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Nomadic View 05/11/17 2:06:53 PM #51: |
Raikuro posted...
It's funny how many people treat marriage like a sex contract lol It is a contract, with that being one of the stipulations. If you don't like it...don't enter into the contract. --- {}\\{}(o){}\\//{}//=\\{})){}(< \\//{}{{-{}//\\{} {}xxxxxxxx{};;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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AugustAdoulin 05/11/17 2:09:15 PM #52: |
Marriage is about two people joining together in love. :o To share everything with each other. If you're getting dick on the side you're soiling the meaning of the agreement.
If all you want to do is whore around then don't get married. This isn't complicated. Nothing wrong with whoring around, but don't try to dress it up as an "open marriage." There's no such thing... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darkman124 05/11/17 2:10:55 PM #53: |
to be clear the document that makes a marriage legal is literally a contract
one of the fundamental understandings of that contract is sexual fidelity, the terms of which are up to the participants the problem people have with this article is that it presents a positive view of situations in which the terms were changed because one party demanded it and the other submitted, not situations in which both parties excitedly embraced the situation --- And when the hourglass has run out, eternity asks you about only one thing: whether you have lived in despair or not. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Suspiria 05/11/17 2:18:43 PM #54: |
Stopped reading at The New York Times.
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Anarchy_Juiblex 05/11/17 2:20:36 PM #55: |
While there is no literal mystical bond, even our courts recognize the importance and sacred tradition. Is there any valid reason you shouldn't be compelled to witness against your spouse? Fuck no.
But our society absolutely recognizes and respects the bond. --- "Tolerance of intolerance is cowardice." ~ Ayaan Hirsi Ali ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kanaya413 05/13/17 4:35:36 AM #57: |
No cucking
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Darmik 05/15/17 2:24:55 AM #59: |
Not everyone looks at sex the same way guys. If it works out for them, good on them. Sex isn't always about love.
I'd ask if you guys fall in love with every fling you've had but that seems to be a pointless question here. --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:36:42 AM #61: |
FrisbeeDude posted...
The Admiral posted...What a pathetic article. Amazing that there is actually a movement to justify being an emasculated pussy nowadays. So? It doesn't matter if you're attractive to other people after marriage. If you're a man, don't fucking cheat on your girl, and don't let others have your girl. It's so fucking simple, but some people are so keen on defending literal douchebaggery --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ClockworkHare 05/17/17 1:37:44 AM #62: |
Romulox28 posted...
what the fuck is the point of getting married if you are going to have an open marriage lmao As far as legal benefits, you have a fair point, actually. Might as well just make the benefits available to any form of relationship and save time rofl. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. http://ultraimg.com/images/2016/11/11/xWp0.gif http://ultraimg.com/images/2016/11/11/xWpz.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 05/17/17 1:38:32 AM #63: |
legendarylemur posted...
FrisbeeDude posted...The Admiral posted...What a pathetic article. Amazing that there is actually a movement to justify being an emasculated pussy nowadays. If it's an open marriage they're not cheating. --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:39:24 AM #64: |
Darmik posted...
Not everyone looks at sex the same way guys. If it works out for them, good on them. Sex isn't always about love. But this is about marriage. It's not some hookup with extra benefits lol. If you're married, generally it's to start a family. I wouldn't want my kids in an environment where open marriage is being practiced. God, it would mess them up. I think if one considered some open relationship, they're obviously not ready for marriage yet --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Leanaunfurled 05/17/17 1:41:00 AM #65: |
The majority of you guys are close-minded as HELL rofl. Jesus, society has far to go. If it's agreed upon with the couple in question, open relationships/open marriages are fine and it's no one else's business but those involved.
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legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:41:01 AM #66: |
Darmik posted...
legendarylemur posted...FrisbeeDude posted...The Admiral posted...What a pathetic article. Amazing that there is actually a movement to justify being an emasculated pussy nowadays. Actually, if you think about it, it's a form of giving up a large aspect of being faithful to your partner. It IS cheating. It's just... allowed cheating --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt ... Copied to Clipboard!
