Current Events > Okcupid/Tinder/online dating/regular dating general topic VI

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So i thought about something


I'm torn up about this girl and all we've done was kiss and go on a couple dates.

I can't imagine how I'd cope if we actually had a relationship and she'd dump me. It'd be like...10x worse

I really need to get a hang of my feelings. I just don't know how
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gna647 posted...

So i thought about something


I'm torn up about this girl and all we've done was kiss and go on a couple dates.

I can't imagine how I'd cope if we actually had a relationship and she'd dump me. It'd be like...10x worse

I really need to get a hang of my feelings. I just don't know how

Experience. Everyone goes through it
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unhinged

Coolppl Owns looks like Hideo Kojima in his snaps lol

also u and your girl are pretty cute
goals.
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gna647 posted...

So i thought about something


I'm torn up about this girl and all we've done was kiss and go on a couple dates.

I can't imagine how I'd cope if we actually had a relationship and she'd dump me. It'd be like...10x worse

I really need to get a hang of my feelings. I just don't know how

Yeah, that's a painful experience man.

Not sure why you got caught up on her. Figure that out and it'll make things easier. Blocking her out of your mind isn't mentally healthy, but easier than accepting things I suppose lol. Had a similar experience to your hypothetical.

Not gonna share the whole story here, but she was a real sweet girl and scored a ton of points with me by doing little things. I just got out of a real shitty relationship and had very little faith in women so it was very refreshing to be with her. Lasted a few months... she eventually fucked up hard.

Eventually I told her off. Was kind of a pain in the ass to get over the good memories with her and let things really sink in how hard she fucked up. Time heals all wounds.
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I apparently have magic fingers
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JustMyOpinion posted...

EnragedSlith posted...

gna647 posted...

So even though i unfollowed her on everything

i noticed I still get "excited" when she views my snap story cause she still watches my story.

I still check if she follows my instagram too...


idk why.

I should just delete everything off my phone tbh cause this girls existence is killing me lol. I havent felt this way about someone since street racer.

I generally disconnect myself from any form of social media I have with a girl after a breakup. You're basically trying to passively communicate with her and it's a link that you're holding onto. Of course you care. So you need to get her off your phone.

Aren't you the same guy who is open/hoping to meet up with exes, possibly for sex, but at the same time supposedly not expecting anything? Maybe you should hold yourself to the advice you give to others. Just a thought.

Wah wah wah

There's a big difference between talking with an ex and stalking their social media
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Matched with this gorgeous native girl on tinder


Good lord. Hope she responds

Idk why but ever since Halloween girl I've been into natives
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gna647 posted...

So i thought about something


I'm torn up about this girl and all we've done was kiss and go on a couple dates.

I can't imagine how I'd cope if we actually had a relationship and she'd dump me. It'd be like...10x worse

I really need to get a hang of my feelings. I just don't know how

imo the whole reason you're so torn up about this girl is because you've never had a relationship

it gets so much easier once you've been in relationships before
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JustMyOpinion posted...

gna647 posted...

Matched with this gorgeous native girl on tinder


Good lord. Hope she responds

Idk why but ever since Halloween girl I've been into natives

Please don't compare every girl you meet to Halloween girl. Nothing happened and she led you on which is kinda shitty. Things won't work with others if you compare them to an idealized version of something that never was.

This.
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Freaky girl thought she'd test the threesome waters by making out with her transitioned friend in front of me. I was not cool with it, so I left amid protests

I don't think she understands that I'm not mad, but it grosses me out and I thought it was extremely disrespectful. And that if I was emotionally invested, I would've blown up
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EnragedSlith posted...

Freaky girl thought she'd test the threesome waters by making out with her transitioned friend in front of me. I was not cool with it, so I left amid protests

I don't think she understands that I'm not mad, but it grosses me out and I thought it was extremely disrespectful. And that if I was emotionally invested, I would've blown up

>_____>



I would've been down
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Need your opinions on this


Let's say you're on a first date with a girl and she's checking some dude out. And she mentions it "oh he's cute."


Would you consider that rude? Would you hold it against her and consider it disrespectful? Or just play it cool?


This happened to me a while ago (just randomly thought back on it) I just played it cool. But it did kill the vibe for me.
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gna647 posted...

Need your opinions on this


Let's say you're on a first date with a girl and she's checking some dude out. And she mentions it "oh he's cute."


Would you consider that rude? Would you hold it against her and consider it disrespectful? Or just play it cool?


