Yeah, yours is a pretty tough situation... I think this girl simply does not deserve you, no matter what you've had. She's playing dumb mind games saying how it's all her fault, blah blah. If she did really think that, she wouldn't do the s*** she does. PERIOD. One has control of one's actions and that's that. And even if we assumed she doesn't, then such an unstable person is certainly not one worthy of you.
I can give recipes with ease, but I understand how tough it is to actually apply them when you're in such a situation. Back in the day, everyone would explain to me in a completely reasonable and logical manner how stupid I was being, yet I wouldn't listen to them because I was clinging onto something desperately and had completely shut myself away from any other opportunities... It's self-destructive. I sure am glad I lucked out of that situation.
No-one can harm you nearly as much as you can harm yourself.
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