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Duncanwii
05/05/18 6:49:53 PM
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We had a heart to heart yesterday while she was at my house. She said she hasn't felt the need to seek out sex and has never felt sexually aroused by anything. I told her I needed sexual activity and she said"thats a want not a need, there's a difference."
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Tappor
05/05/18 6:58:03 PM
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oh
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Lost_All_Senses
05/05/18 6:58:51 PM
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So it's over then. I don't know if it's worse that she's asexual or that she made that comment basically saying fuck your needs/wants.
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Slip-N-Slide
05/05/18 6:59:36 PM
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She just doesn't want to fuck you. She's getting plowed by someone else when you're gone.
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deupd_u
05/05/18 6:59:54 PM
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Her boyfriend Chad was told a different story
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TheCyborgNinja
05/05/18 7:01:37 PM
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By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."
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Slip-N-Slide
05/05/18 7:09:01 PM
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TheCyborgNinja posted...
By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."

Eating is necessary to keep you alive.
Breathing is a subconscious act necessary to keep you alive.

Fucking doesn't do anything to keep you alive. Humans have self awareness and don't have to cater to every biological desire, we have self control.

Comparing those things is stupid.
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BloodyNate
05/05/18 7:10:11 PM
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Thats a shitty thing of her to say. If she is asexual, you should respect that, but she shouldnt be allowed to shit on your either
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ElatedVenusaur
05/05/18 7:16:39 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
Thats a shitty thing of her to say. If she is asexual, you should respect that, but she shouldnt be allowed to shit on your either

If she's asexual, the only utility offered by having sex with some one(for her) is reproduction. If she currently doesn't want to reproduce, then she has no reason to engage in sex. She doesn't owe OP sex. By the same token, if the OP desires sex and cannot get it from her, it's reasonable for him to break up with her(unless the relationship is worth never having sex aside from possibly reproducing in the far future, which some are).
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Omega Hunter
05/05/18 7:20:32 PM
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Slip-N-Slide posted...
TheCyborgNinja posted...
By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."

Eating is necessary to keep you alive.
Breathing is a subconscious act necessary to keep you alive.

Fucking doesn't do anything to keep you alive. Humans have self awareness and don't have to cater to every biological desire, we have self control.

Comparing those things is stupid.


Reproduction is literally necessary for the species to not die out. If it is necessary on a population level then it can be argued as necessary on an individual level.

I believe psychological hierarchy of needs usually include sex on there as well.

Anyway leave her and dont look back you will never be happy with her.
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Kazi1212
05/05/18 7:22:31 PM
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Shes technically right. But fulfilling our sexual desires is such a significant component of overall happiness that it essentially falls under category of need if you want to live a happy life. So if your gf says wanting to live a happy life is a want, not a need you can dump her for being an ass.
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Slip-N-Slide
05/05/18 7:23:53 PM
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Omega Hunter posted...
Slip-N-Slide posted...
TheCyborgNinja posted...
By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."

Eating is necessary to keep you alive.
Breathing is a subconscious act necessary to keep you alive.

Fucking doesn't do anything to keep you alive. Humans have self awareness and don't have to cater to every biological desire, we have self control.

Comparing those things is stupid.


Reproduction is literally necessary for the species to not die out. If it is necessary on a population level then it can be argued as necessary on an individual level.

I believe psychological hierarchy of needs usually include sex on there as well.

Anyway leave her and dont look back you will never be happy with her.

Not saying sex isn't important. Just that comparing the desire for sex to the necessity to eat and breathe is stupid.
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 7:25:21 PM
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She said has romantic feelings for me and finds me physically attractive but she doesn't feel the need for sex.
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Kazi1212
05/05/18 7:26:46 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
She said has romantic feelings for me and finds me physically attractive but she doesn't feel the need for sex.


Then she may not be for you if you arent asexual yourself or are fine with that sort of relationship
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C_Pain
05/05/18 7:27:17 PM
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that sucks
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Big_Nabendu
05/05/18 7:28:59 PM
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Jodi Barns is taking care of her
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MyBroTierno
05/05/18 7:34:47 PM
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TheCyborgNinja posted...
By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."


The species as a whole will continue to exist even if you aren't getting sex.
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Raikuro
05/05/18 7:38:01 PM
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So she should be cool with you banging other chicks if sex doesn't matter to her.
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MikeGesicki
05/05/18 7:38:11 PM
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Food is a need.

That doesnt mean someone will feed you.

Sex is a need.

That doesnt mean a woman will have sex with you.

Everything in life is earned. The word loser is for people who dont make adjustments in life. Winners dont make excuses for getting results that they arent happy with.
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Dyinglegacy
05/05/18 7:38:30 PM
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Oh, man. Gamefaqs is nitpicking a comment.
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TheCyborgNinja
05/05/18 8:01:30 PM
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Slip-N-Slide posted...
TheCyborgNinja posted...
By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."

Eating is necessary to keep you alive.
Breathing is a subconscious act necessary to keep you alive.

Fucking doesn't do anything to keep you alive. Humans have self awareness and don't have to cater to every biological desire, we have self control.

Comparing those things is stupid.

Can you even fucking read? I clearly defined it as a means to continue the species. If that isn't a necessity to you, you're beyond anyone's help and may as well go away.
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Calculus
05/05/18 8:07:22 PM
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Does she at least like to cuddle though?
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RoboLaserGandhi
05/05/18 8:07:31 PM
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Women in general are asexual.
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 8:09:17 PM
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Calculus posted...
Does she at least like to cuddle though?

