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Pain_king 03/20/18 8:03:57 PM #1: |
I guess just blowing off steam here. Weve been together 4 years woulda been 5 in May. Her sister is pregnant so its brought up the kids thing again. Which was always a on and off thing for her. Lately shes focused on her future.
Finished school and looking for her career and all I guess she thought about us to. So when I got off of work today she basically forced me to tell her my future plans (which doesnt plan for kids) and afterward she packed some bags and left. Idk. I told her I couldnt blame her for leaving and we kept it civil. Told her I was keeping our dog though. Also told her Id give her some cash for all the things we bought together. Yes, wall of text I know. I guess just typing shit out helps me some. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ki_cat_ 03/20/18 8:06:02 PM #2: |
Your username is relevant.
Feel free to vent and talk about it. It's better to do that but don't linger too much. Move forward and learn from the experience. --- People are afraid of what they don't understand. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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-GalacticBass- 03/20/18 8:06:43 PM #3: |
That sucks, man. One of the greatest things that man can accomplish is raising a family and having children.
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Proclose 03/20/18 8:07:26 PM #4: |
Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point?
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ShotgunSilencer 03/20/18 8:08:07 PM #5: |
Thats rough. But at least you both acted like adults about it.
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zinezinzadan 03/20/18 8:08:25 PM #6: |
You shouldnt have given her money. She chose to leave you. She knew well in advance you didnt want kids. Problems dont magically get solved. Im a cynical person.
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Lost_All_Senses 03/20/18 8:08:43 PM #7: |
You handled it better than 99% of men. In the end it was impossible to keep both you guys happy.
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REMercsChamp 03/20/18 8:10:07 PM #9: |
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Pain_king 03/20/18 8:10:09 PM #10: |
Ki_cat_ posted...
Your username is relevant. Thanks man I appreciate it. -GalacticBass- posted... That sucks, man. One of the greatest things that man can accomplish is raising a family and having children. I know. But Im 28 already and kids has never been a priority of mine. Definitely respect the people who do it though. Always been a selfish guy with my money though lol. Unfortunately I like to live day by day going out and doing/buying what I want. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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King Rial 03/20/18 8:10:33 PM #11: |
Damn. That sucks but that was also inevitable, I guess. If you'll never want kids and she'll always want them. Neither of you would have changed your mind and one of you would have been resentful of the other, leading to both of you being miserable in the long run.
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smoke_break 03/20/18 8:11:08 PM #12: |
Sounds like it had to happen, tbh. The kids conversation didn't come up sooner? 4 years is a long time.
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thronedfire2 03/20/18 8:11:46 PM #13: |
that sucks, but the kids thing is usually a dealbreaker if people disagree
good that you kept it civil though in case you ever change your mind and she's still single --- I could see you, but I couldn't hear you You were holding your hat in the breeze Turning away from me In this moment you were stolen... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Pain_king 03/20/18 8:12:56 PM #14: |
Proclose posted...
Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point? Actually didnt. Told her before I didnt want any and she had seemed ok with it. I blame it on her sister having a baby next week. zinezinzadan posted... You shouldnt have given her money. She chose to leave you. She knew well in advance you didnt want kids. Problems dont magically get solved. Im a cynical person. I understand but Im a fair person. Or try to be. Im in more of a better situation than she. Plus our dog was gonna be half of it anyway lol. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ultima Dragon 03/20/18 8:13:07 PM #15: |
People are extremely unlikely to budge on issues such as having kids (or not). It's best to get those out of the way early on whenever possible. It's just rough when you've been together for so many years. You guys have invested a lot of time into each other and are extremely comfortable/familiar with one another being there. Hopefully it ends up working out for the best for both of you.
I'll probably end up in a similar situation with the girl I've been seeing on and off for a couple years. She definitely seems to want to have kids at some point but I can't see myself ever wanting to. I've told her that before too and even suggested we break up, but she doesn't want to. I don't know if she thinks she'll convince me or what, haha. --- "It's Canada, their idea of rioting is a half-muttered swear word." - deathbeforelife ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Omnislasher 03/20/18 8:15:49 PM #16: |
it only becomes a hot issue when they get jealous because of a friend/relative's pregnancy.
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DarkChozoGhost 03/20/18 8:15:52 PM #17: |
Do you think you'll be able to find someone else anytime soon?
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Omnislasher 03/20/18 8:17:23 PM #19: |
fuck you buddy what do you know
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Pain_king 03/20/18 8:19:27 PM #20: |
Thanks for all the responses guys it truly helps to just bs. The only people who know are my parents and my best friends.
As for the find someone else question Im honestly not gonna be looking. In about a week or 2 I may throw some messages out there to old girls I knew but definitely no relationship. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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thronedfire2 03/20/18 8:19:49 PM #21: |
Omnislasher posted...
it only becomes a hot issue when they get jealous because of a friend/relative's pregnancy. uh it's actually pretty common. maybe 'jealous' isn't the right word edit: unless you meant she was being irrational, not TC --- I could see you, but I couldn't hear you You were holding your hat in the breeze Turning away from me In this moment you were stolen... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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kingdrake2 03/20/18 8:21:15 PM #23: |
thronedfire2 posted...
