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Pain_king
03/20/18 8:03:57 PM
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I guess just blowing off steam here. Weve been together 4 years woulda been 5 in May. Her sister is pregnant so its brought up the kids thing again. Which was always a on and off thing for her. Lately shes focused on her future.

Finished school and looking for her career and all I guess she thought about us to. So when I got off of work today she basically forced me to tell her my future plans (which doesnt plan for kids) and afterward she packed some bags and left.

Idk. I told her I couldnt blame her for leaving and we kept it civil. Told her I was keeping our dog though. Also told her Id give her some cash for all the things we bought together.

Yes, wall of text I know. I guess just typing shit out helps me some.
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Ki_cat_
03/20/18 8:06:02 PM
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Your username is relevant.

Feel free to vent and talk about it. It's better to do that but don't linger too much. Move forward and learn from the experience.
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-GalacticBass-
03/20/18 8:06:43 PM
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That sucks, man. One of the greatest things that man can accomplish is raising a family and having children.
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Proclose
03/20/18 8:07:26 PM
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Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point?
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ShotgunSilencer
03/20/18 8:08:07 PM
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Thats rough. But at least you both acted like adults about it.
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zinezinzadan
03/20/18 8:08:25 PM
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You shouldnt have given her money. She chose to leave you. She knew well in advance you didnt want kids. Problems dont magically get solved. Im a cynical person.
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Lost_All_Senses
03/20/18 8:08:43 PM
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You handled it better than 99% of men. In the end it was impossible to keep both you guys happy.
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REMercsChamp
03/20/18 8:10:07 PM
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Sorry man. Time heals all wounds.
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Pain_king
03/20/18 8:10:09 PM
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Ki_cat_ posted...
Your username is relevant.

Feel free to vent and talk about it. It's better to do that but don't linger too much. Move forward and learn from the experience.


Thanks man I appreciate it.

-GalacticBass- posted...
That sucks, man. One of the greatest things that man can accomplish is raising a family and having children.


I know. But Im 28 already and kids has never been a priority of mine. Definitely respect the people who do it though. Always been a selfish guy with my money though lol.

Unfortunately I like to live day by day going out and doing/buying what I want.
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King Rial
03/20/18 8:10:33 PM
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Damn. That sucks but that was also inevitable, I guess. If you'll never want kids and she'll always want them. Neither of you would have changed your mind and one of you would have been resentful of the other, leading to both of you being miserable in the long run.

Here's to better days in the future with someone who wants what you want.

Time.
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smoke_break
03/20/18 8:11:08 PM
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Sounds like it had to happen, tbh. The kids conversation didn't come up sooner? 4 years is a long time.
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thronedfire2
03/20/18 8:11:46 PM
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that sucks, but the kids thing is usually a dealbreaker if people disagree

good that you kept it civil though in case you ever change your mind and she's still single
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Pain_king
03/20/18 8:12:56 PM
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Proclose posted...
Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point?


Actually didnt. Told her before I didnt want any and she had seemed ok with it. I blame it on her sister having a baby next week. zinezinzadan posted...
You shouldnt have given her money. She chose to leave you. She knew well in advance you didnt want kids. Problems dont magically get solved. Im a cynical person.


I understand but Im a fair person. Or try to be. Im in more of a better situation than she. Plus our dog was gonna be half of it anyway lol.
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Ultima Dragon
03/20/18 8:13:07 PM
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People are extremely unlikely to budge on issues such as having kids (or not). It's best to get those out of the way early on whenever possible. It's just rough when you've been together for so many years. You guys have invested a lot of time into each other and are extremely comfortable/familiar with one another being there. Hopefully it ends up working out for the best for both of you.

I'll probably end up in a similar situation with the girl I've been seeing on and off for a couple years. She definitely seems to want to have kids at some point but I can't see myself ever wanting to. I've told her that before too and even suggested we break up, but she doesn't want to. I don't know if she thinks she'll convince me or what, haha.
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Omnislasher
03/20/18 8:15:49 PM
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it only becomes a hot issue when they get jealous because of a friend/relative's pregnancy.

the irrationality is fucking annoying
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DarkChozoGhost
03/20/18 8:15:52 PM
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Do you think you'll be able to find someone else anytime soon?
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Omnislasher
03/20/18 8:17:23 PM
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fuck you buddy what do you know
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Pain_king
03/20/18 8:19:27 PM
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Thanks for all the responses guys it truly helps to just bs. The only people who know are my parents and my best friends.

