LogFAQs > #969598435

Damn, homeboy really spent 10 years in an abusive relationship. Get the fuck out of there my guy, and document whatever the fuck you can of all this to try and get out as clean as possible.

Shit like this is why no-fault divorce should be a thing, because she should absolutely not be getting anything out of him but any attempt to get anything out of her would almost certainly prolong things and make things worse for everyone's sake. I'm sorry you've had to put up with this for so long, get the fuck out of there.

And I know you said that you don't have a support network in place, but there are two things I would recommend doing. First off, make an emergency survival plan. Make sure you have someone on your side, even if it's just a family member. Having a lifeline, a person to keep you connected to the world while everything is falling apart, is essential.

The second thing I'd recommend: learn how to be selfish, and get selfish until you're out of this relationship. Not to the point where you're like stealing candy out of some kid's hands and laughing about it, but to the point where you're looking out for your own survival. Be good to people around you, but spread your weight a little and get all the support you need. Making sure you're okay is priority #1.