Current Events > Okcupid/Tinder/online dating/regular dating general topic VI

(+) Yeah! (+)

Can't tell if this girl is ghosting me or she's just unresponsive ATM







She's still on my Facebook Instagram and snapchat tho
---

gna647 posted...

She's still on my Facebook Instagram and snapchat tho

i don't understand this at all
---

Officially unfollowed Halloween girl on everything

our mutual friend told me that she ran into her and she said that she doesn't want anything to do with me and is annoyed because she knows how much I like her.

kinda sunk my heart. Its one thing if shes not interested, its another if shes legitimately annoyed. I just dont know why she carries on conversation whenever I hit her up. I guess shes just nice like that.

now i feel like a creep, and i'm pretty embarrassed.
---

gna647 posted...

Officially unfollowed Halloween girl on everything

our mutual friend told me that she ran into her and she said that she doesn't want anything to do with me and is annoyed because she knows how much I like her.

kinda sunk my heart. Its one thing if shes not interested, its another if shes legitimately annoyed. I just dont know why she carries on conversation whenever I hit her up. I guess shes just nice like that.

now i feel like a creep, and i'm pretty embarrassed.

hopefully you learn a lesson from this

but i'm sure there will be a new ____ girl next
---

why were you still obsessed with this one girl when you're getting laid fine anyway
---

Coolppl Owns posted...

why were you still obsessed with this one girl when you're getting laid fine anyway

Idk. Cause to me sex isn't that great?

Unless it's with someone you REALLY like.

I mean, Latina girl is gorgeous but I don't have feelings for her just yet
---

Have you had sex with someone you really like?
---

I haven't
---

Might have two dates this week. Went on one this past Saturday, but she wasn't as cute as in her photos and eerily reminds me of one of friend's wife

In bromance news, I met up with the guy I met on bumble and we've hung out twice and are becoming friends. It's actually pretty cool, I wish I had tried that earlier
---

i'm struggling to picture the type of guy that uses a dating app where you judge people based off appearance to make male friends

my thought would be he's struggling with his sexuality or something because it makes no sense to me
---

Was at dinner with some friends a couple weeks ago and for some reasons people were making jokes that this girl band I should get together. My friend gave her my number later and she's been texting me. Im not really attracted to her and have been keeping my texts short. Last night though she asked me for drinks...
I don't know how to say no.
---

TheGoldenEel posted...

i'm struggling to picture the type of guy that uses a dating app where you judge people based off appearance to make male friends

my thought would be he's struggling with his sexuality or something because it makes no sense to me

Bumble doubles as a friend finding app. A lot of women use it for that purpose, which is actually how I met my ex because she briefly ventured onto the dating side. Far fewer men, but they're on there.

It's fairly awkward for that purpose for aforementioned reasons, but most people would feel awkward meeting a stranger if they didn't know what they looked like.

But we had similar interests and goals and attitudes towards life, so it was kind of a cool way to meet someone you gel with on purpose rather than happenstance. It weirdly feels like a date, though, when you actually meet up
---

Lol my gay friend is trying out bumble to see how it works for gays
---

emblem boy posted...

Was at dinner with some friends a couple weeks ago and for some reasons people were making jokes that this girl band I should get together. My friend gave her my number later and she's been texting me. Im not really attracted to her and have been keeping my texts short. Last night though she asked me for drinks...
I don't know how to say no.

you can either 1) be upfront and say that you're not interested 2) just stop responding
---

Coolppl Owns posted...

emblem boy posted...

Was at dinner with some friends a couple weeks ago and for some reasons people were making jokes that this girl band I should get together. My friend gave her my number later and she's been texting me. Im not really attracted to her and have been keeping my texts short. Last night though she asked me for drinks...
I don't know how to say no.

you can either 1) be upfront and say that you're not interested 2) just stop responding

I ended up saying yes.

Maybe I'm assuming too
much about her intention's.

I'm gonna go out, and from there just say "Na, wasn't feeling it," if she tries to make it anything more.
---

emblem boy posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

emblem boy posted...

