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Clench281 posted...

or, you could try NOT hanging out with someone just because you're secretly attracted to them when you know they won't reciprocate?

Honestly, I never had a crush like this on a guy before. I only just realized it was a crush like a week ago. I have known him for 25 years and we have been roommates, coworkers, and best friends for most of that. People have been telling us they thought we were brothers or gay for years and we always just laughed it off. It wasn't hanging out with him just because of a crush. I don't even know when the crush started, I just know I am crushing now.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I personally have a lot of regrets not telling people I'm into them whether they were straight or not.

Not telling them will most likely lead to more heartbreak honestly.

Either way will end that way, but I don't want to ruin a long term friendship over a little crush. I just also don't want the awkwardness that I felt while hanging out with him today.

wwinterj25 posted...

If you actually want to be their friend and enjoy been around them due to that then I'd still say tell them. It may make things a little awkward but I'd assume real friends would be understanding.

I am 99% sure they wouldn't end the friendship over it or anything, but there is also nothing that can be gained by telling them except feeling a little better about myself. But I feel putting him in that position just to make myself feel a little better isn't fair to him.

It is not like my behavior has changed drastically or anything. We are just as close as we always have been. Slinging jokes, hanging at each other's houses, buying each other meals, going shopping together, he gave me a computer when my last one broke, I gave him a car when his brother needed one. The only thing that changed is now I have realized just how much I want to cuddle and hug him.

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