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legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:42:46 AM #67: |
Leanaunfurled posted...
The majority of you guys are close-minded as HELL rofl. Jesus, society has far to go. If it's agreed upon with the couple in question, open relationships/open marriages are fine and it's no one else's business but those involved. Actually, if a family has kids and are still practicing open marriage, it directly affects me, because my kids will learn from other kids with such families. The idea of family is largely prevalent on the society, and such a mindset is the business of everybody who lives in that society --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 05/17/17 1:42:53 AM #68: |
legendarylemur posted...
Darmik posted...Not everyone looks at sex the same way guys. If it works out for them, good on them. Sex isn't always about love. Why would your kids know about your private sex life? Again your standards for what a marriage is doesn't apply to everyone. Your standards for sex don't apply to everyone. For some people sex is a job even. If a husband had a threesome with his wife and her friend would he be a cheater? No. What people do to spice up their sex life is up to them. If they're happy, honest and not abusing other people it really doesn't matter what that entails. --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 05/17/17 1:44:46 AM #69: |
legendarylemur posted...
Leanaunfurled posted...The majority of you guys are close-minded as HELL rofl. Jesus, society has far to go. If it's agreed upon with the couple in question, open relationships/open marriages are fine and it's no one else's business but those involved. Do you know all about your parents sex life or something? Is that where you drew your inspiration from? legendarylemur posted... Actually, if you think about it, it's a form of giving up a large aspect of being faithful to your partner. It IS cheating. It's just... allowed cheating Being faithful to your partner is being honest with them and being loyal to their needs and wants. What that entails is up to you and your partner. So no. It's not cheating if it's allowed. --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Leanaunfurled 05/17/17 1:46:08 AM #70: |
legendarylemur posted...
Leanaunfurled posted...The majority of you guys are close-minded as HELL rofl. Jesus, society has far to go. If it's agreed upon with the couple in question, open relationships/open marriages are fine and it's no one else's business but those involved. Your kids will learn...what, exactly? Different styles of relationships that may or may not even be for them and open communication with their partner? How terrible, indeed. Your extreme conservative nonsense is more harmful to kids than anything else. And I legitimately laughed out loud at "it's cheating it's just allowed cheating." Boy, please. --- Currently Playing: Trails in the Sky SC http://i.imgur.com/mfuN9AI.png http://i.imgur.com/ZYPfDmJ.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:51:11 AM #71: |
Darmik posted...
legendarylemur posted...Darmik posted...Not everyone looks at sex the same way guys. If it works out for them, good on them. Sex isn't always about love. Practicing some shady alternate sex life away from your kid's eyes? Lol... I mean maybe I guess I'm the weird guy but... that honestly sounds even worse. This is just a discussion about generality though isn't it? The article suggests open marriage is happier marriage as if speaking generally. So I think we should leave the fetishists out of the discussion. The thing about family, the closeness of a parent does very directly affect kids. The United States is rife with actual data comparing the difference between children growing up in a broken family and those growing up in a stable family. A sex life outside of the bond between a parent, no matter how jaded you are, results in some degree of rift, and undeniably, a child growing up in that environment cannot be considered to be in the stable family spectrum. I mean I wish I could post data, but it's fucking late, and it's been freaking years and years since I took some psychology class, but I think what I say isn't something totally out there. An open relationship is giving up on family to some extent. It's a selfish action, and an incredibly selfish one at that. I'd say sometimes it's ok to be selfish, but I personally place a huge emphasis on what's good for the children, and being selfish when growing a family is the last thing that you'd want to happen. It's not a good structure for family in general --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ClockworkHare 05/17/17 1:52:23 AM #72: |
It's cute that they threw in a M/M couple, like there's any growing dispute within gay male communities about open relationships...which are practically a standard rofl.