Yeah.
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Calculus
05/05/18 8:10:06 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
Calculus posted...
Does she at least like to cuddle though?

Yeah.


Well thats better than nothing I guess.

Is she fine with you seeking out whores and fwb?
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 8:11:41 PM
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Calculus posted...
Duncanwii posted...
Calculus posted...
Does she at least like to cuddle though?

Yeah.


Well thats better than nothing I guess.

Is she fine with you seeking out whores and fwb?

I told her I talk to girls on here and she said she's fine with it as long as I'm not flirting with them. So no I don't think she'd like it much if I screwed other girls.
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Slip-N-Slide
05/05/18 8:12:16 PM
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TheCyborgNinja posted...
Slip-N-Slide posted...
TheCyborgNinja posted...
By that logic, eating and breathing are "a want not a need." The human body, without a defect making it feel otherwise, is highly motivated to reproduce. Anything that is mandatory for a species to continue to exist doesn't fall under "want."

Eating is necessary to keep you alive.
Breathing is a subconscious act necessary to keep you alive.

Fucking doesn't do anything to keep you alive. Humans have self awareness and don't have to cater to every biological desire, we have self control.

Comparing those things is stupid.

Can you even fucking read? I clearly defined it as a means to continue the species. If that isn't a necessity to you, you're beyond anyone's help and may as well go away.

For the purpose of your own immediate life, breathing and eating are literal necessities for your survival.
You're not going to drop dead from a lack of sex.

Comparing the two as being needs in the same way as each other is dumb as shit.
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Leanaunfurled
05/05/18 8:14:26 PM
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While she's right in that it's a want and not a need, that's really tactless of her to say to you. Sex is still important for the majority of people and it's wrong of her to shame you for that.

This is also, imo, a dealbreaker kind of thing unless she's willing to indulge your desires. Which plenty of asexuals do, with some asexuals even enjoying it still in various capacities.
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Thrillwell
05/05/18 8:16:19 PM
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Chad: Yeh, just tell him some shit, cause this my pussy now.
GF: Yes, Daddy!
GF's Dad: Did you call me pumpkin?
GF: No Daddy!
Chad: What do you mean no?
GF: I wasn't talking to you daddy!
GF's Dad walks in
GF's Dad: Chad! My man! Don't hurt your throwing arm now! You 2 kids have fun!
Chad: Yeh.

meanwhile TC eating hot pockets
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 8:17:07 PM
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Thrillwell posted...
Chad: Yeh, just tell him some shit, cause this my pussy now.
GF: Yes, Daddy!
GF's Dad: Did you call me pumpkin?
GF: No Daddy!
Chad: What do you mean no?
GF: I wasn't talking to you daddy!
GF's Dad walks in
GF's Dad: Chad! My man! Don't hurt your throwing arm now! You 2 kids have fun!
Chad: Yeh.

meanwhile TC eating hot pockets

I don't like Hot Pockets.
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Zodd3224
05/05/18 8:19:27 PM
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Yeah, I couldnt live with someone like that
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Lathissamus
05/05/18 8:20:53 PM
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Punch her in the throat and tell her there's more where that came from if she don't start fucking.
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fjb
05/05/18 8:21:14 PM
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Time to call it quits
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Tappor
05/05/18 8:21:56 PM
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Lathissamus posted...

Umm...
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catboy0_0
05/05/18 8:22:52 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
"thats a want not a need, there's a difference."

dump her. whenever a girl say this about your feelings/etc, it's all downhill from there
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02fran
05/05/18 8:31:34 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
So my girlfriend said she's sexually attracted to me.
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Master_Bass
05/05/18 8:32:26 PM
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Tappor posted...
Lathissamus posted...

Umm...

Yeah, what the hell? Is this some reference we're not getting?
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catboy0_0
05/05/18 8:32:52 PM
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MikeGesicki posted...
Food is a need.

That doesnt mean someone will feed you.

Sex is a need.

That doesnt mean a woman will have sex with you.

Everything in life is earned. The word loser is for people who dont make adjustments in life. Winners dont make excuses for getting results that they arent happy with.

this is true
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 8:34:04 PM
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02fran posted...
Duncanwii posted...
So my girlfriend said she's sexually attracted to me.

I said she found me attractive. Apparently it wasn't the sexual kind.
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_Goggalor_
05/05/18 8:34:21 PM
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Dump her.
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AeroFlash15
05/05/18 8:35:06 PM
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Is she fine with you deeding?
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 8:44:25 PM
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I really hate my life.
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catboy0_0
05/05/18 8:45:45 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
I really hate my life.

haha me too pal
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Lathissamus
05/05/18 8:55:15 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
I really hate my life.

Why? Just dump her ass. There's billions of wahmen and you choose to let this one ruin you?
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Laserion
05/05/18 9:03:43 PM
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Would she be OK if you have sexless love with her, while having loveless sex with someone else?
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SSJCAT
05/05/18 9:07:35 PM
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Well from what youve said in other topics, she seems like shes lived a really sheltered life and has learned to think that having thoughts about sex is naughty and wrong so shes probably repressed any of those feelings perhaps even on a subconscious level.
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Dark_SilverX
05/05/18 9:08:11 PM
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Time to end it bro.
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Laserion
05/05/18 9:13:29 PM
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Duncanwii posted...
and she said"thats a want not a need, there's a difference."

All you really need is food, a place to pee/crap and a place to sleep safely. She should be able to live the hermit life, because anything else is just a want.
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Duncanwii
05/05/18 9:20:55 PM
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Even if she is a bit tactless, she's my best friend. If we break up Id have to break contact, I dont think i csn handlw thast right now.
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