Omnislasher posted...it only becomes a hot issue when they get jealous because of a friend/relative's pregnancy. might be envy but if that isn't it, i applaud TC for not trying to destroy his EX's property. someone i know kinda lost it ended up taking it out on my neighbor's car windows (i don't like the neighbor now because he lets his dog's off the leash and is even more paranoid than me). --- I'm pretty much Stu from Rugrats making pudding at 4 in morning because I've lost control of my life - Polycosm ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Omnislasher 03/20/18 8:23:13 PM #24: |
JustMyOpinion posted...
Omnislasher posted...fuck you buddy what do you know do you need to talk to someone about why this is touching such a nerve with you? i literally just experienced what i described in my post days ago ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Omnislasher 03/20/18 8:25:58 PM #26: |
trolls are dumb af these days..
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Pain_king 03/20/18 8:30:11 PM #27: |
Guys guys guys look everyone has their own experience. There isnt a right or wrong answer.
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HotMaladorianAI 03/20/18 8:36:25 PM #28: |
Were you up front about this position you have on kids years ago though? If you were kinda quiet about it, something like this...isnt inevitable, but its eminently possible, maybe even probable for a girl who Im guessing is in her mid 20s at most (going off the op).
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HotMaladorianAI 03/20/18 8:39:39 PM #29: |
Pain_king posted...
Proclose posted...Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point? If she was in her young 20s at the time you gotta take that into context. --- I find your lack of faith disturbing ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Pain_king 03/20/18 8:51:49 PM #30: |
HotMaladorianAI posted...
Pain_king posted...Proclose posted...Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point? She was, and I know I like I said I wasnt mad. I mean Im definitely upset but Im not mad at her. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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frozenshock 03/20/18 8:54:40 PM #31: |
I was in a similar situation once, except I did want kids.
It was more like... she wants kids now and i want kids in 1 or 2 years since i want to graduate first. It was pretty shitty, tbh. --- I don't hate people, people hate me. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CharlesBronson 03/20/18 8:55:59 PM #32: |
she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol
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JBaLLEN66 03/20/18 8:56:08 PM #33: |
Good choice, have kids when youre ready
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Pain_king 03/20/18 9:50:52 PM #34: |
CharlesBronson posted...
she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol Doesnt matter. Im alone cuz I wanna grieve man. Youll understand one day. Lol. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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zinezinzadan 03/20/18 10:01:11 PM #35: |
Pain_king posted...
CharlesBronson posted...she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol The sad thing is Charles is right.. in my personal experience, women are so quick to get laid after a breakup. As soon as its over, they somehow find themselves sleeping with some guy three days later because theyre in sooo much pain and sooo overwhelmed so oh boy what can they do to make their minds forget about you I think its bogus. Theres been times when a man needs a week to cool some steam, think things over; then you approach the girl and find out she banged someone twice during the week after the breakup. --- i7 6700k @ 4.0GHz / Z170 Extreme 6 SUPER / EVGA GTX1080 / SSD 850 Evo / 2TB HDD / Cooler Master Hyper 2012 EVO ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Resolution 03/20/18 10:05:14 PM #36: |
CharlesBronson posted...
she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol Anyone who unironically says "Chad" hasn't seen pussy since pussy had them. --- "I eat p****** like you in the pit every show I go to" - ZombiePelican ... Copied to Clipboard!
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stoltenberg11 03/20/18 10:05:22 PM #37: |
-GalacticBass- posted...
That sucks, man. One of the greatest things that man can accomplish is raising a family and having children. no its not --- You're such a boring characterless entity. Try getting laid once in a while and maybe you'll have friends and find out what a "joke" is. - derrate ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Vita_Aeterna 03/20/18 10:11:09 PM #38: |
If you're not planning to have kids at age 28, when the hell is it gonna happen?
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Resolution 03/20/18 10:12:18 PM #39: |
Vita_Aeterna posted...
If you're not planning to have kids at age 28, when the hell is it gonna happen? Is this a serious question --- "I eat p****** like you in the pit every show I go to" - ZombiePelican ... Copied to Clipboard!
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frozenshock 03/20/18 10:13:10 PM #40: |
Vita_Aeterna posted...
If you're not planning to have kids at age 28, when the hell is it gonna happen? Guys don't have the same clock that goes tick tick that girls do --- I don't hate people, people hate me. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Vita_Aeterna 03/20/18 10:43:12 PM #41: |
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Duwstai 03/20/18 11:38:47 PM #42: |
You're taking it very well
...maybe too well. --- balls ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MFBKBass5 03/20/18 11:46:27 PM #43: |
Damn dude. Sorry to hear that, breakups can be so rough :/
But hey, if it wasnt meant to be, it wasnt meant to be. If she wanted kids and the whole 9 yards, and you dont, theres no need to drag out a relationship and make it miserable to the point where yall hate each other because of some failed goal you had. See the positive. And youll get through it. --- !!!!!!!!! http://i.imgur.com/DzJSPWA.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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