Current Events > Okcupid/Tinder/online dating/regular dating general topic VI

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EnragedSlith posted...

Overall, feels good to be dating again

Damn I wish I had it this easy
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I'm gonna start taking salsa lessons
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Should I put up a dog selfie with my roommate's dog? I know selfies get some shit but chicks dig dogs
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Matched with this native girl that looks exactly like Halloween girl

just drastically different personalities
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TheGoldenEel posted...

Should I put up a dog selfie with my roommate's dog? I know selfies get some shit but chicks dig dogs

Probably. They work.

And selfies aren't awful, you just don't want to have more than one or two
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Third girl is a freak in a good way. Good night
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You work fast enraged. I'm jelly
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emblem boy posted...

You work fast enraged. I'm jelly

Eh, you just meet some girls who vibe with you and don't have qualms about getting intimate quickly. You also meet girls who don't do that. It's not like I do anything special
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had 3 nice matches last night and asked them all out

2 of them stopped responding
1 said shes with friends right now but wants to hang with me on campus this week


i mean not bad. its just the two that stopped responding were way prettier. The prettier ones always get away >___>
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I'm not getting a second date!!!
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Downloaded tinder again but still on the fence.

Met a girl last night and it went real well, didn't have sex but a makeout session. Apparently she was the lifeguard at pool I used to go to and she remembered me

How do you guys feel about girls with kids
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emblem boy posted...

How do you guys feel about girls with kids

i want a serious relationship and i don't want kids yet

so basically no thanks bro
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Ya, I'm against it right now just cause I don't currently want kids.

I have no issue with it in the future though. But so many cute girls on tinder with kids...
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been getting a bunch of bumble matches/messages recently

we'll see where any of them go

emblem boy posted...

Ya, I'm against it right now just cause I don't currently want kids.

I have no issue with it in the future though. But so many cute girls on tinder with kids...

i went on a date with a cute chick with a kid once (i knew beforehand)

she didn't text me back
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So the girl I took out to dinner and had sex with afterwards last week...

we havent texted eachother since and it seems like it became kinda dry, dont know what shes looking for.

messaged her on friday saying "Watcha up to." Cause i wanted to take her out again. She ignores the message. Got a text back this morning saying "sorry, busy with work."

kinda got fed up with. So confronted her and asked her if she's looking for something more than just a hookup or if that night out was just that.

she said
"I'm sorry, you're right. I'm not sure. I enjoy hanging with you but i don't know if im ready for anything serious right now."

told her okay and good luck

guess thats the end of that. Didn't want to stay friends because i didn want to create another halloween girl situation.
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So yesterday I had no one left to swipe on bumble, today I started swiping and saw my friend's sister who is A) in a relationship and B) hasn't lived in this city since last summer

So basically bumble must just show you old inactive accounts just to make it seem like there are more people in your area
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TheGoldenEel posted...

So yesterday I had no one left to swipe on bumble, today I started swiping and saw my friend's sister who is A) in a relationship and B) hasn't lived in this city since last summer

So basically bumble must just show you old inactive accounts just to make it seem like there are more people in your area

Possibly.

I know that when I've reinstalled the app, I'll get a ton of matches because my account has been kept in the pool of active people
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i feel like reading old text conversations of ex's and people you had feelings for is a quick way to wreck your mind
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so my gf has stated that if she ever got preg she would lean towards keeping it. she can't be on BC so we have been using condoms, but not 100% of the time. i wouldn't be with her if i didn't think she would be a good long term partner and id take responsibility if it did happen but damn this has me shook
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Coolppl Owns posted...

so my gf has stated that if she ever got preg she would lean towards keeping it. she can't be on BC so we have been using condoms, but not 100% of the time. i wouldn't be with her if i didn't think she would be a good long term partner and id take responsibility if it did happen but damn this has me shook

Eh I mostly used the pullout method with my last gf and afaik (since we haven't talked since breaking up) I'm not a dad
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TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

so my gf has stated that if she ever got preg she would lean towards keeping it. she can't be on BC so we have been using condoms, but not 100% of the time. i wouldn't be with her if i didn't think she would be a good long term partner and id take responsibility if it did happen but damn this has me shook