This happened to me a while ago (just randomly thought back on it) I just played it cool. But it did kill the vibe for me.

It's definitely rude and disrespectful.

Could be a variety of reasons she's doing it, but it's generally a shit test or poor game on her part. Girls aren't complicated, they just think differently. Jealousy works differently on them then it does on men. Can't be fucked to write a long post on it.

The only correct option is play it cool/ignore it.
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gna647 posted...

Need your opinions on this


Let's say you're on a first date with a girl and she's checking some dude out. And she mentions it "oh he's cute."


Would you consider that rude? Would you hold it against her and consider it disrespectful? Or just play it cool?


This happened to me a while ago (just randomly thought back on it) I just played it cool. But it did kill the vibe for me.

I dunno, you just play along unless she's being an ass in general. Is it rude? A little bit. But you can't let insecurity take over.

Talking up about handsome dudes is actually a pretty easy way to portray yourself as relaxed and confident, which will help her relax around you and open up. Could respond like "damn, yeah, too bad you're here with me" with a wink. Maybe add "otherwise I'd take a stab at it." Or whatever.

You'll learn to be less sensitive the more experience you get. Remember, she's there with YOU for a reason
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so that date from the other night was another bust

we had an okay time and i can't really pinpoint what was wrong because she was cute and we made pretty good conversation, i just don't care if i see her again so i haven't texted her

oh well
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Had a date tonight but she cancelled

I don't think I'm gonna reschedule for another one though
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TheGoldenEel posted...

so that date from the other night was another bust

we had an okay time and i can't really pinpoint what was wrong because she was cute and we made pretty good conversation, i just don't care if i see her again so i haven't texted her

oh well

How do you know if you connect on a date? Is one or two dates enough time to know?
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emblem boy posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

so that date from the other night was another bust

we had an okay time and i can't really pinpoint what was wrong because she was cute and we made pretty good conversation, i just don't care if i see her again so i haven't texted her

oh well

How do you know if you connect on a date? Is one or two dates enough time to know?

i dunno

i feel like everyone i've dated for a decent amount of time i've known i wanted to on the first date

i used to go on second dates if i "wasn't sure", but invariably that just led to me wasting more time and money
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gna647 posted...

Coolppl Owns looks like Hideo Kojima in his snaps lol

also u and your girl are pretty cute
goals.

ty gna
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had my first date in 3 months yesterday, went pretty well. she said it was a fun date and when I said I'd like to see her again she said the same and to text her and we'll figure it out

I haven't texted her yet, I dunno when I should or what I should say, should I just try to make next plans when I text her today? she's a bad texter but it still seems to work out anyway, she seemed into it
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drunkmuggle posted...

had my first date in 3 months yesterday, went pretty well. she said it was a fun date and when I said I'd like to see her again she said the same and to text her and we'll figure it out

I haven't texted her yet, I dunno when I should or what I should say, should I just try to make next plans when I text her today? she's a bad texter but it still seems to work out anyway, she seemed into it

Yes
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I learned the hard way that you don't stop and doubt if they're into you or not and that you should just play it cool and make plans that'll be fun for her.



I think I fucked UP two potential girls by doing the opposite
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drunkmuggle posted...

had my first date in 3 months yesterday, went pretty well. she said it was a fun date and when I said I'd like to see her again she said the same and to text her and we'll figure it out

I haven't texted her yet, I dunno when I should or what I should say, should I just try to make next plans when I text her today? she's a bad texter but it still seems to work out anyway, she seemed into it

Well did you text her?
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Yeah I did yesterday, no response yet, maybe I've struck out maybe I haven't but she did respond to me like 2-3 days later once and we still met up. she said she's a bad texter, I did my part though
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drunkmuggle posted...

Yeah I did yesterday, no response yet, maybe I've struck out maybe I haven't but she did respond to me like 2-3 days later once and we still met up. she said she's a bad texter, I did my part though

i hate that

you know everyone reads their texts right when they get them, they just choose not to respond right away. annoying tbh


speaking of annoying and only tangentially related to dating, i don't want to sound like some sort of anti-pc alt right guy, but i just asked my friend (who is a girl my age) if she wanted to go to a comedy show this weekend.

her response:

"i'm kind of a comedy hater -_-. mostly i'm sensitive about racial/sexist stuff and i don't usually bother researching who is/isn't a racist comedian"


now this is a person who i otherwise find pretty cool and am semi-interested in. but man, this attitude so many millenials have of being super sensitive and being afraid to hear something they might disagree with is so frustrating.
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yeah, every time I check up on halloween girl's instagram and she posts another picture my heart skips a beat.


idk why but im waiting to see until she posts a pic with another dude, cause she posted about how she likes someone.

