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Kotenks
06/16/22 3:51:44 PM
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Should he be fired for this?


A British woman has been left terrified after a creepy cab driver reportedly tracked her down on social media and asked her out on a date three months after giving her a ride home.

The Woman rode in the mans taxi from the train station to her house in Oxford, England, on March 5 and enjoyed a pleasant chat with him on the 15-minute journey.

The marketing assistant didnt think anything further of the ride until she claimed she received an unexpected message from the man on Facebook this past weekend.

Hey! So since we had a lovely little chat in my taxi following your London Theatre trip, your name has pretty much stuck in my head, the message she shared read. Hope you dont mind me messaging, Im wondering if you might like to go for a beverage sometime In fact, there is really cool stuff going on in Southampton this weekend.

The woman has said that she was disturbed by the message. How has this person not realized how creepy it is? I started to feel unsafe about it because he dropped me off at my house. I think its really unprofessional and puts women in a really dangerous position.

Larman said she used her full name to book the ride on the taxi app and believes the cab driver saved her name from there.

I feel like he should at least be disciplined, like at least a month or two where he cant drive a taxi service, the marketing assistant declared. If hes done this to me theres a big likelihood that hes done this to other women or that he doesnt realize that its not okay to do.

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Count_Drachma
06/16/22 4:02:31 PM
#2:


Kotenks posted...
A British woman has been left terrified after a creepy cab driver reportedly tracked her down on social media and asked her out on a date three months after giving her a ride home.

Kotenks posted...
Should he be fired for this?

...for messaging somebody to ask them out? Wtf?

Kotenks posted...
The woman has said that she was disturbed by the message. How has this person not realized how creepy it is? I started to feel unsafe about it because he dropped me off at my house. I think its really unprofessional and puts women in a really dangerous position.

lolwut? Overdramatic much? He sent a polite message. There wasn't even anything lewd there.

Kotenks posted...
Larman said she used her full name to book the ride on the taxi app and believes the cab driver saved her name from there.

Literally don't need a full name to find somebody on social.

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Rasmoh
06/16/22 4:05:27 PM
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Looking up someone on social media and politely asking them out is about as far from creepy as it gets in my opinion.

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aHappySacka
06/16/22 4:07:22 PM
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But was she hot?

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Kotenks
06/16/22 4:11:17 PM
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aHappySacka posted...
But was she hot?

this is her.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/9/2/AAL89BAADWR8.jpg

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Kyuubi4269
06/16/22 4:39:22 PM
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It's creepy he'd bother with someone so meh

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LinkPizza
06/16/22 4:49:25 PM
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So, he asked he out in a super polite way, and she thinks its creepy? Shes a little much, tbh

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Jen0125
06/16/22 4:51:07 PM
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It's definitely creepy af.
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Muscles
06/16/22 4:53:42 PM
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Its not how he asked her that's creepy, the message itself would be fine under different circumstances but you never ask out a customer/guest/client/whatever

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Kyuubi4269
06/16/22 5:01:21 PM
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Muscles posted...
Its not how he asked her that's creepy, the message itself would be fine under different circumstances but you never ask out a customer/guest/client/whatever

It's 3 months on, he didn't ask while on the job. You're allowed to date your therapist even, after you're no longer working together.

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Rasmoh
06/16/22 5:05:27 PM
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Muscles posted...
you never ask out a customer/guest/client/whatever

That's simply untrue in most professions. There are some industries where that might be taboo, but taxi driving isn't one of them.

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Jen0125
06/16/22 5:07:40 PM
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Rasmoh posted...
That's simply untrue in most professions. There are some industries where that might be taboo, but taxi driving isn't one of them.

I mean isn't one of them according to whom? None of the women I know would be thrilled if a taxi driver they simply paid for good service literally stalked them down months later on social media to ask for a date.
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MICHALECOLE
06/16/22 5:18:39 PM
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Hey man, sometimes you gotta shoot your shot

and sometimes shooting your shot ends up on a news story where youre called creepy

weve all been there
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funkyfritter
06/16/22 5:18:49 PM
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Definitely crossing some boundaries, but the message itself is innocuous enough that it would be pretty extreme to lose work over it.

