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TopicApparently Owning Property Takes You From The Bottom 10% To The Top 20%
Trialia
07/30/19 4:41:15 AM
#31
aDirtyShisno posted...
ChaosAzeroth posted...
Trialia posted...
To me anyone who owns a house is extremely well off, even if it's mortgaged.


We're renting to own, and honestly the house is the cheapest one that's actually liveable in town. Not sure why tbh. Well if you could buy it outright, going rent to own it's twice the price. ...

But for purposes of repairs and property tax we're considered the owners. ... It took most of the savings to get into this place and to deal with 3 plumbing issues due to the fact they didn't actually winterize, contrary to the notes left saying they did just this last winter. ...

My mom was a considered a homeowner, but couldn't keep up with the mortgage and left. This house actually lol. House was literally taken by the bank. She was living paycheck to paycheck, not at all well off. In the slightest.

We're definitely better off than a decent chunk of people, true. Especially around here. But we're not particularly well off. ... Finding a rental place was hell before, all full up. Now new for rent go unanswered.

It costs as much per month to rent as it does to pay on a home. Maybe more depending. (Renting is anywhere from $350-$800 a month. Generally $500+ a month area, anything less being studio.) Payments on paying on a home tend to be around $600 a month. ...


Where the hell do you live that $44K is too expensive to buy a home!? In California that wouldnt even be a deposit on the land...

I've never seen that kind of money in my life. The most I've ever had at one time was about 5500, and that was only because my local authority decided to demolish my old rented apartment & they were obliged to give me a certain amount in compensation (it mainly went on carpets, curtains, bookcases, a used electric wheelchair and a new laptop to replace the one I'd had stolen the previous winter).

I have so many "unusual" expenses due to my multiple disabilities; since I really can't work anymore, the government pay me a certain amount in support, & they pay my rent direct, but even if you include all that & look at it as money I get directly, which none of it is, I'm on maybe $12,000/year. (And that wouldn't last me 3 months in the US, my meds would cost that much
all by themselves, so let's just not go there.)

The only reason I'm as comparatively well off as I am among the underclass is that I get the second tier maximum support because my disabilities are numerous & severe. The highest tier is for people who are bedbound or need 24-hour care. Frankly, I'd trade it for being able to work at least part-time; at 33 being totally out of work can be humiliating, & being dependent on the system makes me a target for abuse & assault from all kinds of people. And even then I owe my local authority 8K for homecare because they were useless about communicating with me in a way I could manage til recently (I struggle with phone calls).

So I'm better off than I might be, & our laws about habitable housing help there, but I have no hope of ever being able to own even a crappy apartment. I'm on an assured tenancy, & even that will fold if I can't get more help than I'm getting with keeping my home clean & organised.

Also, savings? What are those? I've never had any.
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Topicoh my FUCK
Trialia
07/30/19 4:22:06 AM
#7
Lol. So does that mean the Dresden Files are coming to an end entire, or that he's finished the new book?
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TopicApparently Owning Property Takes You From The Bottom 10% To The Top 20%
Trialia
07/29/19 9:45:45 PM
#26
To me anyone who owns a house is extremely well off, even if it's mortgaged.

At least the last 3 generations of my family have rented, and social housing at that, which means below market rent. And from all my
& my aunt's research, I believe my great-grandparents lost one of their toddlers to a nasty childhood accident mainly because they couldn't afford to get a doctor out to him, poor little soul. (Though they might still have lost him, as he caught his baby-frock on fire playing too close to a bonfire, poor kid, & his burns killed him over the course of 3 days. He was only three, and this was before the NHS.)

If I sold every single thing I owned, I might just break even at zero.
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TopicDo you believe that donald trump is racist?
Trialia
07/29/19 9:42:38 PM
#32
Unequivocally, given his total lack of verbal filters.
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TopicIs this a man or a woman?
Trialia
07/28/19 2:36:21 AM
#23
masticatingman posted...
Youll occasionally see transwomen on apps like Tinder and Bumble in the female category. They will just go on to say so in their profile. Ive also seen some list out the transsexual gender symbol or whatever without spelling it out. However, obviously, they arent exactly required to say as much up front. Youd hope for their own safety they reveal it quickly if contacted. But yeah, you only see actual transsexual categories on places like Grindr, where its a very accepted thing.

Um, wow, no offence meant, but what decade were you born in? "Transsexual" is fairly outdated & is rather upsetting to most trans people, nowadays. I'd avoid it if you dislike making folks uncomfortable or anxious. YMMV but every binary trans person I know prefers either "transgender" or just "trans". (Just as "AFAB" & "AMAB" "assigned [gender] at birth" are replacing "FtM" and "MtF".)
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TopicThe poll of the day about swimming
Trialia
07/28/19 2:30:38 AM
#11
JJH777 posted...
It's bizarre that there's no lake/river option. That is the vast majority of swimming I've done throughout my life. I guess the beach option is closest.