Eh I mostly used the pullout method with my last gf and afaik (since we haven't talked since breaking up) I'm not a dad

oh wow! so is this something you just never worried about at all? maybe i just need to chill @TheGoldenEel
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I never finish during sex so this is never a problem for me lol
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Coolppl Owns posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

so my gf has stated that if she ever got preg she would lean towards keeping it. she can't be on BC so we have been using condoms, but not 100% of the time. i wouldn't be with her if i didn't think she would be a good long term partner and id take responsibility if it did happen but damn this has me shook

Eh I mostly used the pullout method with my last gf and afaik (since we haven't talked since breaking up) I'm not a dad

oh wow! so is this something you just never worried about at all? maybe i just need to chill @TheGoldenEel

I wouldn't say it never worried me, but "when used properly" aka you don't accidentally bust the pullout method is as effective as a condom

I will say near the end when I knew we weren't going to be together much longer I always wrapped it, and for example I'm very aware that at this point it's been ten months since we did it unprotected
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Coolppl Owns posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

so my gf has stated that if she ever got preg she would lean towards keeping it. she can't be on BC so we have been using condoms, but not 100% of the time. i wouldn't be with her if i didn't think she would be a good long term partner and id take responsibility if it did happen but damn this has me shook

Eh I mostly used the pullout method with my last gf and afaik (since we haven't talked since breaking up) I'm not a dad

oh wow! so is this something you just never worried about at all? maybe i just need to chill

It's like a 25% chance of pregnancy when you don't pull out. Not a huge chance, but not exactly something you wanna gamble either.

Plus many girls have complications getting pregnant anyway. Pretty individual and there's a lot of other factors that go into it.

Depends on your state but idk why she doesn't just hop on birth control. A hormoneless iud is a miracle. In my previous state (Colorado) they were incredibly cheap (had a few girls tell me they paid a dollar for theirs). I didn't ask specifics so idk whether insurance covered it or they just stopped in planned parenthood.

On top of that, pills were handed out like candy. It's a half hour chat and they send them home with a free month supply and tell them come back next month.

Edit: just read she said she can't be on BC, I assume the hormones fuck her up. Many kinds of pills so there's always an option that will work, otherwise, non hormonal iud.
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EdgeMaster posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

so my gf has stated that if she ever got preg she would lean towards keeping it. she can't be on BC so we have been using condoms, but not 100% of the time. i wouldn't be with her if i didn't think she would be a good long term partner and id take responsibility if it did happen but damn this has me shook

Eh I mostly used the pullout method with my last gf and afaik (since we haven't talked since breaking up) I'm not a dad

oh wow! so is this something you just never worried about at all? maybe i just need to chill

It's like a 25% chance of pregnancy when you don't pull out. Not a huge chance, but not exactly something you wanna gamble either.

Plus many girls have complications getting pregnant anyway. Pretty individual and there's a lot of other factors that go into it.

Depends on your state but idk why she doesn't just hop on birth control. A hormoneless iud is a miracle. In my previous state (Colorado) they were incredibly cheap (had a few girls tell me they paid a dollar for theirs). I didn't ask specifics so idk whether insurance covered it or they just stopped in planned parenthood.

On top of that, pills were handed out like candy. It's a half hour chat and they send them home with a free month supply and tell them come back next month.

Edit: just read she said she can't be on BC, I assume the hormones fuck her up. Many kinds of pills so there's always an option that will work, otherwise, non hormonal iud.

yeah i think the non hormonal ones have copper and they fuck up her migraines unfortunately
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Things are going well with the redhead. She's a sex fiend and is cool with the fact that I'm in an emotionally weird spot and probably not available for a relationship. So we aren't monogamous, but we're having fun, she thinks I'm cute and sexy af, and that's pretty much all I can ask for right now baring my ex leaping back into my arms

Seeing the Turkish girl again tomorrow. That is far more casual, but also fun in its own way. Curious to see if that goes anywhere.