Was at dinner with some friends a couple weeks ago and for some reasons people were making jokes that this girl band I should get together. My friend gave her my number later and she's been texting me. Im not really attracted to her and have been keeping my texts short. Last night though she asked me for drinks...
I don't know how to say no.

you can either 1) be upfront and say that you're not interested 2) just stop responding

I ended up saying yes.

Maybe I'm assuming too
much about her intention's.

I'm gonna go out, and from there just say "Na, wasn't feeling it," if she tries to make it anything more.

that's the way to go imo

don't burn bridges but let her down easy if you're not feeling it
---

I'm a feminist
---

so i had a dream about my crush the other night/morning. The first thing I did when I got work is messaging her my dream.

I dun goofed.


lmao


._.
---

Lmaooo pretty sure i lost this girl





Back at ya man?
Really?



Weird, she was so flirty and sweet in bed :/
---

gna647 posted...

Lmaooo pretty sure i lost this girl





Back at ya man?
Really?



Weird, she was so flirty and sweet in bed :/

Don't worry Chico
---

when she was on top, she would whisper spanish in my ears

god damn that was the sexiest shit ever >___>
really looking forward to more sex with her hopefully
---

gna647 posted...

I'm a feminist

counterpoint: nearly every post you've made in these topics
---

TheGoldenEel posted...

gna647 posted...

I'm a feminist

counterpoint: nearly every post you've made in these topics

explain

i can talk about sex and what not and still be a feminist
---

Why would somebody ask for my skype to send pictures? Doesn't make sense. Probably a scam
---

BilalPowell posted...

Why would somebody ask for my skype to send pictures? Doesn't make sense. Probably a scam

Most definitely.
---

Got a first date next week with a girl I've been talking to. Second date with a girl I saw Thursday. I don't really know if either is going anywhere or I'd like it to, but it's nice to get back out there.
---

gna647 posted...

Officially unfollowed Halloween girl on everything

our mutual friend told me that she ran into her and she said that she doesn't want anything to do with me and is annoyed because she knows how much I like her.

kinda sunk my heart. Its one thing if shes not interested, its another if shes legitimately annoyed. I just dont know why she carries on conversation whenever I hit her up. I guess shes just nice like that.

now i feel like a creep, and i'm pretty embarrassed.

I honestly haven't paid much attention to this story.... but you did have sex with Halloween girl right?

And checking in to say living in a spring break town has been treating me well.
---

Still haven't really been trying (other than swiping) but I got a couple messages in bumble over the weekend, maybe it'll lead somewhere
---

EdgeMaster posted...

I honestly haven't paid much attention to this story.... but you did have sex with Halloween girl right?

And checking in to say living in a spring break town has been treating me well.

we met on halloween and my friends kinda pushed me to add her on facebook and talked me up to her. Basically tried to set us up.

So we started talking on social media, went out a couple times. She came over once and we made out but didn't go further than that.

She acted pretty neutral afterwards. SO I asked her what her intentions were and she said shes no looking for anything more than a friend at the moment. Weeks later it just kinda fizzled. We dont talk anymore. But she still looks at my snap stories.
---

Hey GoldenEel, hows dating going?

Here's the best advice I can give you about online dating:

1) Don't take it too seriously since most people just use it for hook ups anyways.
2) On your profile just say you are just looking for dating but open to anything and would have a relationship with the right person
3) Mention a few of your interests but nothing that involves video games or comics or "nerd" stuff. Just say that you like going to concerts and coffee shops and trying beer samplers
4) When you message them follow this format: "Hey how's it going? My name's___________. [Insert a question or two about their profile here]. Have you been on here long?"

Just take what you can get. They get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and most of those girls are fucking crazy anyways so just see it as something to do for fun. When you stop caring about relationships, then that's when they will want to be your girlfriend.
---

Gotta say I'm disappointed all the big dating apps require a Facebook account to even use.
---

TooLateToGoBack posted...

Gotta say I'm disappointed all the big dating apps require a Facebook account to even use.

Yea fuck that
---

gna647 posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

I honestly haven't paid much attention to this story.... but you did have sex with Halloween girl right?