Eh, yours wasn't the only missing answer.

Last place I swam doesn't really fit anywhere in the given categories that I can see: the hydrotherapy pool at my local hospital.
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TopicIs this a man or a woman?
Trialia
07/27/19 6:35:26 PM
#5
What do they say their gender is? Go with that.
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TopicHow often do you eat fast food?
Trialia
07/26/19 7:47:04 AM
#27
Rarely; once a month or so.

I like to grab a Filet-o-Fish meal on my way home from my monthly mindfulness meditation psychotherapy sessions, because not only am I usually too tired to make anything to eat after that, I have to miss my usual teatime caregiver visit those days due to the timing, & my nearest McDonald's is right on my way home, so I wind up using far less energy if I just grab something once in a while.

If I have to go to Accident & Emergency (our equivalent of the ER) for something, I have a habit of popping into the pizza place across the road from the hospital when I'm done, too, & snagging myself a little 7" Hawaiian. I love their pizza, & I don't often get over to that side of the city anymore - since getting my wheelchair, I wind up having to go to A&E/the ER much less often than I used to, once a year if that - & I figure I deserve a treat & something warm to eat on my way home after an always-lengthy-&-painful hospital trip, especially if it's late & chilly out. Why not?

In short, I limit how much fast food I ever eat because, being a wheelchair user, I can do very little exercise of any kind, tire easily, & can't lose whatever weight I gain, thanks to my impaired mobility & overexertion blackouts. It's not that I don't like fast food, I'd willingly eat more of it, if I could exercise!

Tl;dr: a few times a year, monthly at most.
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TopicAbout to go to the supermarket, blasted heat...
Trialia
07/26/19 7:26:43 AM
#13
hypnox posted...
That is adorable. Here in Texas that is fall temps(sometimes winter too)

Bugger "adorable"! Yesterday was the hottest day ever recorded in July, in the UK. Also, you people tend to have AC built into residential properties as a default. We don't. Nor is it at all easy or cheap to acquire, over here.

It's like how the train companies are advising against unnecessary rail travel, because the rails are buckling & bending on experiencing temperatures that they're not accustomed to & weren't built to withstand. Just like we aren't. British-born people are mostly not acclimated to weather like this!

For my part, I haven't been able to leave the house during daylight for days now, between migraine & blackouts, the latter of which I risk once we get upwards of 25C & even more so above 30, simply because the heat intolerance from my autonomic nervous system dysfunction causes my blood pressure to drop like a stone. The migraines are down to the heat as well - my dark hair absorbs it just as dark clothing would. Couple that with the dramatic barometric pressure changes we've been having
scorching heat & sunshine during the day, with humidity plus rain & thunderstorms after dark and I wonder I can even be conscious at all. It's not even as though it cools down very much after dark!

Tl;dr, but don't be mean. The UK climate, for centuries, has been relatively temperate, & neither our infrastructure nor our people can easily adjust to this heat.

The highest temp. record here til the end of the 20th century was 37.7C. Summer 2003 broke that, & this month has done it again.

I'm also supposed to be keeping my weekly supply of liquid morphine at temperatures below 25C, without freezing it - but goodness only knows how I can possibly do that, without the fridge space! *flops limply & goes back to hiding in darkened living room with huge fans & minimal clothing*
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TopicWhen you were in school did you ever get an E or F grade?
Trialia
07/25/19 12:51:14 PM
#27
Ha, I only just realised I didn't say what subject. History.

I actually wound up getting an ABCDE grade spread German, French, Maths, English, & History. I retook my English exam in college & got a higher grade for it. Given that year (2002) was an absolute F-off mess I never want to revisit, between bullying, bulimia, suicide attempts, changing schools, the death of my favourite cat & then the death of my mother, I'm surprised I even did that well. (My mocks the previous year were mostly A grades, apart from maths & physics which were Cs, & that's pretty good going considering my dyscalculia. A to C is considered a "good pass" at GCSE, while D & E grades are passing ones but not usually sufficient to get into a university degree course.)
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TopicWhen you were in school did you ever get an E or F grade?
Trialia
07/25/19 11:03:54 AM
#23
Mad_Max posted...
My mom died my freshman year and I struggled to get through high school. Barely passed.

*offers virtual hug* Mine died when I was 16, just a month into my A level course (in the UK); I had to drop out to look after my younger sister, since my alcoholic surviving parent was in no condition to.

