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SKARDAVNELNATE posted...

Here's what I want to know, if he had asked her out sooner would that make it less creepy?

I would say so. At least somewhat. He's still crossing professional boundaries by exploiting his access to personal information that was not given for this purpose, but at least then it would come off as more impulsive and natural as opposed to seeming like he spent 3 months tracking her down (which is weird and obsessive and leads to her thoughts of "he knows where I live, will I be okay if I turn him down?"). Anything more than a week, though (and even that's pushing it), he needs to accept that he missed his chance and not push the issue.

SKARDAVNELNATE posted...

Maybe 3 months is how long it takes to find someone based on their name alone.

It generally isn't (even putting aside that he also had her general appearance and location to work with), but again, spending 3 months hunting somebody down is definitely getting into creepy obsession territory. That's really only acceptable if they did actually express some interest in a relationship and invite you to contact them, but you lost their contact information somehow and took a while to find it again (which is pretty rare outside of Hallmark movies).