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Archgoat posted...

GanglyKhan posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

Red flag is y'all haven't even tried living together and are getting married

But also yeah red flag. Two months is a long fucking time. I know some couples spend a little time apart before weddings, but that's like, what, a week? Two weeks, tops?

Cohabitation actually has a higher rate of divorce.

I have a hard time believing that. I guess maybe that could be that people who live together before marriage are not as religious so are more willing to divorce.

It it counterintuitive, but as far as I know, it is what the stats say. I haven't looked at the stats in detail, though, so I wouldn't be at all surprised if the actual stat is that they get divorced sooner, which makes sense if we assume that every relationship that ends in divorce was only ever going to last that long (a bit of a deterministic view, but I think it's somewhat appropriate here).

It may also be that living together means there's less practical incentive to encourage marriage (since you already get to enjoy spending all that (sexy)time together). That means a greater percentage of cohabiting couples that get married do so more because they think it will save a stagnating relationship than because they really want to. That's not likely to end well.

It's also only relatively recently that cohabiting before marriage has come into vogue, so the average stats there are going to have a hard time competing with all the happy 60+ year marriages from an era before it became standard practice. Even more so where, before it became more acceptable (and even now), cohabiting couples would frequently face outside pressure to get married, whether it's what they wanted or not.

There are a lot of possible explanations, really.
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