Back on topic - yes, just one, at GCSE level, and it wasn't really my fault. I changed schools due to bullying in the middle of my exam year, though I'd been trying to persuade my parents to allow it for a while it only actually happened when Mum was genuinely considering homeschooling me after how I'd been treated. Anyway, I switched, but in my part of the UK the schools have set curricula, but can choose from one of two main topics for coursework (the marks count in your exams even though they aren't done in exam conditions). They can also choose to have their kids, for example, do one exam and 2 pieces of coursework for the grades, or 2 exams and 1 piece of coursework. The coursework gets done over the course of the year & sent off to be marked. For me, my previous school had gone the more-exams-than-coursework route, but my new school had gone the other way, and with a very different topic choice. So that trashed my grades for that class. (New school also forgot to put the time of the French oral exams on the general timetable because most of their students weren't taking it, so I missed it and wound up getting a B where I should have had an A.)
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TopicA question for gay posters on this board (only click this topic if you are gay).
Trialia
07/25/19 7:25:51 AM
#42
Lobomoon posted...
Is prostate as sensitive as D?

It's pretty much the XY equivalent of a clitoris, from all I hear. I don't know how that would compare within the same person though, as cock & vag aren't anywhere comparable to each other in terms of nerve endings.
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TopicQuestion about age of consent and marriage.
Trialia
07/24/19 12:24:02 PM
#61
Sulugnaz posted...
pedo45 posted...
Sulugnaz posted...
This is a creepy fucking topic.


How do you know? Maybe the tc is like 19 or something.

I know I had to think about it, in a sense, when I was dating in my early 20s, especially since I'd look young and girls would sometimes dress to look older.
It wasn't ever a problem as age comes up quick and usually that's where things stop.
I'm getting up to 30 and people finally see me as 21 which helps keep the young people from thinking I'm approachable.

So there ya go. It's not always about being a creep, but protecting yourself. Hell, young girls will lie about age but that's a different discussion.


Still fucking creepy.

You want creepy? It's not actually all that long since 12-year-olds were legally allowed to get married in some US states. *shudders*
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TopicA question for gay posters on this board (only click this topic if you are gay).
Trialia
07/24/19 8:10:26 AM
#30
Cruddy_horse posted...
JimCarrysToe posted...
LinkPizza posted...
Lobomoon posted...
Is that a real thing?

Pegging? Yeah. It's big. Not just in porn, but in real life, as well. I know many guys who like it. Though, some only like a finger up the butt. You have to remember, the prostate is up there. And that's a nice button to push every once in a while. Some guys worry about it the first time. But then make it a normal part of sex. Or even a normal part of masturbation. It's not for everybody, though. And you definitely want to use lube. Especially for the first time...

AND DO NOT USE SHAMPOO AS LUBE. OR ANY KIND OF SOAP. LOTIONS OK FOR ONE MAYBE TWO FINGERS IF YOU'RE DESPERATE.


Lol, made some past mistakes have we?

Ha. Reminds me of the fanfiction writer I once had a row with who was utterly & completely insistent that her character would be totally fine their first time taking it up the butt with only saliva for lube and could not possibly even be sore after a thorough pounding that way.

Excuse me while I cross my legs so hard my hips go out of joint... *cringing*

As for the original question, what even is the point of asking that? Hetero people masturbate too y'know. Even sometimes when they aren't single. You don't have to be gay to get off that way, but not everyone even likes penetration in whatever form, gay or otherwise. People are individuals.
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TopicDo you like wearing flipflops or sandals?
Trialia
07/24/19 1:08:18 AM
#35
captpackrat posted...
I prefer "Jesus sandals". They're sort of a cross between flip-flops and sandals.

M1UEy0x

I don't know where you are m, but in the UK we'd call those sandals anyway... it isn't the back, or lack of, that makes the difference in BrEng.

Sometimes I just go out barefoot in summer, anyway. I used to do that in the village where I grew up, since the hard surfaces were mostly smooth & warm that time of year & there was a lot of grass; nowadays, with the wheelchair, I simply don't need shoes when it's warm & dry. Though I have been known to go without on wet days too, mainly because my rain cover for me & the chair only goes down to mid-calf, & I'd rather have wet bare feet than wet feet in squelchy gross wet shoes & socks, or flipflops!
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TopicHave you heard of Richard Pryor?
Trialia
07/23/19 2:52:08 PM
#29
Taily_Po posted...
Considering that Richard Pryor was once a huge name, I'm a *little* surprised to hear people be like, "Who dat?"

I know of him, know what he does & what he looks like, but tbh I was never much of a fan.
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TopicShould I stay or should I go? (Read the first post plz)
Trialia
07/22/19 2:36:39 PM
#24
JCvgluvr posted...
Eating food before noon makes me nauseous.

Would you prefer to faint?