Also, potentially seeing my ex either this week or next. I'm not sure what to expect there, but she isn't opposed, and I'd like to have a casual outing to put this in a place where our baseline isn't the emotional end of a relationship. I don't know how to define not wanting to try to be friends, but also not wanting this uncomfortable bridge between us if we should ever interact in the future. And I'm not going to complain if it somehow leads to sex.
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EnragedSlith posted...

Also, potentially seeing my ex either this week or next. I'm not sure what to expect there, but she isn't opposed, and I'd like to have a casual outing to put this in a place where our baseline isn't the emotional end of a relationship. I don't know how to define not wanting to try to be friends, but also not wanting this uncomfortable bridge between us if we should ever interact in the future. And I'm not going to complain if it somehow leads to sex.

ngl i literally laughed out loud

dunno how a person who finds it so easy to meet new women can be this sad
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here's where me and my ex are (we broke up after 9 months, we both had spent time with each other's family; she came to costa rica with mine for a week, i went to her brother's wedding, etc.): nowhere. we haven't had any contact whatsoever since the few days following the breakup

and it's not even because i have any ill will towards her. i hope she's doing fine... but there's literally no reason to ever talk to her again

anyway i've said it before, holy shit dude learn how to break up with people
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TheGoldenEel posted...

here's where me and my ex are (we broke up after 9 months, we both had spent time with each other's family; she came to costa rica with mine for a week, i went to her brother's wedding, etc.): nowhere. we haven't had any contact whatsoever since the few days following the breakup

and it's not even because i have any ill will towards her. i hope she's doing fine... but there's literally no reason to ever talk to her again

anyway i've said it before, holy shit dude learn how to break up with people

This makes me genuinely curious why you guys broke up... seemed to be pretty close, no ill will (I assume she never wronged you...), yet literally no reason to ever talk to her again?
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EdgeMaster posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

here's where me and my ex are (we broke up after 9 months, we both had spent time with each other's family; she came to costa rica with mine for a week, i went to her brother's wedding, etc.): nowhere. we haven't had any contact whatsoever since the few days following the breakup

and it's not even because i have any ill will towards her. i hope she's doing fine... but there's literally no reason to ever talk to her again

anyway i've said it before, holy shit dude learn how to break up with people

This makes me genuinely curious why you guys broke up... seemed to be pretty close, no ill will (I assume she never wronged you...), yet literally no reason to ever talk to her again?

We were too different, it just wasn't right

And yeah. What purpose is there to try to "catch up"? friendships don't work 95% of the time and I'm not interested in getting back together. Best thing to do is for us to both just move on with our lives
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TheGoldenEel posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

here's where me and my ex are (we broke up after 9 months, we both had spent time with each other's family; she came to costa rica with mine for a week, i went to her brother's wedding, etc.): nowhere. we haven't had any contact whatsoever since the few days following the breakup

and it's not even because i have any ill will towards her. i hope she's doing fine... but there's literally no reason to ever talk to her again

anyway i've said it before, holy shit dude learn how to break up with people

This makes me genuinely curious why you guys broke up... seemed to be pretty close, no ill will (I assume she never wronged you...), yet literally no reason to ever talk to her again?

We were too different, it just wasn't right

And yeah. What purpose is there to try to "catch up"? friendships don't work 95% of the time and I'm not interested in getting back together. Best thing to do is for us to both just move on with our lives

That makes sense. Especially with you both being too different. Had that myself and a situation where timing was poor after 6+ months (moving, career stuff, but no hard feelings) but otherwise mostly if I don't talk to anyone it's because they've wronged me multiple times. On occasion I'll entertain an ex and keep them around but I can't say it's actually good for me. More of a "feel free to talk to me, I'll respond and get lunch/be intimate with you if I'm not already seeing someone" kind of deal.

Wouldn't exactly recommend it to others, but it's generally after I know not to get caught up in things, but still recognize the good in someone.
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not to get all mushy on you guys

but how do you know when you're starting to fall for someone

i feel like it's starting to happen for me
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Coolppl Owns posted...

not to get all mushy on you guys

but how do you know when you're starting to fall for someone

i feel like it's starting to happen for me

You think of them almost exclusively all the time daily
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EdgeMaster posted...