I really need to delete everything off my phone.
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gna647 posted...

yeah, every time I check up on halloween girl's instagram and she posts another picture my heart skips a beat.


idk why but im waiting to see until she posts a pic with another dude, cause she posted about how she likes someone.

I really need to delete everything off my phone.

bruh
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Coolppl Owns posted...

gna647 posted...

yeah, every time I check up on halloween girl's instagram and she posts another picture my heart skips a beat.


idk why but im waiting to see until she posts a pic with another dude, cause she posted about how she likes someone.

I really need to delete everything off my phone.

bruh

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the curiosity kills me tbh.


i was the same way with street racer
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got "I just don't know if I'm in a place to do a lot of dating right now. I keep on changing my life plan and honestly may move at the drop of a hat depending on what types of jobs I apply to. I did really have an awesome time Sunday and would definitely be up to still talking and being friends if you are"

eh
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gna647 posted...

yeah, every time I check up on halloween girl's instagram and she posts another picture my heart skips a beat.


idk why but im waiting to see until she posts a pic with another dude, cause she posted about how she likes someone.

I really need to delete everything off my phone.

Really not sure how tf you got caught up on some chick you never even had sex and a relationship with...
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EdgeMaster posted...

gna647 posted...

yeah, every time I check up on halloween girl's instagram and she posts another picture my heart skips a beat.


idk why but im waiting to see until she posts a pic with another dude, cause she posted about how she likes someone.

I really need to delete everything off my phone.

Really not sure how tf you got caught up on some chick you never even had sex and a relationship with...

I don't get it either, but it isn't uncommon. Plenty of guys complain about being "friendzoned"
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drunkmuggle posted...

got "I just don't know if I'm in a place to do a lot of dating right now. I keep on changing my life plan and honestly may move at the drop of a hat depending on what types of jobs I apply to. I did really have an awesome time Sunday and would definitely be up to still talking and being friends if you are"

eh

That sucks, man, though it's funny how insecure she is about rejecting someone.

Wouldn't worry too much about it, though. I've heard dating is harder as a darker skinned dude, but you're a good looking guy and shouldn't have trouble finding another one.
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EnragedSlith posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

gna647 posted...

yeah, every time I check up on halloween girl's instagram and she posts another picture my heart skips a beat.


idk why but im waiting to see until she posts a pic with another dude, cause she posted about how she likes someone.

I really need to delete everything off my phone.

Really not sure how tf you got caught up on some chick you never even had sex and a relationship with...

I don't get it either, but it isn't uncommon. Plenty of guys complain about being "friendzoned"

Props to him for making out with her, so I wouldn't call it friendzoned but it's not like he can think "son of a bitch... I really enjoyed sex with her, she was a sweet girl, have good memories, etc and she broke it off for whatever reason."

It's just kinda boo hoo... it didn't work out, next.

EnragedSlith posted...

drunkmuggle posted...

got "I just don't know if I'm in a place to do a lot of dating right now. I keep on changing my life plan and honestly may move at the drop of a hat depending on what types of jobs I apply to. I did really have an awesome time Sunday and would definitely be up to still talking and being friends if you are"

eh

That sucks, man, though it's funny how insecure she is about rejecting someone.

Wouldn't worry too much about it, though. I've heard dating is harder as a darker skinned dude, but you're a good looking guy and shouldn't have trouble finding another one.

Wouldn't say that she's insecure. She clearly liked him but he didn't make the cut. He got the "let's just be friends... but I did have a fun time Sunday" translation "I'm not completely sold... but I want to keep you as an option, don't get your hopes up though lol"

He's in the running and she's attracted to him but if he was first pick she would be trying to enjoy the remainder of her time before/if she moves.

Source: been in similar situations, was fwb with girl and she eventually cuts it off after a few months because she feels bad thinking she's leading me on... ends up not getting her internship, get a "I miss you, it's weird not seeing you" text. Hook up a few more times, I move shortly after graduation.
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EdgeMaster posted...