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MICHALECOLE
06/16/22 5:20:21 PM
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I feel like he should at least be disciplined, like at least a month or two where he cant drive a taxi service, the marketing assistant declared.

I also think maybe she doesnt realize this could legitimately ruin somebodys life. Maybe a nice stern warning is more in order like hey bro dont do that again or youre fired
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LinkPizza
06/16/22 7:11:31 PM
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Im not sure Id call it stalking. He just looked her up on FB

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Jen0125
06/16/22 7:21:36 PM
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He looked her up to find her after 3 months. It's creepy to get a customer's full name from your job and look them up on social media.
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LinkPizza
06/16/22 7:29:14 PM
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He also could have just remembered it

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adjl
06/16/22 7:32:07 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
It's creepy to get a customer's full name from your job and look them up on social media.

Pretty much this. Personal information is generally collected by your company under at least some pretense of privacy. Abusing that data collection as an employee to track somebody down (even just on social media, though as she points out he also knows her address) is no bueno. He was at least polite about it and I expect it's probably innocuous, but it's still a very inappropriate thing to do and I don't blame her for feeling uncomfortable.

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Jen0125
06/16/22 7:32:59 PM
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LinkPizza posted...
He also could have just remembered it

It's still information he only received while being paid to render a service. She only met this guy because she paid him for a ride through a service app. That's a business transaction.
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LinkPizza
06/16/22 7:34:48 PM
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I guess I dont really find it that weird. But Im not her. I think Id be flattered more than anything

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Zareth
06/16/22 8:03:27 PM
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Maybe this is more normal in that strange alien land that we call the United Kingdom

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MICHALECOLE
06/16/22 8:43:51 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
He looked her up to find her after 3 months. It's creepy to get a customer's full name from your job and look them up on social media.
Absolutely

but sometimes creepy is a meet cute

like if this guy was hot it would be just a funny story about how they met
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SoreChasm
06/16/22 8:50:48 PM
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I could definitely see why shes not okay with this, especially since he knows where she lives.

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Count_Drachma
06/16/22 8:51:46 PM
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Kotenks posted...
this is her.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/9/2/AAL89BAADWR8.jpg

Must've taken 3 months for his memory of her to improve... or for him to get desperate. Those are some awful teeth... oh right, this happened in England.

Muscles posted...
Its not how he asked her that's creepy, the message itself would be fine under different circumstances but you never ask out a customer/guest/client/whatever

lolwut? Fucking get out of here with that. There's nothing unusual about that and it's ridiculously common in a lot of industries.


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Eat Man
06/16/22 9:55:00 PM
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If he looked like Brad Pitt this would be the plot of her fairy tale.

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AltOmega2
06/17/22 8:43:39 AM
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Was his name Travis Bickle?
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AElaias
06/17/22 12:35:17 PM
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I judge: Not so. He was trying to hit off a good relationship by asking her. She can choose to turn it away when she can explain herself why not because there's room to speak on it. If he did anything, it might be more. Like, if he kept messaging despite being told no, then it's a ominous, telltale sign.

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beefcake71090
06/17/22 6:23:25 PM
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There are plenty of people out there to date. This guy fucked up. He took a chance, and I don't think him being fired is an overreaction. Could his intentions be pure? Yes, but that doesn't really matter. As a man, you have to understand the perspective of the person you're reaching out to. You gotta be smart enough to understand how that can be taken, and if you aren't, well, maybe losing your job will teach you that lesson. Ask someone else out, fool. First of all - it was a business interaction. Second of all, 3 months went by with no additional interaction. You lost your chance, if there was any chance at all. Spoiler: There wasn't. IF this was like a romantic movie, there would have been enough sparks at the time they were in the car together and plans would have been made then and there. Once you drop off your client, move on buddy. I truly believe being a creep is a firable offense.