And checking in to say living in a spring break town has been treating me well.

we met on halloween and my friends kinda pushed me to add her on facebook and talked me up to her. Basically tried to set us up.

So we started talking on social media, went out a couple times. She came over once and we made out but didn't go further than that.

She acted pretty neutral afterwards. SO I asked her what her intentions were and she said shes no looking for anything more than a friend at the moment. Weeks later it just kinda fizzled. We dont talk anymore. But she still looks at my snap stories.

Yeah... in the nicest way possible I'd say move on. Reality is you're getting hung up on a girl you kissed and went on a few dates with. It's not like you were fucking her for a few weeks/months and hoped it could be something more then fizzled out, but she still sends "I miss you" texts and leads you on but doesn't make time for you.
---

Sting posted...

Hey GoldenEel, hows dating going?

Here's the best advice I can give you about online dating:

1) Don't take it too seriously since most people just use it for hook ups anyways.
2) On your profile just say you are just looking for dating but open to anything and would have a relationship with the right person
3) Mention a few of your interests but nothing that involves video games or comics or "nerd" stuff. Just say that you like going to concerts and coffee shops and trying beer samplers
4) When you message them follow this format: "Hey how's it going? My name's___________. [Insert a question or two about their profile here]. Have you been on here long?"

Just take what you can get. They get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and most of those girls are fucking crazy anyways so just see it as something to do for fun. When you stop caring about relationships, then that's when they will want to be your girlfriend.

I agree with most of your points but for different reasons... and my tactics differ a bit.

1) I wouldn't take it seriously mainly because there's very little substance to online dating... you only get to see a fraction of a person and more often than not you could get cat fished. If I had a dollar for every time I met up with a girl who didn't look like her pics...

4) I think that's incredibly boring and a good way to get lost in her inbox and not standout.

"Most of those girls are fucking crazy" replace crazy with trash and a poor choice for a elationship and it is spot on lol. Many variables here but plenty of fish for example is like expecting to catch a 10lb bass in a retention pond lol.
---

joshbutt posted...

TooLateToGoBack posted...

Gotta say I'm disappointed all the big dating apps require a Facebook account to even use.

Yea fuck that

i mean having a facebook account is art of being a normal adult in 2017

EdgeMaster posted...

I agree with most of your points but for different reasons... and my tactics differ a bit.

1) I wouldn't take it seriously mainly because there's very little substance to online dating... you only get to see a fraction of a person and more often than not you could get cat fished. If I had a dollar for every time I met up with a girl who didn't look like her pics...

4) I think that's incredibly boring and a good way to get lost in her inbox and not standout.

"Most of those girls are fucking crazy" replace crazy with trash and a poor choice for a elationship and it is spot on lol. Many variables here but plenty of fish for example is like expecting to catch a 10lb bass in a retention pond lol.

just ignore that dude imo, he posts topics with misogynistic dating advice from time to time that basically boils down to "pretty girls can't be loyal because they'll always have better options, so lower your standards"

also saying most of them are crazy, or trashy or whatever says more about you imo.... who you're matching with and who you're trying to meet--because in my experience of the dozens of chicks i've met over the years i would describe very few of them as anything but "normal"
---

TheGoldenEel posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

I agree with most of your points but for different reasons... and my tactics differ a bit.

1) I wouldn't take it seriously mainly because there's very little substance to online dating... you only get to see a fraction of a person and more often than not you could get cat fished. If I had a dollar for every time I met up with a girl who didn't look like her pics...

4) I think that's incredibly boring and a good way to get lost in her inbox and not standout.

"Most of those girls are fucking crazy" replace crazy with trash and a poor choice for a elationship and it is spot on lol. Many variables here but plenty of fish for example is like expecting to catch a 10lb bass in a retention pond lol.

just ignore that dude imo, he posts topics with misogynistic dating advice from time to time that basically boils down to "pretty girls can't be loyal because they'll always have better options, so lower your standards"

also saying most of them are crazy, or trashy or whatever says more about you imo.... who you're matching with and who you're trying to meet--because in my experience of the dozens of chicks i've met over the years i would describe very few of them as anything but "normal"

lol I can't be fucked to search his posts but I'll take your word for it.

