Current Events > Not trolling. Seriously considering leaving my wife

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Trust is a very important part of marriage. Why not try to work things out instead of just giving up? When you say "fighting", what does that mean? When you have disagreements, how do you go about resolving them?

That's the thing, too many couples fight to win, and are far too selfish. Selfishness is THE ONLY reason that marriages end. So don't fight to win. Fight for resolution. Be the first to admit where you were wrong. Don't expect apologies. Forgive her even if she doesn't apologize. Put yourself in her shoes, and try to understand why she does what she does.

I've been married for 3 years, and my wife and I are still in honeymoon phase. We probably will be our entire lives. It's not that we don't have arguments and disagreements, it's just that we know how to quickly resolve issues we have without them getting out of hand. We are open and honest, and we both trust each other completely.

I don't expect TC to absorb or follow any of this. Few people accept the reality, that they're just too selfish to have a happy long-term romantic relationship. Until you consider that and change it, you're not going to do well in the long run.
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NOM posted...

That_Happened posted...

NOM posted...

Moral of the story: Don't get married, especially if you're a guy. Women will eventually get bored of you and cheat. They cannot be trusted.

Another healthy internet user.

Women do this enough to justify my line of thought.

Do. Not. Trust.

Men cheat all the time...
You're not thinking in reality.
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You getting any TC?
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Hope you got a good lawyer to beat the alimony and child custody. It's gonna be a tough fight.

Life's too damn short to put up with bullshit.

But ask yourself a few questions Toon:

Would you truly be better off leaving her?

How would your kids take it?

What is causing these issues? Are you sure she is the root of all your problems?

Would you be happier if you worked through it?
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Since when is tc a troll?

So basically she is saying that she is right now matter what and you have to deal with it? I don't know how to deal with that situation because it doesn't sound like talking through it would help much.
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Do you still love her? I think that's important and should direct how you take action.

If yes, exhaust all options to try and find common ground. Maybe therapy together as suggested.

If no, maybe you're looking for us to validate a decision you've already made, that you want out. Nothing wrong with that. Just think before you take any harsh action.
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LordRazziel posted...

NOM posted...

That_Happened posted...

NOM posted...

Moral of the story: Don't get married, especially if you're a guy. Women will eventually get bored of you and cheat. They cannot be trusted.

Another healthy internet user.

Women do this enough to justify my line of thought.

Do. Not. Trust.

Men cheat all the time...
You're not thinking in reality.

Yeah. More accurate that people are just fucking shit. His original message of don't get married seems like good advice though
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Girls never forget. Remember that. Their memories are good cause the experiences we may brush off, to them cuts deep and hurts emotionally. so anything and usually everything you did to get where the relationship/marriage is now is from the sum of "what you did." You ask what did you do and where this all coming from and she tells you from her point of view.

That being said... how do you fight? As previously mentioned, do you fight and argue to win or to acknowledge her issue? Are you dismissing her accounts of what happened and sorta bullying your point? Is all you both do in the marriage met with confrontation? Even the smallest issues get into arguement. Why? Is she constantly trying to prove herself to you?

I agree with the others here. Do the marriage right and exhaust all alternatives and options before you end your marriage. You both need to seek counseling for your marriage. A professional counselor can be the mediator to your problems until you both can work it all out on your own.

So part of solving any problem is acknowledge the problem. From there you can make progressive steps to identify, process, monitor, and maintain whatever issue the marriage experiences. Its better to work as a team than solo it. Marriage is a team. Trust that you both want whats best for yout marriage.
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Hasn't been a good couple of months. She doesn't trust me anymore and I've done nothing to earn that.

What the fuck am I supposed to do? She won't talk to me
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Fucking divorce her dude. She's probably getting a train run on her behind your back.
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