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LinkPizza
06/17/22 6:34:20 PM
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beefcake71090 posted...
There are plenty of people out there to date. This guy fucked up. He took a chance, and I don't think him being fired is an overreaction. Could his intentions be pure? Yes, but that doesn't really matter. As a man, you have to understand the perspective of the person you're reaching out to. You gotta be smart enough to understand how that can be taken, and if you aren't, well, maybe losing your job will teach you that lesson. Ask someone else out, fool. First of all - it was a business interaction. Second of all, 3 months went by with no additional interaction. You lost your chance, if there was any chance at all. Spoiler: There wasn't. IF this was like a romantic movie, there would have been enough sparks at the time they were in the car together and plans would have been made then and there. Once you drop off your client, move on buddy. I truly believe being a creep is a firable offense.

No offense, but I believe this is a shit take...

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SKARDAVNELNATE
06/17/22 7:45:40 PM
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Kotenks posted...
A British woman has been left terrified after a creepy cab driver reportedly tracked her down on social media and asked her out on a date three months after giving her a ride home.
Here's what I want to know, if he had asked her out sooner would that make it less creepy?
Maybe 3 months is how long it takes to find someone based on their name alone.
If he was better at tracking her down would she be more favorable toward him?

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adjl
06/17/22 8:41:58 PM
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SKARDAVNELNATE posted...
Here's what I want to know, if he had asked her out sooner would that make it less creepy?

I would say so. At least somewhat. He's still crossing professional boundaries by exploiting his access to personal information that was not given for this purpose, but at least then it would come off as more impulsive and natural as opposed to seeming like he spent 3 months tracking her down (which is weird and obsessive and leads to her thoughts of "he knows where I live, will I be okay if I turn him down?"). Anything more than a week, though (and even that's pushing it), he needs to accept that he missed his chance and not push the issue.

SKARDAVNELNATE posted...
Maybe 3 months is how long it takes to find someone based on their name alone.

It generally isn't (even putting aside that he also had her general appearance and location to work with), but again, spending 3 months hunting somebody down is definitely getting into creepy obsession territory. That's really only acceptable if they did actually express some interest in a relationship and invite you to contact them, but you lost their contact information somehow and took a while to find it again (which is pretty rare outside of Hallmark movies).

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joemodda
06/17/22 9:00:43 PM
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You miss every shot you don't take!

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Kotenks
06/18/22 4:48:35 AM
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SKARDAVNELNATE posted...
Here's what I want to know, if he had asked her out sooner would that make it less creepy?
Maybe 3 months is how long it takes to find someone based on their name alone.
If he was better at tracking her down would she be more favorable toward him?

I doubt asking sooner helps him. I suppose him asking her for her number at the end of the ride would be best. But even then, she could see it as "he knows where I live and he's asking for my number. if I say no, who knows what could happen to me?".

One thing I'd like to say is it might not have been 3 months of him actively tracking her down every night, searching every inch of the internet for her. It could be as simple as him, sitting down at home, months later. Bored, remembering the interaction. Thinking maybe there was something there in that chat. She assumes he got her last name from the app. But her first name is not that common a name. He could have easily searched that up off memory and found her. Shot his shot, thinking the worst she can say is no.

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Revelation34
06/18/22 5:06:04 AM
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LinkPizza posted...


No offense, but I believe this is a shit take...


I'm using your words but removing the no offense part.

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rexcrk
06/18/22 12:20:57 PM
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I mean she couldve just said no.

Then if he proceeded to harass her, that would 100% be a problem.


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Jen0125
06/18/22 12:28:11 PM
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Not that it's all men saying this is okay behavior

Just another signal to this board
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faramir77
06/18/22 12:46:12 PM
#39:


The message itself wasn't too bad (at least he was trying to be polite, nothing about it was vulgar) but the whole "3 months later" bit is definitely weird, not to mention unprofessional that he'd try to initiate a date with a customer. I totally get why she'd be uncomfortable about this.

That said, firing the guy would be a massive overreaction. Instead, his boss should have a discussion with him that initiating interest towards customers isn't appropriate, even/especially several months later. If this continues, that's when firing would be more appropriate.