(I eat while nauseous pretty well all the time. Some of us don't have much choice!)
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TopicTo those that was on tv
Trialia
07/22/19 2:29:11 PM
#42
I've been interviewed at anti-austerity protests a time or two.

The most recent time I was on TV, though... I was interviewed by a Brazilian journalist, at the city centre vigil we held the evening following the Manchester Arena bombing, which happened barely a mile from my apartment... A complicated memory, at best. I made a sign to carry that day, and it wound up being photographed by so many people that it's got a wider outreach on the web than I'll ever have. It still feels a bit surreal when I run across it. (The screenshot below is from Coronation Street - someone at ITV must have photographed it too, and I believe they put that screen on at the end of the first episode that aired after the attack - at least one of the victims, Martyn Hett, was a huge fan of the show, and it's filmed locally, so.)

https://mobile.twitter.com/itvcorrie/status/867454909616140289/photo/1

Taking it back upbeat a bit, I can actually be seen on the Lacuna Coil concert DVD The 1.19 ShowLive in London, too, in the audience, waving my cane in the air. *g* I do that when I can't wave my arms, & because I was all in black it's the only thing other than my pale face that really shows up. ^_^ I felt kind of awesome about that, since they're probably my favourite band (I have trouble deciding as I'm a multi-genre butterfly).
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TopicShould I stay or should I go? (Read the first post plz)
Trialia
07/22/19 12:17:48 PM
#20
JCvgluvr posted...
cute_fan posted...
LinkPizza wrote:
Like, you could have skipped lunch to make sure you were hungry for the dinner with them.

I agree ^.^
Skip lunch, and then consider this to be a late lunch instead of an early dinner.

Can't do that. I don't eat breakfast, either. If I didnt eat lunch, I would feel faint and probably pass out. Couldn't function properly.

So... maybe just eat breakfast for once?
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TopicDo you like wearing flipflops or sandals?
Trialia
07/22/19 12:14:11 PM
#4
WastelandCowboy posted...
I like flipflops because more sun exposure equals less tan lines. Also comfy and easy to wear.

I can't abide having anything between my toes...
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TopicSo, milk?
Trialia
07/22/19 5:14:36 AM
#42
Clench281 posted...
I heard this topic from beyond the grave, and it resurrected me

Lol, I see. Do you have an opinion?
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TopicStandard ice crem flavors?
Trialia
07/22/19 5:13:16 AM
#45


Funny, US citizens complaining that other people in the world have a viewpoint they don't share. Like that's never happened before. Oh, wait...

As for this being "an American website with mostly American users"... Ha. Ha. Hardly. Or where do you think most of that massive cascade of info on PAL region games came from?

If people from the US even are a majority on GFAQs - and I do not say only the forums - it's probably not as large a majority as certain members of this thread seem to think.

That someone speaks colloquial English, or American English even, does not dictate their nationality. Also, "not from the US" is NOT a synonym for "European". There are plenty of users of this site who are neither yet communicate with other users in English, simply because that's their first or second language and most of the site runs in it. Just ask the Canadians!

Seriously, quit making silly assumptions. There are mods who aren't from the States, or there have been, and even if there weren't it's no excuse to make such a US-centric poll knowing that the internet is international. It's easy as pie to do a tiny bit of research when making them, doesn't even take 5 minutes to find out what kinds of ice cream are most common worldwide.
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TopicShould I stay or should I go? (Read the first post plz)
Trialia
07/22/19 5:02:59 AM
#11
What Link said. I can't eat "normal" sized portions at restaurants so when I know I'm going out to dinner I skip lunch or just have a small snack in place of it, so I'll be hungry for dinner. That's pretty normal...
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TopicCoffee Ice Cream is the best ice cream
Trialia
07/21/19 10:00:49 AM
#15
KeijiMaedaTiger posted...
Look at how they are massacring my boy butter pecan.

That would be because (a) butter pecan is not a thing in most non-North-American countries and (b) pecans are horrible.

I can't even with that poll. Ironically enough, it's a hot mess.
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TopicStandard ice crem flavors?
Trialia
07/21/19 9:58:41 AM
#17
PJB-11 posted...
Agree, in what world is "rocky road" or "butter pecan" standard but no mint choc chip? Poll fail.

I've never even seen "butter pecan" ice-cream on sale anywhere. (Also, yuck, I hate pecans.) That poll is so skewed to the US it isn't even funny.
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TopicWill you still be posting on PotD in the next 20 years?
Trialia
07/21/19 4:29:18 AM
#32
Eh, maybe. I've been using the main GFAQs site for 20 years already, no reason not to stick around if the site continues that long, as I'll probably still be a gamer in 20 years' time (even if it weren't for my extensive backlog!). I've been writing fanfiction for 25 years now, and my domain, unfaithful-mirror.net, turned 15 years old last week.