That makes sense. Especially with you both being too different. Had that myself and a situation where timing was poor after 6+ months (moving, career stuff, but no hard feelings) but otherwise mostly if I don't talk to anyone it's because they've wronged me multiple times. On occasion I'll entertain an ex and keep them around but I can't say it's actually good for me. More of a "feel free to talk to me, I'll respond and get lunch/be intimate with you if I'm not already seeing someone" kind of deal.

Wouldn't exactly recommend it to others, but it's generally after I know not to get caught up in things, but still recognize the good in someone.

my first ex i did the whole trying to get back together thing (we did, twice), and the "let's catch up for old times sake" thing and it was a fucking disaster all around

i have good memories with the more recent ex and i do sometimes miss things about her (it's not like we had nothing in common, we did date for a while), but as i see it no good can come from trying to stay in touch

let the past be the past
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anyway talking to two very responsive chicks on bumble right now

one is super cute, my type, seemingly a lot of the same interests. the other is less cute/average and more outdoorsy

gonna ask the first one to meet up, we'll see how it goes
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in case you were wondering why girls flake on you, i just invited a lady friend of mine to hang out tomorrow night and her response was "should I blow a guy off?"

she has like ten pending matches on bumble at any given time smh
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yeah
so you should have 10 pending matches too and just take out the girl thats willing to go out
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gna647 posted...

yeah
so you should have 10 pending matches too and just take out the girl thats willing to go out

do u know how bumble works
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oh

i use tinder
fuck bumble. Idk girls dont text first.
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Not on any sites, just trying to build courage to actually admit my feelings. I think the feelings are mutual, but I'm still shy af.

gna647 posted...

oh

i use tinder
fuck bumble. Idk girls dont text first.

i get a good amount of messages on bumble. hardly anything on tinder (even when i message first)

my bio is the same on both, whenever I get a message, it's in response to my bio ("tell me about the best concert you've ever been to!")
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welp, got the number of the qt girl. tentative plans for happy hour drinks friday

turns out she lives only a few blocks from me so we're just gonna meet at a local place

Aliensss posted...

Not on any sites, just trying to build courage to actually admit my feelings. I think the feelings are mutual, but I'm still shy af.

don't make such a big deal out of it imo.

a lot of shy types (myself included, back in the day) make a big deal out of this sort of thing when it really doesn't have to be that way.

no need to make some grand confession of feelings or anything, just ask if she'd be up to go out
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Third date tonight with the Turkish girl. Went well. We kissed. Actually feeling pretty positive about her.

Starting to realize that I'm basically looking to date my mother. Ex and I didn't have this fiery chemistry, but there was still something about her that resonated deeply within me and I think that was basically it because they are a lot alike. And I was like her dad.

So I tend to gravitate toward sweet girls who look at me funny when I act like an idiot on purpose or tell me to shush when I riff on of whatever is on tv.
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Date tomorrow with a bumble girl

Doing it early in the evening so I can bail as needed and not have wasted my Friday night but I really have nothing going on so if it turns out well we can keep it going

I suggested two different places and she said either sounds good, "or both!" so she seems fun idk. I'm looking forward to it
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So even though i unfollowed her on everything

i noticed I still get "excited" when she views my snap story cause she still watches my story.

I still check if she follows my instagram too...


idk why.

I should just delete everything off my phone tbh cause this girls existence is killing me lol. I havent felt this way about someone since street racer.
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gna647 posted...

So even though i unfollowed her on everything

i noticed I still get "excited" when she views my snap story cause she still watches my story.

I still check if she follows my instagram too...


idk why.

I should just delete everything off my phone tbh cause this girls existence is killing me lol. I havent felt this way about someone since street racer.

I generally disconnect myself from any form of social media I have with a girl after a breakup. You're basically trying to passively communicate with her and it's a link that you're holding onto. Of course you care. So you need to get her off your phone.
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yeah thats what I realized

i think im passively trying to "show off" to her.
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