Like I said there's variables. I've met many girls on tinder I would describe as "normal" and to expand on not taking it seriously because there's little substance, I've met plenty of girls through friends or who are friends of friend's gfs then later ran into their profile on tinder. They use tinder for the same reason I do, it's an outlet to see who is out there.

To say describing them as crazy or trashy is just inaccurate. The fact that I've graduated college and moved away from a college town could have something to do with it, but in my experience most girls I run into on PoF have no education past high school, a kid or two (sometimes from different fathers at a ripe age of 19-25), and are potentially overweight (don't get me started how this reflects character)...

So, I don't see how this says anything about me when I'm 26, have zero children, and a college degree. If you wanna be technical I'm overweight I'll give you that lol.
---

EdgeMaster posted...

Yeah... in the nicest way possible I'd say move on. Reality is you're getting hung up on a girl you kissed and went on a few dates with. It's not like you were f***ing her for a few weeks/months and hoped it could be something more then fizzled out, but she still sends "I miss you" texts and leads you on but doesn't make time for you.

yeah

i think i know what i did wrong. Just by reading her old texts compared to her later ones. She had a completely different attitude, like she was legit curious about me and it seemed she enjoyed it when i texted her.

I kinda made it too obvious I really liked her when I should've played it cool. I put all my eggs in the basket, and she probably felt I was too pushy for something thats not going to happen.

anyways i went on a couple dates with other girls afterwards with sex here and there, hoping i'd move on. Doesn't really work. I guess i just need time alone.
---

hehe didn't GoldeEel say something about being nicer in his first post?

oh well, why did I respond
---

Can bots like you on OKC?

Is there anyway to see who liked you without paying the $10? Don't want to make my own topic..thought I'd ask here.
---

Matched with this girl on tinder that i matched with and talked with a while ago


this was the girl that chose another asian dude over me and they broke up a month later. And shes been watching my snapchat story ever since lol.

Idk if i should give her another shot or not. Shes got a nice body, maybe just go on a date and have fun and see where it leads
---

Just got back on OK Cupid after a few month hiatus and... oh god, what am I doing. It's mostly the same girls, so I had to hide the hambeasts (mandatory) and girls I screwed up with on dates/screwed up with on messaging in the past. Looks like the online dating well is dried up in this city. :/ I'm very pessimistic.

Deleted tinder/bumble/pof/okcupid/happn

Feels good actually, felt stressful actually, I counted that I could match on average 6 or 7 girls on tinder a day. Also have a few girls I am talking to,don't want to be that guy that is talking to a billion girls but every girl has the same profile online.

Actually getting super close to this one arab girl, she has heavily hinted she wants to have sex but she lives close to the end of my range (50km), doesn't drive and lives with family who is strict and wants her home by a specific time. So I would need to go pick her up, bring her back to my place, have sex then take her back home -_-

I dont understand bumble, first few days I always got a few matches then nothing, so I realized the trick is quickly jump in, mash right for a few days, talk to the hot ones, get numbers, delete account and repeat. Tinder truly is the best of the apps, best selection and girls are more down to meet. With pof or OKC you have to talk for a bit before girls think about meeting you but with tinder (and to some extent bumble), I can usually successfully ask out a girl in 4 days (I find this number works best for me)

Blue_Popo posted...

Deleted tinder/bumble/pof/okcupid/happn

Feels good actually, felt stressful actually, I counted that I could match on average 6 or 7 girls on tinder a day. Also have a few girls I am talking to,don't want to be that guy that is talking to a billion girls but every girl has the same profile online.

Actually getting super close to this one arab girl, she has heavily hinted she wants to have sex but she lives close to the end of my range (50km), doesn't drive and lives with family who is strict and wants her home by a specific time. So I would need to go pick her up, bring her back to my place, have sex then take her back home -_-

my ex lived with her (religious) grandma who needed her back home every night

was frustrating as fuck, like dating back in high school. she only lived a few miles from me too
---

TheGoldenEel posted...

