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Topic	Why don't you have a wife PotD?
ParanoidObsessive 10/04/18 3:22:51 PM #51:	Zeus posted... Because you can get most of the same perks while dating without risking over half of your belongings and a chunk of your future income in a divorce? Or because I have yet to meet the right wealthy heiress where I wouldn't have to worry about losing my shit in a divorce? Why buy the cow when you can fuck it for free? Zeus posted... Yeah, it's nice in theory, but never seems to work in practice. Even my hippy friends wound up getting an expensive engagement ring and had large ceremony (although it was at a cheaper venue). The only people I know who actually had a cheap wedding was a couple who eloped and didn't tell anybody that they were married for like 5 years which was done partly because one needed to get on the other's medical plan and supposedly they hadn't told their family or anybody else because they had wanted to do a proper wedding eventually. I know an older couple who finally got married after dating for decades that didn't put any money into expensive rings or any ceremony (they got married in front of a Justice of the Peace with a couple witnesses and coffee/cake afterwards), but yeah, like I said, it's usually a hard sell because every facet of our culture basically programs women almost from birth that they need to have a ridiculous wedding ring and a massive wedding ceremony in order to validate their relationship. And that's hard to shake off, even for women who mostly avoid taking marriage all that seriously. In a similar vein, it's VERY difficult to actually pull-off asking for a pre-nup prior to a marriage, because women will tend to see it as a vote of no confidence in advance and let it poison their perception of the relationship. Because our culture tends to treat it that way. We have a very toxic sort of mindset when it comes to marriage, relationships, and love in general though. A large part of why we have a 50% divorce rate is because so many people go into marriage with incredibly unrealistic expectations or assumptions, and aren't willing to make sacrifices or compromises because they've been taught by years worth of movies and books that "true love conquers all" and that "there's one perfect soulmate out there for everyone". Or because people are so desperate to validate themselves via marriage or children that they're willing to settle for the first good option that comes along, and then balk once things aren't the magical dream they'd been promised. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family <cite>ParanoidObsessive posted [p:909956201] in Why don't ... [t:77063143]...</cite> <quote><cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>Because you can get most of the same perks while dating without risking over half of your belongings and a chunk of your future income in a divorce? Or because I have yet to meet the right wealthy heiress where I wouldn't have to worry about losing my shit in a divorce? </quote> Why buy the cow when you can fuck it for free? <cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>Yeah, it's nice in theory, but never seems to work in practice. Even my hippy friends wound up getting an expensive engagement ring and had large ceremony (although it was at a cheaper venue). The only people I know who actually had a cheap wedding was a couple who eloped and didn't tell anybody that they were married for like 5 years which was done partly because one needed to get on the other's medical plan and supposedly they hadn't told their family or anybody else because they had wanted to do a proper wedding eventually. </quote> I know an older couple who finally got married after dating for decades that didn't put any money into expensive rings or any ceremony (they got married in front of a Justice of the Peace with a couple witnesses and coffee/cake afterwards), but yeah, like I said, it's usually a hard sell because every facet of our culture basically programs women almost from birth that they need to have a ridiculous wedding ring and a massive wedding ceremony in order to validate their relationship. And that's hard to shake off, even for women who mostly avoid taking marriage all that seriously. In a similar vein, it's VERY difficult to actually pull-off asking for a pre-nup prior to a marriage, because women will tend to see it as a vote of no confidence in advance and let it poison their perception of the relationship. Because our culture tends to treat it that way. We have a very toxic sort of mindset when it comes to marriage, relationships, and love in general though. A large part of why we have a 50% divorce rate is because so many people go into marriage with incredibly unrealistic expectations or assumptions, and aren't willing to make sacrifices or compromises because they've been taught by years worth of movies and books that "true love conquers all" and that "there's one perfect soulmate out there for everyone". Or because people are so desperate to validate themselves via marriage or children that they're willing to settle for the first good option that comes along, and then balk once things aren't the magical dream they'd been promised. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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