Wouldn't say that she's insecure. She clearly liked him but he didn't make the cut. He got the "let's just be friends... but I did have a fun time Sunday" translation "I'm not completely sold... but I want to keep you as an option, don't get your hopes up though lol"

He's in the running and she's attracted to him but if he was first pick she would be trying to enjoy the remainder of her time before/if she moves.

Source: been in similar situations, was fwb with girl and she eventually cuts it off after a few months because she feels bad thinking she's leading me on... ends up not getting her internship, get a "I miss you, it's weird not seeing you" text. Hook up a few more times, I move shortly after graduation.

in my experience that's just a straight up rejection. just a nice way of saying bye forever without hurting feelings
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TheGoldenEel posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

Wouldn't say that she's insecure. She clearly liked him but he didn't make the cut. He got the "let's just be friends... but I did have a fun time Sunday" translation "I'm not completely sold... but I want to keep you as an option, don't get your hopes up though lol"

He's in the running and she's attracted to him but if he was first pick she would be trying to enjoy the remainder of her time before/if she moves.

Source: been in similar situations, was fwb with girl and she eventually cuts it off after a few months because she feels bad thinking she's leading me on... ends up not getting her internship, get a "I miss you, it's weird not seeing you" text. Hook up a few more times, I move shortly after graduation.

in my experience that's just a straight up rejection. just a nice way of saying bye forever without hurting feelings

Don't know the full context, didn't read lol, but yes that's also a very good possibility. Anytime a girl mentions "being friends" it's basically game over.
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EnragedSlith posted...

drunkmuggle posted...

got "I just don't know if I'm in a place to do a lot of dating right now. I keep on changing my life plan and honestly may move at the drop of a hat depending on what types of jobs I apply to. I did really have an awesome time Sunday and would definitely be up to still talking and being friends if you are"

eh

That sucks, man, though it's funny how insecure she is about rejecting someone.

Wouldn't worry too much about it, though. I've heard dating is harder as a darker skinned dude, but you're a good looking guy and shouldn't have trouble finding another one.

thanks man, I took a 3 month break just now and this was the first date since and not much has changed

TheGoldenEel posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

Wouldn't say that she's insecure. She clearly liked him but he didn't make the cut. He got the "let's just be friends... but I did have a fun time Sunday" translation "I'm not completely sold... but I want to keep you as an option, don't get your hopes up though lol"

He's in the running and she's attracted to him but if he was first pick she would be trying to enjoy the remainder of her time before/if she moves.

Source: been in similar situations, was fwb with girl and she eventually cuts it off after a few months because she feels bad thinking she's leading me on... ends up not getting her internship, get a "I miss you, it's weird not seeing you" text. Hook up a few more times, I move shortly after graduation.

in my experience that's just a straight up rejection. just a nice way of saying bye forever without hurting feelings

yup, I'd rather just have her say she's not interested instead of pussyfooting around but that's how it goes
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lowkey freaking out cuz she hasn't had her period yet and it's been about 31 days now

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Coolppl Owns posted...

lowkey freaking out cuz she hasn't had her period yet and it's been about 31 days now

._.

Like, since her last one or since she was supposed to have it?
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TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

lowkey freaking out cuz she hasn't had her period yet and it's been about 31 days now

._.

Like, since her last one or since she was supposed to have it?

31 days since her last period.. i recall her saying she got her last one on April 3

she doesn't seem worried about it at all for some reason.. or maybe im worrying about it too much
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Coolppl Owns posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

lowkey freaking out cuz she hasn't had her period yet and it's been about 31 days now

._.

Like, since her last one or since she was supposed to have it?

31 days since her last period.. i recall her saying she got her last one on April 3

she doesn't seem worried about it at all for some reason

shes cute
just be the father of her baby.
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gna647 posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

lowkey freaking out cuz she hasn't had her period yet and it's been about 31 days now

._.

Like, since her last one or since she was supposed to have it?

31 days since her last period.. i recall her saying she got her last one on April 3

she doesn't seem worried about it at all for some reason

shes cute
just be the father of her baby.

i mean if she really wanted to keep it i'd support her and be there for her and the kid

but god dammit now is definitely not the right time
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Coolppl Owns posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

lowkey freaking out cuz she hasn't had her period yet and it's been about 31 days now

._.

Like, since her last one or since she was supposed to have it?

31 days since her last period.. i recall her saying she got her last one on April 3

she doesn't seem worried about it at all for some reason.. or maybe im worrying about it too much

Meh I wouldn't be too worried yet

That's like a week late at this point at most? Shit happens
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