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Topic	I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs]
davidponte 08/03/19 10:30:29 PM #29:	Got held up with something. ShatteredElysium posted... Obviously not the exact same as you as there's a language change and it seems she isn't willing to consider that possibility? I would say worst case it is worth trying the move over there. If you love her, you should probably be willing to try the unknown and see what happens. Seems silly to throw away a long term relationship over something that is unknown The language barrier is real for sure, and something that'd have to be addressed, but it feels like it's at the bottom of the list of priorities right now. In previous trips, her family has tried to engage me in what English they knew, so an effort was made at least. I think most of the replies here have agreed that it can't really hurt to try, and that has helped immensely to make me feel better about the idea of trying in the first place. For awhile there I thought it was crazy to even entertain the idea at all. banananor posted... you talk about patching things up, but it honestly sounds like there's nothing wrong with the relationship, just with geography. that's not common. as i've heard, the singular, deciding, tautological quality that predicts whether a relationship continues in the long run is the couple's unwillingness to break up. so, how unwilling to break up are you? lastly, no matter what you end up doing (you're both obviously perched between two hard places), your life is going to be a very fun and interesting ride. things are difficult for everyone from time to time, and this is a very common mid-20s crisis to have I appreciate the kind words, definitely helped to calm me down a little. I do think there is an unwillingness to break up here, and to try to make things work. She has told me explicitly that if she didn't care so much and didn't want it to work so bad she wouldn't be going through all this and would have already made the decision to leave alone. Tom Bombadil posted... also I don't think I ever actually said it but good luck you are a good dude so I hope it works out well in the long run one way or another This means a lot. Thanks. --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! <cite>davidponte posted [p:925586176] in I need to ... [t:77912594]...</cite> <quote>Got held up with something. ShatteredElysium posted... </cite> <quote>Obviously not the exact same as you as there's a language change and it seems she isn't willing to consider that possibility? I would say worst case it is worth trying the move over there. If you love her, you should probably be willing to try the unknown and see what happens. Seems silly to throw away a long term relationship over something that is unknown</quote> The language barrier is real for sure, and something that'd have to be addressed, but it feels like it's at the bottom of the list of priorities right now. In previous trips, her family has tried to engage me in what English they knew, so an effort was made at least. I think most of the replies here have agreed that it can't really hurt to try, and that has helped immensely to make me feel better about the idea of trying in the first place. For awhile there I thought it was crazy to even entertain the idea at all. banananor posted... </cite> <quote>you talk about patching things up, but it honestly sounds like there's nothing wrong with the relationship, just with geography. that's not common. as i've heard, the singular, deciding, tautological quality that predicts whether a relationship continues in the long run is the couple's unwillingness to break up. so, how unwilling to break up are you? lastly, no matter what you end up doing (you're both obviously perched between two hard places), your life is going to be a very fun and interesting ride. things are difficult for everyone from time to time, and this is a very common mid-20s crisis to have</quote> I appreciate the kind words, definitely helped to calm me down a little. I do think there is an unwillingness to break up here, and to try to make things work. She has told me explicitly that if she didn't care so much and didn't want it to work so bad she wouldn't be going through all this and would have already made the decision to leave alone. Tom Bombadil posted... </cite> <quote>also I don't think I ever actually said it but good luck you are a good dude so I hope it works out well in the long run one way or another</quote> This means a lot. Thanks. --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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