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legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:56:03 AM #73: |
Leanaunfurled posted...
legendarylemur posted...Leanaunfurled posted...The majority of you guys are close-minded as HELL rofl. Jesus, society has far to go. If it's agreed upon with the couple in question, open relationships/open marriages are fine and it's no one else's business but those involved. Ok, just keep your kids away from my kids, and don't get your cheating ass on some high fucking horse and call me a boy. Just remember, US has like what... 50% divorce rates? Other countries have less than 10% on average? Gee, it's almost like we're not normal --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 05/17/17 1:58:51 AM #74: |
legendarylemur posted...
Practicing some shady alternate sex life away from your kid's eyes? Lol... I mean maybe I guess I'm the weird guy but... that honestly sounds even worse. This is just a discussion about generality though isn't it? The article suggests open marriage is happier marriage as if speaking generally. So I think we should leave the fetishists out of the discussion. Your sex life should be away from your kids lives regardless. Why would we leave fetishes out of the discussion? And no I don't think most people could handle an open marriage. Doesn't mean I'm going to demonize people who make it work. 'Shady' because consenting adults are having sex with each other? Please. legendarylemur posted... The thing about family, the closeness of a parent does very directly affect kids. The United States is rife with actual data comparing the difference between children growing up in a broken family and those growing up in a stable family. A sex life outside of the bond between a parent, no matter how jaded you are, results in some degree of rift, and undeniably, a child growing up in that environment cannot be considered to be in the stable family spectrum. I mean I wish I could post data, but it's f***ing late, and it's been freaking years and years since I took some psychology class, but I think what I say isn't something totally out there. So you think open relationships lead to broken families just because? Your mentality for a relationship isn't the same as everyone else's. Some old church goer in Utah has vastly different expectations for what his marriage should be compared to a young couple in Los Angeles and they have vastly different expectations than some swinging couple has in Germany. Nobody is wrong. It's all due to our expectations, what we're comfortable with and how we were raised. As long as people are happy with their marriage nobody is wrong. legendarylemur posted... An open relationship is giving up on family to some extent. It's a selfish action, and an incredibly selfish one at that. I'd say sometimes it's ok to be selfish, but I personally place a huge emphasis on what's good for the children, and being selfish when growing a family is the last thing that you'd want to happen. It's not a good structure for family in general It's sex. Stop being so melodramatic. Again you're literally whining about people having consenting sexual relationships with other people. Do you think no prostitute has ever had a happy marriage? --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 05/17/17 2:00:00 AM #75: |
legendarylemur posted...
Ok, just keep your kids away from my kids, and don't get your cheating ass on some high f***ing horse and call me a boy. Just remember, US has like what... 50% divorce rates? Other countries have less than 10% on average? Gee, it's almost like we're not normal Are you naïve enough to think that the US is the only country that has extra-marital sex and open relationships? What's even the point of this post? Did all those people have open relationships? What if open relationships had better statistics than monogamous ones? --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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gamepimp12 05/17/17 2:00:11 AM #76: |
This topic is full of people equating sex to love and that's not the case for everyone.
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Leanaunfurled 05/17/17 2:03:19 AM #77: |
legendarylemur posted...
Ok, just keep your kids away from my kids, and don't get your cheating ass on some high fucking horse and call me a boy. Just remember, US has like what... 50% divorce rates? Other countries have less than 10% on average? Gee, it's almost like we're not normal lol Assuming I practice open relationships or ever would. lol Assuming I'm not just fucking open minded of other people doing something I wouldn't, because apparently that's just some goddamn crazy thought. And yes, I forgot our high divorce rate was due to rampant agreed upon polyamorous relationships. /s /s /s /s Once again, your ignorant crap is more damaging to any kids being raised than someone's private sex life. Get the hell over yourself. --- Currently Playing: Trails in the Sky SC http://i.imgur.com/mfuN9AI.png http://i.imgur.com/ZYPfDmJ.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ClockworkHare 05/17/17 2:08:19 AM #78: |
Woahh easy people, you all need to calm your angry granny panties. It's not like this topic is new. People been bitching back and forth over open relationships forever.