Why not, if the site sticks around? *shrugs*
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TopicYou think you'll ever have kids?
Trialia
07/20/19 6:01:33 PM
#51
Moonjay posted...
Trialia posted...
Moonjay posted...
ParanoidObsessive posted...
I've spent the last 20 years defiantly refusing to ever have kids. It's one of the first conversations I ever had with my girlfriend when we started getting serious about our relationship (the other being my refusal to ever get married). Fortunately, she was of more or less the same mindset, so it wasn't a conflict for us.

In fact, if I remember correctly, I think her reaction was along the lines of "Oh god, I don't want a baby growing inside me like some kind of alien parasite that comes busting out after nine months", which was the point when I knew it was indeed True Love.



I feel the same way.

I knew I didn't want kids when I was 11 and I've never ever ever gotten even close to changing my mind.

Same here, though I was 12. (I used to babysit a lot. It's enough to put you off for life if you have any leanings that way!)

I couldn't carry a pregnancy to term even if I wanted to, between PCOS & hEDS, I'd be paralysed from the waist down if I did manage it. I'm already sufficiently disabled to need help with basic tasks for myself, not to mention MH issues, so I have no qualms in admitting I know I'd make a lousy parent. I get tired of people claiming I'll change my mind, though.


I have PCOS too. I also don't have periods unless I'm taking birth control and it's really likely that I don't even ovulate. Sometimes when people got rude while trying to convince me I'll change my mind, I brought that out to make them feel bad. You want me to want kids that I probably can't have, huh?

Even if I did want kids, I knew I was not mentally well enough to do so. Long before I ever got diagnosed with anything, long before most people who knew me would admit that I was unwell. Now that I've been diagnosed with severe bipolar and have been in the mental hospital because of it, I feel like... Yup, told you so.

And then of course there's the multiple sclerosis now. It would be ludicrous and moronic to try to raise any child the way I am.

Though I haven't had anyone try to convince me to have kids in a long time. It probably has to do with the fact that I'm 37, and even the baby crazy don't necessarily encourage having kids near or after 40. LOL.

All sounds so familiar...!

On top of PCOS, I too have bipolar disorder - NOS, with psychotic episodes and auditory hallucinations - plus OCD & PTSD. I don't have MS, but I do have hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, and given that that tends to get worse when passed from parent to child (with 50% heritability) I wouldn't care to take that risk. Especially since it's severe enough in my own generation (my one bio sibling also has it) that I was a wheelchair user by 25... Isn't it so fun working these things out?
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TopicYou think you'll ever have kids?
Trialia
07/20/19 8:08:24 AM
#43
Moonjay posted...
ParanoidObsessive posted...
I've spent the last 20 years defiantly refusing to ever have kids. It's one of the first conversations I ever had with my girlfriend when we started getting serious about our relationship (the other being my refusal to ever get married). Fortunately, she was of more or less the same mindset, so it wasn't a conflict for us.

In fact, if I remember correctly, I think her reaction was along the lines of "Oh god, I don't want a baby growing inside me like some kind of alien parasite that comes busting out after nine months", which was the point when I knew it was indeed True Love.



I feel the same way.

I knew I didn't want kids when I was 11 and I've never ever ever gotten even close to changing my mind.

Same here, though I was 12. (I used to babysit a lot. It's enough to put you off for life if you have any leanings that way!)

I couldn't carry a pregnancy to term even if I wanted to, between PCOS & hEDS, I'd be paralysed from the waist down if I did manage it. I'm already sufficiently disabled to need help with basic tasks for myself, not to mention MH issues, so I have no qualms in admitting I know I'd make a lousy parent. I get tired of people claiming I'll change my mind, though.
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TopicYou think you'll ever have kids?
Trialia
07/19/19 3:42:42 PM
#19
miki_sauvester posted...
Yes. Life will be so boring past like 35 without kids.

PMSL. I am 33 and entirely content with never being a parent. My disabilities limit some of what I can do, but I'm sure as hell not bored with life.

I'm headed to the World Science Fiction Convention (WorldCon) with my younger brother, next month, by rail & ferry (air is rather a nightmare, as a wheelchair user). In the meantime, & otherwise, I game; read (I have a personal library of >4,000 print books); write (poetry, fanfiction & original fiction); code & create websites & graphics for them; do embroidery & mending via hand sewing; draw & colour pictures; sing (choral & other kinds of music); transcribe lyrics & TV episode
scripts for a couple of sites I help with; volunteer as a regional representative for my Unitarian congregation; do my physiotherapy & occupational therapy tasks; am learning to quilt & crochet; and various other things, whenever I'm physically & mentally capable of them (& when I'm not, it usually means a lot of lying down and/or sleeping or spending time semi-conscious, or just trying to escape as much pain as I can).

