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hockeybabe89 posted...

Why are you taking this so personal? I clearly laid out the unique case of people who are non-conforming and uncomfortable. You are not the average person who raises a stink over pronouns. The average person thinks their pronouns are "obvious" yet they won't share them, but they also won't get mad if you assume their pronouns correctly. But you goddamn know that a cis woman who acts like that will be mad if you start calling her "he/him"

Cis people who feel violated by being asked their pronouns should also stop using their names. That is personal info that no one has a right to ask for, so they should protect it. And they need to start being outraged if we use their pronouns without their consent. Otherwise, their strong feelings are clear bullshit, a smoke screen for their real agenda.

My BIL, who's gay, has kind of an opposite take on it.

He feels the need to pre-announce your pronouns hurts the movement. He feels like people should make the assumption, and they can be corrected if necessary. Kinda like how if someone has a non-common name that can easily be mispronounced, they politely correct them, and that person either corrects their behavior, or chooses to proactively not conform.

He's the kind of person that longs for the day when people no longer have to "come out" or "identify themselves".