Love or hate em, both open and exclusive marriages are going to continue existing. Because that's what some societies want as a whole: both. No rants on CE is gonna change that. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. http://ultraimg.com/images/2016/11/11/xWp0.gif http://ultraimg.com/images/2016/11/11/xWpz.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MTRodaba2468 05/17/17 2:12:20 AM #79: |
Personally, I would not be interested in being in an open relationship. I figured out long ago that it's not for me.
That said, if another couple wants to do it (and it's a mutual decision, not a case of one partner pushing the other into it), and they're able to make it work, more power to them. Marriage (and relationships in general) shouldn't have to fit one particular mold. --- "You need a hobby. I suggest sticking forks in your eyes."-DJosef http://www.facebook.com/mtrunplugged ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dragonblade01 05/17/17 2:18:30 AM #80: |
If both parties are into it, who cares? If one party isn't or is coerced into it, then fuck the manipulative other party.
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Krojen 05/17/17 3:05:49 AM #81: |
Something like 80% of marriages have at least 1 unfaithful partner. It's likely higher than that because the data is relying on honest answers. So this has already been ubiquitous regardless of the openness of the marriage. Which makes sense, as I just don't think it's in human nature to settle down and only have sex with one person for several decades or til death.
Not that I think open marriages are a step in the right direction for coming to terms with the lie society has been telling itself. While it obviously works for some, I figure most of them are just emotional abuse. I don't have any answers for this. Maybe sex robot waifus/husbandos would cut that figure in half. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EdgeMaster 05/17/17 3:12:45 AM #82: |
I'm curious where you got 80% from.
Like 80% of husbands or wives cheat on their legal married partner? Or 80% of people in a marriage have cheated in a previous relationship? --- If you don't have anything nice to say, say it on the internet. ****poster Extraordinaire ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pinky0926 05/17/17 3:27:45 AM #83: |
Never ceases to amaze me how oddly puritanical CE is
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philsov 05/17/17 9:39:16 AM #84: |
Krojen posted...
Something like 80% of marriages have at least 1 unfaithful partner. It's likely higher than that because the data is relying on honest answers. So this has already been ubiquitous regardless of the openness of the marriage. Which makes sense, as I just don't think it's in human nature to settle down and only have sex with one person for several decades or til death. 80% is high, but I'd believe anything between 10 and 35%. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infidelity According to The New York Times, the most consistent data on infidelity comes from the University of Chicago's General Social Survey (GSS). Interviews with people in non-monogamous relationships since 1972 by the GSS have shown that approximately 12% of men and 7% of women admit to having had an extramarital relationship.[6] Results, however, vary year by year, and also by age-group surveyed. For example, one study conducted by the University of Washington, Seattle found slightly, or significantly higher rates of infidelity for populations under 35, or older than 60. In that study which involved 19,065 people during a 15-year period, rates of infidelity among men were found to have risen from 20 to 28%, and rates for women, 5% to 15%.[7] In more recent nationwide surveys, several researchers found that about twice as many men as women reported having an extramarital affair.[8] A survey conducted in 1990 found 2.2% of married participants reported having more than one partner during the past year. In general, national surveys conducted in the early 1990s reported that between 15-25% of married Americans reported having extramarital affairs.[9] Treas and Giesen found that people who had stronger sexual interests, more permissive sexual values, lower subjective satisfaction with their partner, weaker network ties to their partner, and greater sexual opportunities were more likely to be unfaithful.[10] Studies suggest around 30–40% of unmarried relationships and 18–20% of marriages see at least one incident of sexual infidelity. ~ legendarylemur posted... An open relationship is giving up on family to some extent. It's a selfish action, and an incredibly selfish one at that. I'd say sometimes it's ok to be selfish, but I personally place a huge emphasis on what's good for the children, and being selfish when growing a family is the last thing that you'd want to happen. It's not a good structure for family in general What if the open relationship caused more loving, thoughtful, and well behaved adults to be in the child's life? That rather than Dad disappearing for the night, Dad's friend Clarise comes over for dinner? Or, if between two childed couples, a playdate? It's no different than having nearby extended family (grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins/etc) and runs into the same range of possible influences (both good and bad). See also: trusted babysitting, someone to take kids to school/doctors/extracircular activities/etc. Open relationships aren't necessarily dad disappearing for the weekend, leaving the mom alone with the kids and all the responsibilities therein. --- Remember that I won't rest, 'til we share the same tense Just know, to me, you're better late than never again. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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coolboy11 05/17/17 9:43:25 AM #85: |
if you need to be in a "open marriage" you probably shouldn't be married at all lol
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NeonOctopus 05/17/17 9:45:03 AM #86: |
AugustAdoulin posted...