As for the find someone else question Im honestly not gonna be looking. In about a week or 2 I may throw some messages out there to old girls I knew but definitely no relationship.
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thronedfire2
03/20/18 8:19:49 PM
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Omnislasher posted...
it only becomes a hot issue when they get jealous because of a friend/relative's pregnancy.

the irrationality is fucking annoying


uh it's actually pretty common. maybe 'jealous' isn't the right word

edit: unless you meant she was being irrational, not TC
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kingdrake2
03/20/18 8:21:15 PM
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thronedfire2 posted...
Omnislasher posted...
it only becomes a hot issue when they get jealous because of a friend/relative's pregnancy.

the irrationality is fucking annoying


uh it's actually pretty common. maybe 'jealous' isn't the right word

edit: unless you meant she was being irrational, not TC


might be envy but if that isn't it, i applaud TC for not trying to destroy his EX's property. someone i know kinda lost it ended up taking it out on my neighbor's car windows (i don't like the neighbor now because he lets his dog's off the leash and is even more paranoid than me).
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Omnislasher
03/20/18 8:23:13 PM
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JustMyOpinion posted...
Omnislasher posted...
fuck you buddy what do you know


You know nothing about women. Walk away before you humiliate yourself any further.


do you need to talk to someone about why this is touching such a nerve with you?

i literally just experienced what i described in my post days ago
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Omnislasher
03/20/18 8:25:58 PM
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trolls are dumb af these days..
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Pain_king
03/20/18 8:30:11 PM
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Guys guys guys look everyone has their own experience. There isnt a right or wrong answer.

*cracks open a beer*
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HotMaladorianAI
03/20/18 8:36:25 PM
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Were you up front about this position you have on kids years ago though? If you were kinda quiet about it, something like this...isnt inevitable, but its eminently possible, maybe even probable for a girl who Im guessing is in her mid 20s at most (going off the op).
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HotMaladorianAI
03/20/18 8:39:39 PM
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Pain_king posted...
Proclose posted...
Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point?


Actually didnt. Told her before I didnt want any and she had seemed ok with it. I blame it on her sister having a baby next week. zinezinzadan posted...
You shouldnt have given her money. She chose to leave you. She knew well in advance you didnt want kids. Problems dont magically get solved. Im a cynical person.


I understand but Im a fair person. Or try to be. Im in more of a better situation than she. Plus our dog was gonna be half of it anyway lol.


If she was in her young 20s at the time you gotta take that into context.
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Pain_king
03/20/18 8:51:49 PM
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HotMaladorianAI posted...
Pain_king posted...
Proclose posted...
Sorry, man. Did you have a feeling this was coming at some point?


Actually didnt. Told her before I didnt want any and she had seemed ok with it. I blame it on her sister having a baby next week. zinezinzadan posted...
You shouldnt have given her money. She chose to leave you. She knew well in advance you didnt want kids. Problems dont magically get solved. Im a cynical person.


I understand but Im a fair person. Or try to be. Im in more of a better situation than she. Plus our dog was gonna be half of it anyway lol.


If she was in her young 20s at the time you gotta take that into context.


She was, and I know I like I said I wasnt mad. I mean Im definitely upset but Im not mad at her.
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frozenshock
03/20/18 8:54:40 PM
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I was in a similar situation once, except I did want kids.

It was more like... she wants kids now and i want kids in 1 or 2 years since i want to graduate first. It was pretty shitty, tbh.
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CharlesBronson
03/20/18 8:55:59 PM
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she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol
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JBaLLEN66
03/20/18 8:56:08 PM
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Good choice, have kids when youre ready
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Pain_king
03/20/18 9:50:52 PM
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CharlesBronson posted...
she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol


Doesnt matter. Im alone cuz I wanna grieve man. Youll understand one day. Lol.
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zinezinzadan
03/20/18 10:01:11 PM
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Pain_king posted...
CharlesBronson posted...
she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol


Doesnt matter. Im alone cuz I wanna grieve man. Youll understand one day. Lol.

The sad thing is Charles is right.. in my personal experience, women are so quick to get laid after a breakup. As soon as its over, they somehow find themselves sleeping with some guy three days later because theyre in sooo much pain and sooo overwhelmed so oh boy what can they do to make their minds forget about you
I think its bogus. Theres been times when a man needs a week to cool some steam, think things over; then you approach the girl and find out she banged someone twice during the week after the breakup.
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Resolution
03/20/18 10:05:14 PM
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CharlesBronson posted...
she's being pounded by Chad tonight while you're alone posting on gamefaqs lol


Anyone who unironically says "Chad" hasn't seen pussy since pussy had them.
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stoltenberg11
03/20/18 10:05:22 PM
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-GalacticBass- posted...
That sucks, man. One of the greatest things that man can accomplish is raising a family and having children.

no its not
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Vita_Aeterna
03/20/18 10:11:09 PM
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If you're not planning to have kids at age 28, when the hell is it gonna happen?
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Resolution
03/20/18 10:12:18 PM
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Vita_Aeterna posted...
If you're not planning to have kids at age 28, when the hell is it gonna happen?


Is this a serious question
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frozenshock
03/20/18 10:13:10 PM
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Vita_Aeterna posted...
If you're not planning to have kids at age 28, when the hell is it gonna happen?


Guys don't have the same clock that goes tick tick that girls do
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Vita_Aeterna
03/20/18 10:43:12 PM
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Duwstai
03/20/18 11:38:47 PM
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You're taking it very well

...maybe too well.
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MFBKBass5
03/20/18 11:46:27 PM
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Damn dude. Sorry to hear that, breakups can be so rough :/

But hey, if it wasnt meant to be, it wasnt meant to be. If she wanted kids and the whole 9 yards, and you dont, theres no need to drag out a relationship and make it miserable to the point where yall hate each other because of some failed goal you had.

See the positive. And youll get through it.
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