT go all the way

shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiet

i haven't even touched a girl/held hands and these limp dudes can have a girl wank them??????

whaaaaaaaaaaaat

and its not like i'm some super ugly dude or anything

i've HAD opportunities, i'm just too autistic to make anything work and i will NOT accept charity

You are autistic? I'm autistic. You might have to give into accepting charity and go with the flow.
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@ShotOJameson posted...

I had sex for the first time when I was 27

Jesus, Seahawks fans
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I'm actually kind of curious how the question came about. In my experience, if people are straight up asking if you're a virgin, it's because they can smell the virginity off you from a mile away. I had that happen to me plenty of times in high school, they could tell simply by the way I acted or things I said. So if someone is straight up asking you if you're a virgin, then you should probably consider thinking about what made them ask you in the first place.

Now, I have had women ask me when was the last time I had sex but that''s not really the same question. The assumption that you had sex is already there. In my experience they are trying to figure out if you're just going to hit it and quit it. In that case, I always give a vague answer like "It's been a while".

My suggestion to you TC is that you lie. Yeah yeah that sucks but you will continue to run into this problem. The vast majority of the time, women want to be with someone "that's done this before", so to speak. They don't want to hold your hand through the dating process. Yeah yeah #notallwomen but good luck finding the ones that don't that are actually reasonably attractive.
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Twin3Turbo posted...

I had that happen to me plenty of times in high school

Wow you went to a totally different type of high school than I did >_>
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Sativa_Rose posted...

Twin3Turbo posted...

I had that happen to me plenty of times in high school

Wow you went to a totally different type of high school than I did >_>

What do you mean?
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Twin3Turbo posted...

Sativa_Rose posted...

Twin3Turbo posted...

I had that happen to me plenty of times in high school

Wow you went to a totally different type of high school than I did >_>

What do you mean?

It's a long story but basically I grew up in a town with lots of really religious conservatives and stuff so no one would have dared asking something like that in HS except for the "bad kids", and those kinds of kids weren't in the advanced classes and were segregated off in a different part of the school.
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Sativa_Rose posted...

Twin3Turbo posted...

Sativa_Rose posted...

Twin3Turbo posted...

I had that happen to me plenty of times in high school

Wow you went to a totally different type of high school than I did >_>

What do you mean?

It's a long story but basically I grew up in a town with lots of really religious conservatives and stuff so no one would have dared asking something like that in HS except for the "bad kids", and those kinds of kids weren't in the advanced classes and were segregated off in a different part of the school.

Oh, hmm that's interesting. I would assume my high school was not much different than the average high school honestly. Throughout K-12 I was always popular and in the "cool crowd" with basically all the crowds so people having/talking about sex was certainly not a rare thing in high school.
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