maybe if you're a cuck --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dave_is_slick 05/17/17 10:32:44 AM #87: |
coolboy11 posted...
if you need to be in a "open marriage" you probably shouldn't be married at all lol This. IDGAF if that's "puritanical" or "close-minded". --- The most relaxing version of Aquatic Ambiance I've ever heard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl61y1XM7sM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Funkydog 05/17/17 10:34:12 AM #88: |
Iodine posted...
Asherlee10 posted...I don't think there is a "one size fits all" answer here. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Leanaunfurled 05/17/17 11:30:36 AM #89: |
dave_is_slick posted...
coolboy11 posted...if you need to be in a "open marriage" you probably shouldn't be married at all lol Gotta love people who are willfully ignorant for no reason. /s --- Currently Playing: Trails in the Sky SC http://i.imgur.com/mfuN9AI.png http://i.imgur.com/ZYPfDmJ.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Damn_Underscore 05/17/17 2:07:13 PM #90: |
You have to shake your head at women who are pro-open marriage, because they are the ones who benefit from it
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That_Happened 05/17/17 2:15:10 PM #91: |
There didn't need to be a long discussion about this.
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Coolppl Owns 05/17/17 2:35:34 PM #92: |
i aint sharing my wife with nobody
and if im going to marry her she won't ever want to share me either one man one woman just having passionate sex all the time. amazing! --- _.-=/Got Coolppl?\=-._ =-._\Got Coolppl?/_.-= ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Andrew21044 05/17/17 3:48:28 PM #93: |
*generic post about people needing to be happy with the decisions they make despite it being frowned upon.*
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Howl 05/17/17 4:00:53 PM #94: |
Asherlee10 posted...
I don't think there is a "one size fits all" answer here. There literally is. An "open marriage" is fundamentally not a marriage at all, and can never work in any circumstance. --- woof ... Copied to Clipboard!
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garan 05/17/17 5:04:14 PM #95: |
PoopPotato posted...
Just don't get married if you are going to do this ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Giant_Aspirin 05/17/17 5:10:20 PM #96: |
Howl posted...
and can never work in any circumstance. i don't think you're in any position to make such an assertion. you can't speak for others. --- Now Playing: Nioh (PS4), Titanfall 2 (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dave_is_slick 05/17/17 5:27:48 PM #97: |
Leanaunfurled posted...
dave_is_slick posted...coolboy11 posted...if you need to be in a "open marriage" you probably shouldn't be married at all lol Refer to the post you quoted. --- The most relaxing version of Aquatic Ambiance I've ever heard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl61y1XM7sM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Howl 05/17/17 5:31:49 PM #98: |
Giant_Aspirin posted...
you can't speak for others. I'm not speaking for them. I'm sure some people think it's working for them right now. --- woof ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 05/17/17 5:43:07 PM #99: |
Howl posted...
Asherlee10 posted...I don't think there is a "one size fits all" answer here. Lol is this sarcasm? --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ChromaticAngel 05/17/17 5:43:13 PM #100: |
PoopPotato posted...
Just don't get married That's all you need to say --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KiwiTerraRizing 05/17/17 5:50:16 PM #101: |
Coolppl Owns posted...
i aint sharing my wife with nobody Christ this is naive --- The Fam ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Howl 05/17/17 5:51:21 PM #102: |
Darmik posted...
Howl posted...Asherlee10 posted... XD Hilarious man!!!!! Good sarcasm question!!! --- woof ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Thugstar 05/17/17 6:11:22 PM #103: |
If your wife would even suggest this to you it would be time to break up because if there's a will there will be a way.
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