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| Topic | are some feelings really just less valid than others? |
| Kyuubi4269 08/18/20 11:27:36 AM #30: | _AdjI_ posted... Except sex is a mutually enjoyable activity It's a tradeable commodity, do you think trade isn't mutually enjoyable? _AdjI_ posted... When people choose to have sex, it's because they want to have sex, not because they decide that their partner has earned access to that service. They want to have sex that offers a good return i.e. good performance, looks, kink gear, etc. People offer what they have for what someone else has. _AdjI_ posted... The concepts of "value" and "worth" have no place here. Trying to shoehorn them in is flagrant objectification, and precisely the kind of attitude anti-slut shaming sentiments are trying to combat. You forgot to REEEEEEE Anti slut shaming is just trying to up one's desirability without upholding standards. _AdjI_ posted... So step up your game to make sure you remain the best option. Don't expect all future partners to limit their experience to reduce the chance of having been with somebody better than you. What way is up when you've been given too vague directions? You don't know you're putting out a good performance if anything beyond pain is fine. I expect my partners to be discriminating, I expect them to know what they want and what they can command of people who want them. I don't want someone who's just okay with anything, who'll sway whatever way over stupid nonsense because they don't hold value in anything. _AdjI_ posted... If you're really so insecure that you'd be willing to dump a potential partner because you're worried you're not good enough, talk to them about your insecurities to see how they're feeling, rather than assuming you need to cut your losses and run away. If I can do better, I'd rather leave. If you think you're worth anything then have the self-respect to command a standard from your partners. _AdjI_ posted... And that's without considering that relationships are more than sex. Sex is a part of most relationships, yes, but the two can certainly be separated. Somebody having a few Tinder hookups between relationships doesn't mean they aren't going to commit to an exclusive relationship once they find somebody they want to be in a relationship with. Sex is fun. It doesn't have to be anything more than that (provided appropriate protections are used, of course), nor does having sex preclude enjoying the other aspects of whatever relationship they're considering now. As I said prior, someone who will just take whatever dick doesn't uphold high enough standards for me to want to pursue a relationship with. Feel free to date to village bike, but she's not respectable when she can't even ask small things for what she offers. _AdjI_ posted... Ranking the importance of feelings is the fundamental basis for all subjective arguments. You're comparing opinions on their respective merits and implications to arrive at a conclusion on which is better. Of course there's a need to do that. Literally all conflict resolution depends on doing so. Opinions don't have merit either. The only importance they hold are to people who find you important. Unless you can tie a need to your feelings and opinions, there's no requirement to satisfy your feelings and opinions. Terrible people can have strong feelings and good opinions but they're not important because they are terrible. A good person can have trivial feelings and awful opinions and they become important because the person is good. --- Doctor Foxx posted... The demonizing of soy has a lot to do with xenophobic ideas. ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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