Poll of the Day > anyone that prefers being alone entirely?

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no friendships or relationships? i feel like i've always gotten a long with pet companions over people, i do have asperger's so maybe that's why. sometimes i get my downs from life of loneliness and look around dating sites, well recently started talking to a guy that is surprisingly relateable to me in a lot of ways, but i think my problem is i think i prefer my alone time to much as i've always been use it, i like to focus on my hobbies with all my free time and put as much time in them as i can.

well the difference is, he longs for contact and talking as much as possible. which i use to be that way at a point, but haven't been that way for years because i've mostly given up on even bothering with people. idk a part of me i think seeks contact with people, but once i actually participate i feel burnt out and miserable where i'd much rather be indulged in my alone time, rather than seek others.

i guess i'm just not sure what to do, its someone i found that is very relateable with me, and i haven't had anyone to discuss this with, so wanted to make a topic and get some thoughts. i think if i just said that i'd rather be alone, that i've lost my first relateable contact with me in years and lost my chance, but maybe i'm safer and happier alone. i'm pretty confused since my thoughts are pretty conflicted, but i honestly don't have much people experience so i am unsure of these back and forth thoughts.
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I'm a loner myself. I lived alone for years without really being social (aside online). I never really get bored (the list of things I want to do would last 1000 years easily) and I don't really feel the need to be around people. Not for lack of friends either.

Now with my wife things are busy, and we have a lot of mutual friends we see frequently, but honestly it burns me out. I'm happier this way and I love her more than anything, but if something ever happens and we were to break up, I wouldn't look for someone else and instead just go back to loner life.

While I enjoy peace and quiet, I imagine lacking personal connections would be a depressing existence. However, I suppose I'm less likely to feel lonely than other people, although partly because I pursue a great many interests.
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looking for some advice, i think i'm going to say tonight i prefer being alone. :c
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Nothing wrong with being a solitary person, dont let anyone try to tell you otherwise.
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Zeus posted...

lacking personal connections would be a depressing existence

It is. :(
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I don't mind being alone for periods of time but I do eventually want someone to talk to. I could and have before subsisted on just a internet friend to talk to though
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I don't mind being alone during lunch break as I always eating alone during lunch break.

I used to hang with one of my colleague but one day, he raised his voiced at me saying I don't know about Marvel Comic as I just said they shouldn't show spoiler in the first trailer of the Avenger: Infinity War. I mean I just said doesn't mean anything harm. And his raise his voice at me just like that.

He told others he has no idea why I don't want to talk to him.

But I do chat with my friend on whatsapp and FB message cus I chatting with friend so I don't like being alone.
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I lived alone for few years but there were always people stopping by and family to deal with. Even if I didn't answer the door or pick up the phone I never felt completely alone; living in a city and having to be around people one way or another. But still, the solitary life in a space of my own became repetitive and stale, even with unlimited entertainment and hobbies.

It's been a long time since then. Now everyday it's a house full of family and endless work to support it. Having 2/3 of a day to myself is an ideal I can only reach for.
Living in complete solitude sounds tempting and I very well might survive it without going insane but I don't think I would choose a cabin in the woods or space capsule scenario.
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RJP_X posted...

looking for some advice, i think i'm going to say tonight i prefer being alone. :c

Advice about what? Dating? I'm a little confused

Firewood18 posted...

I lived alone for few years but there were always people stopping by and family to deal with

tbh, whenever I'm living alone, visitors are about the only thing that motivates me to keep things tidy.

Firewood18 posted...

Living in complete solitude sounds tempting and I very well might survive it without going insane but I don't think I would choose a cabin in the woods or space capsule scenario.

The problem with cabins in the woods (besides government science experiments aimed at appeasing ancient godlike giants) is that the wifi is usually pretty shitty. That alone can drive somebody insane.
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RJP_X posted...

no friendships or relationships?

Yes. I like my solitude.
I do want my own family one day though.
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wwinterj25 posted...

RJP_X posted...

no friendships or relationships?

Yes. I like my solitude.
I do want my own family one day though.

I can't deal with either for long periods of time, I require a balance, so just keeping friends is probably all i'm going to do, unless I get lucky enough to find someone that understands I need my alone time.
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Yes, and no.
I very much prefer to be alone and away from people. That's where I'm most comfortable. On the other hand, I still want those connections to it her people, and I want a family of my own, which I can't get staying alone. I wish one of these desires would just die, either let me be alone and content, or make me stop wanting to avoid people. This whole thing of wanting both is very stressful.
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I like to be away from anybody who feels they can expect me to change to suit them, which means I'm happy in a relationship with a submissive alone.
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I think many people confuse "prefer to be alone" with "too toxic to change anything and always blaming others"
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One day I'll become a hermit.

If socialization is the drug then I don't get the high anymore. I'm the freak if everyone around me is boring.
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I like my privacy, but having close friends and family is important as well. I used to think I liked hiding away from people all the time, but I think I just became content with the situation. When I met the right friends that all changed. It's way better having friends than being alone all the time.
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I am also the same way. I hate interacting with people. Even though I seem to be good at socializing and making friends.
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What_The_Chris posted...

I think many people confuse "prefer to be alone" with "too toxic to change anything and always blaming others"

I actually get along well with most ppl but two things I just like peace and quiet at times and I'm a people pleaser so after awhile I just want some me time so I can focus on my wants. Of I'm around other ppl I tend to always consider them first and that's my own personal flaw so I'm definitely not blaming it on others
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Zeus posted...

While I enjoy peace and quiet, I imagine lacking personal connections would be a depressing existence. However, I suppose I'm less likely to feel lonely than other people, although partly because I pursue a great many interests.

You're really needy, humorous you feel you aren't, ok?
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I enjoy being social but I have a limited supply of energy for it, working in healthcare I get home exhausted and don't want to talk to anyone for the rest of the day, feel bad that I just ignore my friends because I rarely actually feel like going out and doing anything
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I have Schizoid Personality Disorder... I NEED to be alone to function
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