What's so "boring" about most of that, for a childfree life? If I want to spend time with kids, goodness knows I have a number of step-niblings, not to mention all my friends' children. I simply prefer being able to hand the kids back at the end of the day, or when I'm too sick and/or tired to carry on spending time with them. I see nothing wrong in that.
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TopicIf you call ICE on families minding their own business, youre going to hell.
Trialia
07/17/19 8:29:46 AM
#156
Ye gods, this thread makes me nauseous. *reaches for the prochlorperazine & closes the browser for awhile*
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TopicGameFAQs usage
Trialia
07/17/19 8:10:02 AM
#29
1999, when I was 13. I feel rather old all of a sudden at the realisation I've been using this site for twenty years!
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TopicBest of these classical composers
Trialia
07/15/19 12:09:40 AM
#9
Objectively best is a hard thing to decide. My favourite from that list is Chopin, though. I like Beethoven's sonatas, but I'm not so keen on the rest of his music. Tbh I'd rather listen to Faur.
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TopicSo, milk?
Trialia
07/13/19 3:34:20 PM
#35
Sulugnaz posted...
Someone drink a gallon of milk and make this topic die.

You don't have to read it.
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TopicEye colour options, wtf?
Trialia
07/12/19 2:05:25 PM
#21
gohjohan posted...
Trialia posted...
Is it just me who thinks "red" should've been "black" & the generally non-human/artificial colours should've been under the "other" option? I am raising my eyebrow so high at this poll & its options.


My co-worker has heterochromia iridum. That means 2 different eye colours. His eyes are brown and green.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heterochromia_iridum

*nod* Have met people with heterochromia. No red eyes though, at least not any who weren't wearing contacts, though I guess maybe someone who's albino might have red eyes, but even then they're way rarer than black irises.
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TopicEye colour options, wtf?
Trialia
07/12/19 1:48:41 AM
#12
aDirtyShisno posted...
Trialia posted...
I am raising my eyebrow so high at this poll & its options.

What poll...?

What time zone are you even in?
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TopicEye colour options, wtf?
Trialia
07/12/19 12:40:39 AM
#1
Is it just me who thinks "red" should've been "black" & the generally non-human/artificial colours should've been under the "other" option? I am raising my eyebrow so high at this poll & its options.
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TopicWe list games that are glitchy buggy messes
Trialia
07/11/19 4:06:15 AM
#18
HagenEx posted...
Suikoden II ... was a nightmare during my first playthrough.

Original edition, &/or the version emulated for/on the PS3? The latter's in my backlog...
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TopicWe list games that are glitchy buggy messes
Trialia
07/11/19 12:37:02 AM
#12
*sigh* LEGO Pirates of the Caribbean and LEGO Jurassic World. The former has game-breaking glitches as well as platinum-breakers, and the disc edition of the latter liked to crash my entire console, along with randomly pausing whenever the operable character moved into certain loading areas. TT have a lot to answer for on that series! And LEGO The Hobbit, much as I love it, crashed 3 times before I even got as far as Rivendell, one of which was during an FMV. Ridiculous.
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Topichow often do you drink beer?
Trialia
07/11/19 12:34:08 AM
#7
Never. I loathe the stuff!

I almost never touch alcohol at all - it really doesn't mix well with morphine for the most part - but when I do, it's either white wine, tequila, vodka (with fruit juice, I hate the taste) or fruit liqueurs, and all of those are very rare for me anyway.
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TopicHow often do you go to the doctor? Why?
Trialia
07/11/19 12:29:34 AM
#48
ParanoidObsessive posted...
Trialia posted...
Wrong thread, guys.

If you're going to rant about Doctor Who, make another.

Feel free to mark the posts for off-topic, then.


You're the only one I don't have on ignore, as it happens. It still takes up a load of space though. Had I been less distracted when quoting I would probably have deleted most of it when I posted.
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TopicYa'll need to get outside more.
Trialia
07/11/19 12:26:21 AM
#18
Red_Frog posted...
It's 90 fucking degrees, you go outside. I'm gonna sit my happy ass inside with my video games and air conditioning.

Ha. I like that. Wish this country had AC as a standard thing in residential buildings, but before the last few years our climate was so temperate we never needed it. Now I practically live in front of a 16" fan, unless I fancy blacking out all the time. (Gotta love dysautonomia. )
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TopicHow often do you drink soda?
Trialia
07/11/19 12:23:41 AM
#20
Not at all. It's sort of a good thing and a bad thing.

