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BloodMoon7 posted...

By caring more about not being disrespectful, you're defeating the purpose of respect. Let her decide if she feels that you were disrespectful. Explain that it was unintentional, apologize and move on. It's not like I'm telling you not to care at all but you have to trust in the other person as a crucial part of showing courtesy. By treating the situation and by extension her, as a fragile thing, don't you think that's rude as well? You're both grown ups, it's clear you don't trust yourself not to look and you're projecting your insecurity onto her. You should trust your co-worker to understand if it's truly an accident on your part.

You could also stop being weird about this, like imagine if she knew about this thread. She'd feel pretty terrible.

I can't imagine a person feeling terrible for a private conversation others have. Why would that make a person feel terrible?

I also just generally don't track your logic, it almost seems to imply it's respectful to be somewhat rude to people with the assumption being "they are an adult, they can handle it".

Obviously being intentionally rude would be bad, but I also understand how not being not unintentionally rude wouldn't also be bad.

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