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Zeus posted...

DDirtyDastard posted...

They had three kids together, they were married for 22 years and have been divorced for more than 5

1) Too old
2) Has kids
3) Close ties to ex

Holy shit! It's the perfect pyramid of "Get the fuck out of there, dude!"

DDirtyDastard posted...

I get that those people were her family for a long time. I have no problem with that or her keeping contact with those people. It's only natural for her to have connections to them over that much time. I'm still friends with some of my sister's ex boyfriends. I get it.

...more importantly, they're literally relatives of her children. There's no real way to get around that without hurting the kids.

Doctor Foxx posted...

Ever stop and think, and I mean really think maybe your standards are unrealistic and growing more out there as you age? Get to 30 and see how many women don't have children and do want to date someone with zero romantic experience.

Overlooking that there are plenty of 30 year-olds without kids, he can just date a bit younger. He's a guy, not a girl.

Gotta address it:

She's 45, I'm 33. I'm into her because she has her shit together and is mostly drama free. She's really into me and supports my passions 100%. She's super hot for 45 and three kids. Her youngest is 18 and just joined the military. None were living with her when we started dating.

I've dated countless women in their 20's and 30's over the past few years. I've found every single one of their personalities to be repulsive in the long run. Most of them are poly-amorous, unable to commit to a relationship unless it's financially gainful. The ones that don't need money are usually already in a relationship and are bored with their significant other. Not willing to leave, but looking for excitement. Dick 'em down and they'll pay for the date. Just don't contact them between the hours of 6pm and 6am.

There's also the powerful woman that just loves sex. She'll pay for the date, fuck you, and chuck you. Just like the men in power do.

Long story short:

After asking her what's up about the whole thing she explained it, (see earlier post) and now we're talking about how perfect we are for each other. I feel dumb for suspecting her, but you guys gave me a much needed realty check.

Stay rad PotD

RCtheWSBC posted...

I'd ask her. "hey I can't see that post anymore, did it get deleted?"

Not a big deal.

This was good. I appreciate the advice.

She said things started getting weird once people started tagging her ex-husband in the post. She knew he wouldn't appreciate that and she thought it was better to just delete the post.

I feel a lot better about the whole thing now. Thanks to all you guys for the insights.

Plan a trip or vacation. It gives you something to look forward too.

You can also look into joining some kind of club or even something like a support group. Bars can suck if you're not a heavy drinker or very extroverted.

green dragon posted...

I'm not trying to be a dick or anything, but she could love her ex- husband (and not be in love with him). They could be really good friends.

She could've also said "I love you too" to a different family member.

I have no idea what the situation is, obviously. Best to just ask your gf about it.

Oh I know she loves the guy. They shared a huge part of their life together, they just are terrible for each other.

I'm pretty sure she just said it to another family member too. It's just the whole disappearing act that troubles me. I wish she didn't feel she had to hide that kind of stuff from me. She has jealousy issues so I figure she probably hid it because she was afraid it'd spark jealousy in me. She didn't need to do it and it really back-fired because it sparked some trust issues instead.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

The question is : when she visits his family, are you also invited or does she go by herself?
Do they know that you are dating her?
How long have the 2 of you been dating?

We've been dating a little over three months and in that time she hasn't visited his family at all. Our relationship status is public on FB.

Not something I would typically do, but maybe that's a good course of action. I'm usually not very nosy about such things, but it would probably give me some peace of mind.

And I'm not sure how to feel about it.

They had three kids together, they were married for 22 years and have been divorced for more than 5. I get that those people were her family for a long time. I have no problem with that or her keeping contact with those people. It's only natural for her to have connections to them over that much time. I'm still friends with some of my sister's ex boyfriends. I get it.

Well her ex husband's father died over the past few days. She was close with the man and has been feeling guilt having not gone to see him in a few years. This is the grandfather of her children, right? He was a father to her when her own father was being quite cruel and distant. I totally understand and have no problem with this either.

So let's just fast forward to my dilemma. I saw her post something on FB about her ex father-in-law today, some R.I.P. type stuff. There's all the typical responses of condolences and all that. No biggie. Well a few hours go by and I happen to open up FB again to see that post at the top of my news feed. My girlfriend's last response was "I love you too." I didn't think much of it, though I got curious and clicked the comments to see what prompted her to say that and when it went to load the post, it said there was an error and to try loading it again. Tried again, nothing. I logged out, logged back in and checked her profile to see that the post was no longer there.

Now there's only a few options here. A) She hid the post from me. B) She deleted the thread. C) There's some kind of glitch on FB and the topic is lost somewhere in electronic limbo.

I've had no reason not to trust her up until this point, but suddenly alarm bells are going off. I'm probably over-analyzing, but suddenly I feel a bit suspicious. Anybody deal with something like this? Any insights?

tl;dr

Girlfriend's post about ex-husband's recently deceased father magically disappears after she says "I love you too" to someone before I can see the proper context.

It isn't. If it is, it shouldn't be.

I know a bunch of people who voted for him. Many of them family members.

A wiener dog

I've banged multiple women with no job while not being in school. You just aren't cool enough.

They weren't hungry, they wanted money for booze.

Drasilor posted...

Awesome posted...

he saw the light

He's becoming part of the solution.

MvC Infinite
Street Fighter 5
Fallout 4
Double Dragon 4

The poll and all previous posts lack "rockstar"

FAIL

She gets to work for that charity for a looong time as far as I'm concerned. Teach the bitch a lesson for talking out of her ass.

Chew him out 30x harder.

Love? Nah. Like on occasion? Sure.

I'm just now having lunch. Haven't thought as far as dinner yet.

Sure, technically. But it isn't really considered a pure one by FG enthusiasts.

I've never even seen one.

Squirtle = Squirt + Turtle
Wartortle = War + Turtle
Blastoise = Blast + Turtoise

Bulbasaur = Bulb + Dinosaur
Ivysaur = Ivy + Dinosaur
Venusaur = Venus fly trap + Dinosaur

No deal. Most of the fun of having that kind of money would be to travel the world and have homes in all sorts of places.

Street Fighter 5

OmegaTomHank posted...

5th chick in a row Ive been interested in and actually get along with that I find out already has a boyfriend.

She isn't married to the guy. Go ahead and hit that shit.

I think people need to quit trying to change everything and leave all this shit alone.

KJ StErOiDs posted...

I prefer Miracle Whip these days, but I can eat mayo if it comes to that.

Blasphemy.

Earlier today. Marvel Vs. Capcom Infinite on PS4

I recently started dating a woman 13 years older than me. She knows EXACTLY what she wants. There's been zero bullshit, no games, just good communication and passion. If these 20-30something GIRLS aren't cutting it, try a WOMAN in her 40's. It's night vs. day, seriously.