Blue_Popo posted...

Deleted tinder/bumble/pof/okcupid/happn

Feels good actually, felt stressful actually, I counted that I could match on average 6 or 7 girls on tinder a day. Also have a few girls I am talking to,don't want to be that guy that is talking to a billion girls but every girl has the same profile online.

Actually getting super close to this one arab girl, she has heavily hinted she wants to have sex but she lives close to the end of my range (50km), doesn't drive and lives with family who is strict and wants her home by a specific time. So I would need to go pick her up, bring her back to my place, have sex then take her back home -_-

my ex lived with her (religious) grandma who needed her back home every night

was frustrating as fuck, like dating back in high school. she only lived a few miles from me too

Add grandpa, mom, dad and psycho brother into this list. I know I should stop talking to her as I am starting to get the impression that realistically she can't be with a non muslim, all her stories hinted at it and she dodged the question but I dont feel like we are that close, seems like a FWB scenario...with no WB -_-

Also does not help that she is super hot and considerably better than her pics, I was considering not even meeting her but one of her pics looked super nice. I said why not and was completely shocked by how hot she is

Blue_Popo posted...

Add grandpa, mom, dad and psycho brother into this list. I know I should stop talking to her as I am starting to get the impression that realistically she can't be with a non muslim, all her stories hinted at it and she dodged the question but I dont feel like we are that close, seems like a FWB scenario...with no WB -_-

hey at least you know now

my situation was like a bait and switch, her grandma was on an extended vacation for like the whole first month we were dating, so she'd sleep over all the time

then the grandma got back and she had to go home every night. there was no curfew or anything but she just had to be there when her grandma woke up at like 5am or whenever old people get up
---

TheGoldenEel posted...

Blue_Popo posted...

Add grandpa, mom, dad and psycho brother into this list. I know I should stop talking to her as I am starting to get the impression that realistically she can't be with a non muslim, all her stories hinted at it and she dodged the question but I dont feel like we are that close, seems like a FWB scenario...with no WB -_-

hey at least you know now

my situation was like a bait and switch, her grandma was on an extended vacation for like the whole first month we were dating, so she'd sleep over all the time

then the grandma got back and she had to go home every night. there was no curfew or anything but she just had to be there when her grandma woke up at like 5am or whenever old people get up

Hey 5am isn't too bad, I'd want a girl to be gone by then aha

I've been seeing my girlfriend a lot. Like 3-4x a week. But everytime I see her I feel like I'm in HS again. Obviously this is honeymoon phase shit but man I wish I could make this last forever
---

Blue_Popo posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Blue_Popo posted...

Add grandpa, mom, dad and psycho brother into this list. I know I should stop talking to her as I am starting to get the impression that realistically she can't be with a non muslim, all her stories hinted at it and she dodged the question but I dont feel like we are that close, seems like a FWB scenario...with no WB -_-

hey at least you know now

my situation was like a bait and switch, her grandma was on an extended vacation for like the whole first month we were dating, so she'd sleep over all the time

then the grandma got back and she had to go home every night. there was no curfew or anything but she just had to be there when her grandma woke up at like 5am or whenever old people get up

Hey 5am isn't too bad, I'd want a girl to be gone by then aha

Well she had to get up for work at 6 so she'd always just go home by like 10:30 to go to bed
---

Had a second date with this turkish graduate student last night. I couldn't put my finger on what was off about her appearance our first date, but she's actually quite striking and maybe just wasn't as made up the first time. Both dates were fun and pretty relaxing, so I'm not sure if we're connecting, but I'm down to keep seeing her if she's game.

Might have a date tonight with some big titted Pam from the office lookalike. She's 22, so I'm hoping she's dumb and down to smash.

And I'm still talking with this third girl, which feels like it could be promising since she's honest, portrays interest in me, has a good sense of humor, and we have coinciding physical hobbies.

BFF mode in Bumble got me a new good friend, and I'm looking into meeting more people from that.

Overall, feels good to be dating again. Feels great for it to be accessory to my actual life for once instead of the main course.
---