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So this dude wasn't paying child support at all. But this agreement they had was so unfavorable towards him that he STILL went for custody despite not paying her a cent, knowing he would still have to pay for it. And your takeaway from this is "Yeah, I think we can come to an agreement and that there's no reason to not go to court with this."

Like you think this is some kind of adversarial thing. Corrik, you can literally make this as painless as possible by amicably agreeing to terms before the hearing. Hell, there doesn't even have to be a child support hearing if you guys get it squared away, in court. You'll attend one hearing to figure out child support payments, but aside from that, you guys can actually dictate everything else, file the paperwork necessary, and they can cancel the custody hearing. It can actually be this painless, but you want legal counsel there to support you. It doesn't need to be ugly at all.

Hell, if you're worried about her paying for a lawyer, you can actually pay for hers as well. But you NEED to have something figured out and legally binding, because if she wants to change her mind on how often you see your kid, then you have the law protecting you. You can't just pass around the child on the honor system of whoever the kid feels like hanging out with on that day.

But you NEED to have actual legal backing to all of this. It doesn't work without people working for your interests, your ex's interests, and your kid's interests. It's not fair to put everyone through all this stress all over again 6 months, 1 year, 4 years down the line because somebody is unhappy with the terms now.

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