I haven't been physically able to drink anything carbonated since 2012 - ever since I had my gall bladder out, soda gives me intolerable gas cramps. Like, the kind of cramps that double me in half. ;_; And it's healthier not to drink it anyway, 99 times in 100. So it's sort of good in that way.

I do miss downing the odd can of cherry or regular Coca-Cola, Appletiser or lemonade, from time to time, though. And it makes me a more awkward guest to cater for at parties, when I can't drink alcohol with my meds, carbonated anything, or citrus drinks (migraine triggers). There's a hotel bar in my city where the staff were lovely enough to concoct a delightful non-alcoholic cocktail for me, though, as an alternative to always having to drink water or plain fruit juice for cold drinks: pineapple juice, peach syrup & grenadine. Yummy! They don't even charge me extra for it either ;D
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TopicYa'll need to get outside more.
Trialia
07/10/19 1:17:48 PM
#13
captpackrat posted...
I've already gone out for a 30 minute walk with the dog, I'll head out again on a short walk (10 minutes or so) to get the mail when it arrives, then again when my UPS package arrives, and then yet another walk with the dog just before sunset. Fairly soon I'm going to do some nude sunbathing for 40-50 minutes, no farmer's tan for me! And some time in the afternoon I'll go out and clean the barn, groom the horse, and pick up the baby goat to make sure he gets some socialization.

Awwwwwww baby goat.
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TopicHow old are you
Trialia
07/10/19 8:17:07 AM
#60
BarbaricAvatar posted...
TheWitchMorgana posted...
BarbaricAvatar posted...
TheWitchMorgana posted...

[citation needed]

[Google it]

google what exactly?


Try "why do guys pretend to be women on the internet?" or "boys pretend to be girls in games".

There are a couple of men pretending to be women on Gamefaqs. It doesn't bother me in the slightest as i treat everyone the same way irrespective of quality of writing, game experience or the gender they want to be. But you're fooling yourself if you think it doesn't go on, especially on game sites.

A "high percentage" can mean anything between 10% and 90%, it's a deliberately vague statement based on my own experience. "Most" would be wrong, "some" would be an alternative, but "a percentage higher than 9" was used to convey the point though at the time i chose different words.
I'm as enthusiastic about reaching a more precise number as you are looking for evidence of the practice on your own. If you want to have an argument about semantics steering the conversation away from the actual topic then you're going about it in completely the right way.

Trialia posted...

That doesn't do the work of finding actual reliable sources for it. You're the one making the silly and arbitrary claim, you should be the one who has to back it up with actual research.


With the amount of time it took you to type your response you could easily have investigated further and educated yourself rather than waiting on someone else to spoon-feed you. See above. I know it goes on, you reckon it doesn't: Therefore I'm not the one who should be looking it up.
If I believed the world was flat and you came along and claimed it to be a sphere then it would be up to me to delve deeper if i was willing to accept your claim. Or i could just say "That's nonsense" and continue to believe what makes me happy. But then if i genuinely thought it was crap then i wouldn't entertain the idea by responding to it and seeking further information... evidentally that's just me because here we are.

I'm disabled, you utter prat. I was wearing both my wrist braces when I posted that comment. Makes it more difficult to type than you might think, and besides which, why should I have to take on the burden of proof and of using some of my limited energy to prove your point? You said it, you're the one who should be doing any research needed to prove it. Or maybe just don't post daft comments without having evidence to back them up beforehand.

*leaves for physiotherapy, far more useful than arguing with randoms online*
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TopicYa'll need to get outside more.
Trialia
07/10/19 8:13:00 AM
#7
magx posted...
Seriously, the poll of the day is depressing and it's no wonder everyone is anxious and depressed. Get outside more ffs!


Dude, did you even think that it might be answered by people in all different time zones? It's 13.10 for me now. If I'd answered that at, say, 9 this morning I'd have said 6 hours. Instead, because I came home about 15.00 yesterday and haven't been out again since - most of that time being asleep - I had to say 2 hours. Doesn't mean I'm necessarily a shut-in. In fact, I'm just doing my last forum+social media check before I head out for physiotherapy. So there.
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TopicHow old are you
Trialia
07/08/19 6:32:37 PM
#54
BarbaricAvatar posted...
TheWitchMorgana posted...
BarbaricAvatar posted...
Locke90 posted...
wolfy42 posted...
dancer62 posted...
wolfy42 posted...
I'm old enough to be Linkpizza's father.

Linkpizza, I AM Your FATHER!!!!

Dancer62 could be my father though.......daddy???

Mother, maybe, not father unless the laws of biology are changed. And, unless I've lost my memory, I know where all my kids and grandkids are.


Sorry:) It's emberassing a bit but a hold over from playing muds so much in the day, I consider everyone on the internet male lol initially, doesn't matter what name they have etc. I do of course realize there are women on the internet, and if someone mentions they are female I treat them as such, but I still think everyone is male at first....just won't go away even though there are many women online now.