I don't like how obsessed people are with getting others fired for making a mistake that really doesn't cause much impact. "He made me uncomfortable, so he should have his means to live removed" is pretty fucked up. Progressive discipline has been executed by the collective hivemind.

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ReturnOfFa
06/18/22 12:56:54 PM
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I think it's weird as fuck for someone to keep that information for months.

a) I don't think a cabbie should ask you out out of the blue. your job is to drive the person. Does your doctor ask you out on a date? The bus driver? Fuck off.

b) even if you're fine with someone asking out a client, keeping their information for 3 months and then contacting them? fucking weird.

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Jen0125
06/18/22 12:58:45 PM
#41:


ReturnOfFa posted...
I think it's weird as fuck for someone to keep that information for months.

a) I don't think a cabbie should ask you out out of the blue. your job is to drive the person.

b) even if you're fine with someone asking out a client, keeping their information for 3 months and then contacting them? fucking weird.

That's my thing. If you like me and you're driving me somewhere express your intent right there. That is not creepy but maybe an unexpected chance first meeting.

Saving a name, waiting 3 months and then trying to find them on social media to ask them out IS weird. It's not cute or romantic. It's concerning and creepy.
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ReturnOfFa
06/18/22 1:00:12 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
That's my thing. If you like me and you're driving me somewhere express your intent right there. That is not creepy but maybe an unexpected chance first meeting.

Saving a name, waiting 3 months and then trying to find them on social media to ask them out IS weird. It's not cute or romantic. It's concerning and creepy.
Yeah, at least just do it in the moment if you are truly 'sincere' and 'polite'. All of the social dynamics can be settled in 30 seconds.

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Jen0125
06/18/22 1:03:06 PM
#43:


If an Uber driver asked me out at the time of service depending on the scenario if I felt safe I'd be flattered. I'm never flattered to receive a message that someone stalked me and wants to date me.
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Revelation34
06/18/22 1:54:55 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
If an Uber driver asked me out at the time of service depending on the scenario if I felt safe I'd be flattered. I'm never flattered to receive a message that someone stalked me and wants to date me.


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Jen0125
06/18/22 1:56:01 PM
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god please don't provoke him

idk what his deal is
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FatalAccident
06/18/22 2:11:36 PM
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This story sounds questionable

A marketing assistant gets a taxi from London all the way to Oxford? And the cabbie is (by the sounds of it) from Southampton?

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LinkPizza
06/18/22 2:53:45 PM
#47:


Jen0125 posted...
Saving a name, waiting 3 months and then trying to find them on social media to ask them out IS weird. It's not cute or romantic. It's concerning and creepy.

It's possible he waited because he was nervous, or didn't know what to say at the time, or something like that. And who knows if he saved the name. He could have also just remembered it...

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Jen0125
06/18/22 2:58:07 PM
#48:


LinkPizza posted...
It's possible he waited because he was nervous, or didn't know what to say at the time, or something like that. And who knows if he saved the name. He could have also just remembered it...

and he should chalk that up to a lost shot and learn from it for next time he's in a similar situation. it's creepy. point blank. the time period makes it borderline disturbing. i'm not thinking about random ass people i met once for 20 minutes 3 months ago. normal people don't obsess over people like that.

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Jen0125
06/18/22 3:00:35 PM
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i guess i would put it this way

what part of that situation is meant to make a woman feel safe to engage with you - a man she doesn't personally know and only met because she paid you to drive her somewhere through a service application? and after 3 months?
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LinkPizza
06/18/22 3:03:36 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
and he should chalk that up to a lost shot and learn from it for next time he's in a similar situation. it's creepy. point blank. the time period makes it borderline disturbing. i'm not thinking about random ass people i met once for 20 minutes 3 months ago. normal people don't obsess over people like that.

Hard to learn from something by NOT trying... If anything, this taught him more because he knows to probably try faster next time. I don't thin kit's creepy point blank. I think it's creepy to some people point blank, where others don't really care. Like I mentioned earlier, I think I'd be flattered. Someone remembered me after a certain amount of time. And possibly couldn't get me off their mind. I'd get a nice self-esteem boost from that. Haha. But for some people, they feel the opposite...

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