Im the same personally think its the default position especially with the various alts we take on when choosing our names.

A high percentage of women on the internet are dudes pretending to be female; either for attention or manipulation.

[citation needed]


[Google it]

That doesn't do the work of finding actual reliable sources for it. You're the one making the silly and arbitrary claim, you should be the one who has to back it up with actual research. Don't be lazy; if you're trolling, which you probably are, you should just own up to it.
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TopicWhat is your favorite way to ingest caffeine?
Trialia
07/08/19 6:28:23 PM
#32
If I'm doing it for the caffeine, hot coffee. Usually a latt, espresso makes my head ache nowadays despite having had an 8-mug-a-day (instant plus sugar & milk) habit during college. I used to take a Thermos of coffee with me to school from about age 14 onwards, too. I got tired of the caffeine withdrawal headaches when I'd miss a mug, I hardly drink coffee at all nowadays. It's mostly tea for me now.
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TopicSo, milk?
Trialia
07/08/19 3:17:25 PM
#16
Bulbasaur posted...
what poll

Today's. Hasn't it switched over for you yet?
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TopicSo let's say you have only 30 minutes to live...
Trialia
07/08/19 1:05:54 PM
#4
Lobomoon posted...
...and because of how much you contributed to PoTD God let you pick what you will be in your next life.

Pfft, I don't fall into the first or last category in any of those now!

Straight white guys get the most privilege in most places on the planet at present, even though the balance is beginning to shift, but I still know SWM who get beaten up for being disabled in public, so. *shrugs* Personally, I'd pick not to pick. It's among my beliefs that everything contributes to how you grow & your effect on the world & vice versa, whether good or bad, and I wouldn't want the choice, because I would really struggle with it and it would just mean my past life affecting my next one in yet another way. IYSWIM.
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Topicquit my new job at walmart
Trialia
07/08/19 1:01:34 PM
#74
mooreandrew58 posted...
Trialia posted...
mooreandrew58 posted...
KeijiMaedaTiger posted...
Zeus posted...
The US doesn't have space for good faith applicants with all of the people it has mooching off the system. Like I've said before, my brother used to live in an apartment building where maybe 2/3s the residents were on Section-8, with many having off-book incomes including dealing drugs right in the building.


Even with what I consider a good reason I was hesitant to apply because I didn't want to be a moocher. I dunno maybe I'll try again with the backing of a lawyer.


Yeah ive qualified for food stamps and probably even welfare a few times in life would never take it though. Id just swallow my pride and ask for help from family. They care about me and dont mind helping. Average taxpayer doesnt know nor care about me.

See, this is the problem. If the situation is anywhere near what it is over here, the general public believe there are way more "moochers" than there really are. Here, that's definitely the case - roughly 95 to 98% of calls to the welfare fraud line have proved to be malicious or mistaken (and largely malicious).

Not only that, but the amount of money that would be paid out if everyone eligible applied for the benefits they could get is higher, for this country, than the amount currently being paid out to genuine and false claimants alike, because so many people who need the help are discouraged from applying because of the stigma that the government, media & general public between them have created about welfare recipients, and because the process has been deliberately made especially difficult for anybody who has the slightest problem applying unaided (which is most people, because after all, the benefit is there for people who are sick or disabled, and often both!).

If your family can afford to support you, good luck to you. I wouldn't go through the process if I'd had a choice (I didn't - all my family have the same genetic & inherited disability, unluckily for us since it's of 50% heritability). It's a mental and emotional grinder, frankly.

As for people with off-book incomes, given how little many people actually get in disability allowance, some struggle to survive without finding ways to either cut corners or make extra. I don't necessarily blame them for that, depending on what it is that they're doing. Mostly, I blame the government for not being willing to make the amount enough to live on, here at least. I don't know how much you get in the US, but here the local authority want fully half of mine just to cover my 9 hours of basic and low-quality home-care per week, which makes getting by very difficult.

If what you believe is that they're not disabled at all, my guess is that you haven't a lot of experience with just what it takes to get through even the application process, let alone actually end up getting SSDI or PIP. Most of them probably don't want to talk about whatever condition they claimed for, and frankly I don't mention all of mine to my neighbours, either. But the fraud & error rate for PIP in the UK is less than 2% (even by the government's own figures, & they have incentive to make it look as bad as they can).

If thats directed at me Idk what you are going on about cause I didnt make a lot of those claims. Just that as long as my family can and will help I'll always go to them first cause if rather depend on those who actually care about me than taxpayers

Only the earlier part of that was aimed at you. The remainder was responding to the posts you quoted.
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